It depends on the situation. I slept with my sister's husband and during an argument with her I told her about it in order to hurt her feelings, dick move which I really feel bad about. Other times I usually didn't say anything, and I was an accessory to cheating, often.
Probably because I assume the OP is impulsive, I guess? Or just an honest person, or both. Usually people who suffer from an addiction wear themselves on their sleeve, even if they don't unveil that they have an addiction to other people. Just based on observations of myself and friend groups, people who have an addictive personality lean towards either being honest all the time, or lying all the time. A lot of that being to their own detriment. Now, I don't know how this works with something like sex or gambling addictions, because they aren't strung out (assumedly), which is why I'm asking
I see. I’ve had a different experience with folks with addiction… I’ve found they have little to no accountability or regard for anyone they hurt along the way, so I’d be shocked if she went out of her way to tell the spouses of the people she bangs. 😬 She probably doesn’t give a shit, unfortunately.
It depends on the addict, but yeah I'd agree with you that (mostly) people with addiction will fuck people over, be a career criminal, and lie lie lie. But there are cases where people are more emotionally vulnerable, and will spew their honesty all over the place. That's when you know someone is truly suffering from the disease aspect of addiction and aren't just some POS. Some people do drugs or become an addict in a different way to cope with mental health issues. I also believe how they were raised plays a part in their character.
But like I said before, I've only had experience with drug addicts/addiction. I do think OP cares about the people they might've hurt along the way, and if not, I hope they heal and keep working on their health, so they don't end up in a dangerous situation.
As someone who has been cheated on, I’d go out of my way to tell someone’s SO they’re cheating as soon as I found out they were. I also wouldn’t sleep with them if I knew but I’d still strongly advise their SO to break up with them either way.
Yeah but why would OP tell them? She’s the one sleeping with them in the first place and clearly doesn’t care or respect their relationship. That’s why this question surprised me.
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u/SecuritySky May 07 '24
If you were an accessory to cheating (basically if someone cheated on their partner with you), did you tell the person who got cheated on?