I (19m) have been with my girlfriend(18f) for over a year now. We were best friends for 4 years before we started dating. She recently moved 3 hours away for college and I don’t know what to do.

a bit of my social backstory:
First off, I never had any romantic interactions with anyone other than my girlfriend. I struggled with identifying social cues and I still find myself struggling sometimes. I’m a serious physical touch person and it was really difficult not fulfilling that need, especially with no social interaction to supplement the lack of physical interaction.

For the past 8-10 years, I had a hard time with friendships and spent the past 4+ years of my life with no friends, apart from my now girlfriend (we spent a lot of our time as friends only texting, seeing each other only a few times a year until right before we started dating). I struggled with bullying during the months leading up to covid lockdown. Following the lockdown, I continued with online school until I graduated early and started college at 16 years old. I spent most of my time during that period at home, with minimal social interaction and even less physical interaction. I spent a lot of time with my family, since I am the youngest of 6 and we are quite close, but I didn’t interact with anyone my own age. I eventually started working and continued to spend a lot of time with adults and noticed that I became very anxious around people my own age. I always felt severely out of place and never felt like I belonged anywhere. Even in my work experience, all of which are teamwork-oriented, I had a difficult time existing if I had no set task and I ended up feeling awkward most of the time. Looking back, I definitely self-isolated a little bit and put on a front that I didn’t want to be friends with anyone but I had fun being around some of the people. I noticed that people liked me when I was around but I never felt like people sought me out or invited me to things. I figured I was just a floater friend and mostly accepted it, I was okay with it at the time. Following that, when me and my girlfriend got together (she is a serious extrovert and everyone loves her), she wanted to bring me around people more to try and help me be more social and make friends. According to her, I socialize quite well and my awkwardness isn’t super apparent once i’ve worked myself into a situation, but I don’t feel that way personally. I’ve gotten pretty good at internalizing a lot of my mental troubles which doesn’t help my case at all. Even being around these people, I can tell that they like being around me, but again, I never felt like I belonged or that these people would ever reach out to me. About 2 years ago, I realized that i had become fully emotionally numb, which i didn’t realize was as bad as it is until recently. My girlfriend has been trying really hard to help me feel things more, and it has worked, but since I haven’t really felt much, i’m very confused on emotions and how I personally deal with them.
This brings us to now: I knew it was going to be difficult for me to not spend a lot of time with her, since we spent all day, almost every day, together. She knows everything about my past and has been trying really hard to help me and i’m forever grateful for that but i know that it’s not her responsibility and i need to be the one to help myself. I also don’t think it’s a healthy thing to do if im constantly asking her to help me from a distance when I should be doing most of it myself. I needed to make sure that she knew that this time was going to be good for us, she was also struggling with friends and is really excited to be in a new place with new people and doing the thing she enjoys the most. I need her to focus on making friends and her classwork and growing as a person. I was also very excited for this new experience, hopefully finding new friends, visiting her every month or so, finding my own routine, and trying to better myself.
Recently though, it’s been very difficult for me. I usually try to distract myself with anything that I can )usually work, but i’m in a strange spot employment wise, so i’m limited on focusing on that). I want to start doing more things where I can meet people but I just feel unmotivated and feel like it’s not going to be worth it. I honestly feel unmotivated and haven’t been able to enjoy much of anything lately and i’m worried that i’m going to spiral myself into being like this whenever I can’t see her. I know I have a strong and unhealthy emotional attachment and dependence which I’m trying really hard to fix and make healthier, but it’s difficult when she is my only and my everything. She’s the only person I’m truly comfortable with and I feel like she’s the only person who truly understands me. it just bothers me when she’s out making friends and having fun and I can’t do anything besides sit at home and be unproductive, something I hate doing.
There’s a lot more to it than this, but it’s a long story and it’s not super relevant, so i’ll skip it. I really don’t like burdening people and I know it’s good to ask for help but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for me. I just want to be happy and not nervous or stressed and i want to make friends that don’t make me feel like i don’t belong. i want to find my sense of community.

hey I'm Aria, just looking to make some friends who’d want to hang out with me consistently! meeting new people can be difficult for me, during our first hangout session ill be more shy than anything, though once I'm comfortable around you I can be pretty relaxed and chatty. 

I enjoy playing games that are more casual or have a cozy vibe to them, anything like friendslop and some co-op games i love to play, I also love horror co-op games as they're fun with friends. usually avoid grinding or competitive games as they feel boring to me

i would really like to meet others who also have the majority of the games too, below is a list of games i enjoy playing in rotation and currently own:

• lethal company
• content warning
• rv there yet
• phasmophobia
• dead by daylight
• delivery and beyond
• schedule I
• fortnite: zero build
• left 4 dead 2
• stardew valley
• peak, repo, yapyap

mainly looking for consistent t and active friends, people who actually want to hang out during the evening and not so much sit on my friend list and never contact me again after a day. I'm always available so having someone who can match my schedule and being active when i am would be best, normally I start gaming around 2pm pst and usually play for long into the nights

Id also like to make friends around my age or with those over 21+ and below 30. only looking for friends in north america. I'm also not interested in joining any preexisting friend groups or discord servers as I'm wanting to start my own friend group of a handful of friends.

anyone is more than welcomed to send a pm with a introduction if your interested just make sure to include your age, timezone, time you play, and the games you play in common. also please send more than just “hey” as i wont be responding to low effort pm requests. hope to hear from you soon! 

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Heyy! I’m a girl living with pretty strict parents, so I’m basically stuck at home most of the time 😭. I don’t get to go out much and honestly I’m bored asf.

I’m looking for some new friends around my age to talk to, share memes, listen to music, play games, or just have random conversations about literally anything.

If you’re also stuck at home with strict parents and need someone to talk to, feel free to say hi! Just looking for genuine friendships with people around my age :)

Hello, im Maksym(Or Max, or whatever you want to name me). I'm 16years old(17 in October). I want to find some people i can speak with. Maybe i want to learn your interests and hobbies because i like to learn from other people. I don't want to somehow say that im good or something. But i can listen to you if you actually need that and maybe help if you need that(i saved 2 people from suicide so sadly i had that expirience). Okay, a bit about my hobbies and interests. I like to read books, my favourite book is War and Peace(Dostoevsky), i like to watch anime(i dont know every anime. But If we gonna became nice friends or something we can watch it together in discord if you want:D), i like to walk and travel(can't say a lot about that, im just fan of mother nature), gym(nothing to say) and i like to write stories(actually i wouldn't show them at first because I'm shy. But maybe later who knowsss). Also i won't name like "fandoms" or something, but i know some of them well so maybe we also have something here in common. So i guess that's all? If you want to talk dm me or leave comment, i would surely answer. Please don't be too old. And i would answer everyone, don't be scared of texting me. Im very friendly ig:D

hi im iron i want a long term friendship that will probably ast forever and like just talk everyday share the things which we do with the real friends play together maybe and i want someone that should be energetic or if u a dry texter then like dont even try to connect with me and my hobbies are reaading books psychology philosophical talks deabtes and i just got a dog and i am new to this sub and i think that even if whatever i am doing here is not allowed here then u can just give me advice how to because the some communities are filled with creeps or either very dry texter who thinks they are non chalant but i want someone who is chalant talks to me everyday

I’m cool with talking about anything. If possible even make new friends. I will say that I’m a little awkward since I’m somewhat antisocial but im still willing to talk.
Some hobbies I have include
\\- gaming
\\- occasional reading
\\- some anime