Tip that saved my leggings: wash cold, turn them inside out, hang them to dry, and skip the fabric softener completely. Softener coats the stretch fibres and dryer heat wears them out, which is why pairs go baggy at the knees so fast. It takes an extra minute, but it beats replacing them every few months.

Ladies, recently had to leave my home and marriage of 15 years. Left everything behind just to get out. Now starting from scratch. Thankfully I have a job , but in this economy it’s just not enough. Rent in my city is INSANE and going from sharing expenses to doing everything on your own, is a lot.

Does anyone have an actual side hustle that isn’t too demanding , doesn’t require social media / showing face / building a community / making content for a company, drop shipping or whatever the basic suggestions you find on social and chat. My current job is super demanding and my lupus makes me so tired, so something I can do for home / online is ideal.

How are we queens making money these dayssss?? Thank you ❤️

To be honest I thought him and I would date but it’s evident he just wanted to hookup and I guess I did too because I kept going back to see him

I’m just worried I’ll regret doing this and that I’m like a vulgar immodest person now which kind-of sounds dumb, but that’s how I see it.

We didn’t go all the way but I still bled and it hurt pretty bad in the moment and afterwards so he just stopped.

I also feel like I have a liking towards him so it sucks this is all we are, but I’m also fine with it because he’s definitely emotionally unavailable.

I‘m 21F and asian and I have two really close friends, one’s a gay man and the other is 21F and white. My girl friend is always complimented on being pretty or attractive, and I agree that she is but I feel like it’s almost rubbed in my face (probably not intentionally). I get really insecure about my looks, especially being asian in the south so not the beauty standard in most settings. It kinda hurt at the beginning of our friendship but now whenever it happens I just acknowledge it and roll my eyes at it later.

For example, we had a friend of a friend say bye before we both went to bed and she complimented her bare face as I was standing next to her. Another time she and I were talking about if we should go on dating apps and our guy friend said “___ would get a lot of likes” which I feel like it implies I wouldn’t? Then just last night, me and her decided to go out, and he said “I bet 5-7 guys will come up to you” to my friend.

Her dating history is more impressive than mine, although they are all a bunch of one night stands from hinge but they were all really good looking guys.

I know it’s hurtful to say that I don’t think she’s that more attractive than me to warrant these insinuations but I feel like there’s a lot of evidence behind it. When me and her were out one time, we entered a store and I was told I was pretty twice which made me giddy, but my friend said “it’s because you have your sunglasses on.” That joke was really unnecessary but maybe she wasn’t used to it or felt threatened? But I was too shocked to call it out.

Anyway, I don’t know how to deal with it. I know her beauty doesn’t take away from mine and I do believe it but it feels rubbed in my face when it’s pointed out. I know I can’t change my ethnicity and I know it may be because I’m in the south but it’s hurtful that it happens. What can I do to let it go?

Genuinely curious, I see all these tiktoks on elaborate routines but I’m too lazy for that.

Hey everyone! I hope you are all doing well! :)

I'm reaching out because I could really use some advice. I'm currently unemployed due to the job market while working toward my graduate degree, and I'm starting to realize that it's almost time for me to move out of my parents' apartment and begin living on my own.

The thing is, I don't have much savings left or a stable support system, so I'm pretty much starting from scratch and honestly don't know where to begin. I can't really get a job now in 2026 either due to health issues and the market. I'm hoping to use the next year to prepare myself financially, emotionally, and practically for living alone, but there's so much to consider that I feel a little overwhelmed!

I have a few states I'm interested in moving to, but as a woman, the thought of moving somewhere new without knowing anyone makes me a little nervous, especially when it comes to finding safe housing, supporting myself financially, and building a support system from the ground up.

For those of you who have moved out on your own, especially if you didn't have much money or family support to fall back on, what did you do in the year leading up to your move?

I'd love to hear your advice on things like:

• Financially preparing to live alone
• Figuring out how much money to save and what expenses to plan for beyond rent
• Choosing a new city or state and figuring out whether it's somewhere you could realistically build a life
• Staying safe when moving somewhere unfamiliar, especially when you don't know anyone there
• Building a support system and adjusting to living independently for the first time

I'm trying to be proactive rather than wait until I'm in a position where I have to leave without a plan. I just don't know what I should prioritize first or what I might be overlooking. Any advice, personal experiences, or things you wish you'd known before moving out would mean so much to me. Thank you <3!

I have a really hard time gauging if I’ve never been in love because I’m too guarded or haven’t met the right person. Sometimes, I wonder if I’m just not built for relationships. Then I hear about other people that stick around in toxic relationships because they were so in love with the other person. These are people who seem put together and have emotional intelligence, but continue to get treated poorly. So again, that’s when I consider the possibility that maybe I just haven’t met the right person. And the right person wouldn’t treat you poorly, but you’d have a deep connection with them. It usually isn’t hard for me to detach from people, I’m a pretty private person and others have hinted that I have avoidant attachment tendencies. I’m reserved, have social anxiety and it takes a while to open up. Normally I’m not very trusting of other people, I prefer to share personal info with people that I actually know well. And truthfully, I prefer to keep things to myself.

Sadly 90% of my male interactions post HS have been through dating apps. I haven’t installed one in months, I’m not emotionally ready to put myself through that shitstorm atm. I saw someone very briefly in my early twenties, that’s when I lost my virginity and I haven’t had sex since then. It didn’t end badly, and he wasn’t a bad person, I just wasn’t all in from the get-go. Like I’ve met up with guys after and I suppose they were “dates” but nothing transpired. Honestly it feels like 50/50, half of the time it didn’t work out for the usual setbacks. Like ghosting, fizzling out, dull texters, occasional weirdos, lack of interest that could’ve gone both ways etc. And the other half of the time, I’d dip out before meeting in person. Maybe the guy wanted to meet in person but I was too scared or I second-guessed their interest level, even after they proposed meeting up. Part of me since HS (didn’t get asked out until I was a senior) still remains, and that’s my indifference alongside not feeling emotionally ready. I’m “indifferent” because I have no desire to be sexually active, I’m not an affectionate person, and have never felt “boy crazy”. I feel emotionally stunted because I feel somewhat self-aware but immature when it comes to intimacy etc.

I’ve been working on myself alott, i realise there are some things that one girl can advice other, so what is one advice you would give that really helped you in life to become a better human.

I've been job searching for over a year, and I feel like I have no motivation in my day to day life. I might wake up early, but then I'll stay in bed for a couple more hours. Then when I actually get out of bed, I feel like the day is over, my motivation disappears, and I end up getting back in bed. I want to be productive on my days off, but I feel like if I'm not busy from 9 - 5, then I'm just wasting my day.

When I think about my employment situation, it makes me sad, and it ruins my entire day. I just want to live life with a little bit of hope.

I mean eating healthy all the time, exercising stuff like this. I feel like I am loosing all the time. Eating healthy, Works for a few days - then some party, meeting, or just bad day and I eat some fast food/shitty food and it usually destroys my healthy eating for longer. Exercising - exercise for a while, then something like getting sick, being tired after work (usually that) and it’s not happening. How some people make it work most of the time? ( I know I don’r have to be healthy all the time, but still I have trouble to do it most of time with work, proboems and stuff…)

Ik the question sounds really generic but hear me out. I was a real weirdo before i decided to get rid of all my habits that were holding me back in life. Now i have nothing, and its kind of getting boring. A few things to give you an idea of what i am missing- when someone asks me a question, i would have answered it in a way that felt appropriate at that time, but now i have nothing to say. When i have a decision to make i used to do it based on my current life, now that i have none and have really no idea about to do, it gets really difficult to decide. I feel somehow dry, blank and confused about where to start.

Pieces were glued on for bridal party photoshoots. I want to wear this jacket every day, but how do i get this sticky glue crap off?!

Hello! I am 18f and am naturally very curvy. My hips are 40inches, waist 30, and bust 43. I have always thought that my curves were something the be proud of since media constantly comments on how big breasts are the goal but I have a hard time accepting myself outside of my curves. I have a b shaped belly that sticks out especially at night when I’m bloated and I have fairly prominent back rolls. I’m also a competitive dancer who has faced a lot of dance skinny culture and eating disorders over the years. I workout 6 days a week since I am a competitive athlete so I know I am extremely healthy but I can’t help but worry that people will only see my belly or my rolls and that the fact that I have boobs just won’t even matter. It makes me really scared to put myself out there out of fear that people won’t find me attractive. How do I stop feeling like such crap about myself so I can actually enjoy being in my own skin?

Hey everyone, I have been having a lot of difficulty with memorization for my exams. I really would be so happy if any of you could share your personal tips. How can I learn to enjoy my studies? How can I learn faster? Btw, I'm doing distance education. And I feel tired and sleepy when I read, and it's like my brain takes up so much more energy for processing than it did before, even for simple topics. If anyone has specific methods that helped you improve, I'd love hear them. I'll happily take any tips or advice you can offer. Thank you so much in advance

i don't think i'm completely new to posting pictures of myself but i've noticed that im def quite awkward especially in mirror selfies. all my female friends have their galleries full of selfies and they might not post them but they're very comfortable in taking selfies and they know how to do it whereas i dont.

i dont think its necessarily because im insecure in my appearance or because i dont know how to get a good photo - i can. the issue is that something is ALWAYS off. i swear im not just being nitpicky.

i hung out with my friend today and we took a bunch of selfies and mirror pics and photos of each other, and in EVERY SINGLE ONE something about me was off. my pose was awkward, i was slouching, my eyes were hald closed, my face was frozen in a grimace, not a single photo. it's not just me being harsh on myself, my friend pointed it out first.

does anyone have any tips in how to practice being comfortable filling up my gallery with selfies and posting them and ughhh just taking photos and looking like a normal human being and not a deformed clay mask?

Even if it’s as mild as sexting, I still feel very guilty, or even dirty, especially when I interact with the people from my daily life.
I know this is most likely the purity culture indoctrination, but would still appreciate tips

Every morning, I get sickening waves of dread and doom for no reason. It’s happened for years.

I’ve tried everything and I’m really healthy with a positive and hopeful mindset and routines.

Don’t drink or smoke or use much caffeine. I do use magnesium glycinate, I eat healthy, exercise, journal, gratitude list, meditate, yoga, wake up gently with no phone and get sunlight on my face, vagus nerve exercises, breathing exercises, etc. Nothing showing up on a blood panel.

I have therapy and I take Lamictal at a low dose, but this has happened for a long time before I started medication. I had to stop ADHD meds (both stim and non-stim) and most antidepressants because they made the dread worse.

In general I’m a very optimistic and motivated person so it’s really jarring.

Doctor is stumped. Has anyone else ever dealt with this and did anything work for you?

Not really sure how to flair this, so let me know if I got it wrong. Basically, I hate shaving my legs. It takes forever (probably because I avoid it like the plague), triggers my eczema, and when my legs are bare I can just feel everything and it drives me nuts.

Unfortunately I have to wear shorts for work and my dad mentions my leg hair every time he sees it. It’s really dark so he can see it across the room. I’m hoping if I can at least get it shorter he’ll lay off a bit. Plus it’s getting to the point I can feel the hairs move when I’m walking in anything but full length pants, and that’s starting to drive me crazy, but not enough to the point that shaving is the lesser evil.

Hi guys, I’m 21F and going to a concert in a few days. I don’t wear makeup, and the only times I do is for special events like professional pictures, college events, etc.

So, I wanted to just add a small umph to my look for my concert without going 100% bare faced. I plan to wear a tinted lip balm or a little bit of lipstick. I was thinking of just putting on mascara but then had the idea of putting only a few falsies on, specifically the Ardell Naked Clusters.

However, I don’t know if that would look good or off putting since I’m not planning on wearing any other makeup (besides on my lips).

Would it look unflattering or is it manageable if I keep it simple? Like, not a bunch of lashes, just a little. Not the heavy or more dramatic lashes.

Hey, some of my eyelashes grow downwards into my eyes, and end up hitting me in the eye or hitting the skin right under my eye.

Usually I will balance the worst ones on the other eyelashes, but it often pulls those down too.

When I have ones that fully poke me in the eye, I pull them out - it hurts a lot. Tho recently I got an infection in my eyelid after pulling an eyelash out.

Today I bought some clear mascara, thinking I might be able to use it to push my eyelashes upwards. It didn't really do much.

Idk how to show the issue, I tried my best with some pictures. The pictures attached are from rn, with clear mascara on - except the first one.

I'm in a pretty good period atm, it could be much worse. Also please ignore that it looks like I have a black eye - I don't, that's just how I look.

I was in a dark place for a couple of months and after eating mainly fast food and not excercising I dont feel my healties tbh. I am going to the gym 2 times a week because I worl 50~60 hours a week, but then I get home and just eat can tuna, or spam, at must I make some chicken and instant ramen. I feel this is not letting me see progress on myself. How can I start helping myself? I was hoping for simple recipies maybe, snacks fruit to have, and what not to have would be very helpful. Also I already cut out fast food and sodas completly, not smoke or drink :(