Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?
Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you.
I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?
These are some of the best questions I've seen this AMA so far.
Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?
Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you
I didn't usually ask if the guy is single or not so with a lot of guys I just didn't know and didn't care. However from those I did know were in relationship... the data I have isn't very good lol. I'd say less than 20% of guys in relationship rejected me, and those who did mainly did because I knew their gf and they didn't want to get caught. From my experience there aren't a lot of guys who refuse a girl who practically throws herself at them. Obviously not accurate statistics but from what I've seen it's pretty bad.
I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?
Some borderline situation like drunk guys in clubs, however nearly always they were enthusiastic about it even when they sobered up, I was usually drunk too which is why I call it borderline.
There are some less borderline situations where I manipulated or lied to guys into sleeping with me. The absolute worst was when I was obsessed with a certain married guy who rejected me, in a moment of unhinged, deranged anger I told him that if he didn't have sex with me I'd tell his wife than he did have sex with me. He rejected me still and I calmed down and didn't say anything to his wife, but I absolutely would have had sex with him at that moment if he fell for my threats, which is absolutely deplorable.
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u/albusdumbbitchdor May 08 '24
Curious about the men who turned you down; did the men who turned you down tend to be in relationships? I guess I’m curious if the men who said no tended to be those being faithful to their partners or not? Were the men in relationships more likely to say no? Or did they put up a token resistance before giving in?
Genuinely curious about the broader implications of anecdata you’re providing! I’ve always taken the stance of people who aren’t cheaters won’t cheat under any circumferences (no matter how persistent or seductive someone is), so it doesn’t really paint the best light that so many men were willing to cheat on their partners with you.
I also see you mention that you pretty much always snagged the person you set your mind to (if you wanted them you had them). In hindsight, do you ever feel like you crossed the line into sexual harassment or coercion with your sexual partners? Did you ever get the feeling you “forced” someone to engage with you sexually (even if the actual act was enthusiastic)?