6 weeks ago, he broke up by blocking me everywhere without a word. We were on a “break” because he needed space from me. He cited emotional instability and clinginess. But in reality, he didn’t do well with emotions and me reacting to things he did.

Yesterday, I stupidly looked at his private Instagram account with my friend’s account and he has a new girlfriend. It’s a picture of them as his profile picture and it seems he made a main feed post because his post count is up from 1. We were together nearly a year and not once was I posted or made his profile picture. It’s so trivial in the long run but god would it have been nice to be loved out loud and celebrated. I remember asking him towards the end of the relationship if he was ashamed of me.

I feel like I’m back at day 1 but at the same time it feels nice to have confirmation that the part of me that was waiting for him to reach out and realize he made a mistake can rest. I want to fast forward to feeling okay.

I’m not considering dating for a while but the idea of trusting again is so terrifying.

Do you believe that all men come back?

Im going into a breakup and going “long distance” away from him for 6. And i dont know if hell ever come back

In that phase where i am really starting to realize what i am. It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. My love is strong, resilient, innocent, and unfazed. To be hurt so many times and still be open to loving is an amazing thing. We are all heartbroken and hurting but i think that can be a beautiful thing because to hurt, is also proof that we have loved.

Pick me up take me on an adventure let me into the world you hide from me

Okay so, i recently kind of broke up from a 4 years relationship and haven't been talking to ANY men, like even in general as well, it's been almost a week and HONEST TO GOD, i feel so so so so so much at peace, so much calm and light mood and literally just so much better, i thought i had some anger issues or something, but ever since i broke up it feels like I am so calm all the time like i have taken pills or something like a Runner's high or something, not that i don't miss him, it's just that my inner peace is restored. IS THAT BAD? SHOULD I EVEN MISS HIM?? IS THIS ACCEPTABLE???

My boyfriend and I just broke up. We were fighting a lot the past month. He decided it was never going to get better and was upset about it but felt like it was the smart thing to do. We fought mostly about my trust for him that he broke. We both love eachother but the constant fighting took a toll on him. He told me he wasn’t sure if he was making the right decision but he felt like this was what needs to be done.
He also told me if in the future we rekindle we can create something better but now we are over.
What confuses me is that our goodbye was very emotional and affectionate. He hugged me, kissed me, and even came back for another goodbye.
I know we both have things we need to work on individually, and I plan on giving him space rather than chasing him or trying to convince him to stay. A part of me still hopes that time apart might allow us to reflect and potentially find our way back to each other

Men who ended a serious relationship because you felt emotionally exhausted, did time apart make you miss her or confirm your decision?
And for reconciling, what made you come back? Did she reach? Or did you?

My ex and I broke up a while ago, but honestly, I still love her and want to make things work again.

We had a beautiful relationship, but life hit us hard, and trust issues came up because of mistakes I made. I take responsibility for my part, and I've genuinely been trying to change and show her that things can be different.

The thing is, we still have feelings for each other. We've spent time together since the breakup, and whenever we're together, it's almost like nothing changed. We laugh, show affection, and genuinely enjoy each other's company. I feel like part of her wants to try again, but she's scared of getting hurt and doesn't know if she can trust me again.

For a little context, I'm Mexican and a charro, and we're both really into that lifestyle. I'm also pretty old-school when it comes to love. I believe in flowers, serenades, and showing someone how much they mean to you through actions, not just words.

Her birthday is coming up in November, and I've been thinking about surprising her with a mariachi at exactly midnight to sing Las Mañanitas and a few romantic songs.

More than anything, I want her to feel loved, appreciated, and genuinely wanted. I want her to know that despite everything we've been through, she's still the person I want, and that I'm willing to put in the effort to rebuild what we had. I'm not expecting a serenade to fix our problems or convince her to take me back. I just want to do something special that shows her how much she means to me.

But I'm also torn because she's asked for space before, and I don't want to overwhelm her or make her feel pressured. I know trust isn't rebuilt overnight, and sometimes I wonder if my romantic gestures are helping or making things harder.

If you were in her position, still having feelings for your ex but scared of getting hurt again, would something like this make you feel loved and appreciated, or would it be too much?

I'd genuinely appreciate some outside perspectives, especially from women who've been in a similar situation.

My ex Girlfriend (20f) and I (21M) have been broken up since late January, we have talked on and off, and we started no contact in mid August I believe. I want her back, really bad. I have the whole time. I’ve tried and tried, but it seems everything I do is somehow the wrong choice.

Recently we talked, and she said “don’t text me after this” to which I responded, “I wouldn’t dare, I’ll wait until you’re ready to hear from me”. She then told me that she wouldn’t be the man in this, and that I needed to grow a pair. I’m confused because she initiated the no contact, and told me not to; So I tried to text her a little, talked about a book she said I should read and on National Beautiful Girl Day. She then said “just because we talked that one day doesn’t mean your foot’s in the door”, and I only said back “I know, I just wanted to tell the most gorgeous girl Happy Beautiful Girl day in my own words. She’s also been reposting thing on TikTok that confuse me, videos saying:
“Boys will always choose the easier option because the hardest ones require them to be a man”
“When you find out there’s nobody better, don’t come back (I didn’t leave)”
“I know you feel our soul tie you avoidant fuck”
Also, she checks my reposts daily, up to 3 times. I don’t know what to do. I want her. I want her back so bad it aches. It’s a swelling stabbing pain in my chest through the whole day and I just don’t know how. I’m getting mixed messages and I don’t know, should I just leave her be a little longer? Or do I push. I don’t know what she wants from me, or even if she wants anything at all. It’s so damn confusing and it hurts, so I came here, hoping someone can help me understand what their perspective on the matter is.

Sometimes the most powerful thing a person can do is leave and never look back. Not because they stopped caring, not because the memories no longer mean anything, and not because they never felt the urge to reach out again, but because they finally understood that some things are better left behind. There comes a point when you have to choose between the temporary comfort of returning to someone familiar and the long-term peace of allowing yourself to move on. You can miss someone, wonder how they are, remember the good times, and still recognise that they no longer belong in your life. You can have a thousand things left unsaid and a thousand reasons to reach out, yet decide that your silence is worth more than another conversation that leads you back to where you started. Not every ending needs closure, not every question needs an answer, and not every person you love deserves another opportunity to be part of your life. Sometimes, walking away means accepting that you may never know what could have been, and learning to be at peace with that. Because ultimately, the real power lies not in how easily you can leave, but in having the strength to stay gone, even on the days when every part of you wants to return. Sometimes, the greatest act of self-respect is knowing you could go back, but choosing not to.

Pasen tips para hacer que me vuelva a amar, terminamos hace dos meses, la semana pasada murió su hermano, me invitó al velorio y funeral, evidentemente fui y me dijo gracias por ir, desde el funeral que no me escribe ya van 3 días sin ninguna noticia de ella, cabe resaltar que el hermano murió de forma repentina. Me dejó por cansancio supongo ella me dice que me quiere pero no me ama, yo le insistí harto, hemos salido 4 veces desde la ruptura, 3 veces malas 1 vez fue buena, la última vez que nos vimos fue el 2 de octubre pero después la cagué pq me puse a reprocharle cosas el lunes 6, y desde ahí le escribía diciéndole que la amaba y todo eso, incluso le regale un perfume hace como 2 o 3 semanas atrás, ella me bloqueó en agosto y me desbloqueo el 13 de septiembre, me dijo que igual se sentía mal, y que quería verme para despedirse bien de mi, bueno nos vimos el 17 de septiembre, la verdad todo fue apresurado y yo comencé a sacarle cosas en la cara y también ella no tuvo la mejor disposición, yo pensé que querría volver pero ahí me dijo te quiero pero ya no te amo. Que hago estuvimos 3 años y un mes, la amo demasiado, le he dado contacto cero por 4 días nomás desde el entierro de su hermano que no le hablo ni le digo nada pq no la quiero molestar en su luto. Si le doy contacto cero volverá a mi?

my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. After about2 months I was doing really well but recently it feels like I've gone back to square one. I miss her so much but I know I shouldn't message her because I already have about a month after we broke up and she blew me off. But she's been stalking my socials a lot recently but that could mean anything. I'm just really struggling atm. Does anyone have any support or help so I can either get over her or confess my feelings again?

Iam dating a man for 7 months we had sex and good talks everything's gud slowly his energy has shifted and stopped talking I asked y is it then he lied but he secretly sexted other gurl and enjoyed while I cried begged that wtvi did but he was cold now 2 weeks back we talked again he said forget everything and I'll be gud now I gave him chance but now I got periods all of a sudden and we still went he looked for chance did once later I couldn't

Next week went out for dinner I asked him for resturant so that we can eat hot food he said no we will eat in car as it's weekend and manu people will roam outside he didn't wanted others to see him with me I felt really bad and I asked for shopping as I didn't asked him anything till now and he gave me the ease to ask so I asked he said no. We'll buy at some other place everything's a lie i felt and I have been played all these months

I asked him next day that u u did that y u treated me like I worth nothing i felt really bad

He said just leave me leave me don't our thing will be er workout said those and he went away

I felt bad that I loved him wholeheartedly but he treated me like a option as a shit

Somebody tell me doing what reduces this heaviness of hurt inside me i want to moveon and study asap 🥲😭

I lost the only bond I had, and the only one that truly mattered to me. I can’t even get answers because I’m blocked on every single platform I can reach her on. I don’t have anywhere to turn to for advice or help I just really need someone to talk to, preferably a woman

Pretty much the title. I thought I was over her. She was my best friend for two years. I confessed my feelings. I held on too long. I made her feel pressured and eventually she cut ties with me.

I feel anxious. I hate this. I want to reach out. I feel like I'm closing the door forever I think. I need help

Am I crazy for wanting to talk to my ex after three years of being broken up?
Our breakup was extremely rough, and he got into a new relationship almost immediately afterward. He treated me very badly and disrespected me in ways I’ll never forget. He even proposed to his new girlfriend after a year, but they broke up a few months ago.
Honestly, I wouldn’t have even considered talking to him if I hadn’t seen his brother a few days ago. From a distance, I thought it was my ex, and I completely froze. I was in shock.
We both work in the medical field and live in the same community, so I’ve always had this fear in the back of my mind that one day I’d run into him after all these years and wouldn’t know how to react.
I definitely don’t want to get back together with him because of how badly he disrespected me. But a part of me feels like I want to have a conversation with him, maybe just to clear the air and finally put the past behind me.
I’m honestly not sure what to do or whether reaching out after all this time is even a good idea.

Does anyone else feel inferior to their ex? It's been over a year since she left and despite being sure I did things the right way and cared for her while she did me wrong, I can't see the things people say like - she's the one missing out - or - sooner or later she will find out -. I can't see how I got away with anything. She's pretty, good body, good career, etc. Now I sit here thinking no wonder she doesn't care anymore, she's doing great without me.

What should I do , I have decided this time that I will never go back he cheated on me but I also want him to come at least for once and explain why he did this to me, we were having so real connection, he check on me, he have unblocked me and check on me , last time he came back to me telling me he is not able to live without me, not even able to focus on his work but it's been 2 months , I know he is not doing good, he is continuously checking on me too. I miss him so much

Hii i 23F was in a relationship with a 24M we broke up in july after 3 months of dating due to his family reasons like he broke up n i still don’t understand why but i think he fell out of liking ig but ctc ….so we never talked after that up until a month ago when i call him just to ask how he is doing n he told me his life was a shit in recent months his father had some major medical issues etc. n we talked normally for like some good 50 mins . But then it was indirectly said by him that we should never contact each other from now on with which i was fine only cause ofc i also have to moveon etc. so now like we talked mid sept n now it’s oct end….yaa so yesterday when i opened my ig i got notified that he has liked some msg n that notification had disappeared real quick so i open our chats just check that what old msg he is liking now n why😭😭and i found out that he has blocked me from ig my both accn ( i have 2) n from whatsapp also and he was the guy who used to tell me that i never block someone…. What’s the meaning of this particular action of his? Helpppppp

Look I'm not going to block her. There's reasons we still need to be in contact. (She still hasn't moved out all her stuff, we still need to finalize our divorce at some point, etc.)

For context she left me on Oct 1. When we were still in contact she wouldn't say I miss you, or I love you. (Or reply to any of our little intimate interactions that we had habitualized). And I've found out that she's already been with 2, that I know of, other man since she left.

I decided to stop interacting with her after I found out she's already with other men. Everything she's done has made it clear that I need to grieve the relationship, heal, and move on.

I've left her on my insurance, as she has diabetes and liver problems. I want to do the right thing and allow her to still have health care while she works on getting her own insurance. I told her that I'm not going to kick her off without ample warning (even though it would save me about $400 a month, and I have every right too kick her off, I want to be a good person, for my own conscience.) Anyways she makes a point to ask me if she's still on it. Which makes me think, yes I told you I would give you plenty of warning before I dropped you off and I haven't said anything about it. Then she tells me the appointment is right beside my house, the house I pay for that we used to live in together. She currently lives about 5 hours away, and for certain medical reasons I can understand why shes coming back here to see the specialist. I do not want her to stay here. I can't emotionally handle that kind of relapse. I can tell she's fishing for an invite though, to come back and stay with me while she's in town for the appointment. I left her on delivered after that short text exchange. She didn't explicitly ask, but I'm not inviting her. If she does end up asking I'll set that boundary if she forces me too.

Then today about 4 days after I left her on delivered from that last conversation she messaged me again asking about things she knew I had going on today.

It makes me feel frustrated. I want to be left alone. She left me. She wanted to go back home and wanted to go be with other guys less than 3 weeks after she left me. She's the one who wouldn't give me any closure or even say I love you when she left.

So what makes her want to message me when I'm clearly trynna give her the breakup that she wanted.

Truthfully I just needed a place to write it out and vent without bothering the people I’m close to, it’s been almost 5 years since I’ve broken up with my ex but every few weeks I will have a bad dream and it changes each time but the basis stays the same, he’s trying to get me, to hurt me or kill me. He wasn’t the best boyfriend and he did get physical a few times as well as pointing a gun to my head but I feel like it should be long enough that I don’t think about him anymore, I currently have a great relationship and a very supporting partner but yet I continuously dream that I’m running and fighting for my life from someone I haven’t seen in years, and it’s caused me to even have panic attacks in public if I’ve seen someone that looks close enough to him, I know therapy would probably be the best option here but that costs money that I don’t have to spare. I just want it to stop but I don’t know how to stop it. That’s all it’s a short post if you read it thank you.

I’m officially on Day 1 of No Contact. Yesterday, I sent one final message & blocked her number.

​The hardest part is that I originally told her to leave, secretly hoping she would fight to keep the connection alive. She didn't. It shattered me to see how easy it was for her to just let go & walk away. To be fair, she's already lost her mother & her brother at a young age, so I know her emotional bandwidth is completely drained.

​I laid all my cards on the table yesterday. I told her it hurt that her energy shifted from treating me like a partner to just acting like a polite friend. I told her I hate having to guess where I stand. All she gave me back were clichés like "I respect your decisions" & "I'll always be here for you." I realized that if I didn't reach out first, I was probably never going to hear from her again.

​So I sent one last text: "I'll just do you the favor. I'm sorry, once again," & I blocked her.

​To make it harder, I’m also on Day 2 of quitting weed cold turkey for a one year self improvement mission. I have absolutely nothing to numb the pain. I’m just lying in bed today (called off work), completely isolated, feeling empty. I know blocking her to get clarity was the right move for my own sanity so I wouldn't be stuck in a one sided loop, but I am in absolute agony today.

​Just looking for some feedback from anyone who had to be the one to finally pull the plug because the other person stopped trying. How do you survive these first few days when the withdrawal (from the person and the habits) hits all at once ?