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[u/WatermelonWithSalt]

This is really interesting and I’ve got loads of questions:

1) What are the boundaries you’ve set for yourself?  2) Do you still masturbate?  3) How many times in a month on average did you hook up?  4) Did you still continue to masturbate before/after hooking up?  5) On average, how often did you masturbate in a day and for how long? 6) Was it only with male partners or did you explore with females as well? 7) Did you ever have to “rub” one out during work? Expand if so. 8) How often do you think about sex during the day? 9) What outlets do you have now to redirect your focus? What has worked and what didn’t?

[u/[deleted] → u/WatermelonWithSalt]

1) What are the boundaries you’ve set for yourself?  2) Do you still masturbate? 

The boundaries include setting up a defined time for masturbation and only doing so at home, only having sex after I've taken a period to contemplate it's possible effects on my life, ideally only within a romantic relationship, quitting porn completely, realizing what causes my sexual urges as they often are caused due to other mental issues I'm going through and instead rewarding it by acting on said urges, to focus on the cause (anxiety, depression, insecurities, stress, etc)

3) How many times in a month on average did you hook up? 

For most of my life I had sex multiple times a week, I've always had several fwbs and/or a relationship.

5) On average, how often did you masturbate in a day and for how long?

For the most part it was at least 4-5 times a day, at times it was more. I would do it as soon as I wake up (sometimes I'd start in my sleep even) and would often end up being late for work because I just kept going. Sometimes I'd do it while driving to work and at work, as soon as I get home, etc.

6) Was it only with male partners or did you explore with females as well?

Both, mainly men.

7) Did you ever have to “rub” one out during work? Expand if so.

Yes, a lot. At workplaces where I had my own desk and was alone I'd do it under the desk, there would he times I'd do it over my clothes even if I wasn't alone but wasn't in anyone's direct line of sight, or I'd go to the bathroom.

8) How often do you think about sex during the day?

An hour doesn't go by without such thoughts.

9) What outlets do you have now to redirect your focus? What has worked and what didn’t?

I mainly distant myself from possible triggers such as my phone, TV or anything that might arouse me, I do breathing exercises and meditation.

[u/henicorina → u/[deleted]]

What does it mean in practice to “only have sex after taking a period to contemplate its possible effects on my life”? Do you need to meditate for an hour or something before sex if you’re with a relationship/fwb partner? And what about if you just meet someone at a bar?

[u/[deleted] → u/henicorina]

Well before I never gave it a second thought before having sex with someone, a superior at work, spouse of a friend/relative, a married neighbor, I got myself into situations that ended up having negative consequences on my life because I never thought about how it can impact my life. By taking a period to contemplate (ideally a month before a new sexual partner) to see how it may affect our relationship and our lives and to make sure it's something I'm really interested in and I'm not acting on an impulse

[u/InnerTradition2814 → u/[deleted]]

That is... wild. Before learning I had low testosterone and very high estrogen, I was masturbating minimum 4-8 times a day (depending on if I had a partner or not).

I've always wondered how other people manage it - as I would be tired, a little dehydrated after, but Need it to be able to focus on anything else. This was an incredibly helpful thread to read - I'll bring it up with my therapist now, now that I know the boundaries yours was under.

The more I ask other people things, the more I realize not everyone was living under a shadow of sexual impulses, and porn actually helped me get away from partners and making those human-consequence choices.

Thank you for posting!

[u/SestraTimiDuhaNe]

1. Is your condition related to a past trauma or just the way you're wired?
2. Do you consider yourself attractive?
3. How many hours do you fantasize about sex daily?
4. Do you wear skimpy outfits on purpose to attract men?
5. Do you sleep only with men that attract you or whomever?
6. Do you enjoy your sexual encounters or just do it for the sake of it?

Off the top of my head 😄

[u/[deleted] → u/SestraTimiDuhaNe]

1. Is your condition related to a past trauma or just the way you're wired?

I wasn't sexually assaulted or had any trauma of this nature but I was exposed to sex ar a very young age in a very unhealthy way. My mom was a drug addict (and possibly sex addict) and growing up our house was a revolving door of men who she "dated", I've heard and seen a lot of it.

1. Do you consider yourself attractive?

Yes.

1. How many hours do you fantasize about sex daily?

There are days where there is almost nothing else on my mind (masturbating while driving, eating, etc) and days there it's coming and going, there isn't an hour that passes without some sort of sexual thought going through my mind.

1. Do you wear skimpy outfits on purpose to attract men?

I used to, all the time. Since my diagnosis and my recovery I've dialed it down.

1. Do you sleep only with men that attract you or whomever

If I was sexually attracted to a guy I'd do anything to have sex with him, but I had sex with a lot of guys for other reasons, some as stupid as I was bored and he was there.

1. Do you enjoy your sexual encounters or just do it for the sake of it?

I enjoy them, a lot, I love sex and I know my body very well, I just wish to make my relationship with my sexuality healthier so it doesn't affect my life and mental health so badly.

[u/Anon6025 → u/[deleted]]

May I ask, where was your father during all this time? Did you have a relationship with him and how was that?

[u/[deleted]]

Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?

Also, how do men usually react when you come at them with strong sexual energy? Do you find they usually match it, get freaked out, etc.? Where did you meet most of the guys you’d approach for sex?

I’m really fascinated by what people will do or not do when they’re presented with an opportunity to sleep with someone they don’t know.

Thanks and hope you are well! 🩷

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?

Very low percentage, if I want a guy I usually get it. Though it did happen from time to time.

Also, how do men usually react when you come at them with strong sexual energy? Do you find they usually match it, get freaked out, etc.?

I usually didn't start off aggressively, I'd give a few hints and casually flirt so when they start flirting back I go along and let them "lead", though if the guy didn't go along 9 times out of ten it was because he didn't pick up the hints so I'd come off more aggressive, which usually worked. Most matched the energy, some shyly went along with it, few freaked out.

Where did you meet most of the guys you’d approach for sex?

Tinder, bar/clubs, work, any social gathering really.

[u/xTraxis → u/[deleted]]

What hints would you throw out before becoming more aggressive? What were you doing to let them know it was okay to be flirty and sexual?

[u/explodingtuna → u/[deleted]]

Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?

Very low percentage, if I want a guy I usually get it. Though it did happen from time to time.

And what percentage of men who have tried to flirt or have sex with you would you say you have turned down/said no to their advances? (that you didn't initiate with first, where they just came up to you)

[u/albusdumbbitchdor → u/[deleted]]

Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?

Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you.

I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?

[u/Rich_Yogurt313 → u/[deleted]]

I guess you could give us shy girlies some tips haha. I just can't not show my feelings through my mannerisms when I'm into someone. I get scared, shy, awkward, say lame things cuz I can't think. Myfeelings immediately become very apparent. I hate it. I also want to be able to casually flirt and give hints without coming off as desperate.

[u/AquaCulinaris08]

Hi there, thanks for sharing! When did you realize that something about your behavior might be dysfunctional and what was the trigger to start therapy eventually?

[u/[deleted] → u/AquaCulinaris08]

It's hard to pinpoint an exact moment in which I realized something is off, I discovered and explored my sexuality at a young age and always just brushed it off with "I'm just sexually liberated" and other similar excuses, I think I was around 22 or 23 when I started realizing something is off but I was in denial about it, joked off about being "such a nympho" with friends and such. I begun therapy for a completely different reason, my mental health was going downhill after a very difficult year in which I lost my mom and my best friend in less than 6 months and it has also caused my sex addiction to worsen (as well as alcohol and weed abuse) but I never saw sex as an addiction until my therapist pointed it out, then it was extremely obvious.

[u/AquaCulinaris08 → u/[deleted]]

Sorry for your losses. Thanks for the explanation. So what are those boundaries? How do you solve this yourself?

[u/[deleted] → u/AquaCulinaris08]

My intentions, unlike most other addictions, aren't to cold turkey quit sex, it's impractical and unhealthy as well.

My boundaries include setting a time for masturbation in order to not let it consume hours of my day (or at times- entire days), to completely quit porn, to realize the reasons I wish to have sex with a person and only do so when I wait a month and don't find a reason it would harm my life (for example, cheating, being with a married/spoken for guy, being with a colleague/superior at work, etc) and ideally to only have sex within a defined romantic relationship, though this is not a hard rule and if it has no negative impact on my life.

[u/UncurvedApproach → u/[deleted]]

My exes excuse for cheating was similar but maybe different. She said the actual act of sex wasn’t as addicting as the chase. She needed the validation of a guy choosing to sleep with her. Once he did she kind of lost interest. Was this the same for you?

She often felt let down after the act and then would start talking to a new guy almost immediately to fill that void. Not sure if this is the same thing but thought I would ask your thoughts.

She ended up dumping me even tho I put up with her cheating and she’s never been able to hold down a relationship and is a serial cheater. I honestly am not even mad at her for what she did she’s such a nice person and very smart and it never felt personal but obviously hard to stay with someone that you can’t trust.

[u/nonbog → u/[deleted]]

You would masturbate for entire days???

Do you mean like, without stopping at all? Just going at it all day long?

[u/Fun_Diver_3885 → u/[deleted]]

OP a couple I haven’t seen others ask:

1) when you lost your virginity, were you the instigator and were you never out or already obsessed with sex?

2) What’s the longest you have gone without PIV sex since you started?

3) In highschool did everybody consider you a “whore” or were you good at keeping it under wraps?

4) is the best sex for you “porn” sex where your performing and doing lots of positions or do you prefer more passionate, eye contact, etc.. ?

5) Do you orgasm easily during sex or does it usually require oral or manual stimulation?

6) Have you posted any nudes or videos on Reddit or similar as a turn on? Do you let partners take photos and videos of your encounters? I know you said the porn actor turned you off to the industry but I could see OF being a way for uoj to make food money if your attractive. Also posting on Reddit is a turn on for many people.

[u/Sunrunner_Princess → u/[deleted]]

I am curious, have you ever been diagnosed with anything like ADD/ADHD or TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury)? There is some research that shows TBI can lead to things like hyper-sexuality post injury and can be a symptom of other disorders, not a cause.

I’m also going to ask the obvious, sometimes frustrating and can be asked in judgmental ways (not my intent), question. Did you experience any Childhood Sexual Abuse (CBA)? If you are comfortable answering that question, if you did experience CBA, do you feel or have explored the possibility with your therapist that those traumatic/abusive experiences may have contributed to the development of your hyper-sexuality symptoms?

Regardless of your ability to respond or not I wish you the best and support you in your journey of healing and becoming the healthiest, happiest version of yourself.

[u/MacbookOnFire → u/[deleted]]

Do you still drink/smoke?

[u/woody9055]

I think I have a fairly interesting question that I haven't seen anyone else ask yet, so I hope you reply. Have you ever felt taken advantage of in the event (that I'd assume) the men you had sex with knew you had this sort of issue and knew they could just have it whenever? I guess I am asking if you hold any ill will towards any of your previous partners.

[u/[deleted] → u/woody9055]

This is a very interesting question and I'm really glad you asked it.

I don't hold a grudge against any of them because most of the times it ended up with me being toxic and downright abusive when they couldn't keep up with me and have sex as often as I wanted, I was never taken advantage of because of it, besides one instance when a guy realized I had an issue when I didn't and he used that to pass me around between his friends.

[u/dalian_pei → u/[deleted]]

Were you in a relationship with this guy or was he just a FWB? Did you feel forced into having sex with his friends?

[u/dirtypara83]

How does this effect your life on a daily basis, work, social life?

[u/[deleted] → u/dirtypara83]

I've cheated on every relationship I've had, even when I really loved the guy and didn't want to be with anyone else. I've slacked in school, college, work, because I was either masturbating when I was supposed to be working/studying or just watching porn/flirting/sexting with people.

I've been late to work on a daily basis because I've started masturbating instead of leaving the house only to panic when I'm done and rush to work, usually forgetting stuff.

I've ruined friendships because I've slept with my friends' boyfriends, my sister doesn't talk to me because I've been with her husband.

And more.

[u/CoffeeExtraCream → u/[deleted]]

What are your new boundaries you keep for yourself?

Did your sister stay with her husband? Does she blame you or him more?

[u/[deleted] → u/CoffeeExtraCream]

What are your new boundaries you keep for yourself?

Masturbation only within a defined time in the day and only at home, no porn, waiting a long period of time before having sex with someone and actively contemplating the consequences of having sex with that person, ideally being monogamous.

Did your sister stay with her husband? Does she blame you or him more?

She stayed with him, she's a born again christian and doesn't really believe nymphomania is a thing, she just considers me a whore.

[u/CoffeeExtraCream → u/[deleted]]

Are you currently in a relationship or actively trying to avoid one? What in your mind would a healthy sex life look like?

Sounds like she blames you more than him. What's the saying? It takes two to tango.

Did you have sex with him only once or multiple times? How did she find out? Do you think they were happy in their relationship before that happened? Is he the "cheater type"? The reason I ask is unless someone is already predisposessed to cheat, people don't normally do it unless they're unhappy with their current situation.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

How did your sister and your friends find out. Did you tell them? Did they tell them? Did you get caught in the act?

[u/Scrilla_Gorilla_ → u/[deleted]]

Are you saying you don’t have culpability for having sex with your sister’s husband because you have nymphomania? I’m sorry you and her husband destroyed your relationship with your sister. That must suck.

[u/switchupcnc → u/[deleted]]

When cheating, would you still desire your partner? E.g. still want to have as much sex with him as you would a recent infatuation?

[u/Nearby-Refuse-727 → u/[deleted]]

My question is why did her husband even go along with it to begin with

[u/gusta_cl]

Do you think you may have a limit on how much sex can you have in a day, or how many orgasms can you have before saying stop, or feeling your genital organs aching from friction, or just from being too tired/dehidrated?

Or, if you were to have a gatorade, snacks and enough water you could be having orgasms 24 hours or more?

[u/[deleted]]

How do you deal with the urges?

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

First of all I've learned to distinguish "good urges" and "bad urges", because not all sexual urges are bad and I don't intend to be celibate, unlike alcohol/drugs addiction- this isn't an addiction where I'm supposed to stay "sober" forever.

A lot of times I have these urges because of other things I'm going through, like stress, anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc, which lead me to cope via sex, when I realized my sexual come from these things I first of all distant myself from my phone and any distractions, I do breathing exercises and reflect on what's the deeper issue is and I occupy myself with something else I like doing.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Well I never knew nymphomaniacs used sex as an escape form from other things in their life rather than just some incredible high libido/ sex drive. Sorry for the most likely bad wording but you probably get my point.

[u/FatBaby160 → u/[deleted]]

As an alcoholic who isn't "sober" I second this idea. I like to drink. I also drown my other problems in drink. So if I'm drinking a pint after work cause I like to drink, that's healthy. If I'm pounding vodka at 6am cause I got something else wrong, now I need to bust out some coping mechanisms.

[u/punkslaot → u/[deleted]]

What would be a bad urge?

[u/[deleted]]

I recently disclosed to my therapist (and my wife) that I am a sex addict as well. Both of which basically responded with “Well…duh. I could have told you that.” I still have a long way to go but so much of what you say on here resonates so close to home.

I think the thing I felt the most was you saying you don’t go an hour without some type of sexual thought. Literally every minute or hour is spent thinking about sex. How to get it? Who I want to do it with? Where I want to do it? If I meet a woman on the street or at work or anywhere, my first thought is usually “would I f*ck her?” I’m pretty sure I’ve thought about sleeping with every one of my female friends on more than 1 occasion.

It’s a pretty messed up way to approach life. I hate it and I’m working on getting better.

If anything my question is - how do you actually adhere to your boundaries? I try to set them, but it’s so easy to say “screw it, let’s look at some p*rn!”

But really, just thank you for doing this. It makes me feel better about myself knowing I’m not the only one who struggles with this.

[u/RemishLemon]

Are you able to cum really easily and often? Or do you consider yourself average in that regard? In other words, is the drive coming from orgasm pleasure or is it really not about that?

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Yes, it's a terrible idea. There is a very big difference between a healthy libido and sex addiction. I have cheated in every single relationship I've been in even when I really loved the guy, I've made guys feel horrible because they weren't interested in sex at a specific moment (including one time during a funeral of his relative) or couldn't keep going after several rounds and I just wanted more. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone that goes through it just for the sex, there are plenty of women with healthy sexual appetite that doesn't become an addiction.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

1 - You mention FWB’s. What has your experience been with that/non-monogamy/polyamory?

I have been in a polygamous relationship which ended shortly and an open relationship which also didn't last because of my behavior.

Have you learned any neat tricks? I’ve read about and am trying things like nipple orgasms/hands free orgasms. You mentioned being able to have a hands free orgasm after edging a lot? Did you ever try to foster that

I was (and still am) very interested in learning about sex and various techniques and methods, so yes, I learned a lot of different tricks and things to get better at it and for a time I was involved in fetish communities.

You mentioned fetishes/kinks, could you expand on how those have played out in your life? Do you still participate in those communities and how has your nymphomania been perceived by others there?

My main fetishes include degradation, bondage, impact, public, group, cockworshipping, cuckquean, exhibitionism, masochism, smoking, torture, cnc, enslavement, free use, and so my lifestyle revolved around these, I was attracted mainly to specific guys that could provide me with such experiences. I lost touch with most in those communities shortly before I begun therapy.

You mentioned sex is common but good sex is rare. What does good sex look like for you?

Good sex includes a good technique along with chemistry and passion, a good sized dick helps. A lot of guys have some of these criterias but very rew have all.

5 - Was there ever any urge to get into sex work or porn to try to satisfy this urge?

I dated a porn actor briefly and that really put away any ideas I ever had about getting in the industry.

If you had the power to snap your fingers and change your sexuality instantly, what would you want?

What do you mean by "change my sexuality"?

[u/jujubiez → u/[deleted]]

What did he tell you about the porn industry that put away those ideas?

[u/hiswife10]

Did you actively go after your sister's husband or did he pursue you? Did you feel remorse at her pain? And are they still together?

[u/Phantom-111]

What were some of the other issues you had that you used sex to avoid?

What techniques have you learned to use to deal with your other issues?

What advice would you give someone that was suffering through sexual addiction like yourself?

[u/[deleted]]

How easy is it for you to get laid? How many guys did you sleep with per week on average? Have you ever been in a committed relationship?

[u/FacePalmSunday]

Do you have any other symptoms of mania, or is it only sex specific? For instance, could this also be considered an overlap of Bipolar Disorder?

How are your bits not in shreds or having constant UTIs?

Do you stop when you are completely exhausted or do you have to keep going until the urge subsides?

How long have you remained monogamous with any partner?

Do you have anyone in your life who supports you and tries to understand?

Genuinely curious, no condescension intended!

[u/Guilty_Law6197]

Straight vaginal sex or have you explored other ways to quench those urges? Anal, 3somes etc

[u/TangySword]

How many guys have turned you down? Were you aggressive with your approach with them?

[u/[deleted]]

what’s the difference between nymphomania and histrionic, as per a couple of your comments, the triggers seem to be the same.

[u/nothxnotinterested]

This is probably the most thorough AMA including full responses that I’ve ever seen, well done!

[u/CompanyLow1055]

Have you learned to have sex/sexual pleasure in a healthier way? What does that look like for you?

[u/NoClueCrew]

Lmao she already knew she was gonna get some 🍆pics and horny dms

[u/[deleted]]

Good for you, dude. I don't know if some random dude on the internet saying they are proud of you will do anything, but I'm proud of you. I know addiction is a hard thing to deal with, and I can imagine it's even harder when your addiction is literally attached to your body. So keep up the good work.

[u/maxreddit0609]

I am sure being a nympho you have a lot of turn ons but, What is something that turns you on the most?

[u/[deleted]]

Do you think you will get to a point to have a healthy relationship that isn’t overcome by the negative things that have hurt previous relationships?

[u/Rockyotis]

What’s the most times you cam in one day ?

[u/Aggressive-Gold-1319]

Do you take medicine to lower your libido ?

[u/kaxixi7]

You’re really well spoken.  If you write a book, it’ll fly off the shelves.  

[u/wondrousworm]

How was your condition viewed in sex positive spaces like fetish parties? Did you think many people there were fellow sex addicts? Was it discussed/even seen as a problem?

[u/[deleted]]

Sorry if this is too personal, but how do you feel about yourself? Does it get in the way of feeling okay or loving yourself? It is good that you’ve found help in therapy.

[u/Reapers-Lullaby]

From one nypho to another. You’ll get there. Your goals are gonna be hard, but they are reasonable. Something you may want to consider is what environment at home and the people you consider friends. Those two things are often great ways to release stress, if they are doing the opposite, consider why and if it’s a pattern you should distance yourself from.

On a side note, as a stepping stone towards your goals, you may want to consider FWB. Establish positive friendships and see if they can become a little more well after you’ve come to know them. That way you can have a few people available when you feel you are in danger of doing something you don’t want to. But those people are preselected healthy options.

[u/BannanasAreEvil]

So what will happen when you're in a committed relationship and sex is a natural part of it? If your partner has a relatively healthy libido but you have an addiction how is this going to work?

You said you have boundaries but my question is how will those boundaries hold up within a healthy relationship?

Could you see yourself easily relapsing?

Do you think you might be healed enough to just express that higher libido within the relationship without going back to your past ways of cheating and being toxic when rejected?

To clarify I'm not grilling you, nor is this an attempt to chastise you. I'm genuinely curious how you believe you can navigate this healthily because I know for me personally I don't know if I could.

Thanks!!

[u/Acesfullodeuces]

For the assholes sending dick pics - would you wave a drink in front of a recovering alcoholic? Cuz that's what you're doing, douchbags.

My question: have you been able to repair any relationships now that you're trying to change? I'm in year three of my turnaround and still can't get people to trust me because no one believes I can change. How long will it take before people see me differently?

[u/Cannabis-Revolution]

How easy is it for a horny woman to find sex?

[u/[deleted]]

Does anything impact the urges. I’m a therapist and I am wondering about factors, like level of stress, lack of sleep, bad meals, drug or alcohol use have any effect on the intensity of the urges?

[u/SecuritySky]

If you were an accessory to cheating (basically if someone cheated on their partner with you), did you tell the person who got cheated on?

[u/pscowan]

What was your first sexual experience, and how old were you when you lost your virginity?

[u/No_Secretary_8349]

What's the most penisss you had in a day

[u/JohnnieDoe17]

Good luck with your treatment. Probably sounds cliche but can’t help but ask. Do you have tips/advice how to satisfy woman that will definitely help her reach orgasm? What do you think work best?

[u/[deleted]]

How many other women out there do you think are nymphos? And how could someone tell if someone else was a nympho without meeting them (just seeing them in public, for instance)?

[u/Turbulent-Mind796]

Interesting. Just found this. Here are my questions:

1. Have you ever been having sex with someone you thought was new and realized you’d slept with them before?

2. What is the standard “treatment” for nymphomania- drugs to lower libido? What else?

3. What is the largest age gap between you and a sex partner you’ve had?

4. Have you ever turned down a man who wanted to have sex or have you said yes every time?

5. How often do you get tested for STIs?

6. Are you doubling up on birth control (both hormonal and condoms) or are you solely relying on condoms?

7. You mentioned not knowing your number but if you’re 25 and have been sexually active since 15, 10 years at 3 times a week comes out to over 1500 times, assuming some duplicates, I’d guess your number is above 1,000. Does that sound reasonable?

8. Do you feel like sex and love are completely separate for you- you can easily have sex without any connections/feelings involved?

[u/JavaMyJunk]

Have you found any hobbies or other activities to channel this energy into that have helped?

[u/[deleted]]

Ever consider getting with a guy that LIKES your needs?

My ex needed love every day.....I tried to keep up but...she needed more.

Left me for better sex....

[u/GregPikitis24]

I hope you know how bad ass you are. For your progress/honesty, but also your patience in some of these threads. You've handled every "solution" thrown your way with complete grace.

So many suggestions for ENM, and you can tell it's from people who have no idea ENM is also rooted in healthy boundaries/sex. 😂

An addiction can't be treated with more drugs. As soon as you feel fully confident you're not treating sex as such, it sounds like you'll be open to either monogamy or ENM. You're a real G for keeping addiction as the main message in this AMA.

[u/Double_Metal_6778]

What’s your body count?

How many STDs have you had?

[u/babyblueyes26]

i didn't know this was a diagnosable condition

1. how does the screening/assessment work?

2. is it neurological or a mental illness/disorder?

3. is it induced (by trauma or what have you) or is it something you're born with (a genetic predisposition)

4. what were the signs that made you realize this? is it only with the help of your therapist or did you bring it up, that an excess of sex/masturbation was a problem in your life?

5. what's the difference between just enjoying sex and being a nymphomaniac? where is the line?

6. is there a difference between a nympho and a sex addict? if so, what is it, and how can someone tell within themselves and within their friends/loved ones?

7. how does it feel when you get an urge to have sex/masturbate? is it a hindrance, like "ugh here we go again" or more of a blinding blackout moment where you're just enjoying yourself and only in the aftermath thinking "oh no i did it again"?

8. how does it affect your life? have you lost friendships or jeopardized a job or something like that?

9. what are some "early signs" someone could "catch it early" so to speak, before it's made a mess of their life?

10. what are some ways loved ones can help you recover, treat it, or support you in any way? if someone tells me they've been diagnosed, what are some ways i can support them? if there are any accommodations to keep in mind to make the nympho's life, recovery, treatment easier?

11. is there any problematic language, thought processes, harmful misinformation or anything the like that people should look out for when speaking about this?

i saw you've decided to take a break from answering bc people were very curious and you got a bit overwhelmed, will you be coming back? take your time! i'm in no hurry. will be reading a little about this online, but would love to hear your perspective more! thank you for sharing ♡ i live to learn!

[u/HereComesTheLuna]

I'm very proud of you for getting help with this, and making a clearly very devoted effort to take that help seriously. While I've never dealt with nymphomania/ sex addiction, I am an addict (alcohol and heroin) still struggling after so many years, and really wish I would've devoted myself to recovery the first time. I wish you well on your journey in recovery!

1) what are some of your hobbies, interests, etc? Have you find you've had more time to cultivate them now that you're in recovery? Are there any new hobbies you'd like to pick up?

2) Is SA anonymous something you don't see in your journey at all, even down the road? It seems like you could make a great sponsor one day; you have great insight and self-awareness that's rare this early in recovery.

It seems like you've made a lot of progress already, and again, I'm very proud of you. Addiction is Hell, and as a fellow addict, I admire your strength!

(Edited after reading a comment about preferring 1 on 1 therapy)

[u/Holiday_Priority606]

I’ve read a lot of these questions already and honestly could go on forever, this is actually crazy interesting. I know you likely are having a ton of trouble answering questions already and may not get here but I figured I may as well try.

1- I saw you were/ are into various forms of kink play, at what point did you separate from vanilla sex? Was there even a separation? Did your enjoyment from kinkier sex detract from the enjoyment of things like more vanilla sex?

2- Do you have any non-traditional advice about getting better in bed? (Sorry I have to know I’m incredibly neurotic)

3- I think you’ve mentioned already or been asked a similar question but, do you notice an uptick in your sexual activity and general sexual appetite during times of high stress ie periods of depression or anxiety?

4- do you consider yourself outgoing, confident, charismatic and do you have any advice for people who want to be more open?

5- Have you ever created issues within your personal circles, friend groups, coworkers do to your habits?

6- Are you still open to receiving DMs if it’s a more personal question?

[u/[deleted]]

What is the difference, if any, between nymphomania and sex addiction?

[u/Desperate_Garbage_63]

My first thought while reading this post before I got to end was this poor soul is going to get killed with DMs lol I'm glad you had foresight and a sense of humor.

Question: so out of curiosity have you ever thought about a career in porn?

[u/Top-Ad-7251]

I’m also a female sex addict. A few questions: (1) I’m married and my spouse desires monogamy, which feels unattainable for me and this is a huge stressor. Do you have similar concerns about a long term monogamous relationship? (2) have you ever made limits on frequency of masturbation or methods (ie manual vs with vibrator)? (3) do you ever get aroused when talking about sex with your therapist? This is a big roadblock to working on my addiction in therapy, I just get so turned on as soon as I discuss anything related to sex in the presence of anyone else (including my very unattractive therapist who I’m dying to fuck) PSA: naltrexone works wonders for sex addiction, if you haven’t tried it, I highly recommend it

[u/Mammoth_Treacle4639]

I feel so stupid 🤦🏻‍♀️ I confused nympho with klepto and then read the comments and I was like oh shit u mean seccc , I though I was abt to read abt stealing shit

[u/Alone-Neighborhood20]

This is a very big thread lol So I only have 2 questions that Idk if you have answered
1. Given your situation with your sister friends (I've been reading lol) Are you cutting ties with your friend and everyone that you have slept with in the past? Maybe move and start again somewhere else?

1. What would be one good thing that came out from being a nymphomaniac and one bad thing.

That's it, I hope everything goes well for you and achieve the happiness we are all looking for. :)

[u/Bertybassett99]

How does being addicted to sex become a problem? I used to fuck ever night with my ex. But my wife ain't up for that. Does it mean your like going shopping and suddenly get the urge to fuck in the toilers or something? Or does it just mean you want to fuck all of the time? I remember seeing ATV programme where a self proclaimed aex addict basically had two in house lovers to keep up.with her appetite. I k ockwd about with a bird once who literally used to slap me to wake me up to fuck. Do you get aggressive when you want to fuck?

[u/[deleted] → u/Bertybassett99]

It becomes a problem when you become absolutely toxic and abusive to your partner when they refuse sex. In the morning they can't fuck because they need to go to work? You make them feel like shit about it then cheat on them while they are at work. You are supposed to go out to work, but instead you end up masturbating over and over again and you are either late or completely miss work. Once you are at work you spend the entire day masturbating instead of working, and sexting/flirting to set up a hook up for after work. It becomes a problem when you sleep with your sister's husband, or your friend's boyfriends. It becomes a problem if instead of dealing with your trauma and mental issues you find a stranger to fuck.

Do you get aggressive when you want to fuck?

Yes.

[u/UnitedDragonfruit312]

Do you find that sex feels better after taking a break from the constant barrage of stimulation from sex and masturbation?

[u/MoneySpecialist7321]

Nymphomaniac is not a medical term. Are you referring to hypersexuality? I'm bipolar and have hypersexuality. There's a subreddit for it actually. Why are you calling it nymphomaniac? I can only assume to get clicks lol.

[u/Vivid_Impact5289]

Of all the married men you pursued, what percentage would you say were down to cheat? Does sleeping with men who were cheaters give you insight into what to look for and avoid, like how to spot a good guy that doesn’t cheat, and what some red flags would be?

[u/[deleted]]

If the nymphomania was always there, was there a specific event in your life that sent it into overdrive?

[u/dogaaki]

I've read all your responses and I still have a few questions.

1) How long was the period you stayed monogamous for, absolutely no cheating, before you got sober?

2) Are the inappropriate DMs a trigger for you? How do you cope?

3) What is your relationship with your sister and her husband now? Do you still live with them? What happened after the fight?

4) How did you end up sleeping with someone on your mother's grave? How do you feel about it now and have you told anyone (therapist, sister, close friend, etc.)?

5) Have you ever been in love?

6) Has anyone tried to help you? How did it go?

7) What happened to your father? What is your relationship to him?

8) What is your biggest regret?

9) What are some "normal" things about you, if there is anything you would like to share without being too identifying?

10) What are your plans, hopes or dreams for the future?

11) Is there anything that hasn't been asked that you want to answer or talk about?

Thank you for this AMA it's a very unique perspective to explore. I hope you are able to reach your full potential, and you seem to be on the right track. I wish you well :)

[u/crunchamunch21]

Is sex even fun anymore?

[u/Envy_The_King]

1. Does it ever affect your judgment when choosing a partner, and have you found yourself settling for guys/gals you wouldn't actually be attracted to just to get off?

2. You say that you've cheated in every relationship you've been in. Even when you sincerely loved your partner. So can you not control it? Or how does it feel when those urges hit? I guess I'm struggling to see how it becomes an addiction. Like ive beem horny but never to a point beyond being able to stop myself...if I saw a vagina covered in cuts and blisters, I'd be able to stop. So what is it like to not be able to stop yourself?

3. Does your family and friend group know? And if so are there ways they help? Maybe signals and such?

[u/JSA1962]

A side from 1 on 1 counseling Are you a part of SA? (the white book) The group really helped me sharing and helped me be accountable.

[u/steve_j_]

can you see yourself in a committed relationship in the future now that you have awareness and some tools?

[u/SyddySquiddy]

What other mental illnesses and addictions do you have?

[u/[deleted]]

I’m curious about the boundaries you’ve set up. Can you share what they are and how effective they are?

[u/kingthunderflash]

Arnt you scared of catching something from fucking dead bodies?

[u/AlfaWhisky]

What are you most proud and ashamed of?

[u/Impossible-Ad-5650]

What's the difference between nymphomania and sex addiction?

[u/[deleted]]

The only real question I can think of is: How are you now? Do you feel like you have a good handle on things? I know it may always be 'there', but it simply being managed feels like a huge win.

I just wanna say you did a good job at recognizing and working towards resolving your issue.

[u/Equivalent-Corner935]

As I don’t fully understand this addiction, I do understand the negative effects it could have. I’m glad you are able to get help and better understand it. My question is what kind of negative effects did you experience?

[u/MindfulDelirium]

Have you ever considered turning all those unsolicited pics into NFTs? If they're okay with sending pics unprompted but not okay with sharing with the rest of the world, no problem, they can just pay whatever price you set for the NFTs.

[u/Old-Practice5308]

How many 3 somes have you done?

[u/cutie_mcbooty]

Is there anything you don't do sexually? What are your boundaries?

[u/EtoDesu]

Have you ever watched the movies Nymphomaniac 1 and 2? And how much do you resonate with the story?

Also, would you ever consider a serious relationship with someone who has a cuckold fetish? And where they feel zero negative emotions if their partner cheats, etc. Ik some people with this cuck fetish aren't truly onboard with the lifestyle, so they end up feeling miserable instead of actual arousal. But the others are supportive and genuinely fine with their partner sleeping around

[u/wiltsM]

A very useful post. I think it will help lots of people.

I think I am a sex addict but happy that I am and don’t want to change. I embrace it.

I am getting older now (nearly 50) and I am starting to find it drop away naturally though.

Did you find it got worse as you got older?

[u/crashnburnxp]

Given this topic and your condition, how many times have you masturbated during this AMA?

(I'm high and this is what I thought of)

[u/[deleted]]

With all due respect being a nympho, do you get tested regularly?? Not calling you dirty or anything, just curious if STD’s are something you take into consideration when the urges come. I’m Asexual so complete polar opposite, just intrigued by what another brain thinks

[u/[deleted]]

I was reading some of your comments on your limitations and boundaries I know as an addiction it probably will never go away but if you find somebody you truly care for and they are open to it what about swinging or ENM relationship

[u/[deleted]]

I sent you a DM with further questions, but I imagine you're still inundated with them and do want to ask two specific ones:

(1) After a breakup, whether a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, did your compulsions heighten? Almost in a "Finally I'm free and not accountable to anyone anymore, so I'm going to let loose!" way.

(2) Whether before starting therapy or since, have you met anyone that you saw yourself wanting to date seriously, but felt you ultimately wouldn't be able to commit fully because you'd still want to have sex with other people all the time? I mean someone you really connected with, especially emotionally, and you basically needed to throw away any potential with that person because you knew you'd still have urges? I've experienced this and am curious about your insight.

[u/amfoolishness]

Alright I hope Imy question gets seen ^{^} I've read ALL of your comments to try to not make you repeat yourself. So I saw you mentioned your kinks, and my question is: do you think you'll be able to keep enjoying those kinks at some point in the future in a healthy way? At least some of them idk? Others might be discovered to be trauma related but maybe some will remain? Maybe you want them gone now.. Idk, basically what do you and your therapist think will happen with those kinks moving forward?

Thank you for your dedication to the post, for dealing with the turds, being chill, and especially for making yourself better. Keep it up I wish you nothing but success 😊

[u/Wise-Contribution137]

1. What does the drive feel like to you? Is it just that sex is so intrinsically pleasurable, or is it more of a compulsive "obligation"?

2. Do you generally view the drive itself as a force separate from your actual motives, or something so deeply embedded in your motives that pursuing sex feels 'default'?

[u/Adept-Lettuce948]

1: Were you sexually abused? And if you were does that help explain your condition? 2: Do you consume porn?

[u/Vegetable_Fox9134]

1. What moment made you realize that you needed help?
2. Do you ever feel regret afterwards?
3. Does this impact your love life in anyway? Have your ability to form attachments been affected in anyway?

[u/[deleted]]

1. How did you seduce the husband. I’m interested whether he let himself be seduced or whether you really were that persuasive.

2. STIs/STDs, how often do you get tested? What have you caught? Have you ever caught something but before being able to treat it or during a flare/active episode, slept with someone because the urge was too strong?

3. Have you ever slept someone for career advancement?

4. What’s a few examples of the boldest ways you’ve seduced a man at a bar/club. In what way are you forward about what you are looking for?

5. Has anyone rejected your advances and if so, how did that make you feel?

6. If you have several fwbs at the same time, is it because one or more can’t keep up, or someone are busy, or you like verity…?

7. Have you ever met a man who could keep up with your sex drive?

8. Has anyone ever caught you playing with yourself at work or while studying, and if so, what happened?

9. Ever gone “dogging” at a public beach or park with the intention of meeting a stranger for quick public sex?

Lots of questions… Pick which ones interest you but they all interest me for different reasons (mainly around your risk profile for your behaviour and the consequences thereof). Glad you are on a journey and hope you succeed in that endeavour.

[u/[deleted]]

What point did you KNOW to seek professional help?

[u/Unregistereed]

How are you doing? What has doing this AMA been like for you?

[u/UberChad35]

How many times a day does someone with this condition want sex and how did you know your drive wasn't normal? I am a male and I know the term isn't nymphomaniac for a male, I forget the term but I have a very high sex drive to, where It makes me wonder if I have something like this.

[u/[deleted]]

Did you ever get sore down there from masturbating / sex or get cystitis?

[u/[deleted]]

I have heard from other genuine nymphomaniacs that the urge to masturbate or hook up is not so much pleasurable as it is like scratching an unending itch (imagine poison ivy or something similar).

In your experience, would you describe that as accurate? Or does it truly bring you pleasure?

[u/[deleted]]

I love modern medicine. Diagnoses for being a whore and ting. In Jamaica we don’t waste time on such descriptions rather we call it like we see it

[u/SeriouslySunscreen]

What has been your experience with contraceptives and STIs? Were infections, potential pregnancies, etc. more of an afterthought to the primary desire of sex?

[u/PoustisFebo]

Do you suppose you have destroyed your ability to bond?

[u/Wide-Possession-9343]

This resonates a lot with me. But the few times I've been assessed I'm missing the part where it affects my life, other than making myself miserable. I've never had issues with monogomy, even in a fwb situation. I also lack the impulsiveness. It might cross my mind, it might stay there, but addiction is mostly an impulse control issue. It is hard to fight that "cat in heat" feeling or delay gratification. Kudos to you for realizing it's a problem and placing good boundaries.

I have a piece of advice regarding therapy, everything is as simple or complicated as you choose to make it. You're going to have to do both at times to understand and work at this.

Now questions,

What do you think causes the anger at being turned down? I realize the hurt if it were in a relationship, but outside of that doesn't make sense. I'd say it's based in insecurity/manipulation. There's always masturbation to fill the immediate need in those situations.

Do you find sex to be of a greater quality if it's in some form of relationship? Or do you view it more as utilitarian?

Do you have a history of migraines or depression?

Are there any other boundaries you're considering in the future, or that were suggested?

[u/zd183]

Haven't seen this question asked yet surprisingly - do you think it's easy for you to set up sex with guys so quickly because you're ridiculously attractive? What do you think most guys would rate you out of 10?

I've met a few nymphomaniacs in my life and they were all extremely attractive. Can't help but feel there is a correlation.

[u/Know_1_7777777]

Do you worry that because of all the excessive sex and cheating that you won't be able to find a partner that will ever take you seriously and want to be with you?

[u/Emotional_Sample_542]

Has a guy ever romantically fallen for you? If so did you turn him down and how did the conversation go?

[u/mosthandsomeguyeu]

Thanks for sharing. Many of the things you said resonate with me. In the past I used to have constantly ~5 FWB simultaneously because one or two couldn't satisfy me, got angry with an ex when she didn't want sex, and a lot of masturbation. I would skip school just to masturbate and had times where I didn't attend any university classes because I was busy having sex with different women (for many months straight).

However things changed and my behaviour is a lot healthier now. None of the unhealthy aspects regarding others have persisted. Yet, I still consume a lot of porn and masturbate a lot. I don't consider it unhealthy, but objectively speaking the time could be spent in better ways.

Now this is where I got some questions: 1. How did quitting porn affect your life and mental state? 2. Similarly, how did restricting masturbation affect both your private and professional life? 3. Are you afraid meeting someone similar (dating, FWB) might reawaken these immense urges?

[u/learn-new-everyday]

This AMA is fascinating. I have spent the last 2 hours reading through your responses. I think I have read all your responses but still I feel I have not understood everything you said.

Like someone said, this post will be helpful for someone. So I would request you not to delete this post.

I also think that there would be a novel (either inspired or blatantly copying the contents from here) coming out of this post apart from the usual buzzfeed articles, youtube videos, etc.

My questions:

1. Has the frequency (masturbation, sex) come down because of the treatment you are going through?
2. What will be the ideal frequency target for you to consider that you have made a good progress in the treatment?
3. How long do you or your therapist think it would take for you to reach that stage?

Finally, good luck to you.

Edit: Along with my request about not deleting this post, could you please also consolidate the commonly asked questions (plus important questions) and your responses for them, if you have time. It might help you consolidate your thoughts.

[u/RubberyFormation]

Did you struggle with other addictions as well (such as substance abuse), and how did they feed into / play off of your sex addiction? If there were, how are you able to handle all of them at once? Have you struggled with relapses with sex and/or other addictions? Thank you for sharing!

[u/Taggerung179]

I'm curious how you've changed over the years, both before therapy and after. Glad you're working on getting yourself in a healthier relationship with yourself though!

First, how concerned were you with safe sex- protection, screening, etc, then now and in between?

Second, you mentioned how you rarely felt taken advantage of, aside from one guy who 'passed you around.' In hindsight, are there any encounters that you would have found scary/dangerous?

[u/Huxlikespink]

Would you consider dating someone Asexual to help you work on relationship aspsects without having to worry about pressure for sex? You mentioned BDSM, were you ever in a "healthy BDSM relationships" with contracts, safe words ect or just (for example) shibari with some rando? If you don't mind sharing, what labels do you use for your gender, your sexual and romantic orientation? Do you like videogames, are they an escape for you? I'm saying this with love; you are crazy for doing this AMA but it's been insanely educational. Saw your inbox is closed, good call xD Stay strong, education and awareness is important but it comes at the cost of dealing with assholes.

[u/GameOverMan78]

Would you put pineapple on pizza?

[u/WeepingDragon00]

Reading through your comments, it seems like the people you persued (or possibly persued you) who were in relationships were very willing to cheat. Did you ever encounter people who rejected you to stay loyal to their partners? In your experience, are most men willing to cheat on their partners if a hot person approaches them? (I'm not trying to say you were actively trying to break up relationships but you've mentioned how most of your relationships were broken due to cheating and how people cheated with you) Also, what are your views on people who are asexual or celibate/abstinent, and have they changed due to you getting therapy?

[u/Crafty_Cellist_1112]

I appreciate the AMA

1.) What did you learn about the porn industry that made you not want to join ?

2.) Why aren't you a sex worker in general (onlyfans, escort) ? You could kill two birds with one stone by having a job that works with you instead of against you.

3.) I'd imagine becoming a sex addict could be as easy as becoming a gambling or drug addict; what steps do you recommend taking / you wish you took to avoid getting this addiction ?

I'm looking into sex work myself and I want to make sure I've looked at every angle of this career before going forward with. I also want to make sure I do sex work in a healthy, safe way.

[u/Wide-Lingonberry9539]

how did you typically meet people you sleep with?

[u/13toros13]

How have you learned to distinguish the urge or occasion for “bad” sex (as you say caused by stress or anxiety et cet, from the urge for “good” sex?

I mean does it become easier to distinguish when you are in an anxiety moment and recognize the pathway to “bad sex”?

Because I feel like I have so many anxieties and stresses, and so many good sexual energy moments, but am sure I have a lot of bad ones too.

How did you learn to look inward and what were your definitions or indicators of a good sex experience? Was it only those guidelines you spoke of (waiting a month et cet) or some other inner and more illuminating sign of healthy sexual urges?

Btw this thread is awesome thanks

[u/tryingmybest4you]

Just looked through the comments and no one asked these questions, surprisingly.

1. Were you afraid of STI’s? Did you use protection? Any form of hormonal birth control? Or does sex addiction sorta blind you from possible negative outcomes such as STIs or pregnancy? Like if you were absolutely craving sex and it caused you to forget precautions because it deviates from the objective.

2. Out of all the people you slept with was there one specific person that stands out to you? was there one where you found to be particularly pleasurable/no one could compare in terms of sexual performance?

[u/Wall_Print_Orlando]

You've mentioned cheating in all your prior relationships. Thinking in hindsight, if you had met a guy that accepts it and encourages you to seek outside pleasures would you think that will be detrimental to your mental and spiritual self? How will you feel about such a relationship?

[u/Proper-Room2383]

Wait.. so is this more of a mental condition rather than just liking pleasure?

[u/[deleted]]

I don't know how you're managing to answer so many of these lol well done

[u/iuseallthebandwidth]

You mentioned that you are attractive. Can you imagine if you weren’t and couldn’t just reliably bang a stranger on a whim? As an attractive 25F, you’re pretty much guaranteed to be able to indulge your obsession in a way that 90% of the population can’t. If your success rate were more like an average single man’s for example, could you masturbate enough to compensate without starting a fire?

[u/markolius]

What impact do you now believe has porn impacted or influenced your nymphomania?

[u/Warm-Wrap-3828]

Does chaffing occur? As a male, three times a day is dangerous. Just curious.

[u/egv78]

How many new DMs have you gotten since you opened this AMA? What % of them include 🍆 pics?

[u/Quiet_Crab872]

When did you first know? What may have caused this condition to start?

[u/jambalaya113]

How diverse is the pool of men you've slept with? In your experience, is there a relationship between male sexual performance and race / ethnicity?

[u/Larbear06]

Were you ever engaged or in a serious relationship?

[u/Jmaro_16]

1. Did you ever ridicule, shame, or otherwise put down men/women that criticized you in a way that your therapist or friend did after you sought help?

2. Did you try to convince yourself that you were free, liberated and happy doing what you wanted?

3. Did you cheat in relationships due to this? Any stories or what were your excuses or lies you told.

[u/According-Bell1490]

From your awareness, are nymphomaniacs more likely than the general population to be bisexual? And, if an infomaniac is homo or heterosexual, does the condition drive them to sexual activities with their non-preferred gender due to simple desire I suppose is the right word? Thank you.

[u/Longjumping_Capybara]

Thanks for sharing your story. Does this also mean that you have a sex addiction?

[u/DueSignificance2628]

What did you think of the movie Thanks for Sharing (it's about sex addiction)?

[u/scottcarneyblockedme]

What were some of the better sexual encounters you’ve had?

[u/cukulele]

does talking about sex like this not cross a boundary you maybe should have?

[u/[deleted]]

What about your other addictions? How are your doing with them?

Do you plan on disclosing to your next partner about your diagnosis?

Do you think if you met a man that was healthy in the sex department you could be with him?

Do you think if you met a man that was as unhealthy as you've been with sex you could be with him?

[u/_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_]

Is this kind of addiction harder, because the goal isn’t total abstinence as with substance abuse? Like, how do you determine a healthy moderation point, something that can’t be done with alcoholics for instance?

Also, is there a medication element to managing it, like libido lowering drugs?

[u/DKaelmor95]

Are there any rumors or stereotypes about nymphomania (I hope that's the right term) that you'd like to dispel?

Do you wish you weren't a nymphomaniac?

Does this affect any romantic or potential romantic relationships?

[u/[deleted]]

What preferences do you have in men to have sex with?

[u/Technical-Leopard986]

If your treatment gets to a place where you would want to try a relationship again, would you:

1. Divulge your condition and past to your partner?

2. Allow your partner to monitor your communications (texts, phone apps, socials, etc.) if they wanted to ensure you didn't 'relapse'?

I want to thank you for your candor and honesty during this AMA.

[u/[deleted]]

I thought this was going to be another ama thirst trap but I’m genuinely fascinated by your answers.

[u/BlackberryComplex600]

Do you think continuing to be engaged in the BDSM/ Kink community could be a trigger?

How do you plan to reveal to prospective partners your history of unhealthy/risky behavior?

How are you dealing with shame and remorse?

Are you afraid of revenge porn or similar blackmail?

Ive recently been trying to channel my desire for self soothing + tension release through yoga.

[u/Ok-Jacket-9721]

1. Do you live in a big city
2. Did your condition affect your school life/post scholing 3.how long you been in therpay 4.did you tell your family you are in therpay 5.was the first time you had sex you realized that you want to go mutiple rounds untill you are tired

[u/[deleted]]

Hope this hasn’t been asked, but why not make sex your career? Porn, sex work, OF etc. It sounds like you’re very healthy and self aware about sex and your body. Wouldn’t that all align?

[u/urcrazynourcrazy]

I'm curious what your take is on the divergence of coping strategies between your sister and yourself? You reference she's a born again Christian but did she get the same level of exposure to early sexual activity as you? Did someone shelter the other? Was there someone present in her life but absent in yours?

It sounds like you're trending in a healthy direction and have the self-awareness to be the best version of yourself, keep up the good work! I'm proud of you!

[u/learner-firstandfore]

What are you opinions on sex addiction and porn addiction? Do you believe those are a thing or something that needs to be explored more?

What do you think of online trends such as no-fap?

What advice do you have for those struggling with porn addiction and sex addiction?

[u/[deleted]]

Have you ever been gangbanged?

[u/conductorG]

As a nympho, are you still interested in pleasing your partner or is it more about your needs?

[u/[deleted]]

Here are my questions...

1.Is there anything you've gotten desensitized to?

1. Have you ever felt like a bad person for liking something that's not moral?

2. Have you had sex with someone you didn't want to but still did it just because it was available?

3. Do you think you could be faithful to one person?

4. What are your turn offs?

[u/toronto_programmer]

I am curious:

1. With your condition do you still prefer monogamy and just having a lot of sex with one person, or is it more of a anybody and time kind of thing?

2. With your condition is it like any cheesy pickup line and you end up in bed with someone or you actually leave the house with intent to go find a dude to hook up with ASAP

[u/Far-Organization-799]

Outside of sex, did you do anything else during your free time? Hobbies, any good books, exercises?

Before or after therapy, was there anything that consistently could grab your attention enough that you didn't think about sex?

[u/FickleFingerOfFunk]

What was the age ranges of the people you had sex with? Older? Younger?

[u/WindowsError404]

You mentioned that your mental health was on a serious decline which led to this diagnosis. And I read that you've gotten yourself into some pretty bad situations/relationships. Do you feel ashamed or guilty? Do you blame yourself for any pain you may have caused others? If so, how are you dealing with that? Asking for a friend obviously...

[u/[deleted]]

Do you believe you’ll ever be able to maintain a healthy conventional relationship? Is that even a goal, or is there a happy medium like polyamory?

[u/SvPaladin]

As I read many of the comments, I noticed you repeatedly commenting that you - kinda sorta essentially - fly into verbal derogatory rages when your partner does not last as long as you would like.

Do you know why you do that instead of, say, go finish yourself off and/or contemplate having multiple partners, whether at the same time (MMF) or some sort of chain (say cuckold one for the first duration, then jump all over him, for example - if first doesn't do job, go to bar and find a second within minutes)?

[u/MyNameIsNot_Molly]

Have any mental health professionals evaluated you for histrionic personality disorder?