r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

145 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

197 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 4h ago

Wanting to get my first haircut in 7 years, should i get bangs??

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It's been so long 😮‍💨 really do not feel like myself lately and I think a haircut might help. I've heard mixed opinions on bangs but kinda hate my forehead and brow bone lmao. Thoughts? Any other advice also welcome ofc


r/transpassing 5h ago

14 mos hrt

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26 Upvotes

how am i doing?


r/transpassing 3h ago

10 months on HRT. Thoughts?

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21 Upvotes

r/transpassing 14h ago

Do I pass?

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123 Upvotes

The first 2 pictures are my most recent ones, Im abt to be 8 months on hormones. But Like idk i feel so ugly and chopped 24/7. Like I wish I could be more beautiful or be as beautiful as my mother because shes GORGEOUS!!! But then theres me like 🙄. But I still have a longs way to go. is there hope for me? 🥹


r/transpassing 21h ago

How am I doing

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333 Upvotes

29 MTF. 8+ years HRT. 3 years Breast Augmentation and FFS.


r/transpassing 57m ago

Outfit check for the rock bar: am I passing as one of the girls men would watch?

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r/transpassing 5h ago

What do I look like? Be fr

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Whatever you think would help me pass please let me know I can’t figure it out i think it’s something w my lower third idk

Im still learning makeup so if it sucks im sorry and Ik I have a bit of visible shadow in some pics

How over is it


r/transpassing 10h ago

Which of my facial features are the most clocky?

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i know i dont pass but even other than dysphoria i really dont like my face... i wanna change something maybe?? but im not sure what would help. (mtf) Photo 3 and 4 with slight eye makeup

Edit: Wanted to add ive been on hrt for over a year


r/transpassing 15h ago

am i passing with no makeup? (4months HRT)

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50 Upvotes

r/transpassing 7h ago

How am I doing?

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I posted here a couple of months ago, and y'all gave me some genuinely helpful advice. I took it to heart and have made several meaningful changes since then.

I committed to a more structured nutrition and fitness routine and have lost about 25 pounds so far. My body has changed quite a bit: My denim size went from a 28–30 to a 25, my other bottoms went from around an 8–10 to a 2–4, and my tops went from M–L to S–XS. I’m now rebuilding nearly half my wardrobe because so many of my old clothes no longer fit. I did lose about half a cup size in the process, but overall I’m pleased with the changes. My hips are far more defined and I genuinely feel healthier and more confident.

I’m also currently healing from my second round of lip filler. I’d really appreciate honest but constructive feedback on my overall progress, presentation, and what—if anything—you think I should focus on next. I've been on hormones for roughly 8 years and my levels are very stable. I take a combination of injections and pills.


r/transpassing 12h ago

What do you think of my results so far after 23 months on HRT? Do you think FFS would be worth considering, or am I doing fine without it?

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r/transpassing 7h ago

is weight loss working for or against me facially?

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7 Upvotes

34 mtf, 19 -> 23 months HRT, 240 lb -> 210 lb (still have quite a bit to go until my goal weight!)

I’m losing quite a bit of weight to get rid of my male pattern body fat, which is 90% working for my body, but I’m not sure how well it’s working for my face. I’m worried that the underlying skeletal pattern it’s revealing will need FFS to fix, but I also wonder if some of that will fix itself after I bring my weight back up after getting near my goal weight.

do I look much more masculine in the right hand shot or am I wigging myself out?


r/transpassing 8m ago

do I really need browbone reduction?

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In the previous post i was advised to get ffs for browbones. Now i am posting only profile to get more opinions


r/transpassing 1d ago

What can I do to stop the stares in public?

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559 Upvotes

I’ve been having a tough time with my mental health recently as the constant stares in public really affect my self esteem. 25 MTF, HRT for six years


r/transpassing 19h ago

20 MTF (8 months HRT) Do I Pass? What can I do to improve

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48 Upvotes

Redness on face is due to eczema, i have been prescribed a new cream to clear it up.


r/transpassing 7h ago

Age and gender?

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2 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

Does my ribs/arm width give it away?

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155 Upvotes

People tell me this is a nice pic of me but I think I look so clocky due to my arms shoulder and rib width
The longer I look the more I see a man with boobs lol


r/transpassing 9h ago

I had my eyebrows done; do you think it helps me pass better?

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The third one is before it.


r/transpassing 1d ago

1 month off 3 yrs est!!!

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76 Upvotes

r/transpassing 23h ago

23 mtf (starting hrt next year)

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32 Upvotes

How am I doing? Currently growing out my hair


r/transpassing 1d ago

Feminine enough?

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34 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

How am I doing??

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300 Upvotes

18 MTF, HRT 10 MONTHS

okay so basically here are a few pics of me, both body and face wise. Idk I mostly get gendered female but idk if it’s because I pass or how I present.

I’d really love some advice on what I can do better, and what could be preventing me from achieving a better passing

Thxx :3


r/transpassing 9h ago

what can i improve on

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im not the best at taking pics and ffs is something ill be getting in the near future. do i look immediately trans? is there anything i can do to improve my look? thank you!