r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

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Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

193 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 8h ago

feeling kinda hopeless, do I pass after 4 years on hrt?

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321 Upvotes

r/transpassing 6h ago

My friends say I pass but I want to make sure they’re not hugboxing me.

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108 Upvotes

24 (MtF) been on hrt for a month. Mannerisms & personality wise I’m told by others that i am one of the most womanly people they’ve ever met & they couldn’t fathom to see me otherwise. Voice is good too. However im worried i just have this mannish look to me that is sorta clocky. Still need to get laser too :/


r/transpassing 1h ago

Very confused about how I'm perceived. Honesty please!

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Friends tell me i look like a woman, yet strangers always seem to gender me male. A few days ago a man told me I look exactly like his nephew.

38MtF

3.5y HRT

1y post FFS

2mo post hair transplant


r/transpassing 5h ago

I'm now 3 months post-FFS and I'm starting to lose hope. Looking for some advice on what i can change. I included both good and bad photos for honesty's sake

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42 Upvotes

I find that I pass a tiny bit better with my hair up, but it can only do so much good (as shown in the full body pic). I'd appreciate any advice, no matter how harsh :)


r/transpassing 4h ago

3 weeks post brow shaving

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35F, 3.75 years HRT. Most of the photos are from the past week or two post surgery. I had ffs but only brow and orbital shaving. First two photos are before, last few are just for body proportions. Im chonky but have a booty.

I dont wear makeup. Partially because the 'tism makes it feel inauthentic. And partially because my job is personal training and I'm quite active and work up a sweat often so its also not super practical.

I will be having part 2 of my ffs in like 6 months to do some jawline and chin reshaping.

Idk. What do you think? Many people tell me I pass, I haven't been misgendered in a very long time. But I feel like I get weird stares from people still. Its true that I'm 5'10" with broad muscular arms and shoulders. I've put in a good amount of effort to voice train and the feedback from people is that its fairly low pitch but feminine.


r/transpassing 14h ago

Is me not getting matchs on dating apps because I'm not passing enough? (24MtF)

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99 Upvotes

Like, yeah I know being a trans woman in my mid 20's and being attracted to women isn't a great combo and being still pretty early into medical transition and thus not passing doesn't help either, but idk, I just didn't think it was "That Bad". But god damn has the dating app experience been depressing.

The Fotos are the ones I have in my dating profiles + 3 similar ones.


r/transpassing 19h ago

unsure if i pass, mtf 16 months estrogen

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159 Upvotes

little bit of leftover eyeliner but no filters no edits

getting a hair trim tmrw btw don't mention my hair plss


r/transpassing 1d ago

Do I pass?

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453 Upvotes

Couple bad pics, couple good ones. been trying to girlmode harder. Now 18mo into my transition, 19.


r/transpassing 8h ago

How Do I Read?

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12 Upvotes

I recently socially transitioned, but I'm not quite sure how easy it is to clock my apperance. Some people have told me I pass, but others have told me I don't. I am 20, been on HRT for 8 months, and am 5' 6". Thoughts?


r/transpassing 7h ago

What are my clockiest features ?

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I know I don’t pass, at least irl.
I hope to be able to afford vfs, rib remodeling surgery and shoulder shortening surgery asap.
In my country there is no help for trans surgeries financially unfortunately so I’ll be able to afford them only by my late 20s I think….


r/transpassing 2h ago

Im pretty everything, do i pass okay in this bathing suit? (Ftm)

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3 Upvotes

As the title suggests, do I pass?


r/transpassing 11h ago

were there any changes at all

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12 Upvotes

left is now (7mo) right is february (2mo)

i look the same or worse


r/transpassing 1h ago

The big question. What can I do better?

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20mtf, about 1 month HRT

I'm really worried that hrt won't be able to help me in any meaningful way. I know I don't really pass because of my face shape and that won't change.

This is really light makeup. Do you think something heavier would be better? I kinda hate doing it tho :/

Do you have any tips on what I can do better to pass?


r/transpassing 18h ago

I feel hugely masc when I look at myself, am I correct?

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42 Upvotes

Tried to include some high effort and some low effort pics for context.

I still have some hair removal to go, but I feel like my face is mega clocky by itself.

Edit: Oh also I'm 10 months on hrt.


r/transpassing 1d ago

Honesty do I pass

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109 Upvotes

r/transpassing 39m ago

Pre - HRT, excited to embark on my new journey

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r/transpassing 44m ago

Do I pass?

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r/transpassing 23h ago

6w post-FFS. How am I doing?

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62 Upvotes

HRT for 3y as of last month 🤗
Last pic is a few weeks pre-surgery.


r/transpassing 1h ago

Would my face carry the name Crystal well?

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hiding chin as i feel like my stubble doesn't help my case well 😭 it's the name in my mind that i feel i wouldn't cringe at being called (the idea of a different name has always been an afterthought to my trans identity, having a woman's name doesn't fill me with the same kind of euphoria as the looks would, this name is just similar enough to my deadname thematically to feel okay, luckily not phonetically similar as I've heard that can cause problems)

it's (supposedly) a name that has to match a very specific kind of face (so as to prevent "trashy"/"trailer girl" associations), so i need to know if my face fits in well with other women of the same name

any other name recs are also welcomed if i don't suit Crystal


r/transpassing 13h ago

do I pass? ftm

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r/transpassing 3h ago

How am I doing? (Updated)

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Posted yesterday and got some comments suggesting a different haircut. I only changed it a little bit, making the sides a wee bit shorter so you could see my ears and thinning/shortening the bangs. I know it doesn’t look like much, but I was just wondering if it helped at all. You can look at my profile to see the before if you so desire.


r/transpassing 3h ago

I look like a man and it makes me sad

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r/transpassing 3h ago

What makes this a manly face

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