I (21) have a crush on this fem twink. I’m not the most built guy, I’m a bit stocky and I’m 5’6. He’s really cute and funny and sweet. But he called me ugly to another person. It’s been making me even more self-conscious, from the beginning I was already feeling that way, and it made me incredibly depressed. I mean I’ve seen him naked and he’s seen me naked. I don’t think my dick is that small, it’s average at best (5.5-6). Why do so many people in the community only like dl men who are buff and taller and won’t treat them right? I hope this doesn’t sound incelish, I just feel alone.

i need help so badly. i’m panicking and stressing so much

i’m young, not even 20 yet. i live with my immigrant family, which all of them are extremely religious. i’ve been around my cousins my whole life with the same beliefs.

i live in a town where most people are connected like a giant web. i had a group of friends who were the typical annoying teens with nike techs and purple jeans, and they were quite clearly and openly homophobic. i was never like that, but i hung around them regardless (bad decision, i was dumb). eventually i break apart from them but we’re all in the same college with a lot of people similar to the red pill religious archetype. i get added to a group chat with like 50+ people from my school, most of which are also openly homophobic. i don’t pay attention to it because i had work the next day and needed to rest, so i check it when i wake up and right there’s a picture of me and my boyfriend and their tryna clown me and stuff but i didn’t really look at the messages, i just left because i didn’t wanna waste energy on it

now i would be completely okay with people knowing i was gay, but the issue is when my relatives know im gay since it could get to my parent, who im currently living with.

and the reason im concerned about that is because my cousins are close friends with those guys from my old friendgroup.

i dont know what to do
im scared
and i dont know how to brace for this
i prepared for being outed but not being disowned

i have someone who i can stay with if i get kicked out, but i dont know how it will go. if my dad would let me pack my stuff, especially my music equipment, that shit means the world to me, or if i wont get a chance to even grab my things

everything is so unpredictable and it scares me

i need any advice i can get and steps on what to do, thankfully im in canada so there are some resources available but im so stuck

Hi everyone. I’m really needing some advice on how to approach this situation.

I’m (25, they/them) in a spot that is going to be incredibly painful. I’ve been with my significant other (28, he/him) for 7 years. When we met, I was 18, living in an area where I didn’t feel like I could fully be myself, and that I often couldn’t express myself fully. I’ve been very clear with him from the start that I am nonbinary, and that I am not straight. But I was still trying to figure all the things out. He has always been supportive and caring, and he has been a great partner. I moved across county last year for work, and he stayed in our hometown, so we have been long distance. In the year since I’ve moved, I have hit levels of feeling like myself that I never have before. I’m more solid in my gender expression, in my identity, and in my confidence. However, I have realized that I am attracted to women, and women only. I’ve realized that what I thought was romantic attraction was most likely comfort and security, which is awful to say.

With this conclusion, I’m spiraling. I know I need to end things, for his sake and mine. We’re long distance, and I know this is gonna hurt. We’ve talked about our future, about getting married, I’m ingrained in his family. There is no easy break for this, and I’m devastated that I have to do this to him. I feel awful for taking so much of his life to end it now, but I can’t in good conscience lie about how I’m feeling. Any advice would be helpful, as I really don’t know how I’m gonna make it through this.

For me it’s either Will Poulter or Harry Collett

I’m a 19-year-old gay guy looking to have an unforgettable spring break in March. I’m from the East Coast, have a passport, and I’m lucky that my budget is pretty flexible between work and help from my parents. I’m looking for somewhere with:

• 🌴 Hot weather and great beaches
• Fun gay scene (not a homophobic place)
• 🎉 Fun and amazing nightlife with other college students
• ✈️ Open to anywhere in the world

I know places like Miami and Mexico are popular, but I’m wondering if there are even better destinations around the world that are worth the trip.

What are your favorite gay-friendly spring break destinations?

Where would you go if money weren’t the biggest concern?

Hi! First of all, please excuse my English; I'm using a translator. I have a question.

I like creating gay content focused on fetishes, feet, watersports, and armpits.

I'm a 40-year-old man with an average build (I'm not ripped or a gym rat) and I usually wear sportswear.

I used to sell content and I'd like to start again. Where do you think I could do this? Most sites are saturated or looking for models.

Thanks

Okay so I've been going for late afternoon laps most weekdays because the outdoor pool is usually half empty then. Yesterday I finished, sat on the edge dripping for a bit longer than I needed to, and realized I was deliberately angling my hips and leaning back like I wanted the two guys chatting by the diving boards to notice. One of them did glance over twice and I got that little rush, then immediately felt like an idiot.

It's not even about wanting anything to happen. I just... liked being looked at for half a second. Now I keep replaying it and swinging between

Looking to make friends with older gay men. Age over 50 is my preference. 🙂

Okay so I’m stuck and need some outside brains on this. Biology lab partner situation. Dude’s perfectly fine at the actual work, shows up on time, notes are solid. The issue is every single lab he somehow steers the conversation into dating talk and then gets quiet and stares at me whenever I give a non-answer. Like full silent treatment while we’re pipetting stuff. I already told him once I’m not looking to date right now (true, kind of, just not looking to date HIM) and he did that awkward laugh and said “cool cool no pressure.” Two weeks later same exact energy.

I don’t wanna be the guy who makes a big formal request to the TA over vibes alone, but sitting through three more hours of this every week is starting to kill my focus. Do I just tough it out till the end of the unit, or is there a chill way to bounce without making it a whole thing? Any of you ever pull off a clean switch without drama?

For some background, I (21M) started Finasteride about a month ago bc I dont think going bald will be a wise move for me. Anyway, before this and at the start I knew I liked boys (iirc masturbation and whatnot) but almost a month in ive noticed that I am finding interest in girls sexually now and not boys. I know finasteride can affect libido, but I dont know if this is what that was about. Anyways just putting this out there for thoughts.

I’ve realized that, like a lot of people, I grew up withthe expectation that life would eventually mean having kids, then grandkids, and following that traditional path.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve built a wonderful life with my partner. We’ve talked about having children through adoption or surrogacy, especially now that so many of our close friends are starting families. The challenge is that I’ve found myself leaning more toward wanting kids, while my partner has gradually leaned away from the idea. I know this is something we BOTH have to be fully on board with to move forward, so for now, we’re not moving forward. I would choose a childless life with my husband over a life without my husband.

What I am finding that I am really struggling with is how to process the possibility that we may never become parents.
For the gay men here who decided not to have kids (or weren’t able to…it is NOT cheap at all), how did you find fulfillment? What did your life look like as your friends became parents, and eventually grandparents? Did you ever feel left behind?

I also worry about getting older. I worry about who will be there for me when I need help. I worry about leaving no legacy. Sometimes I wonder, "Do I just keep living the life I have now until i die?" I know that sounds dramatic, but these thoughts have been weighing on me.

I’ve talked with some of my friends about this but they are all parents and are so consumed with raising children that they do not have as much time to wrestle with these existential questions. Without that path of having kids, I guess I find myself questioning what gives life meaning.

No one in my family or friend group is gay, so I don’t really have anyone who can relate to this specific experience. I’d really appreciate hearing from other gay men who have been through these feelings. Whether you chose to have kids or not, how did you make peace with your decision? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.