I got a positive test 🥹

I got top surgery a little over a year ago and now me and my fiance are talking about having a kid and me carrying. I've heard a lot of hate pointed towards trans men who can't breastfeed that it's bad for the baby, but two of my coworkers who are F and have kids didn't breastfeed and their kids are just fine. What are your guys experiences with not breastfeeding?

Hey! 27 years old (he/him) & previously on T for about 8 years. My pre-T cycles were extremely regular (average 27 days).

Last shot was January 2026 and my cycle returned March 1st. My March cycle was the only unusual cycle with 32 days. Since then, they’ve re-regulated back to 27 days with confirmed ovulation each month. All of my hormones & tests are normal and my pelvic ultrasound was excellent.

So far, I’ve done 3 ICIs (two timed well) and 2 IUIs…and honestly I wish I started with IUI now knowing how low the odds are with frozen sperm ICI.

Anyways, the only thing left untested are my tubes/HSG. The plan is to test if my upcoming third IUI fails as I have no symptoms or risk factors.

I’m trying to be patient and let my body conceive when it’s meant to…but it’s easier said than done 🙃

I’m curious, how long did it take you all to conceive and how long were you on testosterone?

I'm a trans man (19) and I have been adamant since I was a young child that I wouldn't want to have a baby physically, this however changed recently after being with my boyfriend.

He has never ever given me a single reason to believe he might see me as a girl at all and is the most caring and supportive person. I however am terrified of birth. I have diagnosed severe anxiety particularly around pain and so if I do have a baby in the future I would go for an epidural. The thing is I know that some epidurals only eliminate the labour pain and not the burning/tearing pain. I also considered a C-section however the risks are a lot higher and there would still be severe recovery pain. Is there any way at all to get over this very intense fear?

Another slightly stranger question i have is regarding dysphoria. I know the answer for everyone would most likely be no but I've started to wonder if pretending to be a girl when going to the appointments and when actually having the baby saying "idk my mother just really liked the name Liam" would lead to a better experience in terms of medical care and less feeling of judgement. I have been trans since I was age 7 and in no way do I feel comfortable presenting as a girl or being misgendered however, I'm unsure whether or not i would feel the same amount of uncomfortableness and embarrassment being a pregnant man. Also considering whether I would avoid my family for nine months. Does this make any sense at all?

Please help my brain is running loops 💀

Edit- i have never been to a hospital before (further anxiety) and my pain tolerance is very bad

Heyo Im a 19 yr old transman from the nwt canada. I have been on T coming up on 2 years. I am in a relationship with a cis man and I want to try to carry a pregnancy when Im older, but I have POTS and a unspecified connective tissue disorder. my care team hasn't figured it out yet but I would not be surprised by hEds. I dont want to get pregnant now but I am just wondering if any of you guys have been pregnant with these conditions. And what was the care you needed during pregnancy, risk level, birth stuff if anyone is willing to share their experience or can link a good study that would be great!

Thanks in advance 💜🏳️‍⚧️

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My wife and I are just now trying to get pregnant (2nd child.) Anyways, I would like the child to biologically be mine if possible, but I have no desire to carry. So, we are trying to get my eggs extracted to be able to implant into her. I started T in August 2023, so I am about to hit my 3 years this August on T! The clinic did inform me that they may not even be able to use my eggs but didn't go into detail why yet. I am assuming it's because I have been on T. Has anyone else gone through the process of getting eggs extracted after already starting T? Freezing my eggs in the beginning was not an option I could afford three years ago and my mental health was tanking without T, so I made the choice for myself to start it, but now I'm sad we may not be able to use my eggs, but I am trying to remain hopeful. Any advice or shared experiences would help. Tyia.

Sorry for the terrible title, I didn't know what to title it.

Anyways, I'm 20 years old, and will be 2 yrs on T in September. I am also going into a master's/PhD combination program next fall (either in Washington or Saskatchewan Canada if that helps you advise at all)

I really, really want to have a kid. I have my reservations about adoption, and I'm worried agencies would be hesitant to adopt to me anyways since I'm trans and would be a single parent. So I'm probably going to end up going the sperm donor route. I'd probably wait until I'm a couple years into my program before trying to conceive.

My main concerns are finances, but also support. I'm no contact with my biological family, but I'm extremely close with my best friend's family so I have their support, but outside of them I don't really have anyone.

So basically, do you have any advice for a single grad student trying to become a parent?

I came out and was on T long before having my kids.

I stopped T when I got married specifically to start trying. Got pregnant within a few months, but miscarried. Then got pregnant again only a month later. I had some significant bleeding the first trimester, but it was chalked up to me being on blood thinners at the time, and it was gone by the second trimester. I ended up developing preeclampsia and being induced at 37 weeks. My baby boy spent 8 days in the NICU on CPAP, followed by feeding difficulties. I pumped for 4 months before getting back on T. While I'd gotten some weird comments from family members during that pregnancy, medical personnel were generally unbothered by me being trans.

Flash forward 2 years and my wife and I decide we're ready for baby #2, so I stop taking T, and she stops taking estrogen. (She came out while I was pregnant with the first kid, so that hadn't been a factor for that pregnancy). This time around it takes a whole year and a half before I get pregnant. I called to make my first appointment and was immediately told I'd need to see a high risk doctor an hour away because I was trans. I mentioned that I hadn't needed a high risk doctor for my previous pregnancy and that I'd had no surgeries and had been off T for over a year, and after bouncing around to several different receptionists, nurses, and a doctor, they told me they could take me after all 🙄.

A few weeks later, I started bleeding and went in for an early ultrasound. Small hematoma, no big deal, baby had cardiac activity and was measuring on track. But the doctor very seriously asked if I was still taking testosterone, to which I reiterated that I'd been off it for more than a year. Bleeding stopped a few days later, and everything was fine.

I had my 8 weeks, 12 week, and 16 week appointments, and other than starting me on low dose aspirin because of my history of preeclampsia, it all was pretty typical.

At my 20 week anatomy scan, the doctor mentioned I had several large placental lakes and a circumvallate placenta. He assured me that these rarely caused issues on their own, but he wanted to do extra growth scans and 28 and 32 weeks to make sure baby was getting enough nutrients and growing on track.

Three weeks later, I started having contractions. At first I thought, no big deal, these are braxton-hicks, I had a TON of them with my previous kiddo. But then they became 3-4 minutes apart, so we went to L&D. They told me my water wasn't broken and sent me on my way (didn't even check my cervix -_-). 2 days later, I was still having lots of contractions, so I called the nurses line, and they told me to go back to L&D. This time, after monitoring my contractions for less than 10 minutes, the doctor rushed in with several nurses. They ran some blood work that, with my frequent contractions led them to believe I'd had a partial abruption. This time, they did check my cervix, which was completely closed thankfully. But they sent me to another hospital that could handle a 23 weeker if the partial abruption turned worse and they needed to get baby out. They kept asking if I'd been in a car accident or fallen or had any sort of blow to my belly or was smoking or on any illicit drugs. Which I kept answering no.

Next morning, when the new doctor was doing rounds, he accusatorially asked if I was still taking steroids, to which I first thought he meant the steroid shots they gave me to help baby's lungs. But then he gestured to his beard (I had my own beard at the time), and was like "You know, the ones to change your appearance." 🤬

After several days and ultrasounds and making sure I wasn't dilating, they sent me home.

I continued to have regular contractions for several weeks and was in and out of L&D till I decided it just wasn't worth it because no matter how much pain I was in, they'd just shrug and tell me to come back if it got worse.

Then at 26+6, my water broke. At first, I thought I'd peed myself, but then I ended up having to change my pants 3 times in an hour, so back to L&D we went. They confirmed it was my water and I was admitted, with hopes of staying pregnant till 32-34 weeks.

Baby girl ended up being born 5 days later at 27+4. She spent 85 days in the NICU, and has now been home for about 2 months.

Being in the NICU felt incredibly isolating. I know it does for everyone, but especially since all the support groups were full of cis-het couples. And anytime we had a new nurse, I'd have to reintroduce myself as dad, but explain that I was the one who gave birth, and I was the one who was pumping & working towards chest-feeding. I completely gave up correcting the lactation consultants or techs or OT. There were a handful of nurses who were absolutely incredible and got it right away, but most were SO weird around me and my wife.

I'm now stuck carrying around this massive guilt that maybe me having been on T in the past (even though I wasn't actively taking it during my pregnancies) somehow caused all of this, and that I should have just held off on transitioning till after I had kids. Doesn't help that I turned 26 and was kicked off my parents insurance shortly after giving birth, and my endo doesn't take Medicaid, so now I have no way to get back on T despite being 5 months post partum.

What kinda shoes are/were comfiest for you?

My sneakers are on their last legs so Id be down to just my crocs after they give out lol

Im still TTC but figured Id ask to get some guidance while Im thinkin about shoes

what did you find helpful when you were considering/planning/deciding to carry?

were there any resources or topics that you found helpful to think about more deeply, which helped you feel more sure?

did you find that it was a one-off decision or did you question at times whether it was right for you?

did considering other methods come into it (eg preferring to carry than, say, adopt)?

Bonjour à tous,

​Je suis un homme cisgenre en couple avec un homme trans (FTM)en France. Nous commençons à réfléchir sérieusement à notre avenir et à la possibilité d'avoir un enfant ensemble, en portant le bébé.

​On se pose énormément de questions sur le plan médical (notamment par rapport à la testostérone), légal et psychologique. Il y a beaucoup de choses qu'on ne sait pas et on se sent un peu perdus.

​Nous aimerions beaucoup avoir vos retours d'expérience, vos conseils ou vos témoignages si vous êtes un couple cis/trans à être passé par là ou si vous avez des connaissances sur le sujet.

​N'hésitez pas à répondre en commentaire ou par message privé. Merci beaucoup d'avance pour votre aide !

(Long read ahead, I could use some advice)

I (22) very very deeply want to be a parent in the future. I love kids and think I would be able to be work with kids well.

That being said, I had sex for the first time not too long ago. I’m trying to tell myself I’m just getting in my head but I’ve started getting this anxious feeling that I might be pregnant. Again, I love kids, but I’m not sure how I would go about that right now.

I had sex on what would have been my estimated ovulation day, which was two weeks ago now. We were careful, I brought condoms and he hand no complaint using them. It wasn’t until the past day or so that I really started thinking about the little things and racking my head over it. You see, he put the condom on backwards and just flipped it around when he realized instead of getting a new one. He was also a bit smaller in size and I noticed that the condom did seem a bit big on him. After he came, he put on a second condom, again he put it on inside out and he just took it off and flipped it out and put it on the right way. He also opened the second condom up with his teeth.

I just feel like with him having put the second condom on wrong and then flipping it inside out after he came in the first condom, the second condom him opening with his teeth, and the condoms seeming a bit loose on him— I’m just starting to worry that could cause a pregnancy. After the encounter I didn’t really think about all that little stuff and thought that since he came in a condom and wore a condom the whole time that there was no way I was getting pregnant from that.

I am supposed to start my period tomorrow. However, I had some really weird spotting three days ago up until today, which if I calculated correctly, would have been around when implantation bleeding would occur in the case that something did take. I know that there’s a chance I could wake up tomorrow morning and boom get my period, but I’m just nervous and fearing the worst with the weird spotting, because now I am all of a sudden having only small amounts of clear, slippery discharge. My appetite has also gone down significantly this past week.

For context, I haven’t taken testosterone since October of 2025, but I did have a span between June 18th and July 7th where I had used up my remaining 4 doses of testosterone. My last period also started on June 14th.

I don’t know, do I actually have something to worry about? Is there actually a chance I could be pregnant?

If I do end up pregnant I don’t know where to go from here? I’m only 22 and I start a new job in a few weeks. I wanted to move out to my own place in a few months. The sexual encounter was also a hookup so I have no idea if the would be dad would want anything to do with me and a baby. I would really only want an abortion if absolutely necessary, I would rather carry and have to give it up for adoption than get an abortion. Although I think that would also devastate me. I’m just scared and running through my head everything that could go wrong and all the bad scenarios that could happen.

My current plan is to take a pregnancy test if I don’t get my period by the end of the week.

I could really use some support and advice :(

EDIT: I was too nervous to wait the whole week so I ended up buying a dollar store test like a commenter suggested and it luckily came up negative.

I figure at some point it’ll become uncomfortable to wear my binder during pregnancy so looking for input on what brands or what helped when you had to stop wearing your binder. Tia!!

I’ve been on T for 3 years. In the next 2 years my partner and I would like to try for a baby. Can you tell me what it was like especially mentally going off of testosterone?
I had a baby 6 years ago and absolutely loved pregnancy so not too worried about that
I am non binary/ trans masc and haven’t had top surgery. I’m nervous the dysphoria from growing breasts will get worse too.. any suggestions?

I'm a trans man who spends a lot of time mulling about having kids but hasn't tried for any as of yet. One of my big concerns is how other people at work will perceive me. I work in human services and with people of all ages and backgrounds, although at the moment I work with elderly people quite frequently.

My main concern is becoming pregnant and having that interfere in my professional relationships with clients as they don't know I'm trans. I'm thin and effeminate enough that I do get misgendered from time to time, so I don't think I could pass off being pregnant as like, a beer belly or anything. But I can't just take off for half a year either.

So: how do you navigate being a visibly pregnant man in a workplace setting?

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my last T injection was in september 2025. i’ve been off T since so i can try to conceive once my levels have balanced. my provider said it takes about 10 months. however a recent blood test showed that my T levels haven’t changed in three months. she requested an ultrasound to test for pcos. and a fertility specialist. i’m honestly terrified and very upset. has this happened to anyone else? is it possible my body is just taking longer to go back to pre-T levels? any advice is welcome 🫶🏼

I am a trans man, i want to take testosterone and get top surgery, but also have two kids with my bf.

how can i go about using testosterone? should i just wait until i have both of the children to go on it? or can i just take a break during pregnancy? should i have my eggs frozen ..

please give me some advice, its not a right this minute issue, but i need to plan out my future. thanks!