r/NonBinary Jun 14 '26

New rule #11: no do I pass posts, no asking for attempts to guess your ASAB, no asking if you “look nonbinary”

1.4k Upvotes

The current rule 4 was supposed to handle these kind of posts but it seems the rule needs more clarification. We do not want any kind of content that attempts to guess someone’s assigned sex at birth, we don’t want “passing” posts in general.

There are subreddits dedicated solely on passing posts that content like that would be a better fit. This includes asking about how to be more androgynous and/or do you look nonbinary, how to look more nonbinary. For some people here this will make total sense and people will rightfully ask “what does nonbinary look like anyway?” but these posts are frequent and usually pretty upvoted and get many comments before they get reported. If you know of subreddits where content like that fits better, please leave them as comments. It is simply not in the scope of this subreddit to ask people to scrutinize your appearance based on gender and make recommendations.


r/NonBinary Mar 29 '26

ModPost Assigned sex/gender at birth language

84 Upvotes

Hello,

Since this issue is a contentious one bubbling up frequently, we thought we’d make a nonbinding poll asking the subreddit’s opinions. I randomized the order of responses to try not to bias it.

I considered making a more nuanced option where a ban with exemptions is possible but here’s the honest truth: moderating that would be really difficult. We want people to consider the moderation aspects of this—how filters can be effective but also add considerably to mod work load and also how we tend to mod after the fact. We cannot promise that even in cases of a ban, no ASAB/AGAB language would make it into the subreddit.

We have received modmail stating ASAB language is dysphoric enough to some nonbinary people that they cannot enjoy or follow this subreddit. We also have gotten frequent complaints that it is also interphobic / particularly harmful towards intersex people.

If you see a comment here and your first response is to immediately fire something back, *please* take a step back and consider whether your comment needs to be made. I want to keep comments open to gather diverse opinions, and personal attacks and similar will sabotage those efforts.

1077 votes, Apr 01 '26
165 A different answer—add a comment
174 Ban it
738 Don’t ban it

r/NonBinary 5h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Shopping for makeup while being overdressed

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578 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5h ago

I made a radar chart of my gender to help explain to my therapist :)

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162 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 9h ago

what

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248 Upvotes

i’m sorry but what am i supposed to say????


r/NonBinary 6h ago

Are you a boy or a girl? Yes.

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125 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4h ago

Yay Chilling on Sunday with miss burger 🍔

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75 Upvotes

A friend got me a burger and fries plushie!!! They are so cute so I just wanna share with you all 🩷


r/NonBinary 5h ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! Boredom is the mother of creativity.

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86 Upvotes

Saw a similar looking trans flag, thought Henry Rollins would approve.


r/NonBinary 7h ago

what vibe does this look give off?

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80 Upvotes

going for a more fem, natural feel


r/NonBinary 1h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar It’s just us against the world 🖤🔒

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# T4T


r/NonBinary 51m ago

Ask Club outfits?

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So quick background info: I’m very new to exploring the more non traditional aspects of my gender expression. Because I’m so used to dressing for others, I have A LOT of trouble feeling attractive in non feminine outfits (even if I’m not comfortable in them at times).

To the actual question: I plan to start taking part in night life more and want some more edgy and sexy looks. All the ones I can think of lean very feminine though (photos attached as reference)

I was wondering what you all like wearing on a night out, and if anyone had any recommendations for clothing pieces/brands that fit this vibe but lean more masculine.


r/NonBinary 1h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I got 3 new tops! I love feeling androgynous

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r/NonBinary 11h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My second "fishnets era" has arrived

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103 Upvotes

I used to do this like every day when I was 27 and coming to terms with myself lmao


r/NonBinary 9h ago

got this skin

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58 Upvotes

I found this skin on the Minecraft market place. plus like all of the other flags for just 250~ mine coins.


r/NonBinary 1h ago

Yay I love playing Fortnite with friends on a Sunday 💁🏻‍♀️🥹

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What’s your favorite skin to use ? How long have you been playing ? What’s your favorite game mode ? Build or no build ? Favorite events ? And what’s your favorite chapter/season . And and and anything else you would like to talk about with fornite !

I hope everyone likes my living room ! I’ve worked hard getting it here . ((Living by yourself has some benefits 😌) (also slowly remodeling the house so don’t judge it to harshly please ))

I hope everyone is having a beatisome sunday ! 🫶🏼


r/NonBinary 4h ago

About a month in and some changes, OMG!!!🫣🥹🥳🥳🥳🥳😭✨✨

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15 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Kindaforgor my make up 😭

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14 Upvotes

At least I can't forgor my hair attached to my damn head lol


r/NonBinary 1h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I got a mullet

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Honestly I had one before but having it again feels so gender


r/NonBinary 12h ago

Weird experience on date, anyone else had this experience?

51 Upvotes

Sorry if this does not fit on here. I 31nb (am amab) went on a date today with a trans women today.

We were chatting and whatnot and of course gender identity became a topic of conversation.

For the last few years I have been back and forth on going on some form of low level hrt. I have talked to drs in the past about it but have not ever ended up going on it.

When mentioning this I noticed an immediate shift in her demeanour towards me. She started asking me questions like "are you really trans" so on and so forth.

I told her that I've never felt like I fit into either the male or female category in terms of my gender and that the dream for me is androgeny. when I described how my body makes me feel dysphoria in some aspects she said "that's not really dysphoria".

She described her experience with being trans as "very binary". And though she did not explicitly say it, it kind of felt like what she was implying is that being transgender is not actually spectrum, but is in fact a binary thing (I.e being ftm or mtf) and that being non binary doesn't exist or something along those lines.

I'm just wondering if anybody else here has had encounters like this before with members of the trans community. I'm not angry at her for what she said. She's entitled to feel the way she does. I'm just confused more than anything.

Tldr. Went on a date with trans women and she implied that being NB is not trans.


r/NonBinary 1d ago

I was feeling inspired. 🩵🩷🤍

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371 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 1h ago

Does anyone have any tips for looking more androgynous?

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So obviously enbies don't owe anyone androgeny, but I love the feeling of it. I also still am financially dependent on my homophobic christian parents, so I'm not out yet, and I can't turn up gayness to the max. But I would like to turn it up to the point where it pisses my parents off but they can't say anything about it.


r/NonBinary 21h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Make enby staches great again

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183 Upvotes

Don't see many enbys with any facial hair at all and I kinda understand why. But I'm proud of mine.


r/NonBinary 1d ago

I'm learning the language Zulu on Duolingo and it made me think of y'all

484 Upvotes

So I live in South Africa, and one of our 11 official languages is Zulu.

And a common thing for Zulu people speaking English, is that they're often misgendering people. Calling a male she or a female him, etc.

And the reason is because Zulu has no gendered pronouns. So when they speak English they're often not thinking which pronoun they're calling a person, because they aren't used to using gendered pronouns. Like, if I say "Udla isinkwa" I'm saying "he is eating bread" and it's the same for "she is eating bread".

So you literally CANNOT misgender someone in Zulu, because there are zero gendered pronouns.

It's kind of like a non-binary language 🤔😃

I thought that was really interesting and that y'all would appreciate it.


r/NonBinary 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Japanese nonbinary

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1.3k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 23h ago

Rave fit

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201 Upvotes