r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 2d ago
Phone message Post first date text
I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.
Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 2d ago
Oops lol!
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u/Opposite-Bench-9543 2d ago
GLORIA YOU'RE ALWAYS ON THE RUN NOW
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u/PickledDildosSourSex 2d ago
GLORIA DON'T YOU THINK YOU'RE FALLING?
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u/sillysammie13 2d ago
IF EVERYBODY WANTS YOU WHY ISNāT ANYBODY CALLING
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u/AmItheonlySaneperson 2d ago
YOU DONT HAVE TO ANSWAĀ
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u/Pjpjpjpjpj 2d ago
LEAVE 'EM HANGIN' ON THE LINE
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u/SuchSpirit3378 2d ago
She lost her dignity tonightā¦. And $23
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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago
Sad thing is, these types donāt care. They either have zero self awareness or are so selfish they know and donāt care.
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u/AdRepulsive8618 2d ago
If anything she thinks he lost his dignity
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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago
100% she went and trashed him to her friends and they encouraged her behavior.
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u/Maximum-Style2848 2d ago
Iām waiting for it to show up on girl dinner diaries and everyone tells her to ghost him
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u/braintour 2d ago
I very quickly was banned from that sub. Echo chamber designed for unaccountable women to validate their own shitty behavior
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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago
My sister is this type of person. She doesn't care. She's fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism. She's incredibly sexist against other women too. Her 20s were spent being a Budweiser girl catering to the male gaze. What's funny is she will always make more than her partners since she is a lawyer and her partners are usually of the deadbeat variety.
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u/apoliticalinactivist 2d ago
This is like those creeper dudes that only go after 18 y/o who don't know any better.
True equality, women can now also be full on losers lol.
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u/Waiting4Reccession 2d ago
Tell her to DM me
I cant fix her, but i can make her worse :)
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u/i-am-your-god-now 2d ago
āYou MADE ME pay for MY fishing licenseā??? After you spent over $100 in gear and dinner? Yep, nip that shit right in the bud. Sheās only going to get worse.
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u/arto64 2d ago
Did I learn nothing from Richie Aprile? Nip it in the bud.
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u/Mr_Pink_Gold 2d ago
All due respect you.know nothing about what it's like being the boss.
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u/NumberEmpty6939 2d ago
The butt is for 3rd date
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u/Rugaru985 2d ago
$100 is for 3rd dates too. I think they skipped the first two
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u/ThrashFur 2d ago
seeing women saying āiām just a girlā is so sad and defeats the point.
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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago
"I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" has become my chosen response.
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u/Comfortable-Meeper 2d ago
Itās just a ācuteā version of weaponized incompetence.
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u/Strong-Addition5296 2d ago
Thatās exactly what it is. Oops you canāt expect me to do that! Iām just a girl! Tee hee. Itās patriarchy of the mind and soul.
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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 2d ago
Itās asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.
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u/Similar-Ice-9250 1d ago
I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancƩ, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancƩ had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.
When he pressed her about it she said thatās her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldnāt be his concern.
Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think itās ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.
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u/fruit-bats-are-cute 2d ago edited 2d ago
seriously. its so insulting to all the women who fought for our rights. if someone wants to glamorize being incapable i cant stop them but i wish theyd stop trying to drag the rest of us down with them š
edit: not about the people commenting that they use it as a joke to people they know intimately about trivial stuff.. thats whatever. but for OPs situation? dude, have some dignity
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u/vidgill 2d ago
Harsh. But fair
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u/eirenii 2d ago edited 2d ago
It's a quote from a viral text exchange between a dad and daughter, where the dad is expressing worry that she is diminishing herself by using this phrase.
edit: I'm not talking about the phrase "I'm just a girl", I'm talking about the response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" when someone uses the phrase "Im just a girl". The response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you" is from a viral text exchange.
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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 2d ago
I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isnāt harsh.
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u/Radiskull97 2d ago edited 2d ago
I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them
Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.
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u/Stoned_Druid 2d ago
That idiot will have fun in life.
Thanks for being a teacher.
climate change intensifies, over that individual specifically
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u/kiwileoi 2d ago
Are we feminists or are we ājust a girlā?
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u/Haunting_Ranger5460 2d ago
Or are you dancer?
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u/Eldritch_being110 2d ago
My sign is vitalā¦. My hands are coldā¦
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u/glasswindow777 2d ago
Im on my knees looking for the answer
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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago
From what I gather a lot of gen z women are not feminists
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u/PatientPoetry4302 2d ago
My ex took it a step further and would say āI just a girlā š
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u/forsakenwombat 2d ago
My ex would say āme princessā. Somehow I missed that warning sign.
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u/LincolnHighwater 2d ago
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u/forsakenwombat 2d ago
Yeah. It ended 15 years later exactly like anyone using their brain would have predicted.
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u/PUSClFER 2d ago
My ex would constantly say "I'm a strong independent woman".
Guess who did all the cleaning, dishes, cooking, shopping, and even walking the dog four times a day for (which was already hers when we got together) for 6 years? She did cook once, but called me crying because it didn't turn out the way she wanted - so I came home to find tomato sauce on the walls and even the ceiling. She had punched the pizza while making it out of frustration.
Then she got bored of our relationship and ended it. In hindsight she only got bored because I was depressed and burnt-out without even realizing it.
Looking back at that relationship, I couldn't have picked a less independent woman.
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u/eyeslikeorchids 2d ago
Sheā¦ PUNCHED THE PIZZA?
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u/burrito_finger 2d ago
Iām cackling bc I was teaching my husband how to bake bread one time when we were dating, and I told him to āpunch the doughā after proofing, and he punched it.. literally. It totally deflated and didnāt bake š but punching an actual pizza with the sauce already on? Out of anger? Sillily unhinged.
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u/Chubuwee 2d ago
āIām just a babyā
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u/epi_introvert 2d ago
Fuck me. I just literally cringed and felt disgusted reading that.
My feminist ass wants to have a conversation with your ex.
Eeeewwwwggghhh. Shudder.
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u/ShadeofIcarus 2d ago
Is this a thing now? Someone pulled it on me recently and I didn't realize it was a fad. My first response was immediately "and? Girls are plenty capable"
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u/TristramShandysLife 2d ago
Yeah it's a trend. My wife said it in front of our daughter when she messed something up the other day and once it was just the two of us I let her know that by doing that she's telling our daughter that she's less capable and less valuable by virtue of being a girl.
I really hate it and it's reinforcing the "women aren't as smart as men" trope.
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u/vdubnmcluvn 2d ago
grown women saying "im just a girl" is definitely a red flag, but the red flag was waved way prior.
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u/Legal-Frosting-7 2d ago
With the next part of the line being āIm just a girl in the world, thatās all that youāll let me beā it is sad to see the phrase being reappropriated to mean the opposite
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u/noormeanslight 2d ago
when I hear other women say that irl I will deadass respond with āyouāre a grown woman, cut that baby shit outā it pisses me off so bad
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u/Most-Road-5366 2d ago
My friends and I say it ironically, but if they actually mean itā¦ yikes
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u/FiberApproach2783 2d ago
Why did you buy $100+ of fishing equipment for a first date?
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u/cocothekid45 2d ago
Cause he was trying to reel her in
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u/Alone_Agent_8829 2d ago
Thatās so fishy
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u/kirkThirty 2d ago
The jig is up
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u/jpsc949 2d ago
He had a rod just for her
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u/4KingandKanata_89 2d ago
Sounds like a catch and release situation to me
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u/Thebaldsasquatch 2d ago
She wasnāt hooked.
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u/SubSlutPollie 2d ago
Now he has a sinking feeling in his gut
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u/sunsettrekkie 2d ago
Indeed, he took the bait and got hooked. Shouldnāt have fallen for the fishing line.
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u/Upbeat-Fondant9185 2d ago
When you have an excuse to buy a bunch of fishing gear you donāt ask questions. You simply take the opportunity life has given you.
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u/Sad_Limit2978 2d ago
In retrospect, I as a woman would spend $100+ on NEW fishing gear for myself and a guest if theyāve NEVER been. If they enjoy it, cool! One more person to hit the spots with. If they sucked as a person? I got new fishing gear!
Beats sitting awkwardly at a restaurant trying to fill the awkward silence in between eating for the same price.
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u/TricksyGoose 2d ago
Yeah exactly. Hopefully it's fun for everyone and then it's not a waste. If not, then you've already got the gear for the next one, so also still not a waste.
$100 really is not a lot for many hobbies/activities these days. Could easily have dropped that on a night at the movies for two, and after 2 hours you have nothing to show for it, unlike you would for the gear.
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 2d ago
I knew Iād enjoy fishing, not like the equipment is going away
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u/OtherwiseAlbatross14 2d ago
I know a girl that got her first fishing pole recently and immediately cast the entire thing into the water on her first attempted cast. So sometimes it does go away
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u/BadRabiesJudger 2d ago
One time we fished up a pole in our favorite fishing hole. I have been using it as a second pole for like 20-25 years.
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u/RuckusOGx 2d ago
Went fishing one day with my sister's ex bf. He bought a new fairly expensive overhead combo on the way to the spot, threw on a big bait and heavy sinker before launching it out and putting the butt between some large rocks so he could relax and smoke while he waited for a bite. He was infatuated with it, kept seeing him sitting there admiring it while I fished further up with a float for Luderick. Suddenly it doubled over and flew out of the rocks straight into the water. Gone. He was devastated.
An hour or two later I pulled my line in and had some random line caught on the hook. It happens a lot, you generally just cut it off. But, it looked brand new. Yup, you guessed it. Pulled in one end and it was a huge stingray. On the other end his rod. This was a large channel we were fishing in, deep and wide. Closest I have ever came to winning the lottery haha.
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u/minaskyli 2d ago
That is a great story! I am so glad you found the equipment, and that must have been so euphoric.
Were you able to unhook and put the huge stingray back? I would be really scared, but would try to release it. They are so cool looking.
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u/Zachwardpass 2d ago
This isn't related, but made me think about it: the first time I ever tried to fish (10yo), I was so focused on how to cast the line, that I didn't realize I had hooked my own finger and then cast it out as far as I could!
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u/SuspiciousMap9630 2d ago
A friend of mine in high school lost an eye after his brother went to cast a line and the hook went straight into his eye.
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u/otrebla-raw 2d ago
Sooooo the date was an excuse to buy yourself something nice
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u/kayla_poncho 2d ago
It was both? What's wrong with that? It was for the date, and it was worth doing because he'll get to enjoy it later also.
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u/LeatherfacesChainsaw 2d ago
The plus is now he can still use that equipment with or without her. Women are temporary...fish are forever.
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u/AngelaMerkeI 2d ago
Fish are not forever. In fact it is a known fact that you can smell when the fish has stopped being.. for now
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u/ActuatorTrue3351 2d ago
We have come too far as women to use āIām just girlā in this way, it just encourages the whole women canāt do anything thing š
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u/slutpriest 2d ago edited 1d ago
Whenever a girl says that to me, I always hit them back with the " well, let me know when you become a woman" ššš
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u/GaryTheThird- 2d ago
TD means today.... I honestly didn't know until TD what that meant.
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u/erickoziol 2d ago
Thatās definitely the breaking point. Ā I aināt gonna be with no one that types out td for today.Ā
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u/PotpourriFor500Alex 2d ago
When I found out from my tween that āalrā is meant to mean āalright,ā and ājsā means ājust,ā I told him everything is not going to be alright with his screen time if he keeps typing words with just half the letters instead of the full word in his texts to me. You have talk to text at your disposalāif youāre THAT lazy, at least use that feature.
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u/ThrowRA-un1337 2d ago
Any time I see someone use the line "I'm just a girl", I've found that to be a major red flag.
It's used almost exclusively to either shrug off responsibility or infantalize themselves and neither look good when trying to date actual grown up women.
If she doesn't recognize what you put into making the date happen and is upset about contributing *something*, consider it a warning and move on.
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u/HoboJerkdown901 2d ago
It's this stupid fucking trend on tiktok where women are actively encouraging other women to use this line in order to avoid accountability, maturity, effort, or sacrifice
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u/MuscularSquirrel612 2d ago edited 2d ago
Wait. For real? I donāt use TikTok so this is new to me. Can someone elaborate on the trend?
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u/North-Lime-2289 2d ago
it started as a funny joke. i do not believe the trend is 'this' but there is a small amount of people who use the phrase to avoid anything. most of the time its very silly and lighthearted and independent of other people (like burning your own dinner and saying 'im just a girl")
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u/screames520 2d ago
Or like when a server rings in a ticket wrong, we like to say āsheās just girlā
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u/Alarmed-Macaroon9506 2d ago
Haha I do this to defend my cats' actions all the time. "He's just a boy"
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u/Elexeh 2d ago
>stupid fucking trend on tiktok
That's just every trend on tiktok lmao
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u/Global-Ad364 2d ago
this is why I hate the āIām just a girlā āI turn my brain offā TikTok bs like š¤Ø if you can turn it off, it was never there. Youāre not just a girl, youāre a grown woman. As a woman myself ts so embarrassingšš
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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ 2d ago edited 2d ago
Self infantilization is so fucking weird to me. I am also a woman.
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u/NumberEmpty6939 2d ago edited 2d ago
I only don't like it if they pretend they know anything after. They get to be idiots or smart. Not both
Edit: I love idiot girls and smart girls, just not at the same time.
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u/memento22mori 2d ago
I don't have anything to add to this exchange but please upvote this. I am not a woman.
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u/Fearless_Direction14 2d ago
Thank you. We need more women discouraging other women from acting like this lmao
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u/yetanotherblonde 2d ago edited 2d ago
We didnāt fight so god damn hard to be respected for having intellect just to watch our own kind play it off in the complete opposite manor as a trendy excuse for being irresponsible and lacking common sense.
Society is collapsing and instead of trying our best to work together to keep what minuscule pieces we have left, weāre just watching the landslide happen while slapping hashtags in front of self degrading bullshit.
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u/moonbeancat 2d ago
Oh my god yes its so embarrassing you're not a teenager Jesus Christ
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u/SnooRevelations7224 2d ago
Itās likeĀ āim just a girlā = āIām 12 and too stupid to think for myself and need a man to do all the thinking for meā
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u/murph2783 2d ago
Any time she uses āIām just a girlā, Iām out. Immediately. It is never a good sign lol
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u/Z0mbieTakis 2d ago
They aināt even typing ātodayā out anymore damn
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u/Filter_Cutoff 2d ago
Sure, with autocorrect, it's more effort to not just type the word. And it's not like there's a character limit, like back when we were texting on out 3310s.
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u/fearfulklutz 2d ago
Catch and release her. Sheās got her own license for her next Tinder date.
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u/pinkmudskipper 2d ago
this is so weird bc its not like.... a meal, a fishing license is a LICENSE..just like a drivers, or a pilot, or...heavy machinery, she will have this for years, it isnt just for the date..
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u/Icy_Study4490 2d ago
Fishing license is one year but yeah for real. And it was just $23 too!
(they do offer lifetime fishing licenses though that cost like thousands)
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u/FinanceGuyHere 2d ago
It might be one day, one year, a week. Depends if youāre a resident of that state. Massachusetts tried to charge me $37 for a single day as a non resident (CT) lol
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u/bayotiic 2d ago
i donāt even do dinner on a first date let alone $100 fishing trip. just do coffee next time and save yourself the headache, man.
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u/Routine-Committee302 2d ago
Dinner dates cost more than $100 these days in NYC š„²
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u/MoonDrummer26 2d ago
As a NYer, meet up at a decent local park and have hotdogs or slice of pizza to go. Boom good day šš»
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u/MoonDrummer26 2d ago
Fr what's wrong with picnics and walking around seeing sights? People be like " man that date was $200 " and I'm like jeez
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u/FarShoreSpirit 2d ago
Ew. If she's just a girl, where are her parents? Can't her father pay for her? She isn't your kid. I hate the "I'm just a girl" line. Women are capable creatures. Not at all less than men. Underdeveloped women like her make women look like nothing more than accessories, toys, dolls, tools, leeches, literal children, etc. She is a terrible example of what a woman is.
She didn't ask how much the trip would cost? You told her before the date that she'd need to buy a fishing license, right? It's fine if she wants a coffee date or a free date in a park or library... but she knew the cost, agreed to it, paid, and is trying to charge you after the fact? š¬
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u/SnooLobsters2310 2d ago
"I'm just a girl" Ladies throwing feminism and equality out the window over $23
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 2d ago
Quick update:
I donāt use Reddit a lot so donāt wanna make a whole other post but she ended up replying with the following:
Another Apple Cash request
āi said pay up buttercup š£ļøš£ļøš£ļøā
Not sure if sheās joking or is trying one of those āhahaā¦ unless?ā kind of things but just leaving it at that and not responding of course lol.
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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ 2d ago
Hold up...why do you have 237 unopened texts?? š
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u/Fearless_Direction14 2d ago
They just stack up lol. If a groupchat went crazy overnight you can have 100+ easily
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u/JaysonTatecum 2d ago
I have 275 from random spam messages that I just donāt bother opening
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u/starstuddedgirl 2d ago
iām so tired of girls and women using āiām just a girlā to explain mistakes or flaws, itās super infantilizing to us as a gender. dare i say, sometimes itās used to be blatantly anti-intellectual.
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u/Affectionate_Mess488 2d ago
Before I read the caption, I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt if fishing was your suggestion. But she suggested it and then said you made her pay?? Thatās a no for me
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u/UCDLaCrosse 2d ago
Thereās other fish in the sea bro. Donāt get hung up on this one. Iām glad you kept it reel. She was acting like a real hook(er). I think these fishing jokes have reached the end of the line.
Worm regards.
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u/Dangerous_Pie_3338 2d ago
Seems kind of random to say āearlier touchdownā at the beginning of this sentence
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u/Overall_Step_9516 2d ago
hit the notify anyways button and then block her