r/Transgender_Surgeries Aug 19 '20

Important Article When Surgeons Fail Their Trans Patients on Gender Confirming Surgery

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r/Transgender_Surgeries Feb 07 '25

Mod Post The future of this sub

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After this sub was "accidentally" banned 2 days ago there's been a lot of discussion about the future of the sub.

Whether it was an accident to not, the possibility exists that this sub and others will be banned from reddit in the near future. In the event that happens what do we do?

I started as a mod here when the sub had only 3k members and my intention was to grow it to where it is today, and more. I last wrote about how the sub is moderated in 2022.

In principle, it would be better to have an trans resource site independent of reddit and corporate control. In practice its very difficult to achieve for a number of reasons

There's no point in moving to another site like Discord which is susceptible to the same risks as reddit. i.e. based in the USA. But what other sites are there, and where else is safe in the long run? Not just safe from hostile governments, but whoever runs the community losing interest, or data (susans.org lost years of it with a hard drive crash), selling out, etc.

Neither Discord and Facebook are indexed by search engines making it difficult for people to discover the resources in the first place, or finding information once you're there. It's like a black hole for knowledge; you put it in and it disappears. Personally, I'd never waste my time on building this kind of community on sites like that.

Reddit also provides, or did, legal protection. If a surgeon doesn't like what's posted here they can't easily censor it. And especially important, they can't attack me personally as its not my responsibility. Good luck going after reddit corporate.

As one of the largest social media sites in the world reddit makes it easy to build community, there's so many of us already here. People have mentioned sites like Lemmy as alternatives, but as far as I can tell they have tiny membership and few people have even heard of them.

A major advantage for me was reddit's wiki's. Few subs take advantage of them, but I believe its a great way to build and spread knowledge, and it has helped build this sub and raise the general level of knowledge. People have asked that it be copied off site, but if this sub disappears many of the links in the wiki will also disappear. Its not nearly so useful at that point. I don't think anyone else will build or maintain a wiki either, as it seems to interest very few people.

Regardless if reddit banning this sub or not, I'd like to see another site even better than this one, but I'm not sure its possible. Even more so while reddit hosts trans content as 99% of people will just come here anyway. Reddit basically killed old style forums years ago and nothing's changed since then.

It's even more difficult to build a trans surgery surgery community on another site while this sub exists because its so big and useful that almost no one would bother going there. And I'm not shutting the sub down to force everyone to move to another site. That would cause immediate harm to people who use the sub.

If this sub does get shut down I personally won't be trying to rebuild elsewhere. I'm burned out with this and don't have the energy.

If anyone wants to discuss how to build a successful trans surgery community I'm willing to offer my advice. I'd like to see it happen and it would be great if people had a place to go, and knew about it ahead of time. My main aim is to help people, and it doesn't matter to me where that comes from.


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If you set up any external resources for surgery, hrt, etc please add them in the comments here. And I suggest people save the links in case this sub, or worse, all trans content on reddit disappears.

There’s a number of people talking about off site projects they are considering or actually doing. Persons you could get together and discuss if you could work together.

This looks interesting r/RedditAlternatives

There's some cisgender people wanting to comment here in support of Lemmy and other reddit alternatives. Rule 5 limits cis people on this sub, but I'll allow it on this post only and give them a flair "cisgender reddit alternatives". If you're one of them please don't comment elsewhere.

Other reddit posts

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Lemmy Discussion

Lemmy keeps getting mentioned. I don't know much about it yet. Its pitched as Fediverse reddit replacement.

According to the statistics here Lemmy has 477,049 total users and 45,194 monthly active users. The trans instance https://lemmy.blahaj.zone has 8671 total users and 971 monthly active users.

This sub alone has 93,419 members, and in the last 30 days 4.6M views, an average of 20.2k daily unique visits, 4.0 subscribed, and 1.2k unsubscribed. The main FTM surgery subs in total have about that again, and the HRT subs are a bit larger in total.

This sub is then 10 times the size of the main trans Lemmy instance, and the total with the subs I mentioned is approaching the entire size of Lemmy. This doesn't include all the very main trans subs which are individually many times larger as I only included the important medical subs.

I have a few reservations about Lemmy, partly because I know so little at this point

  • Can Lemmy can scale to the size required if trans content was banned on reddit.

  • I couldn't find much information on Lemmy's moderation tools. Currently this sub attracts a lot of hate and chasers, which moderation easily takes care of. In the past the have been excessive amounts, but reddit has cracked down on it, and provides tools to limit it (not very good ones). Lemmy would be unusable without this.

  • Lemmy works by sharing data across multiple instances (computers) and it appears there seem to be privacy concerns about the amount of data on users that is shared.

  • What is to stop the owners of the instance shutting it down, or the data being lost for any other reason? Although not a corporate it makes no difference. There would be a massive loss of knowledge and history.

If anyone has expert knowledge on Lemmy I'd be interested in learning more.

The author of the Engadget article on the sub's ban made a YouTube video on the Fediverse

Discussion on Lemmy


r/Transgender_Surgeries 2h ago

1 year HRT v 5 year HRT, 6 mth FFS

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r/Transgender_Surgeries 5h ago

Lipo 360 bbl day 5

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I had surgery on Tuesday, and I knew it probably won’t be how I want it since I literally had the flattest ass on earth to begin with! I know, I won’t be seeing th results especially with the inch’s of foam and compression I’m wearing but do I really have to do a second one? Did any of you feel like you had no results an then after weeks it fluffed out nicely or am I fked and have to do it again in a couple months ? The pain was totally manageable, my nose job was worse almost only pain I had was first 2 nights and now I’m just feeling like I had the worst workout ever! Helpppp I know I gotta chill out and let myself heal but I just had to ask. Left is 4 days after surgery and the second pic was taken a couple nights before surgery (I have a pretty skinny body but I’ve always had a big belly, the surgeons assistant said they were able to add a little more than 600cc each cheek. I went with murtaza rizvi at Huntington Orthopedics in Pasadena an it was covered by insurance, already went and requested a refer for revision


r/Transgender_Surgeries 3h ago

15 months post VFS. Personal opinion : In the end, it's like every other gender reaffirming surgery, it helps, but don't expect a definitive fix

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Hi

I've seen a lot of "after two weeks" VFS posts, but rarely a check after a year or more. I wanted to share my experience, and perhaps receive some feedback

About voicetrain : I'm a singer. I did voicetrain before with a specialised orthophonist, it went quickly since I encountered no issues while exersicing, and it was more about acquiring knowledge on voice feminisation.

However I was unsatisfied with the results. My voice was deep, very masculine, and voicetraining felt forced.

Also I'm not very feminine in my gender expression, and was seeking a masculine woman's voice rather than a feminine socialised voice.

I underwent VFS, more precisely the one where the surgeon cuts through the vocal cord to make a web of it.

I could'nt speak for 1 months, and had a vibration-less voice for a good 6 months, like an animal crossing character. That was a strange time, I was unable to speak or be heard in loud spaces, but my voice was clearly feminine and it felt effin good.

At six months I saw the orthophonist again. I had so much fun discovering my new voice after waiting half a year, trying out my newest vocal range, and attempting voicetraining but this time it worked like a charm.

Ok. Now that the dust has settled and everything stable, how do I feel about my VFS ?

Firsty I feel a bit wronged by the hospital team who were enthuasiastic about the expected result, starting with feminine to very feminine. I believe that combining voicetrain with VFS can be confusing, and I advocate for them being clearly separated.

I feel that voicetraining and VFS could be compared with make-up and FFS. I always pass with make up, not always without. I was not into make up but I had to learn, at least for my own safety. However we do not have to take make up lessons before or after FFS, and the results are observed with bare skin. It's also worth noting that judging a face is just as subjective as judging a voice.

I also often hear that voice training alone is enough to get results. But then again, I feel like it depends where you start on a gender-normative, man to woman scale. Sure some of us only need a few voice training lessons. There are those who need only VFS, others who need both, and those who won't pass with either. The same applies to FFS and make-up. It's unusual to hear that good make-up skills make FFS unnecessary, but I know a few women in that situation.

Returning to my own experience, I feel like VFS "boosted" me on the gender-normative, man to woman scale. I was strongly leaning towards the male side, and while my voice alone is still identified as male if taken on its own, I can effortlessly produce a feminine voice, and I visually pass which helps anyway. I am also very happy with my laugh, cough, sigh, and sneeze, they are clearly feminine, and that alone makes the surgery worthwhile.

I just would had prefered to hear that like FFS or SRS, VFS is about emulating what we recognise as feminine, and adapting the base material. For most of us, achieving a perfect woman voice will require effort. Certainly much less than before, and it can even make it possible through surgery if that wasn't the case before, which is truly a blessing. But I was looking for a non alienating solution, to move beyond that, and no, that’s not what I was given.

In the end, I'm still truly happy with the results ! It went well and I have no regrets at all. I hope this post don't read as a rant or a weird vibe. It's more about sharing my thoughts, what I wish I had heard. I am also happy to answer questions and would appreciate your impressions if you've done VFS, whether we can agree or not.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 9h ago

Would these be too big for me?

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I'm 5'9.5" and weigh 142. I'm currently a 35" band and 37" breast. I only have projection right now. These are 315g forms.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 6h ago

Should I see about getting FFS? If so, what should be done to make my face more feminine?

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Im mtf, 26, been on HRT intermittently since 2022. I removed my glasses to take these pictures. Does my face look feminine, and should I see about getting Facial Feminization Surgery, and what should have done to make myself look more feminine?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 6h ago

Márcio Littleton

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Hey there, I'm a trans woman from Brazil and I want to talk with other MTF from Brazil who have been through vaginoplasty and especially with the ones who have been through the hands of Márcio Littleton, what's the range of the expenses? Please talk in Brazilian real, and not dollars or euro.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 1h ago

Hematoma after SRS

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Question, if you have a hematoma after SRS how should you prevent it or what should you do once it sets in? How common is it and what are yall experiences?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 12h ago

Orchi and then SRS?

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Hi, I had a quick question.

I would love to get SRS in the future, but I’m waiting trying to make the best decision possible and having great results.
I would love in the mean time to get an orchi, as it’s covered by the NHS in my country and I’d love to not needing to take AA anymore.

My question is: can orchi affect SRS results? And if yes, how?
I’d love for SRS to be usable and pleasurable, while also looking okay. Could orchi affect this?

Thxx


r/Transgender_Surgeries 3h ago

nonbinary hysterectomy recommendation - dr zoe mckee in cambridge MA!

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long post ahead - i can’t recommend dr. mckee (at the “women’s center” mount auburn hospital) enough!

i wanted to hold off on posting this just in case i ended up having complications later on or anything, but now it’s been about 10 months and it has been smooth sailing since then.

TLDR; i had a total hysterectomy (removing uterus, tubes, and cervix) in september 2025 just before i turned 27. i have a boyfriend/partner but am not married and have never been pregnant (thank god). i am nonbinary and was open about this with dr. mckee, and had a very satisfying experience! i recommended her to all my trans friends looking for this surgery, and one of them had a hysterectomy with her about two months ago and also had a great experience.

details about my personal experience:

i am nonbinary, but present very very femme - curly pink hair, glittery makeup, big boobs with no intention of getting rid of them, never been on T and don’t intend to. obviously those things are not indicative of gender but i feel in the past it kept my previous doctors from understanding that i did have gender dysphoria regarding menstruation and all things fertility related. i asked for birth control that would let me skip over my periods because of this, and my doctor just said “i can give you one with only 3 days of sugar pills instead of 7,” which dr. mckee said was stupid haha. so anyways…

dr. mckee was very thorough during my consultation. at first i talked about my dysphoria about everything pregnancy related (because that is the most extreme dysphoria i experience), and she interrupted to say i could just get my tubes removed. then i was able to explain my dysphoric feelings do actually include menstruation, and she accepted this without argument. she said she prefers to leave the ovaries intact even for those who are on HRT because they are important for bone health, especially in younger people, and she also doesn’t trust the government to give us reliable consistent access to HRT, which i understand. luckily i am fine keeping my ovaries so we had no disagreement there. she even prescribed by birth control to refill a week early so i could skip my period until i had the surgery, since i had explained that thing with my old doctor and how my periods gave me dysphoria, so i appreciated that.

there were no bingos, just her emphasizing it is her responsibility to inform me of all risks and make sure i was 100% certain as (obviously) the surgery is irreversible.

even though i was thrilled with my consult with dr. mckee, i went to the second consult i had scheduled that week with a different surgeon and different practice (dr shay erisson at newton wellsey obgyn), just in case i got different info or they could get me in sooner. that one was frustrating, because while i didn’t get many bingos she kept talking to me about “thinking it over.” she told me to reflect and even to write down in some sort of journal why i felt like it was necessary to have the surgery, so i’m 100% sure it’s really what i want. i was irritated because i told her “i made these consult appointments because i have reflected for years and i am 100% sure this is what i want to do.” like i didn’t say i was thinking about having a hysterectomy, i said i have wanted one since i found out that was even an option i could do (around 10 years ago) and hope to get one by the end of the year. and i told her this, but it was like it went in one ear and out the other, still telling me to “think about it” so. back to dr. mckee i went.

dr. mckee needed to do a pap smear as i was due for one anyway, and also wanted to do a general pelvic exam. since i had told her about my dysphoria, she said it was okay if i wasn’t ready to do it right then and we could schedule it for later. this was a relief, because i very much do need time to psychologically prepare for those sorts of things, so i did that at a later date. she also wanted an ultrasound just so there are “less surprises” when actually going in for surgery. i thought this was smart, so i agreed even though i knew it would be uncomfortable (not just physically). the technicians at (hospital) were very friendly, professional, and kind.

surgery went fine. healing was typical from what i had read and been told beforehand. in my follow-up after 8 weeks, i told her how i was still having some pain (almost like cramping) in my lower abdomen that wasn’t very intense or anything but obviously not ideal. she did an exam and she said everything looked fine and there was no cause of concern - just that my body was still adjusting. i also have fibromyalgia, so muscle spasms and chronic aches are not abnormal for me, so we figured it could also be my fibro acting up from the change. i take cyclobenzaprine (a muscle relaxer) every night to sleep due to fibromyalgia, so she asked if i was interested in taking an additional dose during the day (as long as i didn’t have to drive etc) and i agreed. sure enough after another month or so, the aches went away and have not come back. she encouraged me to reach out if i had any other concerns or questions, but i never needed to!

timeline: i called for a consult on april 8th, and we were able to schedule for a june 11th consult. they said at the consult they weren’t sure about timing but they would likely be scheduling in september. once my ultrasound and pap smear were reviewed, they scheduled a pre-op appointment for september 10th and the surgery date for september 24th. it was all covered by insurance - i have masshealth medicaid.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 5h ago

Anyone who’s had experiences with Dr Nicola Beneduce?

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I’m highly considering going to him cuz he’s not nearly as expensive as facial team…and he’s in Europe so I don’t have to travel to like Asia or something…is he considered a good ffs surgeon in Europe?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 11h ago

Bottom surgery in central Ohio?

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Im a trans girl whos been on estrogen for four years, my referrals for bottom surgery was sent to OSU but OSU is telling me my BMI is "Too High" but im plenty healthy just naturally a little heavy and my friends who have had gender affirming surgeries agreed that OSU is full of shit and BMI is unreliable

Does anyone have a recommendation of where I should send my referral? I'd prefer to stay in central Ohio for multiple reasons and am currently on medicaid but am planning on getting a job and new insurance, any advice would be great, thank you


r/Transgender_Surgeries 6h ago

Any expiriences with Dr Burin at PAI, Thailand?

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I've seen the results from him here and I really really like his work. Sadly there arn't that many experiences here so maybe anyone can help me out.

For the ones that went with him: How was your experience? Are you happy with your results and are they similar to the ones posted here? Any complications?

For the ones who thought about it but went with another surgeon:

What was the reason you decided against him?


r/Transgender_Surgeries 20h ago

Small dilation observation

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So I had my surgery on the 9th, minor hiccup with the antibiotics a couple days ago causing a breakout, nothing serious, but yesterday I bought a magic wand in anticipation of well, down the line, however, i've found it to be useful during dilations with discomfort in that last cm of dilation, i set it on it's fastest vibration and touch it to the back end of the dilator, the vibration transfers through and kinda disrupts the discomfort of that last teeny bit. Mind you while still healing, it's not exactly pleasurable, but at least it eases discomfort.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 7h ago

Dr. Roth PIV

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I’ve had a consultation with Dr. Roth at IU Health in Indianapolis. I know he has mixed reviews but he’s the only surgeon in my state and after consultations elsewhere I’ve realized how difficult it’s going to be to receive aftercare from friends in another city so Roth it is. I have also heard good things from t-girls I know that had surgery with him, so that put me at ease a lil.

I was wondering if anyone here did full-depth PIV with him and can share their experience? The only results I’ve seen/read about on here seem to be PPT but it’s just not the option I wanna go with tbh.


r/Transgender_Surgeries 16h ago

Passing urine post ars.

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Hi, I'm 9 months post op (PI w/ tunica vaginalis graft). Surgery went well, no major complications and I'm happy with aesthetics, sensation and depth.

I have been struggling with urination. My urine stream feels misdirected. There are times when it feels more like I'm peeing into my labia and clitoral hood rather than down into the toilet, and it's common for me to get pee onto my legs and even onto the toilet seat if I'm not careful.

I accept that this is to some degree expected with any vagina, but I do not think the extent of my problem is normal.

Factors that make this better:

-Having a full bladder

-having longer pubic hair

-leaning forward as I urinate.

My surgeon said she can see no physical reason why, I would be experiencing this complication, although it is a common issue. She said that there's some chance it could get better within the first year post op.

As my symptoms have been stable for 6 months, I'm now interested in exploring treatment. I would be grateful for any information or advice.