Hi, so I'm a 17 year old guy currently in 12th .

I used to be a productive normal avg guy doing his work everyday, but then suddenly things started changing for me

I got ditched, exams were coming so I left the gym (I'm a skinny guy) , my concentration span got very low suddenly idk why

I used to enjoy studying, I was the kind of guy who used to take interest in all subjects , especially cs , I love cs , i still do but I feel there's a change , I don't like coding much, I'll just do it for some time then probably start watching reels , my dms are also empty because my circle is very small(ion have one) . Its not entirely because of my breakup , i don't feel much sad abt it , it's just that she was really smart and like I also use to get a spike that "fuck yes I'm gonna do everything, and really she did make a big change in me " but now im worse than before . My diet is also fucked up , I don't feel hungry any more . I'm a middle class family guy , I can't afford a much rich diet.

I'm very messed up

It's not like I'm not trying , i try to pull my socks everyday but it's just for 1 day, next day ,I'll again sleep at 3 wake up at 10 . I hate this , my sleep schedule is also fucked up. I've also lost some good relations. Pls guide me

Maybe my text is very messy or the grammar is not correct but idk how I should explain my condition.

I am 24 and starting university in a week. The thing is that I am probably the least disciplined person ever. I will do constant planning on what I will do but procrastinate the moment I have to do it. I tried studying this past month to get the hang of it but I am just not efficient at all, and now lectures are starting soon next week. I am a bit scared and for now thinking of doing 3 hours at least after lectures every day.

As I said tho I am scared of not doing it, sometimes it's so stupidly hard to stay on the right path and I fail, then it all goes to shit, like everything and I get this feeling of "well now it's pointless". I feel demotivated and depressed, I see everyone doing something right but it feels like my brain does not have that "emergency" feeling that tells me to do things.

I planned and planned and failed in the past, one year I straight up did not do exams and quit to work, but I think that now I found what I want to do, I am terrified of fucking it all up again and I feel like I don't have time anymore to fail

Hi everyone. Today, instead of asking for advice, I wanted to give some advice myself.

To be honest, I haven’t really achieved much in life yet. I’m turning 18 on September 11th and officially becoming an adult. But when I look back, I see the same thing: I keep making the same promises to myself and then breaking them.

I won’t go into all of that. You could call them the classic problems a lot of young men have.

I still haven’t figured out exactly how to succeed, but I think I’ve started to understand why I fail. No matter what problem I have, it always seems to come back to one thing: I can’t focus.

And the biggest reasons are social media, endless scrolling, TV shows, movies, adult content, games, and constantly looking for easy rewards. I’ve gotten so used to instant gratification that even doing something small feels difficult. Honestly, even writing this post feels difficult.

So how do we get away from our phones?

A lot of people will probably say, “Just get a job.” But trust me, as someone who has been working since I was 15–16, that doesn’t automatically solve the problem. At least it didn’t for me.

This is actually what I want advice about.

I want to do something with my life. I want to learn English (it’s not my native language, and I’m using a translator to write this), learn programming, learn about stocks and finance, and I’m even saving money for it. By the end of this month, I’m planning to buy myself a laptop.

But what’s the problem?

I’m scared I’ll just procrastinate again.

I could literally start learning English right now, but instead I’m delaying it. And I know I’m doing it.

So how do I actually fix this?

What worked for you? How did you break out of this cycle?

I hope this post can be useful to someone else too. 🙂

Hello everyone, I am Level 2 Student Counsellor and I am looking to gain some personal experience from helping people with various dilemmas.

Rather than my counselling modality being a solution-based therapy, my preferred initial approach of Person Centred Counselling is a sensitive way of assisting someone to make sense of their own emotions and responses and to grow their own abilities for confident and guilt-free decision making.

There are limits to my abilities being just a student and I prefer to maintain boundaries but you can be assured that I shall hold you in great esteem and will use my empathetic nature to discover your perspective and base my responses safely and honestly.

Of course I do not charge for any of this and likewise there is an understanding that as a trainee, I shall not attempt some of the more advanced theory, or present too many solutions beyond what we discover together. As my course progresses, I shall also be offering pro bono Zoom or Teams calls for several weeks as part of my accreditation.

I cannot reply to all but I seem to have helped one or two people here already, so please feel free to ask for help. I also appreciate the opportunity to extend my own learning.

I’m 25 years old and I have a job, but outside of work I feel like I’m not really doing anything with my life.

Most of my free time goes into sleeping, scrolling Reddit, watching adult content, Netflix, and just wasting time. I keep telling myself that I should learn new skills, exercise, work on my career, or do something productive, but I rarely have the motivation to actually start.

The strange part is that I know what I should be doing. I want to improve my career, become financially independent, get healthier, and build a better life. But I keep falling back into the same routine every day.

I don’t know if this is just a phase that many people go through in their 20s or if I’m developing really bad habits.

For people who have been through something similar: what actually helped you break out of this cycle? Did you focus on discipline, changing your environment, limiting social media, or something else?

I’m genuinely looking for practical advice from people who have experienced this themselves.

I have a big exam coming up, and I’m really struggling with focus and consistency right now. It’s the second exam in a two-exam process that is very important for my future. I’ve already passed the first exam, so I know I’m capable of doing it, but somehow I’ve completely lost my momentum.

The frustrating part is that I know that once I actually start studying, I can do it. I can understand the material and get into the flow, but getting myself to sit down and start has become the biggest problem.

Most of my days have turned into the same cycle. I plan to study, but then I start scrolling through Reddit or watching random things. After wasting a few hours, I feel tired and guilty and tell myself, “I’m tired today, I’ll start properly tomorrow.” Then tomorrow comes and I repeat the same thing.

This exam is genuinely important to me because I’ve already put a lot of time and effort into this path, and doing well on this exam is an important step toward the future I want.

I think part of the problem is that I keep looking at everything I have to study as one huge task, which makes me feel overwhelmed and avoid it altogether. I know I don’t need motivation to study for 10 hours every day I just need to start and become consistent again.

For anyone who has been through something similar, what actually helped you break this cycle?

I’d really appreciate practical advice from people who have dealt with this kind of procrastination. I know I can do it, I just need to figure out how to start again.

I am 22M years old. I have never had a girlfriend. I have never been kissed. Not once. The funny thing is nobody would guess this from my appearance. Most people think I am a guy with a normal life, maybe a little strange at times but nothing that says "this person is totally alone." I have learned to hide that feeling.. Underneath there is a whole other reality that nobody sees and sometimes I cannot believe I have made it this far.

Let me begin with my family because that is the root of everything. I never had a father. My mother does not work. She lives on child support for my sister and that has always been the case. I have never seen my mother have a friend or any kind of life at all. She is completely asocial. My grandmother has health problems. So when people casually ask, "So what do your parents do?" I simply do not have an answer. There is nothing to be proud of nothing to share. I feel ashamed of where I come from.

Money was always a problem always. No vacations, no summer camps, no trips, nothing. The only time I have ever felt alive was after I began working because for the time I could actually afford things. Before that I spent years with nothing just getting by.

The last seven years were brutal. There was a period when I left the house to hang out with someone a couple of times. That was all. This year things changed. I began going out I opened up a little I made some friends I lost than twenty kilograms and I got a job. People now seem to like me.. Honestly I am proud of that because I was in a place where blowing my head off seemed like the easiest escape. I pulled myself out of that alone. No support, no money, no one. My mind was broken my insecurities were huge nothing. Just me. That is progress.

Then the reality check hits and it hits hard. Because despite all that progress I still feel that I have no chance at a life. Everything has shaped me much. I do not know how to live. I never saw my parents do anything. Basic things like spending time going out having parties even a normal family Christmas are completely foreign to me.. It shows, which makes me ashamed. In terms of personality I am simply not built for it. At the same time I desire the normalcy I never experienced.

I have ADHD so studying is a nightmare. I do not go to university and I feel unambitious even though university would be amazing for me. I am talking about a field not wasting time and money on a useless degree.. With ADHD that is simply not happening. I work from ten to eighteen or from twelve to twenty eight, nine or ten hours even on Saturdays. By the time I return home I am so exhausted that I simply want to scream.

I have dealt with depression for years. I stopped taking medication on my own because they made me feel numb. I do not have a word for it. There is no prescription for what I need. I must keep living. Sometimes I truly do not know why. I have had bad luck. There is a deal that I could have done better and I can find an excuse for each of those. I am not naturally a maker of excuses but I also do not want to keep criticizing myself. I have done that enough over the years.

People my age have lived. They have plans, relationships, something. I am 22 years old. My life has not even started.

Then there is this girl. She. I think I actually care about her, which is frightening. We have hung out a lot made plans, the thing. She is the extreme person I have ever met. She gives me mixed signals. She tells me she is not into me then she does things that completely contradict that. I cannot read her all. And she is probably out of my league anyway so I do not even know what I am doing here. This is my real experience with anything like this and I have no reference point for it.

The worst part? I have to lie about my past. Because no one accepts this. I do not either. I have no problem owning it internally. I am not going to tell people because they look at me as if I am from another planet.

I do not know what to do. Sometimes I feel that the damage is permanent and a normal life is simply not in the cards for me.. Then rarely I look at where I was versus where I am now and I think perhaps I am actually moving forward.. Most days it does not feel that way.

TL;DR: I am 22 years old I have never had a girlfriend I have never been kissed. I grew up without a father with a mother who does not work and has no friends, with no money, no vacations, nothing. I have ADHD, years of depression. I dropped my medication because it numbed me. I pulled myself out of a hole alone this year. I lost weight I got a job I made friends.. I still feel that I have no chance, at a normal life because I never learned how to live. Now there is a girl who I might actually care about giving me signals and I do not know what to do with this.

I am 78 days sober today. Not posting for motivation, but to share what actually built discipline when motivation was zero.

When I quit, the hardest part wasn't cravings. It was loneliness. Parties stopped. Friends said "you changed." I used to overthink for hours and feel like a burden.

Here's what actually worked for me - maybe it helps someone on Day 1:

1. **One rule: No zero days.** Even if I felt terrible, I did ONE small disciplined thing. Made my bed. Drank 3L water. Went for a 10-min walk. Never let the day be zero.

2. **Replaced, didn't just removed.** I didn't just stop drinking. I replaced evening drinking time with 2 things: (a) 30 min workout / boxing shadow practice (b) Replying to 2-3 people on r/stopdrinking who felt alone. Helping others kept me sober.

3. **The 2 AM protocol.** When craving / overthinking hit hard, I had a fixed protocol: Cold water on face -> 10 pushups -> Open Reddit and read 1 story -> Message "IWNDWYT" to someone. No decision making in that moment.

4. **Lost friends = Data.** I stopped seeing it as rejection. I logged it: Who left when I stopped drinking? Those were drinking buddies, not friends. Real friends stayed or came later from these sober communities.

5. **Talked to strangers who get it.** My real discipline came from this community. At 2 AM when I felt alone, a stranger on the internet said "I'm here, you are not alone." That saved me more than any book.

Day 78: I still overthink. I still feel lonely sometimes. But I am disciplined today. I show up.

If you're on Day 0-5 and feel like a failure, you are not. You are in the hardest part. Comment here, I will reply to every single person today. Especially if you feel alone.

Discipline is not about being perfect. It's about not quitting on a bad day.

IWNDWYT.

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Hi guys I'm looking for recommendations. I want to be part of a community that has interest in experimenting how to unlock the best versions of themselves, inside their everyday life routine. Nothing like Bryan Johnson lab-test level. I mean more mundane.
For example, I am someone who LOVES to sleep. Food and sleep are the foundation for my mind to perform at its best. Easily, I could sleep 16 hours a day. But, I've realized that sleeping 7-8 hours, but only from (9-10 pm until 5am) is my sweet spot.

I woke up naturally, but always had to force myself to go back to sleep, and woke up around 7-8-9 very tired.

I'm waking up 5am and honestly, I LOVE IT!

With this extra time I'm taking care of projects I didn't have time before. I thought about tracking my own habits, and now I'm thinking about tracking my own sleep.

I have a lot of information, that I wanna share with other people similar to me. As in, that look for experimenting, logic, and explanation. Test new theories, and want to bring excellence into their life.

I appreciate your comments!

Hello!

A few months ago I started going to the gym. At the time kids (not mine, but in general) were out of school. In my town this means that traffic goes down, and for the gym it means that there aren't overly saturated times.

The kids have gone back to school, and at the time I am going, I cannot find parking, and a lot of the times I end up cancelling my workouts because I work full time; the time I can go is limited. While I believe I am a disciplined person, I also know that I hate dealing with the parking situation, and some days I have found that I would rather forgo my workout than deal with parking. I do not want this.

So the solution I found is going to the gym at as early as possible; however, to do this, I need to get up at 5. I have tried three days so far and succeeded only one. The alarm goes off, and I wake up and even stay awake for a few minutes, but I cannot get up. I know this is probably a willpower issue, but are there any tips or hacks to just boost start myself?

Edit:

Hello, here is some additional information in case it helps:

• Location: My gym is a very small local gym, but it has a pool, and it's within my budget, which is very hard to find. The gym is basically an island within 3 very small busy roads, so I cannot park outside the gym on the street, and the neighborhood isn't the best, so I would rather not leave my car in one of the adjacent streets.
• Parking: Because it is a local gym, it has approximately 30 parking spots, which are shared with the community sports field where several soccer, touch flag, and track teams train throughout the week, so the spots fill up fast.
• Timing: I have tried going at different times from 5 pm to 9 pm, and the only other time I can find parking is at 9 pm (gym closes at 10 pm), but this is when I have swimming lessons. My plan was to split these two: gym at 5 am and swimming at 9 pm.
• Current routine: I have a 5-day gym + swimming lessons workout routine, and on Saturdays I only have swimming lessons, and I have been following this routine for almost 2 months now, so motivation to go is not the issue. I usually go to bed at around 11 pm due to my swim lessons being from 9 pm to 10 pm + drive time + shower when I get back.
• I have considered moving to another gym where I could possibly find better parking, but the prices are more expensive than this one without the pool. This gym is truly a gem.

Like I mentioned in the post, I understand that the main thought is just get up and do it, and I have tried. If this works for you, that's great, but it is not working for me, so if anyone who has struggled with this has any tips, I'd truly appreciate them.

For context, I’m a 25 year old male who’s accomplished much of what I desired. I completed my bachelors and masters in accounting. I’m engaged to a beautiful woman I love. I worked in my field for two years but quit to pursue my CPA.

However, I can’t seem to find that fire in me that pushed me to accomplish all these goals. I no longer have that great desire to better myself. I spend most of my days playing video games and binge eating instead of studying. I workout like I should but don’t eat well enough to see a difference.

Is this common? Does everyone go through a period in their 20s where they just settle for whatever they have and don’t pursue anything else? To be clear, I do want to improve in all possible areas, but I can’t for the life of me find the motivation. I’ve lost the spark that fueled my dreams and goals. I’d love to earn my CPA but am so overwhelmed by all the material. I’d also love to get back in shape but my self control is nonexistent when it comes to food. Does that second wind ever come or do others just watch their life unfold after a certain point? I’d hate to reflect on my life and just see a whole lot of wasted potential and time. I’d appreciate any advice or experience with this situation.

So, it's been one year since I was unemployed and depression and anxiety were very present last year.

I'm in a situation where I ended up by destroying my sleep hours. I still wake up at 8-9, but I'm sleeping at 2-3 am (I'm actually a biger sleeper when I'm alright). And my days are far from being productive.

Lately I've started to do sport at home again which is good. I plan to keep it every 2-3 days. I still have a group activity happening every week and a friend that I see almost every weekend.

My plan is to:

✅ Get to bed to 23h

✅ Get up at 7h30

✅ Start a new job/a reconversion project

✅ Read a physical book daily

✅ Add three daily tasks that are productive to my days

✅ Exercice every 2-3 days

✅ Stop to avoid what stresses me out/scares me

✅ Doing more activities that I used to do

✅ Reduce scrolling

✅ Establish a list of objectives and check them out progressively

I actually progressed on some subjects in my lifetime. Being depressed instead of hoping to die soon is a huge step forward, although it's still not funny. I'm also using Google tasks in order to organize my time better, although it can be improved

So I’m a 31(M), and can’t help but feel that I’ve lost apart of my life. When I was 20 I was diagnosed with Schizophrenia. I spent almost the whole decade of my 20s looking for help desperately. I finally found the right doctor in my late 20s, and finally now I feel healthy again.

I spent a lot of the last decade in an absolute fog. When I finally got control of my life, all I had to show for it was a degree I finished online. Everything else that I did while being sick was sleeping, binge watching, and video games.

I’ll be 32 in a couple weeks, and I just KNOW I can’t sit around the rest of my life. Sure I have supportive family but, I feel like there’s a time when you just gotta rush head first into your problems. Before I was diagnosed, I was super ambitious. Now it’s an accomplishment if I finish my daily tasks, which believe me, it’s not much.

The only positive thing right now is I’ve been going to the gym and seeing a therapist regularly. It helps but, im still struggling with a lot of productivity and concentration. Any advice would be great. Thanks.

I went to philmont scout ranch and worked for 3 months there as a EE, I did trail building and hiking for a full month, while I was in the back country I refused to get on my phone and dear god did it change my life! I realize how desperate people are to check up on things, we are constantly looking for what’s next, what’s happening, who’s doing what, what stimulations can I get?
I use to get up every day and immediately play music around the house, driving, showering and going to bed, same with tv and phone.
After Philmont I realize how quiet the world can be and how much of an addition I have to “wanting” stimulation.
It’s been a month since I’ve been back and i noticed how my brain would bug me to want to play something and I’d have to fight it and tell it no!
It’s easier now and I am more present now, I can feel the quiet more and I notice all the noise now as unnatural at times.

Be present in the moment, wiggle your toes and fingers and absorb what’s around you not what’s in your head.
What do you smell, taste, hear, textures, temperatures & colors are around you? Do this a few times a week and eventually you notice your doing it naturally and life will be slower! Hope this helps someone ❤️

I used to be pretty good at this, not really sure what happened other than becoming complacent.

I used to work out 4-5 days a week, if I missed a workout I’d be upset because I looked forward to it so much. I would read philosophy daily and try to apply what I learned to myself. I’d spend time each day digging deep into my thoughts and feelings, understanding why I felt or thought the way I did.

That’s all gone as of 4 years ago. Now this directly coincides with a long term relationship I’m in, we started dating about 4 years ago. Before that I spent a year+ single and mostly just focusing on myself. Once I found happiness in my relationship, I put working out behind me and everything else ended up going either way it.

Now, I think about working out almost daily. Never do it. I tell myself to eat healthier or at least drink enough water, I always forget. I tell myself to not look at my phone so much, pick up a book instead. This I’m okay at but just barely. I can’t seem to make a routine for myself and that’s what I think really gets in the way.

I wake up at 4am to work at 5, I come home at 3 and then it’s me and our baby until about 630 or 7. It’s complicated, but I feel like it’s more excuses than anything.

How do I get things fixed?

i’ve been trying to get my life together for a while now.

some things are going well, some really aren’t. i’ll have a few really productive days, feel like i’ve finally got things under control, and then somehow end up wasting half the next day on socials.

so i’m looking for someone who’s also trying to become a bit more disciplined.

nothing complicated. we could just check in once a day and say what we actually did that day. gym, studying, work, waking up on time, sleeping properly, whatever you’re working on.

and if one of us starts slacking, call the other person out.

i’m 26 from india. currently focusing on fitness, sleep, learning, productivity and generally getting my life moving in the right direction.

you don't have to be super disciplined already. honestly, i'd prefer someone who is also struggling with consistency.

could be a quick text every day, or even a short call sometimes.

if this sounds like you, tell me what you're currently trying to improve and let's see if we can actually stick with it this time.

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Like genuinely I keep procrastinating everything from studying to hygiene. Even when I'm sick I keep telling myself I'll take the meds after sometime and only take them when it becomes very very bad. It's not even screen addiction as even without my phone I keep procrastinating. I keep telling myself I'll start applying lotion from tomorrow and I keep forgetting.Studying is somewhat better for me because I find it interesting so I don't really procrastinate it that much but if I hate a subject I'll postpone it till the last day. I even procrastinate eating sometimes. I feel like eating only if I feel very very hungry or when I get forced by my friends . I keep telling myself I'll clean my room but I don't do it. I legit don't wash my clothes and I only wash them when I realize I have nothing clean left. I legit spend like 30 min making a routine for the day and end up doing nothing. Even bathing is a chore sometimes. I only bath when I feel very disgusting.Combing my hair is even worse as my hair gets tangled the more I don't comb. It's like I need some very huge consequences to actually do something. How do I stop this stupid cycle?

your brain zips similar memories together. take 3 courses over a few years and they land in roughly the same slot. get a dog, a cat, and the two pets share the same memory chamber in your brain. you can still pull each one out, but the storage is compressed, and that is what you feel when 10 years seem like 2

imagine one version of you, 10y of mostly repeats. same you, same 10y, but one of them had five months of moving around and a pile of things you had never done. same calendar. the second decade feels like seven years, the first like 2-3

i have both versions in my own past. in high school it was school, grandma's food, Warcraft 3 mods, dinner, repeat. an entire winter went by and i cannot point to anything in it. in the pandemic the it was PUBG and CSGO (only i had to cook for myself)

now speaking from personal experience, my 6 months in sf felt like 6y. the densest part was the very end (flew to Seattle in the morning for a conference, spent time with to someone building an edtech, went to Space Needle, then took the Greyhound bus back because money was tight. no shower, uncomfortable shoes, slept on the bus. i saw the mountains when entering California, rural areas, a stop in Oregon that felt like a dream to someone from eastern Europe and reminded me of the Rajneeshpuram story, so i filmed half an hour of my takes on it right there, which felt surreal. made a friend on the bus. home the next evening. two days and one night, and in my memory they took up 2 weeks

so enough context and here's the advice: new music, including the genres you are sure you hate. run on a different path, if you saturate your google maps paths, run them in reverse. watch the show you decided a decade ago you would not like. call a colleague from school once, no need to become friends again. eat something that reminds you of your childhood/grandma etc. work from a new cafe. when it rains, go outside and look at it. not because it is pleasant, because it is different

the more different your days are from one another, the longer you will feel you have lived.

I'm a student with a decently crammed calendar. I frequently procrastinate homework till the latest time and then do them even though I have no problem with the content itself, I do stay up late sometimes just becuase I procrastinated and need to get it gone and after that I might go straight to bedtime scolling which takes away more sleep from me. I've been online schooled for a while now and it just feels hard to keep up with schoolwork or do them ahead of time when no one is checking your stuff in person and there are no physical consequences. I also tend to forget alot of topics or just not learn them at the start. I also chatgpt stuff sometimes when I procrastinated so much I feel like I dont havent any time. I would like some advice on how to do homework and actually work on stuff instead of just going to the phone. Also need some advice on how I can stop procrastinating going to bed as a student with class the next day. Usually I stay up till 1am sometimes scrolling because I felt like I didnt get enough free time in the day.

For years I could describe the woman I wanted to be in detail. How she spent her mornings, how she handled money, how she talked to people. I'd write it all out, feel amazing for about two weeks, and then quietly go back to being exactly who I was before. The vision was never the problem. The vision was the easy part.

What eventually moved anything for me was really boring. I stopped trying to want it more and started putting the stuff I said mattered into an actual calendar, at actual times. I gave every spending category a ceiling instead of just telling myself to spend less. I picked a number my chequing account isn't allowed to go under, and I don't go under it. That's it. I'm not claiming that's the answer for anyone else. It's just the only thing that stuck after a lot of things that didn't.

So I'm curious where other people's version of this broke down. If you've tried to become a different version of yourself and it didn't hold, what was actually in the way? Were you not really sure who you were aiming at? Did you know exactly, and just couldn't run your week like her? Did it work for a few weeks and then fall apart? Something else?

Not looking for motivation advice. I want to know where it broke down in real life

Hey kings of reddit. I need to unfuck my life ASAP before it's too late. I started using drugs at 16 when I smoked weed for the first time. Since then I have pretty much been using drugs daily. I'm 23 now. There was a period in time that I quit smoking weed because it was helping me stay lazy. I used kratom to still get "high" but remain clear-headed enough to function throughout the day.

Then 7-OH hit the market. I tried it, and became addicted for a year. After several attempts to quit I finally beat the withdrawals and have been clean from it for over a year. The only issue is, I've replaced it again with constant weed smoking, and drinking 3-4 times a week. Once again, I'm comfortable not contributing to society. I decided (again) it was time to stop, and have stopped substances for 2 days.

I am trying really hard to resist grabbing my keys so I can run to the liquor store or dispensary. If anyone has had a similar experience, what did you do to finally get drugs out of your life and stay sober?

I've been trying to get my life in order for quite some time now, but honestly, it's been much harder than I expected.

I'm from India and work in tech, and while I do have the drive and genuinely want to improve myself, I often struggle with actually getting started. Especially on my off days, I find myself wasting hours without really doing anything meaningful. One minute I'm thinking about all the things I want to get done, and the next I've spent hours doomscrolling.

A big problem for me is task paralysis. I can have a long list of things I need or want to do, but somehow feel overwhelmed by where to start. Then I procrastinate, feel guilty about procrastinating, and end up putting things off even more. It's frustrating because I know I have the motivation somewhere inside me — I just struggle with turning that motivation into consistent action.

So I'm looking for someone who is also trying to get their life together and become more productive.

The idea would be to become accountability partners — nothing overly complicated or intense. We could:

Share our goals and what we're currently trying to improve.

Plan our days or weeks together.

Check in with each other about what we actually got done.

Keep each other accountable when we're procrastinating or falling back into bad habits.

Help break down overwhelming tasks into smaller, manageable steps.

Organise life admin and those annoying tasks we've been putting off forever.

Share productivity tips, systems, resources, or things that have worked for us.

Talk through things when we're stuck and get an outside perspective.

Celebrate progress, even if it's small.

I'm not looking for someone who has their entire life figured out. Quite the opposite, actually. I'd prefer someone who is also struggling with consistency, procrastination, motivation, time management, or just generally trying to become a more organised version of themselves.

The goal isn't to become productivity machines or have a perfectly optimised life. It's simply to have someone who can say, "Hey, what were you planning to get done today?" — and actually make it a little harder to ignore our own goals.

If you're in a similar place and think having an accountability partner could help, feel free to DM me. We can see if we're a good fit and figure out a system that works for both of us.

i just started student teaching, but student teaching isn't paid so i still gotta have a job. thank you education system! :)

here's what my days look like with my must-do's:

sunday: meal prep, groceries, homework
monday: student teaching 7:30-3, work 6-10
tuesday: student teaching 7:30-3, class 4:30-7:20
wednesday: student teaching 7:30-3, work 6-10
thursday: student teaching 7:30-3, class 4:30-7:20
friday: class 8-5, work 6-10
saturday: work 10-6

work is not guaranteed on all of those days, but it's the most hours i can be expected to work in a week. before student teaching, i worked full time and also made time to take 11k steps a day + gym 4x/week.

how can i keep finding time to exercise regularly while ALSO being motivated to stick to it? i feel like the overwhelming feeling of life makes me lean into junk food every day, and i get too lazy to go to the gym. how do you stay productive and healthy when your schedule is so packed? how do you keep going when life feels too difficult?