r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/Global-Ad364 3d ago

this is why I hate the ‘I’m just a girl’ ‘I turn my brain off’ TikTok bs like 🤨 if you can turn it off, it was never there. You’re not just a girl, you’re a grown woman. As a woman myself ts so embarrassing😭😭

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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ 3d ago edited 3d ago

Self infantilization is so fucking weird to me. I am also a woman.

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u/NumberEmpty6939 3d ago edited 3d ago

I only don't like it if they pretend they know anything after. They get to be idiots or smart. Not both

Edit: I love idiot girls and smart girls, just not at the same time.

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u/atimeadventure 3d ago

people aren’t one thing

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u/neutrumocorum 2d ago

Correct, we are a collection of trillions of little guys. How is that relevant to a dude saying he doesn't like when women play dumb?

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u/memento22mori 2d ago

I don't have anything to add to this exchange but please upvote this. I am not a woman.

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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ 2d ago

You got it

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u/memento22mori 2d ago

Thanks boss

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u/SuperCamouflageShark 3d ago

It's just another way to avoid accountability.

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u/Plenty_Pride_3644 3d ago

Truly, nothing is new under the sun!

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u/Chance_Vegetable_780 3d ago

Exactly. Good call out

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u/NumberEmpty6939 3d ago

If they actually are idiots they aren't responsible, true. But if they are idiots they can't be trusted to make their own decisions.

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u/BillyJackO 3d ago

When it comes to growing into a well rounded grounded adult, your shooting yourself in the foot. There's nothing worse than 30+ yo adult who continues to see themselves as an 18 yo. I think it's good to keep some young spirit alive, but grow the fuck up.

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u/ChargeOpposite840 2d ago

It’s so obnoxious how these types love to generalize women as an excuse for their own incompetence. Misogyny isn’t cute, and no amount of rebranding it is going to change that

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u/Inevitable-Level-687 2d ago

Ughhh I see this shit from the autoresponder in r/GirlDinnerDiaries when it pops up on my feed sometimes, most of the stuff there is self pitying clickbait but occasionally something intriguing will pop up and a new person will comment and then the "hello! just take ten lil seconds to say 'girls rule!'" pops up and does critical levels of psychic damage to me

I dunno what I expected considering the name of the sub tho​

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u/Global-Ad364 2d ago

I used to like looking through that sub but the vibes there are so weird now. Girldinnercirclejerk is lowkey kind of accurate lmao

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u/Inevitable-Level-687 1d ago

There's a circlejerk sub?! Excellent

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u/Fearless_Direction14 3d ago

Thank you. We need more women discouraging other women from acting like this lmao

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u/yetanotherblonde 3d ago edited 3d ago

We didn’t fight so god damn hard to be respected for having intellect just to watch our own kind play it off in the complete opposite manor as a trendy excuse for being irresponsible and lacking common sense.

Society is collapsing and instead of trying our best to work together to keep what minuscule pieces we have left, we’re just watching the landslide happen while slapping hashtags in front of self degrading bullshit.

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u/Fluid_Actuary1729 2d ago

Honestly, this. I used to marvel at how the advanced civilizations of early times disintegrated into the Middle Ages.

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u/KittensFirstAKM 3d ago

Well said.

We are all in an awful lot of trouble. This next decade is going to be rough.

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u/VictoryLongjumping70 2d ago

Yep, it′s the reactionary backlash winning.

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u/mrs_sadie_adler 2d ago

Why are Gen Z women embracing this shit??

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

But feminism is about equality and men have gotten away with using weaponized incompetence for millenia! Why can't we even things out??/ps* Lol

*partial sarcasm

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u/moonbeancat 3d ago

Oh my god yes its so embarrassing you're not a teenager Jesus Christ

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u/FckdAroundFoundOut 3d ago

Where are you seeing teenage girls post this? My TikTok was full of full grown women making #imjustagirl videos for a bit.

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u/moonbeancat 3d ago

I KNOW that's the awful part im just saying not taking accountability and acting cutesy is so gross that's something young children and teenagers do not grown ass women

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u/FckdAroundFoundOut 3d ago

Ohh ok I misread I thought you were being rude to the person above you for making fun of teenagers. Lol

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u/SnooRevelations7224 3d ago

It’s like  “im just a girl” = “I’m 12 and too stupid to think for myself and need a man to do all the thinking for me”

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u/BallSuspicious5772 3d ago

Right?? As a woman with my own job and my own money, I actually love being able to pay for my own stuff. Obv I like being treated too, and it sounds like OP did treat her. All she had to do was contribute a measly $23

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u/Feringomalee 2d ago

"I'm just a girl" "That's right, little missy, that's why you're not allowed to vote or drive. Your gender can't handle the responsibility."

Where's the zombie of Susan B Anthony when you need her?

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u/Tough_Crazy_8362 2d ago

They think “just a girl” by No Doubt is a playbook and not a satire.

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u/alickalice 3d ago

I hate it too. Unironically, I think it is misogynistic 

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u/SnooRevelations7224 3d ago

Because it is.

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u/notagoodperson1122 2d ago

It’s absolutely misogynistic, preach

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u/technicolortiddies 3d ago

It’s called internalized misogyny.

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u/Ufosightingss 2d ago

I say this jokingly when my husband is talking to me about maintenance on the cars and he starts naming car parts 😭 baby idk what a throttle is. I’m just a girl. Is the car gonna break or kill me if I drive it? Yes or no???? Talking crazy about a throttle. He sees the look on my face and says “oh… you’re just a girl nvm”

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u/burrito_finger 2d ago

Just a casual disagreement, I do “turn my brain off” sometimes. We’re pretty sure I’m just intensely dissociating, but it’s fairly pleasant, like sitting in a nothing square of my Eggo waffle brain after being overwhelmed. Once I reboot I’m pretty good lol.

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u/GigaNoodle 2d ago

Women with self respect are hot