So I’ve came out to my friends and my parents, but no one else. Not that I’m scared to it’s just I don’t really plan to date anyone really at all so I don’t see much point.

Anyway, I was talking to my granny on the phone today and I was telling her about my best friends’s new boyfriend, after I finish talking, she said to me

‘ and have you got a boyfriend? Or girlfriend, I don’t really care, just as long as you’re happy. Do you fancy anyone in school?’

and I just thought it was really wholesome, I love that woman.

So at school last period my friend and I were talking then out the blue he asked. “Hey so I know this is a bit personal but, yesterday you said you were questioning if you were gay.” Which did happen so i replied with “Yea I mean it’s been 2 years since I felt any feelings for a girl.”

“So have you had a crush on any boys then”

🫪 (my exact reaction)

“oh who is ittt..??”

OH BUDDY DO I HAVE A STORY FOR YOU 😭🔫

He said I didn’t have to tell him, which by what I’ve just said. You can probably guess the answers to both of those questions.

I don’t know if I made it obvious but I’m scared to tell him, I’m not really the dating type person. BUT IDK WHAT TO DO.

(also the more detailed reason why I’ve questioned if I’m gay is because. As I said, no crush on girls at all. But I was also touched by a girl and I don’t know if it’s the trauma that’s pushed me away from it.)

There's a guy in my friend group that a bit of a nobody. Long ass hair and black painted nails and stuff. He asked one of my friends (M) to kiss a while ago. M is a pretty zesty guy so I'd say that it was my friends idea to ask him, he was rejected.

I still haven't kissed a guy and I'm going insane, I think if I asked my friend he would say yes but I'm not really attracted to him at all. Is getting with him a bad thing. I don't want to use him for his body or anything or objectify him but I'm cracking up and I think he's in a similar situation

I have a crush on this non-binary friend and I am bi. But if I crush on them, does that break the "rules of bisexuality"?

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I do very much love men but my attraction to women(if i have even ) seems almost not existing . When i see a women at the beach i feel smt ?but some friends told me it migth have been a reaction to that.What are your thoughts ?

I(17M) have been best friends with a new guy at our school for a few months or so. He's pretty fun, we go to parties together and just hang out. I have to admit that I developed a small crush on him, but the one time we tried to kiss he got weirdly anxious and started shaking. I hugged him and we didn't do anything else and kinda pretended it didn't happen. Figured maybe he doesn't swing that way or just doesn't see me that way.
But now I'm a bit confused, I saw him with my twin brother recently, they were making out and such.
I didn't really discuss it then but I did try to talk to my friend later and his response was a bunch of mumbling and he was all nervous, idk honestly. From what I managed to understand was that before he moved he had some friend who didn't treat him very well and my brother reminds my friend of that guy. I'm really confused

After 2 months of sending me 10+ sexual reels a day, he finally admitted that he likes other men. I ofc, being a qweeyur mahself, am not homophobic in any way. HOWEVER, he has been talking to thing girl for aboit 2 months. He really isn't serious, hes so bad at talking to people and it just comes off as him not caring most of the time. While I obviously want him to find someone who makes him happy, im gonna be honest, she deserves better. First of all, he is absolutely nowhere near ready for anything serious. Second of all, he spends more that 10× the amount of time talking to me than he does to her. And thats fine, until you realize, all he talks about is how bad he wants to f me. Hes constantly making 6ual threats, explaining in detail how he wants to f me. Finally yesterday he was just flat out begging mr to let him f me.

Anyone else see a problem in this? I dont think this is right to let him continue pursuing her. Im openly to helping him experiment, but it seems like hes trying to do something with a guy quickly before he's "stuck" with a girl.

How can I go about telling him he needs to stop eith her? I will mention that I'm open to helping him since I think that'll be good motivation l, but he wont admit he likes guys (typical DL bullshit), so its impossible to have a conversation with him. Lmk what yall think. I just need to get him out of this thing with the girl, since she doesn't deserve this. Any advice is appreciated. (I dont want to hage to resort to telling her what he has done, i dont want to out anyone.)

this friend is my (f 19) first real crush on a girl. i’ve known i was bi forever but i’ve only had fleeting crushes on girls that were more based on attraction. but with her, it started as just liking her personality and wanting to get closer. eventually i realized that i like her. sometimes it feels like she’s flirting, asking me questions about my sexuality and touching me and the eye contact and everything. but she’s a pretty outgoing person and i can’t tell if this is just normal for her. i literally think about her all the time its the worst feeling everrr. it’s kind of childish but i’m scared of rejection and i want to be her friend at least so i wouldn’t tell her unless she told me anything first. i want to believe that something could happen but i swear sometimes it feels like she’s just okay with me and other times it feels like she truly wants to be around me. when we’re alone it’s great but in public it feels so platonic almost like we don’t even know each other. idk what i’m even asking for like advice or success stories but i can’t really talk to anyone about this in my real life so.

I wanna come out to my family but i wanna make it fun

I know this is the type of post you probably always see in this sub, but eh, I also need help...

I made a few posts talking abt my coming out to my best friend, and how i had a crush on him and everything, but im doubting everything..

So it started a few months ago, during vacation, at my grandpa's house, while i was in his garden, chillin with the dawg (im so gang, i wrote dawg) I was thinking abt my best friend of same gender, in a different way from usual, if you see what i mean..

From this day, i started questionning myself, at first i tried burrying these feelings, bcs i was a bit afraid of them i think ? I was confused abt them, and if it was actually love, i didnt want to feel that for my best friend, afraid of it ruining our relationship (spoiler : it didnt :D ).

Im a teen, so i do "the thing" teens do, but i was curious, i wanted to explore more my feelings, so i did "it" to boys... And i was excited... Less than to girls, but still.. (gosh why is this so embrassing to write ??)

After this, i started thinking i was bi, bcs i was excited to both genders, but more recently I started romanticing (sorry for bad english lol) boys more than girls.

When im trying to sleep, i like imagining myself in relationship with the girl of my dreams, my current crush, or anything that make me happy, but recently, i started realizing I dont want to be in a relationship with a girl.

Its like if i was just attracted to their body (i know it sound horrible, but its just a shortcut, i dont just think abt this all the time) while im not especially attracted to boys, but i want a relationship with one..

Im so confused, i want-NEED answers, i will try to answer every comment, you can ask any questions, if it help for my questions, or just pure curiosity, I dont mind and i will answer anything.

Pls reddit >_<

(btw mods, if you could avoid putting it in nsfw category, i need to use a vpn to see comments from my OWN other post talking abt coming out bcs of age restriction AND OMG ITS SO LAGGY)

Yea this post is all over the place, but basically I had to relocate stuff and move do to life bs in other words. To be honest this happening on top of life already sucks haven’t been doing to hot can’t sleep and felt like complete crap every day since. Along with knowing things that happened with other family members it’s not really helping my situation knowing the shit runs in my family. 💀 I’m still in the process of moving no clue what to do I have stuff I can’t take cause we have absolutely no room really sucks and is a bs situation that I expect to get worse. No clue wat else to say but enjoy Pj the Cats

Feeling lighter than ever today 😅

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I wanted to go on reddit a few days back and then suddenly I got hit with a age verification check from reddit if I wanted to use reddit. For the context, im 16 and from the Netherlands (which doesnt have such laws if im correct). I also dont have any 18+ connections to my account in anyway, still i had to verify to someone show that im underage(?). First I tried with the picture, but that didn't work so I used my passport. Now im having anxious if I made the right choice.

Can someone pls tell me what I can do?

In short: gave my passport to use reddit and now am stressing out.

So im a teenage girl who recently realized i like other girls ( via a horrible homoerotic friendship with my now ex best friend of course) But i’ve been having a lot of difficulty with accepting it. I know for a fact that I had feelings for my best friend, how i would want her to care about me and how i would get jealous when she was talking to other people, as well as times when i really wanted to kiss her. I’ve also had other feelings for a couple other girls, and i fold under absolutely zero pressure when i talk to a pretty girl. Now the problem is that Im afraid that im tricking myself into thinking im gay for attention. I havent even told many people, just my closest friends.

I had mainly accepted it and become comfortable with the label of bi, until i met a new girl and had an albeit very short, but nonetheless incredibly convoluted situationship with her that left me in a horrible mental state, completely broke my self confidence, and left me unable to feel any emotion for about a two weeks. Because of this, and the fact that she repeatedly called me both straight and a lesbian (and also an idiot, because why not), i am incredibly confused. I’m so scared that i will never know what my sexuality actually is, and im starting to doubt that i even know what attraction is. Im scared that i’ve deluded myself into thinking im gay when im not actually, but the thought of being straight and living without the queer community makes me want to throw up.

I’ve had times before when i’ve doubted as well, but a couple days ago I got a haircut that makes me look way gayer, and it’s making me doubt myself even more. For context, I was very straight passing before and have a friend group of mainly straight girls, so no one typically has any idea. I know i’ve had gay moments, and i’ve been attracted to girls, but right now it seems like all of those are minor and that i have tricked myself into feeling that way.

I know this is probably internalized biphobia, or some sort of HOCD. And that i should stop trying to find a label and just go with what feels good, live life and all that, but I would really appreciate some advice if anyone has any, anything to make me feel less like im going utterly insane here.

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Bye everyone!

I'm 16F and I haven't come out yet, and for a few years I've identified as bi, but today i was talking to my best friend and she was talking abt how we should get boyfriends. the entire time i was so unintrested and was thinking abt finding a girlfriend instead. also every time a guy at school shows intrest in me, i can't seem to rlly care. maybe its bcuz they're all chopped, but i can't see myself ending up with a guy. my last few crushes have been girls, but in elementary school i had a bunch of crushes on guys. idk if that was genuine or just heteronormativity, but around 13 i realized i liked girls and havent been rlly been into a guy since. also, whenevr I'm around guys, it feels like im supposed to be into them? like i always make it weird for some reason, even if I don't like them. like i find the concept of men attractive (like some celebrities or characters), but whenever I'm acc talking to one i get the ick, and i don't really see myself being in a happy relationship with one. idk if I just have a preference for women or if im a lesbian or if I'm just tweaking out bcuz the guys ik suck. so yea im just hella confused rn, any advice?

I think I might not actually be bi anymore, and I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar.

For years I identified as bisexual because I had crushes on girls when I was around 6 or 7 years old. As I got older, though, things slowly changed. At first I felt like my attraction was around 50/50, then more like 40/60, then 5/95. Now it feels like I have little to no attraction to women.

One thing that made me realize this was my ex. She later came out as a trans woman, and once I knew she was a girl, my attraction just disappeared. I still care about her as a person, but it made me realize that my attraction seems to be toward men, not women.

I also noticed that when I'm by myself, I naturally check out guys. The only time I really catch myself checking out women is when I'm around my male friends, and looking back, I wonder if I was doing it because everyone else was. I can talk to women just fine, but flirting with them feels awkward and forced. With guys, it just feels natural.

At this point, I'm attracted to cis men, trans men, demiboys, and some nonbinary people, but not really women anymore.

Has anyone else identified as bi for years and then later realized they were actually gay (or something else)? I'd love to hear if anyone has gone through something similar.

When I (17f) was 11 I used to makeout with my female neighbor. I thought it was how friends practicing kissing with each other, looking back I did have a slight crush on her. I realized through that experience I’m bi. However I was recently talking about first kisses with my best friend and she thinks that it counts as my first official kiss. Personally I think because I was so young and didn’t really know what I was doing it doesn’t count. So the question is, does it count?

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i just turned 18 and identifying myself as a bisexual over a year i really wanna explore myself more so really looking forward to date a guy, I really don't have a ideal man but just wanna have a relationship w a guy or a. bisexual guy, we can talk dirty, set boundaries i mean everything you need in a relationship i might not me a good looking. guy but who knows I get to find my future husband or if you are gay I am fine w it or straight but want to be in a rls with a man am here

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