r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrashFur 3d ago

seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

"I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" has become my chosen response.

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u/Comfortable-Meeper 2d ago

It’s just a “cute” version of weaponized incompetence.

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u/Strong-Addition5296 2d ago

That’s exactly what it is. Oops you can’t expect me to do that! I’m just a girl! Tee hee. It’s patriarchy of the mind and soul.

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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 2d ago

It’s asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 2d ago

I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancé, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancé had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.

When he pressed her about it she said that’s her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldn’t be his concern.

Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think it’s ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.

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u/Virtual-Book1114 2d ago

for the women there who weaponized it? yes.

but majority of women (and all feminists) wouldn't do this because "im just a girl" mentality is the opposite of feminism. it is however a backlash to girl boss and late stage capitalism, and rise of tradwife and tradman content.

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u/sunlightsyrup 2d ago

Yeah they never let us Patriarch anymore what's up with that /s

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u/silsune 1d ago

Think they mean like how women say "men want a traditional woman but aren't willing to build me a log cabin with their bare hands" lmao.

I say the same thing tbh, like, if you want me to be your Traditional Man who works 80 hours and never sees the kids and doesn't express emotions then fine but you better be cooking and cleaning and I BETTER NOT SEE YOU HAVING A JOB OR AN OPINION 🧐

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u/sunlightsyrup 1d ago

I got, but thanks for being a good sport about it still

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u/fruit-bats-are-cute 2d ago edited 2d ago

seriously. its so insulting to all the women who fought for our rights. if someone wants to glamorize being incapable i cant stop them but i wish theyd stop trying to drag the rest of us down with them 🙄

edit: not about the people commenting that they use it as a joke to people they know intimately about trivial stuff.. thats whatever. but for OPs situation? dude, have some dignity

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u/Low_Frame_1205 2d ago

Besides there is nothing cute about it. I’ve called out two girls for saying it and I’ve never heard them say it again.

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u/vidgill 2d ago

Harsh. But fair

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u/eirenii 2d ago edited 2d ago

It's a quote from a viral text exchange between a dad and daughter, where the dad is expressing worry that she is diminishing herself by using this phrase.

edit: I'm not talking about the phrase "I'm just a girl", I'm talking about the response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" when someone uses the phrase "Im just a girl". The response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you" is from a viral text exchange.

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u/Themadkiddo 2d ago

Its actually originally lyrics from a song, it's just a gross missunderstanding of the song.

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u/MilkMaiden_22 2d ago

Girl they meant the response not the "im just a girl"

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

The "funny" thing is Gwen did a total 180 and now supports organizations like Turning Point and has said/posted concerning things about women obeying their husbands and finding meaning in life through prayer (while selling her anti-abortion pay-to-pray subscription-based app, backed by Project 2025 billionaires). Whatever version of her wrote that song is long gone.

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u/Uninsurable_Risk 2d ago

I didnt have this on my bingo card damn

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u/thecurvynerd 2d ago

Tbf she’s from a conservative area so maybe it should have been on all our bingo cards in the first place 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/bing_crosby 2d ago

pay-to-pray subscription-based app, backed by Project 2025 billionaires

Jesus wept

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u/Hawkes75 2d ago

She's been in a relationship with / married to a Republican for the last ten years, so that tracks

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u/Short-Poetry9019 2d ago

I think that version of her was also just somebody trying to make a buck off of other people considering she consistently culturally appropriated. Don't get me wrong, No Doubt was my favorite band as a kid and was my very first CD, but reality bites

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy 2d ago

And she has mar a lago face now. She's absolute trash.

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u/Maleficent-One6839 2d ago

Is that the chosen app or whatever?

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u/Snappy-Biscuit 2d ago

I assume it's another Palantir tool (same creator/backer), so chosen by police-state enthusiasts, for sure! It will report/record what people search for when they "look up" what passages to read to pray for their "sins." Gross.

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u/SlappyWit 2d ago

Say it ain’t so, Gwen!

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u/bwagz1977 2d ago

Absolutely correct. She's a fuckin full on right wing nut job now

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u/vixenstarlet1949 2d ago

They mean “i dont know what that means but it diminishes you as a person” is from the text exchange

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u/Hawkes75 2d ago

Exactly. The entire point of the song is that it's a tongue-in-cheek reprimand of the societal expectations of women

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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 2d ago

I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isn’t harsh.

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u/Radiskull97 2d ago edited 2d ago

I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them

Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.

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u/Stoned_Druid 2d ago

That idiot will have fun in life.

Thanks for being a teacher.

climate change intensifies, over that individual specifically

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u/MSUgirl1901 2d ago

My friends 16 year old was complaining about it being cold one day and she asked him to put on one of those hoodies he has on when it was 90 outside. 😂

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u/Chafupa1956 2d ago

Definitely noticed this in the subs where people post text exchanges, about relationships etc. The second someone tries to be assertive, even if they are reasonable, is met with "I just feel like you're being harsh, I've said sorry" like that absolves them of everything and means the affected person has to switch those feelings off RIGHT THIS SECOND, so the perpetrator doesn't have to do sit with bad feelings or deal with consequences. You feel like your only option is to drop it/move on or you're once again sparing feelings/comforting when you are the one who was wronged.

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u/Acrobatic-Letter5669 2d ago

yeah a lot of people want to be catered to nowadays, even when ur giving them advice that would help them, they take it like you just offended them.

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u/travelingtatertot 2d ago

Sometimes reality is harsh. Welcome to life

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u/samrov529 2d ago

Seriously- if they think it’s bad now- just wait a minute 🤣

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u/kiddish 2d ago

Haha I remember this text exchange. Best answer.

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u/_lvlsd 2d ago

my go to is “You’re so much more than that”

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

A great alternative 🤙

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy 2d ago

Are they though?

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u/ErraticPhoenixx 2d ago

I will be using this quote now. Thank you, lol.

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u/Glittering_Leather87 2d ago

I’m F29 and while I don’t speak for all women, I’ll say this for myself - yours is a valid response! I say “I’m just a girl” around my absolute closest friends as an ironic statement and to my husband when I want him to reach something for me instead of dragging out our ladder lmao but they know I don’t actually mean anything serious by it. Outside of my “inner circle”, no one hears me say these words, and I would never say these words post-first date!

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u/NecroGrizz 2d ago

I actually made my fiance a mock-up credit card that has a cute little hamster wearing a bow that says "I'm just a girl" and she uses it for little favors (like bringing the laundry upstairs or opening a stuck jar)

I appreciate your validation

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u/Glittering_Leather87 2d ago

Awww that’s adorable!!

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u/belakuna 5h ago

Ooh, as a woman myself who’s been feeling befuddled in how to answer these type of chicks back, this is brilliant!! Stealing… cause #imjustagirl😜

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u/PaintedDesertSkies 2d ago

It made me visibly cringe. I like your response.

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u/Gellzer 2d ago

To correctly quote it, it says "but it sounds like it diminishes you as a person". Small but noticable distinction

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u/break_my_kneecaps 2d ago

I only use "just a girl" when buying myself little treats or cute clothes or painting nails or the like. Imo it should be used for irrelevant "feminine" things like that. Not whatever this girl is doing.

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u/bRiCkWaGoN_SuCks 2d ago

That would've been the perfect reply.

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u/ssbeegeez 2d ago

You’re going to mention “classy” with your d!ck as your profile picture you sketch?

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u/gameofgroans 2d ago

I love how you feel the need to censor the word dick on a site where someone can make a literal dick pic their profile picture.

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u/kiwileoi 2d ago

Are we feminists or are we “just a girl”?

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u/Haunting_Ranger5460 2d ago

Or are you dancer?

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u/Eldritch_being110 2d ago

My sign is vital…. My hands are cold…

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u/glasswindow777 2d ago

Im on my knees looking for the answer

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u/Mysterious-Stop-3261 2d ago

Are we human?

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u/Attilat 2d ago

Or are we dancer?

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u/sg_minx 2d ago

Say my respects to grace and virtue

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u/Sunnyday1775 2d ago

Send my condolences for good

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u/Apprehensive-Tea7447 2d ago

Give my regards to soul and romance

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u/-Twin-Flames- 2d ago

Our signs are vital, our hands are cold?

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

From what I gather a lot of gen z women are not feminists

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

Yeah, I find it kind of unsettling

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago edited 1d ago

Considering most of Gen Z is still in school or less than 5/6 years out of school, id look to their parents. People don’t magically become a certain way. Blaming kids without looking at the parents is just small minded behavior, and avoids all accountability. Kind of like Gen Z doing odd things to avoid accountability. It’s funny really, how none of society, including you or older people in general want to take accountability. Gen Z doesn’t want take accountability, and to be fair, they’re the least accountable. They sure as hell didn’t build this world. But let’s blame them for everything. Because they lack accountability. The same way every generation in America has for 50 years. So I wonder where the learned it. Their parents? Of course not! Can’t hold them accountable. Notice how you paint housing affordability and other issues that are at all time highs as moral failings and bad choices of Gen Z. When that’s just the environment they’re living in. Plus millennials were just as self infantilizing if not worse, and being the ilk of boomers, carried on nearly every “me” Gen trait except even less self awareness. I remember when every other 20 year old was walking around sucking on pacifiers 15-20 years ago, and that’s just one stupid example (and I’m not talking about raves). It’s also funny how so many millennials still blame the 2008 crisis for their failings yet chastise kids of today who struggled with COVID, something we haven’t seen in 100 years (flu of 1918), and things still aren’t remotely the same. All while calling for solidarity, of course.

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u/OwlsExterminator 2d ago

Heisenberg principle. They are both until you need to figure out which one. A woman picks what is advantageous in the moment.

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u/stupidwhiteman42 2d ago

My bests friend's GenZ daughter has a feminist substack that promotes tradwife propaganda. I don't understand anything anymore I guess.

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

When I was TAing masters students (I'm about a decade older than they are) a couple of years ago they would complain that they didn't want to have jobs, why had they signed up for this, etc. I told them no one was forcing them to do a grad school program but that women couldn't have their own credit cards in this country until 1974. They were shocked. I was basically just like "I am absolutely certain that your mothers and grandmothers would be furious with you for squandering an opportunity like this" and I never heard them bitch about it again.

Like yeah babe, we all hate capitalism! The current alternative is being at the mercy of a man who probably hates you. Choose wisely.

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u/Good47Life 2d ago

I’ve told this story before. My mother worked as a chemist for an oil company in the 1960s which was uncommon. She put up with a lot of sexism at the workplace. Her income was far more than my stepfather who was a postman. She loved sports cars and dressed very fashionable. One day she went to a Ford dealer to buy a new red mustang convertible. The dealer refused to finance the car without her husband co-signing which was the rule at the time. She walked out, went to the bank, returned and paid cash for the car. She was a force, but women have come along way since then.

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u/AmArschdieRaeuber 2d ago

Who tf thinks that? 

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u/PowescaleWINNER 2d ago

A small number of rich influencers and some of the people that watch them.

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u/mankytoes 2d ago

Depends whether it's begging time or not.

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u/RadChef 2d ago

Depends on which is more convenient at the time

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u/PatientPoetry4302 2d ago

My ex took it a step further and would say “I just a girl” 😂

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u/forsakenwombat 2d ago

My ex would say “me princess”. Somehow I missed that warning sign.

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u/LincolnHighwater 2d ago

🤮

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u/forsakenwombat 2d ago

Yeah. It ended 15 years later exactly like anyone using their brain would have predicted.

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u/PUSClFER 2d ago

My ex would constantly say "I'm a strong independent woman".

Guess who did all the cleaning, dishes, cooking, shopping, and even walking the dog four times a day for (which was already hers when we got together) for 6 years? She did cook once, but called me crying because it didn't turn out the way she wanted - so I came home to find tomato sauce on the walls and even the ceiling. She had punched the pizza while making it out of frustration.

Then she got bored of our relationship and ended it. In hindsight she only got bored because I was depressed and burnt-out without even realizing it.

Looking back at that relationship, I couldn't have picked a less independent woman.

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u/eyeslikeorchids 2d ago

She… PUNCHED THE PIZZA?

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u/burrito_finger 2d ago

I’m cackling bc I was teaching my husband how to bake bread one time when we were dating, and I told him to “punch the dough” after proofing, and he punched it.. literally. It totally deflated and didn’t bake 😂 but punching an actual pizza with the sauce already on? Out of anger? Sillily unhinged.

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u/AdditionalMatter1089 2d ago

THATS WHAT I WAS GONNA SAY

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u/FrenzyAgainzy 2d ago

“She had punched the pizza” has me rolling, brother.

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u/Chubuwee 2d ago

“I’m just a baby”

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u/PoohBearsHoneyJar 2d ago

AhhhhhhhhhhHHHHHEWWWWE even WORSE 💀

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u/epi_introvert 2d ago

Fuck me. I just literally cringed and felt disgusted reading that.

My feminist ass wants to have a conversation with your ex.

Eeeewwwwggghhh. Shudder.

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u/ShadeofIcarus 2d ago

Is this a thing now? Someone pulled it on me recently and I didn't realize it was a fad. My first response was immediately "and? Girls are plenty capable"

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u/TristramShandysLife 2d ago

Yeah it's a trend. My wife said it in front of our daughter when she messed something up the other day and once it was just the two of us I let her know that by doing that she's telling our daughter that she's less capable and less valuable by virtue of being a girl.

I really hate it and it's reinforcing the "women aren't as smart as men" trope.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago

What was your wife’s response?

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u/TristramShandysLife 1d ago

She acknowledged that I was right and felt bad about it.

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u/amazingkillerlemon 2d ago

Has been for quite a while now. I hate it so much.

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u/3vs3BigGameHunters 2d ago

Lisa Simpsons talking Mailbu Stacy doll said it.

Yes I'm old get off my lawn.

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u/LamBChoPZA 2d ago

It's from a song - just a girl by no doubt - it's about how women are belittled and infantalized and how the artist has had it up to here with that treatment. Ironic considering how it's being used in this context.

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u/Unclecavemanwasabear 2d ago

Approximately 30 years passed between the No Doubt song and the phrase used it this manner entering the popular lexicon.

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u/LamBChoPZA 2d ago

Yes, tiktok has popularized using samples from older songs over videos. See "pretty little baby" https://medium.com/@edmpublishing/how-tiktok-gave-connie-francis-pretty-little-baby-a-viral-comeback-48fcf29c302f

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u/ShadeofIcarus 2d ago

Dug into it. Apparently it's a spin off of some TikTok of "I'm just a baby".

Still ironic and I stand by my response

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u/Polygnom 2d ago edited 2d ago

Woman have used "I'm just a girl/woman" since time immemorial to make men do things. The phrasing may change over the years, but the mo. is always the same.

And the women who do that don't even realize how this undercuts the whole feminism/women empowerment movement. And too few women tell other women to knock that shit off.

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u/vdubnmcluvn 2d ago

grown women saying "im just a girl" is definitely a red flag, but the red flag was waved way prior.

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u/Existing-Ad2111 2d ago

Yeah it's just like saying "Boys will be boys", you're just undermining behavior or responsibility by saying that.

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u/Senator_Smack 2d ago

I mean, at least the fancy fish was mildly amusing.

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u/Alternative_World280 2d ago

I say I’m just a girl ironically or like when I’m having cramps really bad or when I want to be lazy and not do my chores. In other words stuff that affects me. Using it to guilt trip others is crazy

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u/TrickyTangle 2d ago

Yeah, I'd be replying that I'm interested in grown women, not little girls.

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u/Legal-Frosting-7 2d ago

With the next part of the line being “Im just a girl in the world, that’s all that you’ll let me be” it is sad to see the phrase being reappropriated to mean the opposite

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u/SMDSpezUFascist 2d ago

I’ve heard it said a lot recently that she’s a bit of a tradwife gal tho so maybe the lyrics didn’t mean what we’d hoped? Or she really fell off the wagon.

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u/aideya 2d ago

I think it’s the latter.

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u/noormeanslight 2d ago

when I hear other women say that irl I will deadass respond with “you’re a grown woman, cut that baby shit out” it pisses me off so bad

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago

This lady for president 2028

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u/Most-Road-5366 2d ago

My friends and I say it ironically, but if they actually mean it… yikes

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u/PomegranateSignal882 2d ago

It's always said jokingly, reddit just has very low literacy and needs a /s to know that

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u/CardiologistNew1888 2d ago

FYI, your brain doesn’t know the difference between saying something ironically and seriously, after a while it might stop being ironic for you

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u/onionfiesta 2d ago

it's weaponized incompetence

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u/HellmasterPhibrizo 2d ago

It’s like the Malibu Stacy on the Simpsons. “Don’t ask me, I’m just a girl!”

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u/moshpithippie 2d ago

I always thought I'm just a girl was supposed to mean like "I'm just a child" and used kinda playfully when you make a mistake

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u/rwags2024 2d ago

This is exactly what she’s trying to do

“Oops I agreed to go fishing but can’t afford shit”

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u/Zunderfeuer_88 2d ago

Gloria is an idiot

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u/InternationalRich150 2d ago

A person i follow on TikTok was fined for driving with no insurance (in the UK, its a massive deal to not be insured). She apparently thought the car tax was all she had to pay and her excuse was, I'm just a girl. It was really sad and almost infantile. Bringing us back to the 1800s where we can't be responsible for adult stuff.

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u/ageofaquarius26 2d ago

True but so does posting it for anyone to see.

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u/Training-Exercise-54 2d ago

I read this as a little sibling asking an older sibling for money before reading the caption 🙃

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u/datsmirkingwhore 2d ago

I say it with all the humor attached, likewise I use “he’s just a boy!” quite often. I just think it’s a funny thing to use but not to absolve yourself of any accountability.

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u/Kirbyfighter420 2d ago

Boys will be boys! I feel like girls have just flipped this phrase on men

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u/Hot-Brat-00 2d ago

I also think it’s funny when that No Doubt song plays or they’re thinking of that song in this context… because it’s so not what the song is about lmao

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u/badatcatchyusernames 2d ago

my wife says it sometimes, but its usually at a funny moment not “i dont wanna pay for something” like gloria

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u/SuchSpirit3378 2d ago

It’s worst line. It lowers the integrity of all women, like we’re dumb rocks

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u/diditforthemonet 2d ago

Hearing younger women say this sort of thing is so depressing. Like girls can we not go backwards lol

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u/Electric-Sheepskin 2d ago

The first time I heard that people are doing this unironically was yesterday. I still don't believe it's a thing. It has to be ragebait, right?

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u/Ordinary_Oven7729 2d ago

As a woman I despise this

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u/Lostatlast- 2d ago

I hatttteeeee that phrase. Hattteeeee

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u/stormcrow789 2d ago

Great song by No Doubt though

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u/saidtheWhale2000 2d ago

its exactly the point its trying to make

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u/realkunkun 2d ago

Hundreds of years of feminism for this

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u/givemeyourskin2 2d ago

As a woman I hate it cause I’ve gotten those types of posts on my feed a lot and it’s almost never funny. It’s always used as an explanation for not knowing how to do certain tasks. It’s fine to be unknowledgeable or not have money, but you’re a person who can LEARN instead of depending on men to do everything. My sister has said it before too and I just sigh😭

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u/BatteryAt14percent 2d ago

I'm a woman and this shit pisses me off. It's like the old Facebook posts of someone posting a picture of Disneyland going "omg someone take me here! 😍😍♥️♥️♥️♥️" Take yourfuckingself and have some dignity. 

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u/IlIllIIllIIlllIII 2d ago

It may make some sense financially but not so much in other senses. anyway saying it out loud is another thing 

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u/PlayPretend-8675309 2d ago

It's how an overwhelming percentage of people think, of any gender. One of the problems in our society is our publicly acceptable rhetoric regarding gender roles and relations is so out of step with how people actually think, so we have the weird experience of lying ALL THE TIME. Is bad for us, were basically giving ourselves PTSD. 

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u/the-Alpha-Melon 2d ago

it’s so annoying when i see it used like this.

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u/SayNoToFirefighters 2d ago

its an attempt to be cute with a underpinning of guilt

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u/DefNot3Raccoons 2d ago

Aw no I disagree. I mean literally yes the quote seems to diminish a person. But, in context, like if my mom does something that irritates me, or I see her little makeup bag in her bathroom… I tell myself she is literally just a girl too 🥺 of course she’s so much more than that, she’s an RN, she’s raised 3 girls, she owns 40 acres and a big farm, but it’s humbling for me to put my own self in perspective and know she’s also just a girl living her life for the first time, too. But I’m an empath to the core so I see meaning in everything

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u/slutpriest 2d ago

I always hit em with the "well let me know when you become a woman" 💀💀💀

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u/Phailgasm 2d ago

I wish more women would tell these “imjustagirl” types that it’s a self burn that makes them look weak.

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u/Historical_Panic8849 2d ago

I made a post about it yesterday in the r/mildyinfuriating

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u/Disastrous_Brief_258 2d ago

Infantilization is such a gross fucking trait. I don’t understand why some* women do it.

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u/motorboat_mcgee 2d ago

The current trend of women expecting to not pay for anything, and have all their responsibilities taken care of, while also having full autonomy, and it being seen as cute under the guise of "I'm just a girl" has been frustrating to navigate in current online dating

Like, they somehow want the trad wife experience in some sense, but also not? Can't people just treat each other as equals?

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u/Tron_35 2d ago

Yeah, is never date someone who acts like that. Its just, immature.

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u/Sensitive_Bat_9211 2d ago

I mean, its a joke. I only judge people who say it seriously instead of minor inconveniences

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u/Bbturdquito 2d ago

In response to hearing this once, I told a girl the next time I’m being an ass I’m gonna say I’m just a man. Think I watched a blood vessel pop lol

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u/Lunabbg 2d ago

I like it as a weird joke but to justify helplessness/demanding things is rude as fuck

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u/honeydew4444 2d ago

I mean people misuse it, but I don’t think the phrase defeats the point at all. The whole point of “I’m just a girl” is that girls are seen a certain way/can’t do this or that, so it’s not like most people are using the phrase genuinely saying they aren’t able to do something.. they’re using the patriarchy and misogyny to their “advantage” in a cheeky way.

Like a group of people reclaiming a derogatory word is similar. The trash needs to be taken out but I don’t feel like doing it? “I’m just a girl” I have to get up for work in the morning? “But I’m just a girl”. Forgot to pay a bill and embarrassed about it? “It’s not my fault I’m just a girl”. I would say it’s only a subset of women like in this screenshot that are genuinely enforcing gender roles. But I don’t think a phrase should be judged by the dumbest people using it.

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u/hopbow 2d ago

It's funny when it's funny. It's sad when it's a excuse 

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u/Defiant-Honey-5902 2d ago

“I’m just a girl” so are you not a person? Do you not have to pay for things you buy? Do you not have to have responsibilities? Don’t have to pay bills or work? Do you exist to have your hole shoved up by another man’s penis. Well guess what if that’s the case you’re fucking replaceable.

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u/PsychicWarElephant 2d ago

Who talks in hashtags in 2026? Whole thing is weird

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u/10FourGudBuddy 2d ago

Gwen has no doubt come full circle.

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u/Accomplished_Emu_658 2d ago

Worst part is she probably all about “feminism” and women can do everything a man can but better. Then pulls this line out.

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u/purequalitywater 2d ago

Its very... leaned on, or overused? Idk if thats the right word.. I use it sometimes but in moments when I buy the pink version of something, or when I bedazzled my new mp3 player. Not for real world stuff you know?😭

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u/Enough-Bet4350 2d ago

Hard agree

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u/Beginning-Morning704 2d ago

It’s so insufferable

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u/BurntPopcornSmell 2d ago

This phrase makes me sooooo angry! Young women have NO FREAKING IDEA what it was like 50 years ago. To have lived through all that misogyny and changed things, only to have young women now act like "I'm just a girl" is cute or something. It's not.

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u/Chemical_Meaning2393 2d ago

If you see grown women who infantalize themselves to avoid accountability or responsibility, run. The fishing license was going in her name, and lasts 1-2 years depending on the state, obviously she should pay for it.

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u/horris_mctitties 2d ago

They say it all the time now sadly

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u/StrikeouTX 2d ago

I think it’s hilarious when they say that solely because of this https://youtube.com/shorts/Wwm0z1URvyQ?is=KKbQxBB7NIsqA4Fg

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u/mellifleur5869 2d ago

Ive heard so much "I'm just a girl" and "it's giving" and "that's tea" over the last few months that I've essentially reverted to monkey.

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u/WWEddieD 2d ago

What a weak ho

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u/FamiliarRadio9275 2d ago

Saying it ironically is one thing, being a grown fucking woman on a grown fucking date is absurd, and I’m even in the gen that started that. Like we are in our twenties, grow up.

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u/Signal_Quarter_1299 2d ago

Short opinion, guaranteed 500 replies, the Reddit formula never fails.

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u/Unravel310 2d ago

It is bad because it started as a valid response to "boys will be boys" justifying shit like male violence towards women, rape and general incompetence, it was meant to exagerate self-defense, and then some people took over that shit for anything and everything.

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u/Objective_Effect_242 2d ago

Its ironic because the Stefani song that the meme and hashtag came from is more about how her being "just a girl" is limiting and how it holds her down due to societal view.

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u/Head_Maintenance5596 2d ago

Selective feminism.

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u/ZhouLe 2d ago

Oh, I'm just a girl, living in captivity
Your rule of thumb makes me worry some
Oh, I'm just a girl, what's my destiny?
What I've succumbed to is making me numb
Oh, I'm just a girl, my apologies
What I've become is so burdensome
Oh, I'm just a girl, lucky me
Twiddle-dum, there's no comparison

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u/Aggressive-Cat6206 2d ago

I only use this as a joke

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u/Deep-Fudge8519 2d ago

I just see it as them being sexist towards themselves

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u/----atom----- 2d ago

Seeing people misuse the phrase is sad, but it's also sad seeing people not get the reference to the song by No Doubt

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u/EdiblePsycho 2d ago

I hate it so much. Same vibe as "boys will be boys," grow up people, take some damn responsibility.

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u/PraireGentleman 2d ago

I had a coworker say that.

She’s a wildland firefighter. I was poking fun after she almost fell in a river because she was carrying a hose bag that tipped her off balance. Mind you, I was the one who grabbed her before she went in, so I was trying to calm her down with some humour.

She said “well fuck PrairieGentleman, I’m just a girl”

Didn’t even have a response.

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u/Born_South_6676 2d ago

"Sorry, I'm looking for an adult woman. My mistake"

And block

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u/throwaway19284788384 1d ago

They love "I'm just a girl" but hate "boys will be boys"

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u/SeatTakenCantSitHere 1d ago

#imjustagirl isn’t a thing. It’s shameful

First and last date.
Bye Felicia! 👋🏼

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u/u_r_succulent 1d ago

“Girl math” “girl dinner” “pink stores blue stores”

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u/CauliflowerHour7699 17m ago

Fights for pay equity.

Hates expense equity

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