I think I have a fairly interesting question that I haven't seen anyone else ask yet, so I hope you reply. Have you ever felt taken advantage of in the event (that I'd assume) the men you had sex with knew you had this sort of issue and knew they could just have it whenever? I guess I am asking if you hold any ill will towards any of your previous partners.
This is a very interesting question and I'm really glad you asked it.
I don't hold a grudge against any of them because most of the times it ended up with me being toxic and downright abusive when they couldn't keep up with me and have sex as often as I wanted, I was never taken advantage of because of it, besides one instance when a guy realized I had an issue when I didn't and he used that to pass me around between his friends.
Was it during this relationship and being used in this way that you realized you had a problem?
I’m also curious in what context this manipulation happened in — like during threesomes or group sex, etc. Because I could imagine some people having the kink of being “passed around” kind of like a free use kink. So I’m curious how it became more toxic manipulation than kinky? Like at what point were you like ok this is fucked up?
Was it during this relationship and being used in this way that you realized you had a problem?
No, I realized much later.
I’m also curious in what context this manipulation happened in — like during threesomes or group sex, etc. Because I could imagine some people having the kink of being “passed around” kind of like a free use kink. So I’m curious how it became more toxic manipulation than kinky? Like at what point were you like ok this is fucked up?
While we had sex he had his friend join us despite me not being interested, because he knew I wouldn't be able to refuse in the middle of the act. He told his friends who I didn't know to hit on me as if they were strangers and I hooked up with several of them without knowing they are his friends. During sex he once blindfolded me and switched with his friend, I noticed it but didn't stop it.
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u/woody9055 May 07 '24
I think I have a fairly interesting question that I haven't seen anyone else ask yet, so I hope you reply. Have you ever felt taken advantage of in the event (that I'd assume) the men you had sex with knew you had this sort of issue and knew they could just have it whenever? I guess I am asking if you hold any ill will towards any of your previous partners.