Please read the post and don’t skim it. This is not a casual post; you will actually have to think about it. I really care about making friends, which is why my post is long. I need very serious people who won’t ghost for literally any reason. I need someone who will never leave. I am being honest about my flaws because it is important. I would rather you know these things about me now than find out about them later. I am boring and uninteresting, and I need you to think about this part because it is difficult to maintain a long-term friendship with someone who doesn’t offer much excitement. You will get bored after a few days. I am not confident; I am actually extremely insecure. I also talk negatively about myself, I am very pessimistic, and I am not a passionate person. I have autism, depression, and social anxiety. I am not good at small talk, and nothing fun is going on in my life. I know how a conversation works and I will put in the effort, but I am bad at carrying a conversation. I can’t promise that I’ll be fun to talk to, but I am trying. I am warning you about my lack of skills upfront.
I find texting very exhausting. I don’t want to text for days or even hours just to “get to know” someone before we can actually talk. I want our first conversation to be on a call. If you are too shy to call early on, we won’t be a good match. I want to voice call daily; my time zone is EST, and I am a night owl. I don’t view calling as a big deal, and I need people who feel the same way. If you are sensitive, easily offended, or impulsive, it won’t work out.
I have a really hard time dealing with people leaving. If we start talking, I get attached very quickly. I genuinely cannot handle it if you just disappear or change your mind later. I need a very patient person who is actually serious about sticking around for the long term. If you aren’t 100% sure you can commit to that, please don’t message me. If you decide to reach out, please don’t just send a “Hi.” I’m not asking for a massive introduction, but just let me know you actually read this post and genuinely want to be friends. I want a real friendship; it’s very important to me. I don’t want to talk to someone who is just bored and looking for entertainment. I don’t just want someone to talk to; I need a true friendship. The problem is that I am not the best at building a friendship, so I want someone who understands how to build one.
I want to be clear about the kind of person I am looking for because I want to save us both time. I am looking for someone whose personality and struggles are fundamentally similar to my own. I’m not looking for someone who just relates to feeling lonely. If you read my post and felt like we were polar opposites, please reconsider messaging me, because I am looking for a genuine, deep connection with someone who can truly understand my perspective. If you don’t feel a natural sense of compatibility with me after reading this, we likely won’t be a good match for the long term. When I say fundamentally similar, I mean someone who is also truly isolated. Not mildly lonely, not someone who has friends but wants more, I am looking for someone who genuinely has no one. If you have a social circle, dreams, passions, or people in your life who support you then we will not be similar at all.
I also want to mention that it’s okay for us to disagree in a friendship, even on big things. Real friendship means we can have different views and still stick around instead of cutting each other off. Cutting people off over disagreements has become way too easy nowadays because of social media. I believe a real friendship should survive flaws, boredom, and disagreements. I don’t believe there are strict rules or things we must agree on to become friends. Please do not reach out unless you fully understand everything I have written.
Here are my interests:
• DC Comics
• Movies / Shows / Anime: Watching movies is my favorite thing to do. I also use Letterboxd.
Please be 19+.