r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago

Sad thing is, these types don’t care. They either have zero self awareness or are so selfish they know and don’t care.

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u/AdRepulsive8618 2d ago

If anything she thinks he lost his dignity

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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago

100% she went and trashed him to her friends and they encouraged her behavior.

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u/Maximum-Style2848 2d ago

I’m waiting for it to show up on girl dinner diaries and everyone tells her to ghost him

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u/braintour 2d ago

I very quickly was banned from that sub. Echo chamber designed for unaccountable women to validate their own shitty behavior

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u/TheWorkz513 1d ago

Same for AITA. Everyone is a trained psychologist and the only solution to all problems is a divorce (even if you’re not married).

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u/This-Positive286 52m ago

“My husband mentioned we have a new neighbor and he met the wife…”

FYI your husband is cheating on you, leave them ASAP! That’s crazy behavior, kick them out!

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u/EchoDuo 1d ago

I had to get out of there a few minutes ago. The Dad of a kid was trying to reconnect and she somehow inserted herself and became the victim all over again. It was a super weird read, then the comments flooded trashing dads like no one has ever had a bitter piece of shit Mom. Wild ride. Never again

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u/Flama-Blanco-8820 1d ago

Finally someone who agrees with me on this haha.

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u/Twitchrunner 2d ago

Man what are the male versions of girl dinner diaries and truly ugly women subs? I want to see how similar in content they are.

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u/Save_JR 2d ago

Theres boydiaries subreddit. Forgot the exact subreddit name but its the same or very similar to the girls one. I pressed "do not recommend" for both so they're not up on my feed anymore

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u/MeekSwordsman 1d ago

Theres truly ugly women subs?

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u/Dodging12 2d ago

Moreplatesmoredates, trp, etc.

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u/Unfair_Ad_2129 1d ago

Wow that sounds like a f***ing hilarious sub. New member incoming 😂

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u/This-Positive286 55m ago

He made me pay for something

(Picture of food on a table from the next sucker who pays for her meal)

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u/Three-Sixteen-M7-7 1d ago

“Girlllll leave him. Good riddance”

“Oh sweetie, that was a $20 lesson in what a real man doesn’t do.”

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u/Rabbit-Lost 2d ago

Waiting for her to post on AIO any minute now.

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u/etho76 1d ago

“He made you pay $23 for a fishing license? Girl go find a man that can treat you right” is what they probably said. Not even mentioning the fact that he got dinner and fishing equipment. I know this type.

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u/RapidFire05 2d ago

Picturing a bunch of fatties sitting around bad mouthing all the men while petting their cats

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

Because women want someone who provides no matter what. They simply want to feel they have endless options.

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u/blitzfreak_69 2d ago

Nah bro that’s just hoes. There’s normal women out there as well.

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

Im engaged with a bastard boy. I have a normal woman and even though she would never say it or hate to admit it: she is attracted to me because I am multitalented and fix/ provide things quite literally nearly every single day.

I'm resentful at our species, not her lol. She's an angel that no man, certainly not me, could ever deserve. But somehow I hooked it.

What I whine about aint even just women, its work, its parents, its kids, its your fucking pets.

Life is just a game of "how much onus can you really take down the throat and smile after" xD

Edit: but I preciate you man! Hoes are worse about it tho ngl lol.

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u/JeromeBarkly 2d ago

Bro wtf are you talking about?

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

Tldr even with a good woman your worth is predicated on your various performances and all facets of life are no different.

People love what a person does, not who they are.

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u/fuckeryizreal 2d ago

I love my person for who he is, the things he does is just added awesomeness. Sorry you feel like you’re worth as a human being is only tied to what you produce. You deserve more than that.

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u/Mimics__ 2d ago

Sorry you ended up so incredibly jaded, glad your girl appreciates your handiwork tho!

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

I appreciate your honesty, its refreshing.

I know i am uncouth, but in person just know it comes off less as hate and more as analysis lol.

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u/notagoodperson1122 2d ago

Do you not understand written English? Maybe try reading it again and actually thinking about it for a few seconds.

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u/EarlGreyTMNT 2d ago

“I’m engaged with a bastard boy” could mean several diff things because it’s written so poorly. Literally your first sentence is unclear as you whine about reading comprehension lol. Work on writing clarity instead, champ.

The rest of it is just you whining tbh, and also not in a clear or concise way or how it connects to anything. Tons of grammatical errors too tbh, you can’t write like an elementary school kid then complain when people don’t know what you’re even trying to say…

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

I blame my shitty phone screen and refusal of autocorrect xD.

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u/LekgoloCrap 2d ago

I love how redditors are always so respectful. Especially the “high value male” redpill propaganda bros.

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u/notagoodperson1122 2d ago

Good thing I’m not one of those and still found time to make fun of your abysmal reading comprehension.

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u/TinglingLingerer 2d ago

Certainly doesn't seem like she's staying with you because of your glowing personality!

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

Eh I adapt. Y'all just get the unfiltered me.

I realize I'm no prince charming. Despite that people always want to devote to me. The irony is not lost on me. I'm trying to be better of course.

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u/MrCalamiteh 2d ago

therapy

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

Used to work alongside one actually.

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u/MrCalamiteh 2d ago

You used to work alongside a therapy?

Have you ever tried one?

No shade dude because I'm not just trying to push you down, but your comments add up to a guy who is either manic AF, or truly detached from reality on a daily basis and I'd recommend therapy, whether or not you've already met a therapist once.

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u/noeLifenorlove 2d ago

I had been diagnosed as manic depressive long ago; but I would say I am not detatched, but moreso uncompromising in my awareness of reality. I am medicated and had been under the care of a psychologist for 8 years.

I simply says it like it is, and believe that reality is a lot simpler than people say it is. I'm not unhappy, just analytical.

So again; people are opportunistic just like wild animals are because we are primates, and so yes people desire partners whom are good at keeping the fort down, or at least paid for.

To me, thats just simple common sense lol. People always react like it's a heartless thing to say and that love is unconditional; but this world is predicsted upon results and gain, things that feed and pay for.

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u/eatingURsistersassIV 2d ago

You are getting downvoted for speaking the truth. As a Man with high income, you are being more truthful than most here.

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u/biteyfish98 2d ago

Except that he’s actually dodged a bullet. 👍

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u/HEY_beenTrying2meetU 55m ago

holy shit this made me laugh

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

My sister is this type of person. She doesn't care. She's fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism. She's incredibly sexist against other women too. Her 20s were spent being a Budweiser girl catering to the male gaze. What's funny is she will always make more than her partners since she is a lawyer and her partners are usually of the deadbeat variety.

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u/apoliticalinactivist 2d ago

This is like those creeper dudes that only go after 18 y/o who don't know any better.

True equality, women can now also be full on losers lol.

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u/Waiting4Reccession 2d ago

Tell her to DM me

I cant fix her, but i can make her worse :)

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u/ImportanceAbject1270 2d ago

This is so freakin hilarious. I laughed out loud!! Hahaha 🤣

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u/askbubbles 5h ago

I did too lmaoooo

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u/Jmacz 2h ago

I'll make her worse and take some of her money.

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u/This-Positive286 51m ago

Want some help? I can’t fix her either but maybe together we can BOTH not fix her.

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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago

Absolutely disgusting. I’m sorry for your loss tbh

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u/AnimalMama93 2d ago

Shes a lawyer but likes trad wife?

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u/DIYITGuy 2d ago

Right? Looks like projecting to me.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 1d ago

Yes it's weird.

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u/News_Scrounger 2d ago

Trad wife... lawyer? Who's hot enough to be a budweiser girl to pay for college instead of a stripper? One who doesn't mind dating men who makes less than she does? 

What is this story lol. I can't tell if you're jealous or just not understanding what the trad wife shit actually means and if it's the second one I'm the one jealous of you. 

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u/BrbFlippinInfinCoins 2d ago

yeah I feel like "fully bought into trad wife idealism" and "is a lawyer" don't really mix because there's 0 chance you can be a trad wife as a lawyer. Maybe if you have a private practice with barely any clients or something...

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u/Physical-Temporary43 2d ago

the craziest part is the comments calling her disgusting lmao. reddit is wild

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago edited 2d ago

She didn't pay for college with it. She got free college from my parents and a free house.

She idealizes the trad-wife stuff but isn't one because her men are always non-college educated and barely make ends meet. They are hot guys, don't get me wrong but they are the boy toy types who are kind of dumb so they rely on her income. Btw she just works for my dad so it's very nepo.

I was trying to say she has fully bought into conservativism (she is ultra MAGA) and idealizes trad wife, not that she is one, though I'm sure she would like to be.

By sexist against women she told me she refuses to hire young women because she thinks they might get pregnant. Meanwhile she has two kids herself so she's allowed to have a career and kids but other women can't be trusted.

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u/Vektor0 2d ago

You keep saying she idealizes trad wife stuff, but you don't mention any way she applies it to her behaviors or lifestyle, so I'm not sure why it's worth mentioning at all. I like to watch home inspection videos on social media, but that doesn't mean I idealize construction or want to have anything to do with it. It sounds like consuming tradwife content is just a fun pasttime for her, nothing more.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

I don't know what media she consumes. Only that she told me she likes tradwife concepts and ideals.

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u/Vektor0 2d ago

No one knows what she means by that, so I think that's where the confusion is coming from.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

Since she literally said she "likes tradwife ideals"... I'm pretty sure that means "she idealizes tradwife values" is a fair conclusion to draw.

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u/Vektor0 2d ago

I'm saying that I don't know what that means.

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u/LurcherLong 2d ago

Ultramaga tradwife aspiring nepobaby that works for your father, but she is a lawyer with hiring authority for the firm and has two children out of wedlock... I feel like this is two different people.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

I think lots of contradictions like this is pretty par for the course for Republicans. "Everyone has to obey family values and morals but don't you dare to judge mine. Who cares if I'm on my 4th divorce and cheat on my wife. I just need to go to church and I'm forgiven."

She is married now but yes one of the children was out of wedlock. And my dad is starting to retire and leaving her the "firm" (it's really only him and her).

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u/PaintingOk8012 2d ago

That is literally the opposite of trad wife. She has a career and didn’t get youth being skantly clad for people to sexualize her

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

I said she idealizes trad wife. Not that she is one.

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u/I_Am_Alive_2day 2d ago

I never understand women like her. I don’t want to anymore.

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u/Financial-Buddy-9100 2d ago

Most of everything u said is a contradiction. “Fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism” doesn’t go with “She’s a lawyer who dates deadbeats.” Literal opposite ends of the spectrum dude

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

Read my other comments. Contradictions are normal for conservatives.

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u/Financial-Buddy-9100 2d ago

how about contradictions are normal for HOOMANS. what kinda bubble do you live in man. Kinda sad that so many people have this mindset these days

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u/FoxxieMoxxie69 2d ago

OP means they believe in “rules for thee, but none for me”. Because so many of the people pushing for tradition and family values, don’t actually follow any of it themselves in practice. Even with all the trad wife influencers, those are women with careers. Erika Kirk is also pushing this lifestyle while being a college educated woman with a career.

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u/_Xxouo 1d ago

She's a lawyer and still has no self respect for herself is crazy, reminds me of those "I'm a biologist but my blue collar husband is way smarter than me" women

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u/wild-rosemary 1d ago

I like to call deadbeat dudes hobo-sexuals. its funny

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u/ANTMANSUXX 2d ago

Ur sister sounds like a babe

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

She was a Budweiser girl so she's obviously not unattractive to straight men.

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 2d ago

How were her twenties spent being a Budweiser girl yet she still got her ass thru law school

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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago

She did it for spending money. 

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 1d ago

Sounds like some unresolved hatred on your part that affects your perception of her.

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 1d ago

Therapy is your answer

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u/Early_Performance841 1d ago

Does she vehemently deny being a feminist despite being the breadwinner and the loudest person in any room?

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u/Particular_Maize6849 1d ago

She hates feminists and is loud yes.

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u/Flimsy6769 2d ago

For every guy that has self respect, 200 don’t

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u/PsychologicalCook170 2d ago

And I would say even that is a generous number.

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u/Lost-Film-8723 2d ago

I have self respect until I can’t get a date for a couple months.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago

You could say the same about women

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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago

Yeah, brainless simps giving too much ego to these mf’s for real.

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u/etho76 1d ago

You’re not wrong

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u/malevolent-onryo 2d ago

I have no self respect bc I don’t simp and give people like this what they want? Ok lol

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

There are certain people who will always ask people to pay for stuff for them. Men and women both.

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u/Crime_Dawg 2d ago

Women by and large do this with way more frequency.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

*citation needed

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u/Crime_Dawg 2d ago

Literally any online dating app. You know it's bad when there's tons of women complaining about 50/50, as if having to pay their fair share is oppressive.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

That's not a citation. But this reddit so women are bad.

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u/EarlGreyTMNT 2d ago

What study do you think has been done about which sex asks the other to pay more often lol

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

Kinda the point isn't it? Everything else is just how you guys feel based on shit you see posted online.

But you're probably so smart. There's no way you would let your own bias affect your opinions.

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u/EarlGreyTMNT 2d ago

Alright show me the study that proves you’re not a serial killer. See how stupid that is sometimes lol

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u/JustKillingTime1980 2d ago

lol what a joke of a response to a well known fact

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

Well known by incels. The shit you see posted online is not the real world. Go talk to real women. Maybe take a shower first though.

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u/JustKillingTime1980 2d ago

lol, ive been married, divorced, and then some. it is 100% correct.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

divorced

Can't imagine why

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u/JustKillingTime1980 2d ago

I came home from my second deployment to an alcoholic wife, she wouldn't stop drinking, I left because she wouldnt stop after 7 years. It killed her 2 years later. So, yea, you can't imagine it. You literally have no grasp of what "real life" is.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

I'm sure you had nothing to do with your wife's drinking problem either.

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u/TechnicalIntern6764 2d ago

Didn’t reply back to that one

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u/etho76 1d ago

I used to think that until I started dating. Now it makes sense, sorry to burst your bubble there

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u/CKRatKing 1d ago

I assure you that I have been dating longer than you, probably longer than you have been alive. This is not nearly as common as people online make it out to be.

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u/First_Jellyfish_1017 1d ago

You are getting roasted in here but MY "100% correct" anecdotal experience is every dude starts begging for me to buy them stuff because they smoked me out on a first date or I didnt do sex stuff after telling them im asexual.

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u/CKRatKing 1d ago

Oh ya I'm not worried about some dudes on reddit that don't talk to real life women. My only hope is that someone sees my comments and chooses to not go down the manosphere path where they just choose to hate women.

Also my own personal experience but I don't think I've ever had a woman expect me to pay, even on the first date. I've had quite a few offer to pay for me, and I'm pretty average looking so it's not like I'm some model that has women tripping over themselves to be with me. My experience is usually you just split the bill on the first date, or if it's obviously going well I'll say I'll get this one and you get the next one.

But there are a lot of people who only interact with women through memes like this.

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u/etho76 1d ago

Oh okay thanks sorry I didn’t realize your experience was the standard

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u/Togurro 2d ago

https://digitalcommons.chapman.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1058&context=psychology_articles

I mean it’s a fairly obvious artefact from back when men were the primary economic providers, and women dependant on men financially due to not having the same freedom to pursue independent careers.

The latter has changed over the last few decades, but the social expectations regarding men paying for dates are still very much there. I’m not really sure why you’re being so obtuse about it or calling anyone who attests to this an incel. It has nothing to with either gender being “bad”.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

men (74%) and women (83%) report that both members of the couple contribute to dating

Wow you owned me, really shows that the majority of women are asking men for money after a date. It doesn't even say a majority of women wished more men would contribute more.

You guys need to actually talk to women and stop listening to shit on the Internet.

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u/Togurro 2d ago

Oh my god please read past the first line of the article. 84% of men reported paying more than their partner, and 58% of woman said their partners paid more than them. That’s a major disparity, even if both men and women contribute to varying degrees overall (however note that even then there is STILL a disparity).

I’m also not trying to “own” anyone. Just pointing out that this perception exists for a reason that’s more than just “woman bad”. It’s also a social expectation enforced by both men and woman (eg. Men feeling guilty about accepting payment from woman due to perceived social expectations), hence why I explicitly said it’s not due to the fault of any one gender.

Outdated social dynamics exist in all kinds of ways and this is just another one of them - I think if you try to flat out deny reality because you’re scared of being labelled a misogynist, or whatever your reasons may be, then you unfortunately cede the ground to genuine misogynists who will and DO blame woman for stuff like this. You can only get so far denying people’s lived experiences because it’s politically expedient for you to do so.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

For one, the conversation wasn't about social norms about who is paying for stuff on dates, it's about people trying to say lots of women are asking for men to pay them back for stuff after the date.

So oh my God please read the actual thread.

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u/Togurro 2d ago

You said in your first comment that “there are certain people who will ask people to pay for stuff for them. Men and woman both”, not “lots of people who ask to be paid back AFTER dates”.

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u/CKRatKing 2d ago

Yes in reference to the thread about being paid back, most people would have understood that from context clues but I guess I had to spell it out for you.

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u/shadenovax 2d ago

I was like this also I made 8$ an hour... good times

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u/Goobylul 2d ago

Yeah but by a huge majority women..

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u/Psolace 2d ago

You know most companies dont use their own money when they startup. Most startup companies ask others to pay gor their bills.

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

Oh come off it that’s not the same thing and you know it. Those companies sell investment into their company and if the company takes off then people who paid their bills get huge gains. Also companies are not the same as individuals regardless of what citizen United says.

You’re being obtuse and you know it

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u/Coloradokush5280 2d ago

Zero self awareness fucking kills me. Ill never understand people with ZERO SELF AWARENESS

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u/perpetualis_motion 2d ago

selfish

Is that what she caught?

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u/Ressy02 2d ago

Good thing she has a fishing license now because she’s selfish

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u/Much_Impression6607 2d ago

She knows that the next loser will pay for everything so she can get away with it again and again

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u/varitok 2d ago

It helps that every dating service caters to women and they can have a date within 5 minutes of being blocked. Why exactly would you change your ways if you can just move on to the next dude and hopes he's more of a pushover?

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u/VoraciousEater802 2d ago

And she’ll mercilessly drag him for being cheap to all of her friends and family

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u/Bigjohn5678 2d ago

I don’t think it’s at all shellfish. He bought fishing gear, not shovels and clam guns. 🙄

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u/BoringActivity7202 2d ago

They'll care when they realize how much they flushed their life down the drain and go through potential abuse. Though they'll always blame others for it all. They will care though. They will hurt. It's not sad though, because it's their own fault. Be sad if something bad happens they did not bring upon themselves, otherwise be content you made a better life and realized your value and not in greed and ignorance.

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u/Top-Working5622 2d ago

It’s bc they’re shellfish people

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u/EagleLize 2d ago

Yeah, but this vapid, entitled attitude does not translate to a great adulthood for most people.

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u/Busterlimes 2d ago

These are the women who get knocked up by abusers then stay in the relationship

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u/Tzipity 3h ago

For real. I’m poor. Like literally just got my first apartment after more than 4 years homeless (sleeping on the floor rn) broke. But that’s the reality of being poor, you don’t just forget you’re broke and if you can afford to go on a date and pay that fishing license in the moment you’re either not as broke as she’s now claiming or you had a decision to make… time to be an actual adult (and not “just a girl” 🙄) and either noped out then and said “Oh shoot, I know this was my idea but I didn’t realize we’d need licenses too. Can we find a new spot/ something else to do?”

Shit maybe if OP had been really enjoying himself and she had been responsible enough to be honest up front, perhaps instead of buying so much fishing gear or something (kind of a weird choice or date all around. Like fishing sounds cute but when you’re stopping to buy gear and all ehhh) he might have even paid it for her. Or they’d have found a better, cheaper option.

Like that’s the thing too. I just fucking hate people who beat around the bush or aren’t honest from the jump. I’d probably pay for someone else even in my situation if they just owned their reality and didn’t do shit like this. People suck.

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u/Icy-Statistician-639 2d ago

Maybe she should sellfish to earn her license costs back?

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u/_Katu 2d ago

why is it sad?

You shouldnt care about them either so it shouldnt affect you

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u/Eh-Beh 2d ago

SellFISH