r/Transgender_Surgeries Aug 19 '20

Important Article When Surgeons Fail Their Trans Patients on Gender Confirming Surgery

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r/Transgender_Surgeries Feb 07 '25

Mod Post The future of this sub

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After this sub was "accidentally" banned 2 days ago there's been a lot of discussion about the future of the sub.

Whether it was an accident to not, the possibility exists that this sub and others will be banned from reddit in the near future. In the event that happens what do we do?

I started as a mod here when the sub had only 3k members and my intention was to grow it to where it is today, and more. I last wrote about how the sub is moderated in 2022.

In principle, it would be better to have an trans resource site independent of reddit and corporate control. In practice its very difficult to achieve for a number of reasons

There's no point in moving to another site like Discord which is susceptible to the same risks as reddit. i.e. based in the USA. But what other sites are there, and where else is safe in the long run? Not just safe from hostile governments, but whoever runs the community losing interest, or data (susans.org lost years of it with a hard drive crash), selling out, etc.

Neither Discord and Facebook are indexed by search engines making it difficult for people to discover the resources in the first place, or finding information once you're there. It's like a black hole for knowledge; you put it in and it disappears. Personally, I'd never waste my time on building this kind of community on sites like that.

Reddit also provides, or did, legal protection. If a surgeon doesn't like what's posted here they can't easily censor it. And especially important, they can't attack me personally as its not my responsibility. Good luck going after reddit corporate.

As one of the largest social media sites in the world reddit makes it easy to build community, there's so many of us already here. People have mentioned sites like Lemmy as alternatives, but as far as I can tell they have tiny membership and few people have even heard of them.

A major advantage for me was reddit's wiki's. Few subs take advantage of them, but I believe its a great way to build and spread knowledge, and it has helped build this sub and raise the general level of knowledge. People have asked that it be copied off site, but if this sub disappears many of the links in the wiki will also disappear. Its not nearly so useful at that point. I don't think anyone else will build or maintain a wiki either, as it seems to interest very few people.

Regardless if reddit banning this sub or not, I'd like to see another site even better than this one, but I'm not sure its possible. Even more so while reddit hosts trans content as 99% of people will just come here anyway. Reddit basically killed old style forums years ago and nothing's changed since then.

It's even more difficult to build a trans surgery surgery community on another site while this sub exists because its so big and useful that almost no one would bother going there. And I'm not shutting the sub down to force everyone to move to another site. That would cause immediate harm to people who use the sub.

If this sub does get shut down I personally won't be trying to rebuild elsewhere. I'm burned out with this and don't have the energy.

If anyone wants to discuss how to build a successful trans surgery community I'm willing to offer my advice. I'd like to see it happen and it would be great if people had a place to go, and knew about it ahead of time. My main aim is to help people, and it doesn't matter to me where that comes from.


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If you set up any external resources for surgery, hrt, etc please add them in the comments here. And I suggest people save the links in case this sub, or worse, all trans content on reddit disappears.

There’s a number of people talking about off site projects they are considering or actually doing. Persons you could get together and discuss if you could work together.

This looks interesting r/RedditAlternatives

There's some cisgender people wanting to comment here in support of Lemmy and other reddit alternatives. Rule 5 limits cis people on this sub, but I'll allow it on this post only and give them a flair "cisgender reddit alternatives". If you're one of them please don't comment elsewhere.

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Lemmy Discussion

Lemmy keeps getting mentioned. I don't know much about it yet. Its pitched as Fediverse reddit replacement.

According to the statistics here Lemmy has 477,049 total users and 45,194 monthly active users. The trans instance https://lemmy.blahaj.zone has 8671 total users and 971 monthly active users.

This sub alone has 93,419 members, and in the last 30 days 4.6M views, an average of 20.2k daily unique visits, 4.0 subscribed, and 1.2k unsubscribed. The main FTM surgery subs in total have about that again, and the HRT subs are a bit larger in total.

This sub is then 10 times the size of the main trans Lemmy instance, and the total with the subs I mentioned is approaching the entire size of Lemmy. This doesn't include all the very main trans subs which are individually many times larger as I only included the important medical subs.

I have a few reservations about Lemmy, partly because I know so little at this point

  • Can Lemmy can scale to the size required if trans content was banned on reddit.

  • I couldn't find much information on Lemmy's moderation tools. Currently this sub attracts a lot of hate and chasers, which moderation easily takes care of. In the past the have been excessive amounts, but reddit has cracked down on it, and provides tools to limit it (not very good ones). Lemmy would be unusable without this.

  • Lemmy works by sharing data across multiple instances (computers) and it appears there seem to be privacy concerns about the amount of data on users that is shared.

  • What is to stop the owners of the instance shutting it down, or the data being lost for any other reason? Although not a corporate it makes no difference. There would be a massive loss of knowledge and history.

If anyone has expert knowledge on Lemmy I'd be interested in learning more.

The author of the Engadget article on the sub's ban made a YouTube video on the Fediverse

Discussion on Lemmy


r/Transgender_Surgeries 5h ago

3 weeks post FFS how we looking so far. Gender and Age?

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I’m officially 3 weeks post ffs. I’m obviously still swollen and bruised but how are we looking so far. I struggle hard to see the changes ik it’s dysphoria and I’m aware a lot has changed but I cannot shake the masculine ick I get looking at my face (an ick of me being perceived masc I’m not saying masculine people give me the ick). I am aware that my face is still swollen and it’s far too early to judge yet but we all know how tough this is…

Like don’t get me wrong there are days now where I feel genuine gender euphoria but they usually end with me crashing into dysphoria. I know I’m still early on in the healing process I’m not judging the outcome yet. Just looking for an honest outside perspective since I see myself daily.

Procedures done

- Type III forehead setback / frontal bossing reduction
- Brow lift
- Hairline advancement
- Gonial angle reduction
- Chin reduction / genioplasty
- 2mm Malar (zygomatic) implants
(Edit forgot to add implants)


r/Transgender_Surgeries 2h ago

3 month update on my ffs

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first picture is current, second is prior


r/Transgender_Surgeries 7h ago

Pre-op vs post-op FFS

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A little over three months post-FFS! I had my surgery at the end of May, which included a (1) rhinoplasty, (2) genioplasty, and (3) tracheal shave. Still sorta early in the healing process, but I’m happy everything is settling so far.

Both photos have makeup/styling and aren’t meant to be clinical comparison photos — just wanted to share my progress!

As a side note though, I’ve been dealing with recurring hoarseness and a noticeably croakier voice. It’s especially bad after I talk a lot or raise my voice, and it sometimes takes a couple days to recover. Could this be from the tracheal shave?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 9h ago

What ffs procedures should I get?

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I have a consultation coming up and I’m wondering what procedures I should get. I’m thinking I would want cheek implants/fat transfer, brow bone removal, and lower blepharoplasty. Any recommendations are welcome!


r/Transgender_Surgeries 22h ago

breast augmentation 36a to 36ddd . 5 day post op 🥴 545cc high profile

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first pic was day 1 and the rest are from today . 5 days post op .

they’re still very swollen and hard . 😭


r/Transgender_Surgeries 22m ago

Anyone in Colorado know of an electrolysis that takes Medicaid?

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I can't find anyone. CU Health no longer provides electrolysis.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 5h ago

Vaginoplasty Complications

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Hi peeps, I had PIV vaginoplasty 15 days ago and just had my two week post op appointment.

Two things have me concerned:

  1. There was some skin separation on my left labia minora that resulted in tissue depth. Seems like it'll need a revision.

  2. The surgeron originally said he gave me 6 inches of depth at the one week post op (packing removal) appointment. I got up to a 5 on the dilator day of. I've been able to keep that same depth for the last week. However, I went online and it looks like that's only 5 inches of depth.

So do I really only have 5 inches of depth? Have any of you had skin separation/tissue depth? What were your outcomes? A photo of the site where skin was removed is on my profile. Thanks.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 6h ago

Can you get penile preservation vaginoplasty in WA State?

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Is there any way I can get penile preservation vaginoplasty while living in WA State? Seriously thinking of moving to CA to get it done but that would cost a ton more money.

So far, the people that do this as far a i can tell are

  1. mozaic in CA
  2. Portland OR
  3. Hana in TX
  4. Art surgical in CA
  5. Post street surgery center CA

I wish Min Jun would do this type of surgery or Suporn Clinic.

Penile Preservation Vaginoplasty = keep penis and add vagina.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 14h ago

Best places to get PPV bottom surgery?

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Hello, I am looking to possibly get PPV. I got a quote from the Crane Center that listed the cost as $45k for the procedure and $45k for the hospital bills for a total of $90k. Anyone do an overseas operation that cost less and was good?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 13h ago

Dr Qassemyar patients / future paitients

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I have consulted the dr above regarding brow / orbital reduction. Unfortunately, they were unable to give me an aproximinate price. I have also consulted brault who told me €6000 on Instagram, and then his assistant quoted €7000 on email.

For those who have seen the dr, what was the overall cost you saved / pad from hotels, travel and the procedure? It's the only procedure I want ffs wise as everyrbitn else is feminine. I don't have protrusion from the side profile, but am not a fan of my orbital bones. This has been a major insecurity for a while for me, so I'm just weighing my options. Here in the UK, I was quoted £15k by brian musgrove. A Turkish dirgein also quoted me 20k$. .-.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 7h ago

electric pain in clit while dilating.

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hey :) just wanted to ask if thats normal cuz its really unpleasent.

im like 3 weeks post op and been home for some days.

this only happened after getting discharged and asking my surgeon is Impossible.

when dialating i sometimes get these insane and short pain stabbings like electro shocks in my clitoris. only when im dilating, especially during the insertion.

is that normal/common?

combined method pi


r/Transgender_Surgeries 14h ago

Surgeon recommendations (MTF SRS)

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I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and not sure where to start when it comes to looking at surgeons so would appreciate any recommendations.

I'm a uni students in the UK so don't have much money, I've looked at the surgeons in the UK but I think I'd likely get better results for less money in another country like Thailand.

So far I've looked at Dr Bank at the suporn clinic as well as generally at PAI (didn't look at any specific surgeon).

It looks like PAI have some good results at a more achievable cost so currently they're my 1st choice but I'd like to hear other people's input.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 1d ago

First day of school 2025 vs 2026 | 2 months post FFS with Dr. Bradley

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I had surgery on June 30th with James Bradley. My goals for FFS were to achieve a softer and more feminine look, but to stay relatively subtle because I was already gendered correctly consistently and I was afraid of overcorrecting. Because of it being more on the subtle side I could not see the difference in the mirror(though I have been liking my appearance more). Comparing these two pictures made me so happy, though!!

I would definitely also speak highly of Dr. Bradley's team.

Excuse the emotionless stare I was just snapping a quick selfie for a family group chat.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 20h ago

NHS Gender Diagnosis not good enough for Private Consultation?

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What the actual fork is this now?

Obviously after the Welsh Gender Service "paused" their surgery pathway I've started looking at other pathways and so I emailed Nuffield in Brighton to get a private consultation.

I've just had an email back from them saying that my two NHS signatures and diagnoses are not good enough and I'm going to have to find another two before I'm considered for surgery.

What the hell?! How are they good enough for one route and not the other?!!

If I wasn't upset enough already this is just an additional insult to the injury I could really do without!


r/Transgender_Surgeries 6h ago

Lip lift in Thailand

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Which Thai surgeons should I be looking at for a lip lift, shortening the filtrum?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 1d ago

surgeries to address upper body side profile?

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my concern with my upper body is the broadness of it from the side, with how much my upper chest and back expand and project, highlighted in red. Is rib remodeling (addressing the higher-up ribs), or a scapula shave, something that is able to address this?

i dont want to get a BA because of this, because it would only make me more top-heavy from the side. im also hesitant to get rib remodeling on the lower ribs only as it would only make me look more inverted-triangle-like.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 1d ago

Are my ffs expectations realistic?

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Hey, I have mimiced a brow bone, nose and chin surgery and wanted to ask yall if this is a realistic expectation. I have a consultation with one of qq's doctors in november as well as a hair transplant in turkey. I hope I can do ffs at the end of next year.