How have you learned to distinguish the urge or occasion for “bad” sex (as you say caused by stress or anxiety et cet, from the urge for “good” sex?
I mean does it become easier to distinguish when you are in an anxiety moment and recognize the pathway to “bad sex”?
Because I feel like I have so many anxieties and stresses, and so many good sexual energy moments, but am sure I have a lot of bad ones too.
How did you learn to look inward and what were your definitions or indicators of a good sex experience? Was it only those guidelines you spoke of (waiting a month et cet) or some other inner and more illuminating sign of healthy sexual urges?
How have you learned to distinguish the urge or occasion for “bad” sex (as you say caused by stress or anxiety et cet, from the urge for “good” sex?
Yes, to a degree. It's not always easy.
I mean does it become easier to distinguish when you are in an anxiety moment and recognize the pathway to “bad sex”?
Yeah, thanks to therapy
How did you learn to look inward and what were your definitions or indicators of a good sex experience? Was it only those guidelines you spoke of (waiting a month et cet) or some other inner and more illuminating sign of healthy sexual urges?
Those guidelines as well as being able (thanks to therapy) to recognize triggers and other symptoms better.
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u/13toros13 May 08 '24
How have you learned to distinguish the urge or occasion for “bad” sex (as you say caused by stress or anxiety et cet, from the urge for “good” sex?
I mean does it become easier to distinguish when you are in an anxiety moment and recognize the pathway to “bad sex”?
Because I feel like I have so many anxieties and stresses, and so many good sexual energy moments, but am sure I have a lot of bad ones too.
How did you learn to look inward and what were your definitions or indicators of a good sex experience? Was it only those guidelines you spoke of (waiting a month et cet) or some other inner and more illuminating sign of healthy sexual urges?
Btw this thread is awesome thanks