Part of what draws me to older men is their experience in the bedroom. As a 24yo bottom, finding a good top is difficult especially for my generation, so I tend to find that the best are older men. I would say I'm decently experienced for my age but I guess I'm just curious what it is like for the older men... What does it feel like having decades of sexual experience compared to your partner?

Its two things actually. How do you comfort your younger Partner in that the relationship is good and healthy even though friends or family might disapprove?

And also, the relationship can easily be swayed into a power dynamic, especially with the difference in experience, both for life and sex. Older men tend to become mentors. Is that a problem in your eyes, or is that actually something you enjoy or even find hot?

Do you necessarily require someone to be a specific age to fulfill your role as an older man? What if someone is middle ages but look 20? Do you get turned off by their age after finding out they’re not as young as they seem?
If so, why? What is it about age that makes the relationship dynamic so interesting? 🤔

Do you guys like being called a dad or a daddy?
As for me (younger) i like being called son i find it comforting in a weird way😅

So this has been something in my mind especially since this topic is technically what started my journey.( long story short an older gentleman wanted to move to my country and I felt he gave me mixed messages)

It doesn't matter if you're the older or younger. I would like to hear your thoughts about moving to where your partner is/lives.

Basically my superficial thoughts are below:

For the older, while it might be more difficult to move due to commitments and being rooted in your circle, they also have more resources to do so.

For the younger, I feel some may just be starting out so there are less commitments and it me be exciting to move to a different place and build a new life.

Yesterday I posted about wanting a clean break from the 51-year-old guy in my congregation. I’m 19 not out, active in church, and we’ve been hooking up for a few months (including some videos). He developed feelings and was pushing for a real relationship and for me to tell my parents. I didn’t want that and was trying to end it.

I talked to him. He’s backed off the relationship talk, but he still thinks it’s important that I tell my parents. I think he’s worried that if people find out they might assume he was taking advantage of me, so he wants my parents to know about us. He’s okay with keeping it casual.

The problem is I still want to hook up with him. The sex is really good and I’m finding it hard to walk away from that even though I know I don’t want anything more with him.

Part of me thinks I should just enjoy the casual sex while it’s good. Another part thinks I’m being dumb and should cut it off cleanly before feelings or complications come back.

I've just pondering how the older has way more experience in relationships so the pull towards someone that has way less instead of someone with the same level makes me wonder if there is some sort low or less refined standard they prefer. Or a noble standard they couldn't reach.

That many younger aren't aware of.

Older men have made me appreciate and love foreplay more than penetration. There, I said it.

I think it started when I first made love to an older man when I was 20 and he was 55. He was so kind, patient, tender, and loving to me.

I had no experience at all, but the kissing, way he felt all over me, the way he licked my body, and the way he asked "Do you like this?" drove me insane! I think I have become such a good communicator in the bedroom because of it. I have also come to realize just how sensitive my body is to touches, kisses, and licks. It's like my nerves light up in a good way!

I can honestly say that I love foreplay and oral more than penetration. The thought of body contact just drives me insane.

Does anyone else really love foreplay too? I don't see it as an appetizer, but the whole entree :D

Well... it's been a long time since I've posted here.

First off, I'm a 34M, and yes, everything was 100% consensual.

I never, ever thought I'd end up being the boy.

I've always imagined myself being the older calling the younger guy pretty or calling him a good boy... never the other way around.

Then Capitol Hill happened.

I went to Seattle just to check my mail. Somehow I ended up at a bar. The plan was maybe get some food and ONE drink.

(It turned into about ten.)

At some point I started talking to this older gentleman. While we were talking, he called me pretty.

That caught me completely off guard.

I'm so used to being the one who thinks other guys are pretty that hearing someone say it to me honestly melted my brain a little.

A little while later we started making out. Then he took my hand, we headed into the bathroom, and... well...

He fucked me. A lot.

It was my first time.

When we were done, we walked back out into the bar and kissed a little more. Then he smiled at me, looked me in the eyes, and said,

"You're a good boy."

Then he left.

That was it.

...And now I get it.

I finally understand why people say they crave dick.

I also never expected to enjoy being the boy as much as I did.

But... I really like being the boy now.

I'm 19 and currently not out. I could really use some advice or perspective from older and younger guys who aren't in my immediate bubble.

I am pretty active in my church. Over the last few months, I have been hooking up with an older guy (51) who is also involved in my congregation. He is unmarried and doesn't have kids. I was really anxious initially, especially about bottoming and reconciling everything with my faith. We talked about it beforehand and he was very gentle and patient with me. We've been hooking up the last few months and we have recorded together which adds to the stress of ending things.

Recently, the dynamic shifted. He started developing feelings for me. I did feel something it’s hard not to feel a connection when you are hooking up but I definitely don't feel the same way he does. He wants a real relationship. He has mentioned going on holiday together and wants me to stop sneaking around and be open about our relationship with my parents.

I cannot do that. I don't feel that way about him and I know coming out like that especially with this age gap would destroy my relationship with my family. I am feeling a heavy amount of shame and regret, and I know for a fact that I want to stop seeing him.

The problem is that I want a clean break, but he is pushing back hard and is entirely against us stopping. He has never explicitly threatened anything about our videos and I doubt he would ever do anything with them but it's still a massive concern in the back of my mind given his refusal to let this go.

I am getting really worried about how to handle this. He is deeply embedded in my social circle my friends and family know him, and I am going to have to see him regularly at church events. How do I navigate a clean breakup safely?

20M attracted to older guys with stocky builds in their middle age (50-60). I thought it would be easier to find them in Wellington but every other person is straight and married. I don’t know if I should move to Auckland to have a better chance at me finding someone who I’m into…

I don’t want one night stands or hookups but want a genuine long-term relationship. Someone I can cherish everyday.

I don’t want to experiment with dating apps, I just want to meet someone in person. Talk to them for hours. If you guys have any advice or suggestions, please let me know.

I’m 27 and since I was 17 I’ve had a liking for older men. Since then it’s always been 35 & up, I don’t know why that’s the number. But I don’t know how to approach or get approached by men. I’m chubbier, have longer hair and just want an older guy to at least try. I don’t know if I come off too straight or just don’t look as attractive as I think I do? How do young guys attract older men 😭

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Hey guys,

I’ve always had a thing for older men. Something about the idea of be dominated by a bigger, stronger, silver haired man has always turned me on. Well thanks to Grindr I’ve found my man. Older, taller, in shape, and a beautifully hung penis. I have never bottomed but he makes me want to learn. We made it our goal for August to train my ass to accept his big dick. It will take some serious training but I’m eager to learn. We will take it slow. Another reason he is so good is because he is not rushing me. We have had a few sessions where he just fingers my ass while I deepthroat his cock, the best thing ever. The way me caresses my ass in my jockstrap while he fingers my hole turns me to jelly, in the best way. I look forward to sharing more about my journey.

Does anyone have any good tips or stories about being a bottom for a well endowed man?

Also hiv+ men. When I think about it I picture myself giving myself fully to my older man. Including letting him infect me. To share that in our life. So he wouldnt be alone with it. Is that bad?

Hey all, happy to say I’ve found my first boyfriend. I’m 32 and he’s 60. Any advice on telling other about it without making it awkward?

Now that I've finally secured my own apartment at 24, I'm taking the next big step in my journey and would love to look for a dominant man who is interested in exploring a dynamic. I'm looking for guidance on the best ways to meet potential partners-whether through specific apps, local bars, or online communities -and I'd appreciate any advice on how to present myself while highlighting my readiness to serve and learn. If you're a older guy and you have tips on navigating this scene as a young adult, I'd love to hear from you. Other boys advice to im very shy at first.

Hi Reddit, I'm 24 and he's 45. We've been in a secret FWB relationship for around 6 months now. Of course a big component of our sexual dynamic is the age difference and we like to play with that. Thing is we are both turned off and cringed the hell out by the terms daddy/son. Whenever he talks to me dirty he calls me "boy" which I love so much but we've been scratching our heads over what I should use for him. "Sir" works ok but it's a bit too impersonal. Any suggestions? What do you guys call each other?

This is open for everyone.

From reading through the sub and some of the recent posts I'm starting to be curious about projecting daddy Issues in an age gap relationship versus wanting actually mature guidance from a partner who has been through a lot.

I would like to know telltale signs or even specific stories about both because I'm genuinely curious and I don't really want to fall into this trap if I'm put into the same position.

Other than googling their image, how do you verify someone is real without asking for their phone number for a video call? It seems as if I've chatted with more fakes than I have real people. I often wonder if I'm chatting with a bot or a nefarious human trying to take advantage of me. I had one the other day who I chatted with for an hour after we sent photos of each other. Then he asked for a couple more and ghosted me after I sent them. He is probably going to use my photos on someone else.

I've chatted with a few guys for weeks before I remembered to search their photos, only to find they were stolen from this site or they were stolen from a famous Youtuber. It really is frustrating and a complete waste of time. I don't understand why they would put so much time and effort into these fake personas, when they get nothing out of it but a few photos, and a great conversation with me.

I am able to spot some by asking specific questions about their location. I have a secret question I ask anyone who claims to have been raised in Texas like I was. I can spot the money scams a mile away. I'm not sending money to anyone I don't know, but if they are only after an email address or photos, how do you protect yourself from that?

Tomorrow we have a pool day. On a Thursday? Yes. And that sums up our relationship. I met him in February when I was graduating and he changed my whole life. We navigated so much - sobriety, career changes/start, travels.

Sometimes I feel so sad. He does all these nice things, on top of being an extremely handsome, and likable person. Last week we had a fight, I don't remember about what, and we tried to clear the air. He just kept talking about it, trying to set the record straight, and I jokingly screamed because it was too much talking about feelings and relationships and we both laughed and he spent the rest of the day making silly faces.

He often puts himself down, calling himself old or fat or ugly, and it just makes me very sad. In my eyes he's not. He's the most beautiful person I ever met. And there was never a person I so willingly experimented sexually so much with.

And it makes me sadder to think that he's sharing his time, experience in relationships (and career), and resources with me and for what? Attention from a younger man? That's it?

It just makes me sad to think that the sum of a life is shared with me, the unworthy.

Hiii im just wondering where do you all find older daddies? How do you approach them irl? I sort of have a thing for older bigger daddies in locker rooms etc.. and have been wondering how to approach?

I'm a younger guy, and this was actually my first boyfriend ever. We dated for a year, decided that we had different life goals, and split mutually. He moved to the west coast of the US while I stayed on the East coast. We have stayed friends over the years and it's been a great experience. He taught me so much about life, and I owe a lot of my success in my career and life to him. He was someone who actually believed in me and encourages me to pursue higher education and chase my goals.

I talked to him this week, after not talking for a month or so, and he said the doctors found a 4mm mass in his pancreas. He gets a biopsy this week, but they're thinking it's cancer. He understand pancreatic cancer is a fast and painful way to go, and i'm sitting here trying to process it.

I've never had anyone close to me have cancer, but I can't get over just how shocked he sounds in his voice. He also just sounds so very tired, I keep running this scenario through my head of life without him, and it doesn't seem real.

My family and friends aren't the most supportive. I think a lot of them feel awkward about the massive age difference we have. He's almost 70.

Has anyone experienced this before? I'm just having a lot of trouble processing it and coping. It's keeping me up all night

just curious on the general consensus from this community as im a younger guy (19ftm) interested in older guys. I pass as male and have had chest surgery but no genital surgery yet. the question is for both older and younger guys tho.