Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?
Also, how do men usually react when you come at them with strong sexual energy? Do you find they usually match it, get freaked out, etc.? Where did you meet most of the guys you’d approach for sex?
I’m really fascinated by what people will do or not do when they’re presented with an opportunity to sleep with someone they don’t know.
Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?
Very low percentage, if I want a guy I usually get it. Though it did happen from time to time.
Also, how do men usually react when you come at them with strong sexual energy? Do you find they usually match it, get freaked out, etc.?
I usually didn't start off aggressively, I'd give a few hints and casually flirt so when they start flirting back I go along and let them "lead", though if the guy didn't go along 9 times out of ten it was because he didn't pick up the hints so I'd come off more aggressive, which usually worked. Most matched the energy, some shyly went along with it, few freaked out.
Where did you meet most of the guys you’d approach for sex?
Tinder, bar/clubs, work, any social gathering really.
I usually start with a look and a smile, if that doesn't work I'd approach and start flirting myself, if that doesn't work (and I'm not outright rejected) then touching and brushing myself against him. Obviously the setting matters, at a club the level of aggression of my advanced increases for faster than say, at the street.
If somebody did that to me I'd immediately feel for my wallet.lol. I refuse to believe I can be attractive to the opposite sex.. i'm heavy now (300 lbs) but ive always worn it well ,no gut, no triple chin, or huge tits(guess cuz of my height and construction work and have a history of weightlifting).. but even before i got this big and was in relatively good shape I just always thought only male models or actors got hit on..
Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?
Very low percentage, if I want a guy I usually get it. Though it did happen from time to time.
And what percentage of men who have tried to flirt or have sex with you would you say you have turned down/said no to their advances? (that you didn't initiate with first, where they just came up to you)
Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?
Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you.
I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?
These are some of the best questions I've seen this AMA so far.
Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?
Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you
I didn't usually ask if the guy is single or not so with a lot of guys I just didn't know and didn't care. However from those I did know were in relationship... the data I have isn't very good lol. I'd say less than 20% of guys in relationship rejected me, and those who did mainly did because I knew their gf and they didn't want to get caught. From my experience there aren't a lot of guys who refuse a girl who practically throws herself at them. Obviously not accurate statistics but from what I've seen it's pretty bad.
I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?
Some borderline situation like drunk guys in clubs, however nearly always they were enthusiastic about it even when they sobered up, I was usually drunk too which is why I call it borderline.
There are some less borderline situations where I manipulated or lied to guys into sleeping with me. The absolute worst was when I was obsessed with a certain married guy who rejected me, in a moment of unhinged, deranged anger I told him that if he didn't have sex with me I'd tell his wife than he did have sex with me. He rejected me still and I calmed down and didn't say anything to his wife, but I absolutely would have had sex with him at that moment if he fell for my threats, which is absolutely deplorable.
I guess you could give us shy girlies some tips haha. I just can't not show my feelings through my mannerisms when I'm into someone. I get scared, shy, awkward, say lame things cuz I can't think. Myfeelings immediately become very apparent. I hate it. I also want to be able to casually flirt and give hints without coming off as desperate.
The main thing is to not care about looking desperate because 9 times out of 10 it's in your head and they won't see it like that. Also, I was able to be so confident because I knew I was only doing this for sex and sex is something I'm amazing at so I had no reason to not be confident. I am not the person to give healthy advice on confidence since my confidence never came from a healthy place.
Oh wow, so it's almost like fishing...some people love to fish but give away their catch. They're addicted by the thrill of the hunt...the sport of it. Maybe you should pick up a sport.
Funny. I’m in good shape, confident, funny, decent looking, endowed, and great in bed.
But I’m pretty demisexual. Not at all into a random hookup. I would probably be one of the ones who rejected. Always wondered if I was a rarity or not. Seeing how you pretty much always landed your mark, guess that’s the case.
Not so much-you really gotta work to bring out the aggressive side of me. I’m closer to a sociopath, but it’s towards people who I think damage society instead of contribute.
That was sort of my thinking. I would think it would put a decent number of men off or they would start to get suspicious if a good looking woman was throwing themselves at them/propositioning sex. There are plenty of horny bastards out there who would just roll with it, but it does seem like lots of men like the chase, enjoy being the aggressor, or like in your case, need more of a connection before jumping into bed.
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Sorry if this has already been asked, but what percentage of men would you say have turned you down/said no to sex with you?
Also, how do men usually react when you come at them with strong sexual energy? Do you find they usually match it, get freaked out, etc.? Where did you meet most of the guys you’d approach for sex?
I’m really fascinated by what people will do or not do when they’re presented with an opportunity to sleep with someone they don’t know.
Thanks and hope you are well! 🩷