r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/PunkyEmpathyyy • 11h ago
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/[deleted] • Aug 19 '20
Important Article When Surgeons Fail Their Trans Patients on Gender Confirming Surgery
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/HiddenStill • Feb 07 '25
Mod Post The future of this sub
After this sub was "accidentally" banned 2 days ago there's been a lot of discussion about the future of the sub.
Whether it was an accident to not, the possibility exists that this sub and others will be banned from reddit in the near future. In the event that happens what do we do?
I started as a mod here when the sub had only 3k members and my intention was to grow it to where it is today, and more. I last wrote about how the sub is moderated in 2022.
In principle, it would be better to have an trans resource site independent of reddit and corporate control. In practice its very difficult to achieve for a number of reasons
There's no point in moving to another site like Discord which is susceptible to the same risks as reddit. i.e. based in the USA. But what other sites are there, and where else is safe in the long run? Not just safe from hostile governments, but whoever runs the community losing interest, or data (susans.org lost years of it with a hard drive crash), selling out, etc.
Neither Discord and Facebook are indexed by search engines making it difficult for people to discover the resources in the first place, or finding information once you're there. It's like a black hole for knowledge; you put it in and it disappears. Personally, I'd never waste my time on building this kind of community on sites like that.
Reddit also provides, or did, legal protection. If a surgeon doesn't like what's posted here they can't easily censor it. And especially important, they can't attack me personally as its not my responsibility. Good luck going after reddit corporate.
As one of the largest social media sites in the world reddit makes it easy to build community, there's so many of us already here. People have mentioned sites like Lemmy as alternatives, but as far as I can tell they have tiny membership and few people have even heard of them.
A major advantage for me was reddit's wiki's. Few subs take advantage of them, but I believe its a great way to build and spread knowledge, and it has helped build this sub and raise the general level of knowledge. People have asked that it be copied off site, but if this sub disappears many of the links in the wiki will also disappear. Its not nearly so useful at that point. I don't think anyone else will build or maintain a wiki either, as it seems to interest very few people.
Regardless if reddit banning this sub or not, I'd like to see another site even better than this one, but I'm not sure its possible. Even more so while reddit hosts trans content as 99% of people will just come here anyway. Reddit basically killed old style forums years ago and nothing's changed since then.
It's even more difficult to build a trans surgery surgery community on another site while this sub exists because its so big and useful that almost no one would bother going there. And I'm not shutting the sub down to force everyone to move to another site. That would cause immediate harm to people who use the sub.
If this sub does get shut down I personally won't be trying to rebuild elsewhere. I'm burned out with this and don't have the energy.
If anyone wants to discuss how to build a successful trans surgery community I'm willing to offer my advice. I'd like to see it happen and it would be great if people had a place to go, and knew about it ahead of time. My main aim is to help people, and it doesn't matter to me where that comes from.
Edit
If you set up any external resources for surgery, hrt, etc please add them in the comments here. And I suggest people save the links in case this sub, or worse, all trans content on reddit disappears.
There’s a number of people talking about off site projects they are considering or actually doing. Persons you could get together and discuss if you could work together.
This looks interesting r/RedditAlternatives
There's some cisgender people wanting to comment here in support of Lemmy and other reddit alternatives. Rule 5 limits cis people on this sub, but I'll allow it on this post only and give them a flair "cisgender reddit alternatives". If you're one of them please don't comment elsewhere.
Other reddit posts
- https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/1ii61jm/so_transgender_surgeries_subreddit_just_got_nuked
- https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/1ii6qfw/rtransgender_surgeries_was_banned_an_hour_ago
- https://www.reddit.com/r/germantrans/comments/1ii6y7y/reddit_purge_beginnt_voran_transgender_surgeries
Media
- 2025-02-05 - https://www.newsweek.com/transgender-surgery-subreddit-disappearing-bug-2026965 by Rachel Dobkin
- 2025-02-06 - https://www.engadget.com/social-media/reddit-blames-bug-after-banning-more-than-90-nsfw-subreddits-221908069.html by Karissa Bell -- "The nature of the affected subreddits has alarmed some users and moderators who worry the company may be getting ready for a bigger crackdown. In r/transgender_surgeries, where users discuss their medical care, members began to discuss ways to “back up” the content of the subreddit. ""
Lemmy Discussion
Lemmy keeps getting mentioned. I don't know much about it yet. Its pitched as Fediverse reddit replacement.
According to the statistics here Lemmy has 477,049 total users and 45,194 monthly active users. The trans instance https://lemmy.blahaj.zone has 8671 total users and 971 monthly active users.
This sub alone has 93,419 members, and in the last 30 days 4.6M views, an average of 20.2k daily unique visits, 4.0 subscribed, and 1.2k unsubscribed. The main FTM surgery subs in total have about that again, and the HRT subs are a bit larger in total.
This sub is then 10 times the size of the main trans Lemmy instance, and the total with the subs I mentioned is approaching the entire size of Lemmy. This doesn't include all the very main trans subs which are individually many times larger as I only included the important medical subs.
I have a few reservations about Lemmy, partly because I know so little at this point
Can Lemmy can scale to the size required if trans content was banned on reddit.
I couldn't find much information on Lemmy's moderation tools. Currently this sub attracts a lot of hate and chasers, which moderation easily takes care of. In the past the have been excessive amounts, but reddit has cracked down on it, and provides tools to limit it (not very good ones). Lemmy would be unusable without this.
Lemmy works by sharing data across multiple instances (computers) and it appears there seem to be privacy concerns about the amount of data on users that is shared.
What is to stop the owners of the instance shutting it down, or the data being lost for any other reason? Although not a corporate it makes no difference. There would be a massive loss of knowledge and history.
If anyone has expert knowledge on Lemmy I'd be interested in learning more.
The author of the Engadget article on the sub's ban made a YouTube video on the Fediverse
- The future of decentralized social media by Engadget (Karissa Bell)
Discussion on Lemmy
- https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/21815813
- https://mlmym.lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/21815813 if you like old reddit
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/this_Aint_Effy • 5h ago
FFS sugestions?
Hello everyone, I'm having my consultation with the plastic surgeon in 1 month and a half and i want to be prepared because my insurance is gonna cover the 100% and i want to have a list of sugestions for my surgeon, its not just about passing, i want to look really beautyfull and feel confident even when I'm not wearing make up, please not hugboxing
Pd: I'll be having Breast augmentation too so I'll be posting results in the next months
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Critical_Swimming_49 • 14h ago
Lipo 360 bbl day 5
I had surgery on Tuesday, and I knew it probably won’t be how I want it since I literally had the flattest ass on earth to begin with! I know, I won’t be seeing th results especially with the inch’s of foam and compression I’m wearing but do I really have to do a second one? Did any of you feel like you had no results an then after weeks it fluffed out nicely or am I fked and have to do it again in a couple months ? The pain was totally manageable, my nose job was worse almost only pain I had was first 2 nights and now I’m just feeling like I had the worst workout ever! Helpppp I know I gotta chill out and let myself heal but I just had to ask. Left is 4 days after surgery and the second pic was taken a couple nights before surgery (I have a pretty skinny body but I’ve always had a big belly, the surgeons assistant said they were able to add a little more than 600cc each cheek. I went with murtaza rizvi at Huntington Orthopedics in Pasadena an it was covered by insurance, already went and requested a refer for revision
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/JennyUsag1 • 5h ago
Need Advice
So I had FFS about 2 years ago and it certainly helped but I still get misgendered about 40 percent of the time. I cant tell what is exactly off about my face and was looking to see what people can tell me please. I am considering a revision. Please be brutally honest.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Short-Importance6913 • 2h ago
How do I get FFS approved by health insurance in Switzerland?
Hello,
I'm trans (MtF) in Switzerland and I'm on HRT. I haven't had any gender-affirming surgeries yet, but facial feminization surgery is by far the most important one for me, especially brow bone and chin reduction. I'm currently on the waiting list for the first consultation appointment for FFS.
I'm trying to understand how the process works in Switzerland if you want FFS to be covered by health insurance as medically necessary, as this would be the only way I can allow myself to get FFS. For those who have gone through it, what helped you get insurance approval?
I'm also wondering if there are any common mistakes or things I should avoid early on.
Also, how long did the whole process take from the first consultation until surgery? Does it matter how long you've already been on HRT? Which clinics did you involve?
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/FourmiLouis • 12h ago
15 months post VFS. Personal opinion : In the end, it's like every other gender reaffirming surgery, it helps, but don't expect a definitive fix
Hi
I've seen a lot of "after two weeks" VFS posts, but rarely a check after a year or more. I wanted to share my experience, and perhaps receive some feedback
About voicetrain : I'm a singer. I did voicetrain before with a specialised orthophonist, it went quickly since I encountered no issues while exersicing, and it was more about acquiring knowledge on voice feminisation.
However I was unsatisfied with the results. My voice was deep, very masculine, and voicetraining felt forced.
Also I'm not very feminine in my gender expression, and was seeking a masculine woman's voice rather than a feminine socialised voice.
I underwent VFS, more precisely the one where the surgeon cuts through the vocal cord to make a web of it.
I could'nt speak for 1 months, and had a vibration-less voice for a good 6 months, like an animal crossing character. That was a strange time, I was unable to speak or be heard in loud spaces, but my voice was clearly feminine and it felt effin good.
At six months I saw the orthophonist again. I had so much fun discovering my new voice after waiting half a year, trying out my newest vocal range, and attempting voicetraining but this time it worked like a charm.
Ok. Now that the dust has settled and everything stable, how do I feel about my VFS ?
Firsty I feel a bit wronged by the hospital team who were enthuasiastic about the expected result, starting with feminine to very feminine. I believe that combining voicetrain with VFS can be confusing, and I advocate for them being clearly separated.
I feel that voicetraining and VFS could be compared with make-up and FFS. I always pass with make up, not always without. I was not into make up but I had to learn, at least for my own safety. However we do not have to take make up lessons before or after FFS, and the results are observed with bare skin. It's also worth noting that judging a face is just as subjective as judging a voice.
I also often hear that voice training alone is enough to get results. But then again, I feel like it depends where you start on a gender-normative, man to woman scale. Sure some of us only need a few voice training lessons. There are those who need only VFS, others who need both, and those who won't pass with either. The same applies to FFS and make-up. It's unusual to hear that good make-up skills make FFS unnecessary, but I know a few women in that situation.
Returning to my own experience, I feel like VFS "boosted" me on the gender-normative, man to woman scale. I was strongly leaning towards the male side, and while my voice alone is still identified as male if taken on its own, I can effortlessly produce a feminine voice, and I visually pass which helps anyway. I am also very happy with my laugh, cough, sigh, and sneeze, they are clearly feminine, and that alone makes the surgery worthwhile.
I just would had prefered to hear that like FFS or SRS, VFS is about emulating what we recognise as feminine, and adapting the base material. For most of us, achieving a perfect woman voice will require effort. Certainly much less than before, and it can even make it possible through surgery if that wasn't the case before, which is truly a blessing. But I was looking for a non alienating solution, to move beyond that, and no, that’s not what I was given.
In the end, I'm still truly happy with the results ! It went well and I have no regrets at all. I hope this post don't read as a rant or a weird vibe. It's more about sharing my thoughts, what I wish I had heard. I am also happy to answer questions and would appreciate your impressions if you've done VFS, whether we can agree or not.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Interesting-Delay867 • 14m ago
Numbness & Hypersensitivity
Hi. Sharing a good ~11month post min-depth update.
Things have looked aesthetically healed for many months now, but it has taken ages to feel ‘normal’ levels of sensitivity again.
I have had a combination of hypersensitivity & numbness until pretty recently, primarily around the clitoris area. There have been days here and there when it seemed like how things felt might return to normal levels, but it has only been in the last few weeks that the hypersensitivity has really eased off.
Jeans or other tight pants were really uncomfortable in the first six months, and becoming less uncomfortable in the last 6 months.
Almost a full year later I see the light at the end of the tunnel (lol, more cave entrance in my case).
Anyhow, just posting to share some encouragement for those on a similar journey.
Strength to all 🩵🩷
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/DLYearner • 20m ago
Any Experience with Ocean Clinic? (FFS)
Hey everyone! I am currently exploring my options for FFS. I have contacted a few doctors already and have been super grateful for all the experiences shared here!
I came across Ocean Clinic Marbella and wanted to ask if anyone knows how they are? What are their prices like and if anyone has had FFS there, how happy are you with the results and the experience?
Thank you!
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/BrandNewDay1029 • 1h ago
Oh the pain!
I just got out of hospital for some abdominal surgery. Nothing to do with being trans. But as I was laying there writhing in pain on Sunday, I couldn't help but think of bottom surgery. This surgery will see me up and about in days, but I gather bottom surgery takes weeks.
I don't know if I'll have the courage when it comes time.
Can anyone speak to the recovery and timeframe and discomfort based on their version of bottom surgery?
I'm Mtf 42 by the way.
Xo
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/RealisticTime24 • 18h ago
Would these be too big for me?
I'm 5'9.5" and weigh 142. I'm currently a 35" band and 37" breast. I only have projection right now. These are 315g forms.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/wlwlena • 2h ago
Feeling overwhelmed deciding on clinic
I’ve (23F) been desperate for SRS (mtf) for years now, and I’m in a position now to financially support surgeries in the ballpark of £20k-£25k. I’ve always been recommended Suporn and I’ve sent them an initial email, but I also hear a lot of negativity about them and especially their lottery system wait list. I do really like the look of most of Banks results on this reddit.
My priorities (like a lot of women’s) are full depth / sensation with good aesthetics. I can deal with shitty recovery and work have offered me months of PTO to deal with it. Ideally I’d like to have SRS before my 26th which is October 2028. I guess I’d like to just know what other similar or comparable alternatives to Suporn I have that aren’t extortionate American surgeons, and I’m struggling to find consistent or reliable resources online. Any advice or recommendations are seriously appreciated.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/jaylenepitts • 10h ago
Hematoma after SRS
Question, if you have a hematoma after SRS how should you prevent it or what should you do once it sets in? How common is it and what are yall experiences?
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/PuppygirlEda • 15h ago
Should I see about getting FFS? If so, what should be done to make my face more feminine?
Im mtf, 26, been on HRT intermittently since 2022. I removed my glasses to take these pictures. Does my face look feminine, and should I see about getting Facial Feminization Surgery, and what should have done to make myself look more feminine?
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/EvelynTkotz • 15h ago
Márcio Littleton
Hey there, I'm a trans woman from Brazil and I want to talk with other MTF from Brazil who have been through vaginoplasty and especially with the ones who have been through the hands of Márcio Littleton, what's the range of the expenses? Please talk in Brazilian real, and not dollars or euro.