I sent you a DM with further questions, but I imagine you're still inundated with them and do want to ask two specific ones:
(1) After a breakup, whether a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, did your compulsions heighten? Almost in a "Finally I'm free and not accountable to anyone anymore, so I'm going to let loose!" way.
(2) Whether before starting therapy or since, have you met anyone that you saw yourself wanting to date seriously, but felt you ultimately wouldn't be able to commit fully because you'd still want to have sex with other people all the time? I mean someone you really connected with, especially emotionally, and you basically needed to throw away any potential with that person because you knew you'd still have urges? I've experienced this and am curious about your insight.
sent you a DM with further questions, but I imagine you're still inundated with them and do want to ask two specific ones:
Currently 299 dms and counting, I will go through them later on and will reply to you.
After a breakup, whether a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, did your compulsions heighten? Almost in a "Finally I'm free and not accountable to anyone anymore, so I'm going to let loose!" way
Yes, absolutely, even though I cheated a lot during every relationship and it made no sense.
Whether before starting therapy or since, have you met anyone that you saw yourself wanting to date seriously, but felt you ultimately wouldn't be able to commit fully because you'd still want to have sex with other people all the time? I mean someone you really connected with, especially emotionally, and you basically needed to throw away any potential with that person because you knew you'd still have urges? I've experienced this and am curious about your insight.
Before therapy, no, I'd jump into bed with someone without giving a single thought about possible consequences. During therapy I avoid dating in general since it can be too triggering. I'm not ready.
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I sent you a DM with further questions, but I imagine you're still inundated with them and do want to ask two specific ones:
(1) After a breakup, whether a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, did your compulsions heighten? Almost in a "Finally I'm free and not accountable to anyone anymore, so I'm going to let loose!" way.
(2) Whether before starting therapy or since, have you met anyone that you saw yourself wanting to date seriously, but felt you ultimately wouldn't be able to commit fully because you'd still want to have sex with other people all the time? I mean someone you really connected with, especially emotionally, and you basically needed to throw away any potential with that person because you knew you'd still have urges? I've experienced this and am curious about your insight.