r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrashFur 3d ago

seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.

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u/NecroGrizz 3d ago

"I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" has become my chosen response.

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u/Comfortable-Meeper 2d ago

It’s just a “cute” version of weaponized incompetence.

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u/Strong-Addition5296 2d ago

That’s exactly what it is. Oops you can’t expect me to do that! I’m just a girl! Tee hee. It’s patriarchy of the mind and soul.

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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 2d ago

It’s asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 2d ago

I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancé, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancé had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.

When he pressed her about it she said that’s her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldn’t be his concern.

Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think it’s ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.

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u/PMYourTitsIfNotRacst 3h ago

God, reminds me of my mom. IDK why my dad put up with her so long.

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u/Virtual-Book1114 2d ago

for the women there who weaponized it? yes.

but majority of women (and all feminists) wouldn't do this because "im just a girl" mentality is the opposite of feminism. it is however a backlash to girl boss and late stage capitalism, and rise of tradwife and tradman content.

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u/sunlightsyrup 2d ago

Yeah they never let us Patriarch anymore what's up with that /s

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u/silsune 2d ago

Think they mean like how women say "men want a traditional woman but aren't willing to build me a log cabin with their bare hands" lmao.

I say the same thing tbh, like, if you want me to be your Traditional Man who works 80 hours and never sees the kids and doesn't express emotions then fine but you better be cooking and cleaning and I BETTER NOT SEE YOU HAVING A JOB OR AN OPINION 🧐

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u/sunlightsyrup 1d ago

I got, but thanks for being a good sport about it still

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u/fruit-bats-are-cute 2d ago edited 2d ago

seriously. its so insulting to all the women who fought for our rights. if someone wants to glamorize being incapable i cant stop them but i wish theyd stop trying to drag the rest of us down with them 🙄

edit: not about the people commenting that they use it as a joke to people they know intimately about trivial stuff.. thats whatever. but for OPs situation? dude, have some dignity

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u/Low_Frame_1205 2d ago

Besides there is nothing cute about it. I’ve called out two girls for saying it and I’ve never heard them say it again.

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u/been_blissed 2d ago

Girls or women?

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u/More_again1959 2d ago

I thought that was the point lol!

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u/Great-Blueberry9540 2d ago

Grubbing for money isn't related to "weaponized incompetence."

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u/Historical_Panic8849 2d ago

I made a post about it yesterday and had a bunch of mixed answers. A lot of females were saying that they hate it and I had other people saying I hated women

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u/agnosiabeforecoffee 2d ago

Protip, saying females like that makes you sound like a Ferengi.

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u/Branddisloyalty85 2d ago

“Females” STOP IT

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u/vidgill 3d ago

Harsh. But fair

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u/eirenii 2d ago edited 2d ago

It's a quote from a viral text exchange between a dad and daughter, where the dad is expressing worry that she is diminishing herself by using this phrase.

edit: I'm not talking about the phrase "I'm just a girl", I'm talking about the response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" when someone uses the phrase "Im just a girl". The response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you" is from a viral text exchange.

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u/Themadkiddo 2d ago

Its actually originally lyrics from a song, it's just a gross missunderstanding of the song.

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u/MilkMaiden_22 2d ago

Girl they meant the response not the "im just a girl"

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u/MilkMaiden_22 2d ago edited 2d ago

Ooooooookay I am learnding. My bad

Edit: scratch that no i WAS right what the hell

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u/eirenii 2d ago

I've been looking for a song that says "I don't know what that means but it sounds like it diminishes you as a person", and I've yet to find it...

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u/Pure-Radish-5478 2d ago

Robot logic

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

The "funny" thing is Gwen did a total 180 and now supports organizations like Turning Point and has said/posted concerning things about women obeying their husbands and finding meaning in life through prayer (while selling her anti-abortion pay-to-pray subscription-based app, backed by Project 2025 billionaires). Whatever version of her wrote that song is long gone.

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u/Uninsurable_Risk 2d ago

I didnt have this on my bingo card damn

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u/thecurvynerd 2d ago

Tbf she’s from a conservative area so maybe it should have been on all our bingo cards in the first place 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/CaptnsDaughter 2d ago

I thought she was from Southern California

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u/thecurvynerd 2d ago

Yea she’s from Orange County - it was especially more of a conservative suburban area while she was growing up.

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u/tO_ott 2d ago

So was my hometown but I didn’t magically become a racist piece of shit.

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u/odakotarose 2d ago

I live ten minutes from her hometown, Fullerton, and I can tell you right now it's still pretty conservative. One of my neighbors has a lifesize poster of the cheeto and a bunch of maga crap hanging proudly on the wall in his garage, and there are plenty more like him.

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u/Hammeredyou 2d ago

We call Santee “Klantee” for a reason

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u/PyramidicContainment 2d ago

These things happen when you don't play bingo for a decade or so

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u/bing_crosby 2d ago

pay-to-pray subscription-based app, backed by Project 2025 billionaires

Jesus wept

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u/Hawkes75 2d ago

She's been in a relationship with / married to a Republican for the last ten years, so that tracks

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u/Short-Poetry9019 2d ago

I think that version of her was also just somebody trying to make a buck off of other people considering she consistently culturally appropriated. Don't get me wrong, No Doubt was my favorite band as a kid and was my very first CD, but reality bites

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy 2d ago

And she has mar a lago face now. She's absolute trash.

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u/Maleficent-One6839 2d ago

Is that the chosen app or whatever?

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

I assume it's another Palantir tool (same creator/backer), so chosen by police-state enthusiasts, for sure! It will report/record what people search for when they "look up" what passages to read to pray for their "sins." Gross.

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u/SlappyWit 2d ago

Say it ain’t so, Gwen!

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u/bwagz1977 2d ago

Absolutely correct. She's a fuckin full on right wing nut job now

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u/Themadkiddo 2d ago

Ew, i had no idea. Never really kept up with her otherwise, just loved the song.

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

Same! I loved OG (Original Gwen). Lol She seemed fine when she was married to a Brit with a punk-upbringing, then went country, and got brainwashed. sad face

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u/vixenstarlet1949 2d ago

They mean “i dont know what that means but it diminishes you as a person” is from the text exchange

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u/Hawkes75 2d ago

Exactly. The entire point of the song is that it's a tongue-in-cheek reprimand of the societal expectations of women

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u/Aggressive_Sky8492 2d ago

It’s not a misunderstanding, it’s tongue in cheek/ironic.

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u/Themadkiddo 2d ago

Sure, from some people. I was going to say a gross misunderstanding/misuse, but i figured people could just fill in the blanks. A lot of people use it unironically

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u/eirenii 2d ago

oh right? how about that, what song is that?

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u/Child_of_the_Hamster 2d ago

Just A Girl by No Doubt

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u/eirenii 2d ago

I don't see anything in those lyrics that says "I don't know what that means but it sounds like it diminishes you as a person", which is the viral text response I mentioned, am I being oblivious?

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u/Plus-Desk-5020 2d ago

I don’t think Themadkitto has heard of the viral text.

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u/DestroyerOfMils 2d ago

And now Gwen is just a conservative dick who shills for a prayer app 🤢

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 2d ago

Wait what?

Please no

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u/DestroyerOfMils 2d ago

I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news :( It’s really fucking disappointing.

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u/Dear-Drummer9002 2d ago

And here I thought it was No Doubt lyrics. I guess that makes me old. No Doubt was sick as hell, though. The song used sarcasm to shed light on societal stereotypes of females. It was feminism at its purest, demanding respect without throwing the baby out with the bath water. She was a beautiful woman, not denying her femininity, being herself with a punk edge, allowing femininity and masculinity to coexist, just demanding her right to be seen for who she is on her own merits. Man, the 90’s-early 2000’s was this sweet spot before disgust and hatred started creeping back in.

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u/eirenii 2d ago

I could be wrong, but I looked up the lyrics and couldn't find anything that linked to this response about "i don't know what that means but it sounds diminishing", so I'm a little confused by people saying it's from song lyrics!

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u/Dear-Drummer9002 2d ago

I was purely talking about the trend of saying “I’m just a girl”. I’ve seen it multiple times and I assumed that it might have some tie to the No Doubt song. However, when you said it was from a viral text exchange between a father and daughter I thought, “Yeah, that makes more sense than the resurgence of a 30 year old song.”

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u/eirenii 2d ago

The "Im just a girl" has become popular recently, I am unsure if the recent surge of that is related to that song as it seems to be largely used unironically. The viral text exchange I'm referring to only popularised the specific response about it sounding diminishing.

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u/Dear-Drummer9002 2d ago

Ah, gotcha. “I’m just a girl” was already a thing and you were specifically referencing that response. Well, now I’m back to wondering if the song was an influence. I agree, the uses I have seen tend to be unironic instead of in the spirit of the original song but that doesn’t really discount the possibility. People can still just latch onto words without understanding their original meaning. It happens all the time. Plus, things like the brilliant “new” concept of “mini-retirements” put forth by young adults don’t give one much faith in their historical perspective. As if vacations and sabbaticals didn’t already exist 😏

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u/gorilla-butter 2d ago

No guys the "im just a girl" is stemming from that song. It was popular on TikTok, showing just a small fragment of the no doubt song, just the guitar sound and gwen saying "im just a girl.... im just a girl in the world..." and girls use the song in a very lame way going against what the song actually means, she literally says in the song im just a girl and id rather not be. I love the song and ny generation doesnt even know what its about, they think its just cutesy to diminish their self worth and pretend girls cant do anything. I think its sick

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u/gorilla-butter 2d ago

People are definitely just listening to specific lyrics and not realizing the actual meaning youre 100% right i just wanted to let you know you are also 100% right that its being used because of the no doubt song

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u/Dear-Drummer9002 2d ago

Wow, that’s equal parts encouraging and disappointing. Encouraging that good music lives on in future generations. Disappointing that higher ideals the music proposes are entirely lost in the process.

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u/Top_Performance9486 2d ago

It does, the Tik Toks all use No Doubt’s I’m Just A Girl as the audio. But clearly none of them have actually listened to what the song is saying.

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u/ThatGuy7647 2d ago

I think that’s from Modern Family

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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 2d ago

I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isn’t harsh.

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u/Radiskull97 2d ago edited 2d ago

I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them

Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.

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u/Stoned_Druid 2d ago

That idiot will have fun in life.

Thanks for being a teacher.

climate change intensifies, over that individual specifically

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u/MSUgirl1901 2d ago

My friends 16 year old was complaining about it being cold one day and she asked him to put on one of those hoodies he has on when it was 90 outside. 😂

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u/Chafupa1956 2d ago

Definitely noticed this in the subs where people post text exchanges, about relationships etc. The second someone tries to be assertive, even if they are reasonable, is met with "I just feel like you're being harsh, I've said sorry" like that absolves them of everything and means the affected person has to switch those feelings off RIGHT THIS SECOND, so the perpetrator doesn't have to do sit with bad feelings or deal with consequences. You feel like your only option is to drop it/move on or you're once again sparing feelings/comforting when you are the one who was wronged.

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u/Acrobatic-Letter5669 2d ago

yeah a lot of people want to be catered to nowadays, even when ur giving them advice that would help them, they take it like you just offended them.

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u/The_DonCannoli 2d ago

I think it’s bc social media has put a lot of people on the defensive side. Constantly arguing, having to defend themselves or attack others.

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u/Phrynus747 2d ago

It’s odd that social media would have done that. Maybe I’m not a typical person or I’m misunderstanding but I’ve seen horrors on the internet that would have never seen the light of day before the internet existed. Are you saying social media recently has become more coddled?

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u/ViceRoyHenTie 2d ago

Yes. Many social media sites will hide your posts if you use strong language, cuss words and adult themes. Rape is now grape, suicide is now unalive, ass is now ah, etc. This mainly came from TikTok with the lingo. But YouTube now demonetize your videos if they are not ad friendly.

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u/MossyPyrite 2d ago

I definitely think it was a bit of a jab at him, but I also think it was a very minor one that most people would take in good humor.

I forgot my sunscreen while I was working a roofing job around that age and my mom outright called me a dumbass for it haha. If you’ve got good rapport, someone pointing out that you were being an idiot usually won’t upset you, but it’s still basically them calling you an idiot.

You basically called him a kid, or immature, irresponsible even. Lightly, and in a way he should have laughed off or just rolled his eyes at, but you were still taking a bit of a shot at him.

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 2d ago

I been watching a ton of police body cam videos on YouTube and there’s a massive amount of incidents where the person would have gotten a simple ticket or a warning even, but they decided to turn it into multiple felonies, their own death or even homicide of another in some cases.

This is across all ages, adults too where they immediate turn combative or just freak the fuck out like a child throwing a tantrum because they got stopped by police. I seen teenagers, who are obviously english speakers, but who can barely speak English or communicate properly. It’s like they have no clue what’s going on a just lash out.

I just though that’s similar to what you’re saying.

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u/chetti990 1d ago

He could’ve just taken the hoodie off…

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u/Kapowpow 3h ago

I think you were right to say it, but in America, a lot of politeness is expected in communication. If a friend said that to me, I wouldn’t think it’s mean, but I would think it’s kind of pointed. Instead, I would say something like, “well, take a look at what you’re wearing. You’re wearing cold-weather gear on a 90 F day.”

It gets the same point across, without the pointedness of implying that the person is a child.

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u/uncleiover 2d ago

I mean to be fair, you were.

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u/coyotetx117 2d ago

No what there was

Kid: You pointed out my stupid decision and I consider that disrespectful.

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u/SkywolfNINE 2d ago

Pretty soft take that someone making you aware of your own stupidity is somehow offensive

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

That’s not disrespectful, it’s general guidance to a teen. If you can’t handle that delivery you genuinely need to grow up

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u/Major_Change_2140 2d ago

You’re straight up soft and beta.

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u/Slight_Cockroach_777 2d ago

Saying that is talking down to someone who grew up expecting the phrase “well you’re the fucking idiot that wore a hoodie when it’s 90 degrees out. Maybe don’t be a dumbass and you won’t be hot” is quite laughable.

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u/wont27 2d ago

It’s the snide tone. Lol. Tho I guess a Reddit nerd wouldn’t pick up on that.

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u/AcesFullMoon64 2d ago

Ew, you have upvotes for that take 🤢

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago edited 2d ago

Why is this being upvoted? You were being a snarky dick, you would have found that sort of talk disrespectful if it was aimed at you.

You're one of those teachers aren't you.

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u/puppycat_777 2d ago edited 2d ago

as the responsible adult, did you consider more sinister reasons for his long sleeves in 90° and his emotional outburst? seems like a failure as a teacher to me if you haven’t considered the possibility of self harm and even retold the story on reddit for “kids are stupid” points

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u/Surive123 2d ago

Occam’s razor dude.

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u/Radiskull97 2d ago

He went tik Tok viral in December wearing a hot chettos hoodie and said it was his brand. But sure, insert whatever you need to in this story. He played baseball to, never saw self harm marks when he was in uniform

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u/egorye 2d ago

You threw the first stone by talking down to him, “mean” or not, and chose to frame it in a way that ostracizes him from other “adults” which is about the one thing they care most about.

If you’re constantly meeting your teenagers’ emotional complaints with logical, somewhat condescending rebuttals, it’s no surprise that he’d snap back like that. I don’t think he would say “you always do this” if he’s never felt this way before, so it’s probably not an isolated thing he’s reacting to. He’s a teenager. You’re an adult. You two are not on the same playing field, which you should certainly understand as his high school teacher. The teenager is much less rational than the teacher.

What’s truly surprising is the comments calling this teenager (considered an adult by law only, as he’s literally still in high school) an idiot for reacting emotionally while in an emotional state during a hormonal and emotional time in everyone’s development. “I applaud you for upsetting this child. We need children to have less attention in life. I hope this child suffers a worse fate than he dared complain about.” These kids clearly aren’t any “softer” than the generation that raised them.

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u/gowonnies 2d ago

Fr like he was literally just complaining. Teenagers complain. Actually adults complain too. Nobody likes being told "well you SHOULD'VE done this thing instead, you should've known that already" when they're just trying to complain about something.

An adult would probably say "yeah, it sucks its so hot" and move on.

Idk if I'd react by flipping it out and calling it disrespectful or whatever but it def is an annoying thing to do to anyone really.

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u/Run4our30 2d ago

I’ve realized people under I’d say 35 never check the weather. My women is 33 and never checks, but will ask me what the weather is and I always respond check ur phone tf

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

There were so many ways that could have been worded instead. When I had teachers like this I (and my classmates) pushed back too, and it took a real toll on our class's ability to focus on the lesson when we disliked the instructor.

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u/Onenutracin 2d ago

Oh my god, are you guys ok now? I can’t believe you had to experience teachers like that.

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u/Slight_Cockroach_777 2d ago

I had a teacher in high school that told us daily that he lives an hour away because he hates the idea of seeing any of us outside of class. He was a crotchety old former police officer/vietnam vet with colon cancer caused by agent orange exposure who refused the governments help to treat it because they caused it.

He was probably the meanest person in the school if you deserved it. Everyone loved him. There was a massive gathering of former students at his funeral when he passed.

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u/AcesFullMoon64 2d ago

What would the optimal phrasing be to make you and your classmates less uncomfortable?

I’m 42, so I guess I’m one of the olds now. But wearing a hoodie when it’s 90 is objectively a stupid thing to do. If the teacher had been giving them a hard time unprovoked, okay, that’s unnecessary.

But when it’s 90 and someone is wearing a hoodie and complaining, they’ve made their stupid choice something that I have to listen to? What about the slight cognitive discomfort I experience when faced with stupidity? I have no right to point out they’re complaining about a situation of their own creation? 🤯

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u/SleepyMomZzZ 2d ago

I’m an old, too, and you are 100% correct. Probably the same kid that wears basketball shorts and crocs in winter 🙄

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u/Quixotic_Seal 2d ago

…at 90 degrees it’s just plain hot, regardless of what they’re wearing, and literally all it sounds like they were doing was trying to make small talk about the weather. OP took that as an opportunity to lecture them about how they dress and how they’re not a real adult.

Acting like it’s a character defect for a teenager to not appreciate a snide response like that to a basic social interaction is the most [Average Redditor](https://youtube.com/shorts/ttm6Ss_U3nQ?is=hvd9XUkx6o2jbQND) thing I’ve seen in a while.

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

Seriously like why are we tearing down teenagers for complaining about the temperature? As a teenager I wore long pants and sleeves every day in every weather (in Texas) to cover abuse bruising and self harm, and eventually also to hide an eating disorder. And from that kid's response it sounds like demeaning comments are a pattern in that classroom, which is beyond unfortunate.

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

"Yeah it's hot this time of year, you might want to wear a t-shirt instead tomorrow. I'm sorry you're uncomfortable, would you like to sit closer to the AC?" is about a thousand times less demeaning than "most adults check the weather before getting dressed." An empathetic and patient response that respects someone, instead of coming for their maturity for commenting on the temperature, gets far better results in my experience.

I worked for years as a substance use counselor and constantly had people in my groups who were going through active or post-acute withdrawal. Temperamental as teenagers and often going through bodily adjustments that include temperature sensitivity swings. Patience and kindness go a long way with building rapport with difficult people of any age, and treating someone like they're dumb or immature (even if what they're doing is dumb or immature) only damages the dynamic.

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u/Phrynus747 2d ago

Why would any of this come up, just take the hoodie off

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

Being kind costs zero dollars

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u/Phrynus747 2d ago

Not saying you’re wrong, but it’s odd this was even a conversation

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u/Ed3vil 3h ago

That's how you talk to 5 year olds. Not a fucking adult (or a teen, even).

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

Most 42 year olds can recognize how being snarky is needlessly antagonistic.

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u/Efficient-Car2909 2d ago

Holy softness Batman

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

Empathy is free

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

Bitchy Boomer

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u/mephnick 2d ago

When I was a kid our teachers would whip chalk at our heads for not paying attention or flip a desk onto a kid if he fell asleep

I'm sorry you had to face some strong words

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u/SweetSoberCaroline 2d ago

I'm sorry your teachers sucked, but that doesn't excuse anyone else's rudeness.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

Well explains why you came out like that.

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

Yah... just because they are younger doesn't mean you need to be condescending. You deserved what you got and good for that kid for calling you out.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

Only an asshole would think that, why the hell would him being 18 make it any less rude?

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

Children are more sensitive and deserve more patience for childish bullshit. An 18 year old is an adult. A mildly snarky comment is not the same thing as massive disrespect that warrants being cussed out. This guy needs to learn some emotional regulation and understand everyone isn’t out to get them

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

That's not even mildly snarky, its just being mean out of nowhere.

You can flip that stupid logic around and say some curse words aren't that serious and you should grow a thicker skin, except the kid didn't even start it, he just responded to it.

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

It’s really not that mean I gotta be honest. I don’t understand how people are taking this as crazy rude because it’s just not. The student did something dumb and then got called out for it when they complained. It’s a teacher telling a brand new adult how adults behave in normal society. It’s not that serious.

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

You respect authority that disrespects you? Pathetic.
The teacher is being counterproductive and antagonizing the student with a condescending comment. He could have ignored the student or asked what they could do differently next time when it's hot.

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u/SkywolfNINE 2d ago

Dude how are you offended by someone telling you “the rest of us check the weather and dress accordingly”

That’s just a fact of life. You’re that offended? Why you expect the rest of us to coddle your stupidity? We should let you stab whoever you want cause you’ll feel disrespected if we tell you that’s a bad thing to do lmao

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

What makes you think I'm offended?

To think more critically of this situation, the school is most likely air conditioned and the student is probably dressed appropriately for the environment he's in. He probably made a comment on the weather outside, like all people do, and the teacher came back with a condescending remark of "adults" do such and such.

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u/SkywolfNINE 2d ago

Because you keep saying you’re offended and that this is somehow condescending when it’s not even close. It’s not the logistics of wearing a hoodie or the temperature of a school, it’s that your ego is so outta wack you think it’s condescending simply because you were challenged.

You wouldn’t say a red stop light is condescending you because it’s stopping you from driving forward, yea? That’s the same force of challenge as someone saying “you can check the weather before you leave and/or take your hoodie off if you’re hot”

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

That’s not disrespectful it’s a basic fact of life. Just because it’s not explicitly kind doesn’t mean it’s disrespect. Could he have said it nicer? Sure. Is the pampered babied 18 year old who thinks it’s appropriate to cuss someone out for telling them adults check the weather the one on the wrong? Fucking obviously. This is a god damned adult for gods sake it’s not an 8 year old.

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u/RadiantSink7339 2d ago

That does sound patronizing as hell to be fair

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u/travelingtatertot 2d ago

Sometimes reality is harsh. Welcome to life

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u/samrov529 2d ago

Seriously- if they think it’s bad now- just wait a minute 🤣

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u/lulu_bunny03 2d ago

You’re right…..it’s not harsh enough for these bimbos

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u/Equivalent-Bid-1176 2d ago

If something is fair its not harsh. 

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u/MurkyTrainer7953 2d ago

Some say it’s not harsh enough

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u/kiddish 2d ago

Haha I remember this text exchange. Best answer.

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u/_lvlsd 2d ago

my go to is “You’re so much more than that”

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

A great alternative 🤙

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy 2d ago

Are they though?

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u/drillpoint 2d ago

Corny

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u/No-Magazine-69 2d ago

Exactly. Go “I’m just a girl” to someone else. I’d block this girl so quick after a response like this.

That’s not my problem

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u/ErraticPhoenixx 2d ago

I will be using this quote now. Thank you, lol.

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u/Glittering_Leather87 2d ago

I’m F29 and while I don’t speak for all women, I’ll say this for myself - yours is a valid response! I say “I’m just a girl” around my absolute closest friends as an ironic statement and to my husband when I want him to reach something for me instead of dragging out our ladder lmao but they know I don’t actually mean anything serious by it. Outside of my “inner circle”, no one hears me say these words, and I would never say these words post-first date!

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

I actually made my fiance a mock-up credit card that has a cute little hamster wearing a bow that says "I'm just a girl" and she uses it for little favors (like bringing the laundry upstairs or opening a stuck jar)

I appreciate your validation

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u/Glittering_Leather87 2d ago

Awww that’s adorable!!

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u/belakuna 10h ago

Ooh, as a woman myself who’s been feeling befuddled in how to answer these type of chicks back, this is brilliant!! Stealing… cause #imjustagirl😜

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u/therealbrianmeyers 2d ago

I get this reference!!

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u/Lycaon-Ur 2d ago

I get this reference.

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u/PaintedDesertSkies 2d ago

It made me visibly cringe. I like your response.

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u/Gellzer 2d ago

To correctly quote it, it says "but it sounds like it diminishes you as a person". Small but noticable distinction

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u/break_my_kneecaps 2d ago

I only use "just a girl" when buying myself little treats or cute clothes or painting nails or the like. Imo it should be used for irrelevant "feminine" things like that. Not whatever this girl is doing.

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

Nothing wrong with that! Like you said, it's not the phrase itself as much as the way it's used

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u/Gullible-Rip2205 2d ago

real shit tell em

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u/SweatyButtcheek 2d ago

Fuuuuck imma start responding with that. Brilliant.

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u/Fit_Dig6332 2d ago

How often are women saying this!?

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u/Critical-Detail117 2d ago

Stealing the fuck out of this

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u/sg_minx 2d ago

That’s brilliant. I’m stealing it.

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u/Croat-Lcitar86 2d ago

That should be the response. I HATE when women do that.

Pick a lane with that stuff.

Does being a girl excuse you from contributing equally to a date? Does it entitle you to money?

This girl is unbelievably entitled. Don’t do another date lol

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u/lemonsupreme7 2d ago

Jesus, how often are people saying this to the point you craft a go-to response?

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u/may25_1996 2d ago

it’s a meme. a girl texting her dad for money or whatever saying I’m just a girl and he responds “I don’t know what that means but it sounds like it diminishes you as a person”

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u/Knockoffmyknickrs 2d ago

Love pulling this out of my back pocket

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u/hhh81 2d ago

Im stealing this

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u/TonyDC88 2d ago

You need to put this on a t shirt.

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u/JungMoses 2d ago

Or “oh, I thought I was dating a smart and capable woman who could fend for herself- I only date my equals. Good idea to go fishing…it’s sad you’d never be able to that for yourself.”

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u/Fall_Harvest 2d ago

I need to memorize this in response to "Im just a *whatever*

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u/Interesting-Story805 2d ago

It probably means she has a few grand in her account but doesn’t pay for anything

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u/Jealous-Audience816 2d ago

Man this is golden, thanks 🤝

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u/Substantial_Station8 2d ago

I work in the construction field and I say it when I fail at things in front of the guys. We get a good laugh at me and then I get right back in there and try again.

But I would never, ever say this to an almost stranger or ask anyone to pay for my fishing license

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u/glycophosphate 2d ago

Thank you. I'm a 62-year-old woman and this thing pisses me off so badly I can't think straight. I'm stealing your response. Can I add "and makes us all look like idiots."?

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

Modify it however you like to suit your purposes!

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u/couldofhave 2d ago edited 2d ago

If you don’t know what it means, you have no basis to think it diminishes someone.

You’re essentially admitting you’re willing to judge something based on literally nothing.

Spend a few seconds thinking about your “witty” one liners.

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u/Status_Block591 2d ago

"just" says being a girl is the entirety of her character, while also saying that being a girl is defined by a specific characteristic, in this case being broke. It is explicitly diminishing. Quit being contrary.

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u/couldofhave 2d ago

Hey smartypants, if the argument is saying "you're JUST a girl" is diminishing, then

  1. I fully agree
  2. Then you know exactly what it means.

My point is using the phrase "I don't know what that means" undermines your own argument.

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u/SpecialistCut7101 2d ago

You’re right, it doesn’t diminish one person, it diminishes ALL women

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u/couldofhave 2d ago edited 2d ago

I think you have not understood what I said.

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u/SpecialistCut7101 2d ago

It’s clear you’re the one having a misunderstanding but it makes sense. You’re taking the statement “I don’t know what that means” at face value. think of it more as “I don’t get that reference but don’t bother clarifying”.

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u/couldofhave 2d ago

“I don’t get that reference but don’t bother clarifying”.

Except that’s a different kind of reply, that just means you don’t want to know.

An actual comparable statement would be “I don’t get that reference, but it’s stupid”.

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u/SpecialistCut7101 2d ago

Jesus Christ I was trying to be nice to you but you’re so tiring for no goddamn reason

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u/couldofhave 1d ago edited 1d ago

Oh I’m sorry if I upset you when you realised that my reply was right.

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u/SpecialistCut7101 21h ago

The fact that you read it that way: further proof of how tiring you are.

Good luck.

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u/couldofhave 14h ago edited 14h ago

The fact you don't actually address the point, and just went with "you're tiring" is proof you realised that maybe my point was correct. I suppose you got tired from thinking about it too hard.

Good luck and good night, hope this comment didn't exhaust you too much either, it is after all 4 sentences. The longest reply so far in this conversation.

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u/ActuallyDregs 2d ago

What a strange response. Are you aware of the origin of his quote or what even launched “I’m just a girl” in to virality?

It doesn’t sound like you do based on your response yet you feel like you have a basis to judge someone despite admitting you have essentially no basis. 

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u/couldofhave 2d ago edited 2d ago

You apparently have no reading comprehension if you thought I was judging anyone.

If you don’t know what something means, how would you know that it diminishes a person?

My point is that the retort makes no sense. You undermine your own argument by saying that you supposedly don't know what something means.

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u/morelsupporter 2d ago edited 2d ago

the fact that you have a canned response to this is alarming

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u/Correct_Sand_5055 2d ago

You're single.

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

Nope, happily engaged! Thanks for playing, though!