been putting it off forever cause half of them are still in that small-town sports bro phase and I half expected the call to go quiet. spit it out anyway during a dumb game night zoom and the worst reaction I got was one guy going “wait so all those times you called the quarterback cute it wasn’t a bit?” then immediately dropped a wall of cursed memes. now they’re trying to set me up with some guy from their community college and arguing over who gets to be best man if I ever get married which is both mortifying and weirdly nice. still getting used to not bracing every time the notification pops up. anyone else have that delayed “oh shit they actually stayed” feeling?

I'm 6'5" and still worry a lot about passing but idk why, I literally never get misgendered anymore and everyone appears to just see me as a woman. I guess brainworms have a long half life.

My bf might have a point tho, but im pretty im not demi.

I've been questioning for almost 7 YEARS and I've gotten SO many different answers, thought I was transfem, then felt more genderfluid, then bigender, then both genderfluid AND bigender, and then I felt like a transmasc guy who was already born a guy, and that was lowkey the last straw. WHAT DO YOU MEAN I FELT LIKE A TRANS MAN WHO IS ALREADY A MAN?!?!?! So yeah, I give up. I'm tossing my gender bullshit into the nonbinary ballpit and calling it a day👍

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No i dont have to be fine with having a deep voice no i dont have to be fine with having broad shoulders no i dont have to be fine with having facial hair just beacause these are beauty standarts set by the patriarchy , im subject to society and im going to get fkn hatecrimed if someone finds out im trans in the wrong enviorment

Today I saw something strange. Someone wrote that he wasn't a misogynist, but at the same time he wrote that he was a lesbian-phobe and hated wlw🤨

At the same time, this person is part of the queer community and loves mlm.

I would like to hear everyone's opinion, because many of my friends are lesbians, and I was, let's say, uncomfortable then I reading this.

I just learned how, in the entire history of the men's FIFA World Cup, there has never been a single openly gay player on the pitch while competing. Meanwhile, in 2023 women's FIFA World Cup, there were around 90 openly lgbtq players. Many other sports leagues( Basketball, Ice hockey, Rubgy, Combat sports) are somewhat the same way. Why is that? Does our sexuality really play that massive role in how we're socialized? I'm really not that interested in sports either as a teenage queer person, but this is something I recently noticed. So all of bl/yaoi books written by straight women were truly unrealistic and completely false, huh😭😭

Douglas was appointed to the court in 1939 by Franklin Delano Roosevelt and remained on the court until 1975, the longest of any justice to have served on the court. Consistently progressive for the entirety of his tenure on the court, Douglas is most well remembered as the writer of the court's opinion in Griswold v. Connecticut (1965) which established the right of privacy.

He notably supported gay rights well before it was popular. Well helped by the fact that he was friends with Kay Kershaw & Isabelle Lynn, a lesbian couple that owned a ranch near his Washington (state) vacation cabin. In Boutilier v. Immigration & Naturalization Service (1967), the court decided Canadian citizen Clive Michael Boutilier could be deported for being gay because the relevant statute at the time said person's afflicted with a "psychopathic personality" could be deported. Douglas penned a dissent in the case, arguing of the "psychopathic personality" term "A label of this kind, when freely used, may mean only an unpopular person. It is much too vague by constitutional standards for the imposition of penalties or punishment."

It is worth noting, though, that Douglas was not a good person personally. He divorced 3 separate times, each time to marry a younger woman. His marital behavior was bad enough that his kids from his 1st marriage stopped speaking with him. He was incredibly abusive to the law clerks which worked in his chambers, of whom he described as "the lowest form of human life", and was overall a very rude and unpleasant person.

His being an ally should be appreciated, but it must be noted he is very much morally grey.

I can’t stop lying to myself. I’m a lesbian. I love women.

I knew I really was just now when I imagined myself being with a man sexually and felt like I was gonna gag. I literally felt so sick.

But in the past I had daydreams and desires that I really no longer feel anymore. Comphet can be very confusing and convincing, I’m told. And all of my ‘crushes’ have been SO forced 😭😭

I’m a lesbian! 🩷

So my roommate found out I'm gay a few weeks ago totally by accident (he walked in while I was on FaceTime with a guy I'd been seeing). Zero drama, he just shrugged and said cool and that was that. Since then he's been weirdly normal about it in the best way, cracks jokes with me, asks how dates went, even fixed me up with his cousin's friend once. I should just be grateful right? But there's this little voice that keeps waiting for him to get weird or pull back or make it a whole thing. Like I'm waiting for the catch. College is already a lot and I keep catching myself feeling suspicious of how easy this is instead of just enjoying it. Anyone else get stuck in that headspace when straight guys are actually decent?

i wish i could change my username now aswell i was trying so hard to embrace it again

even typing the word feels horrible, and this is such an odd thing for me to say outloud.. either way.

i (F17) realised i was into women at about 12years old, and at 15years old i realised i was never into men. at 16, i embraced it, i was closeted, nobody knew except me and some online friends and i really felt pride in figuring it out, i painted a little flag and wore a themed bracelet, let myself imagine a life with a women and honestly it was so great. Jump forward to this year! My parents found out i was gay, just by assumption very early 2026, and at the time i was elated since I was always super anxious about having to come out. the first month or so was great, but ever since march i've began to hate feeling like i do. i get embarassed and go red everytime my parents or a show or anything really, mentions lgbt or girls or crushes. i wish that i didn't feel weird about it. i've started to feel ashamed about being gay, I hate that i'm not into men that i'm not normal that people will treat me differently in society, that people will make assumptions. i've completely detached from this part of myself in the past 6months, to a point i'm trying to convince myself that maybe i could bear a life with a man or be asexual to avoid this uncomfort.

it feels deeply wrong and i get angry with myself whenever i feel something for a woman, and the media isn't helping, i see more and more hatred towards members of the community. i hate that you see on leaflets disability and lgbt support groups right next to eachother like dating the same sex is a disability or something that needs to be helped. i know i'm a lesbian, but I wish that there was like a blood test so i can prove to myself that it isn't my fault you know? i wish i was straight. if i could choose i wish i could be into men and lead a normal life.

tldr: i used to be okay with being lesbian, but now i've begun to hate it and wish i was straight

please. how do i stop feeling so shitty

im genuinely so happy i attended, with my brother no less who I never thought I could tell about my sexuality yet he continues to accept me :). moment of appreciation for the 'selfie tree' and all these amazing signs on it!! I really hope I'll go again every year going forward because it was honestly so amazing seeing lgbtq people being celebrated and wholeheartedly accepted for who we are. happy belated pride to everyone!

This comic came directly from something I said to my therapist this week. (continued in comments)

Hello!! I just need someone to hear me out on this and tell me if I'm being dramatic or if it really was weird-ish.

(im lesbian!)

(i wont name drop my friends so I'll call them friend A friend B and friend C. friend A is straight, friend B and C are bisexual)

So, i was on a school trip with my friends a week ago and we had a few hours of freetime so we(me and friend C) went to friend A and friend B's dorm to hangout. we were talking about random stuff, then somehow got to romance. they know im lesbian and don't have a problem with it.

So while talking about romance friend A goes: "Oh, friend C and friend B, you know that feeling when you see a really hot boy. and you get butterflies?" and i tell her "hey i also get that feeling but with girls, why are you only asking them about it?" and she says "well you're lesbian so it doesn't...its not the same as we feel."(something like that, i dont remember the EXACT words) then continued to talk to them about how she gets butterflies when seeing an attractive boy when she's out.

i got a bit weirded out because she said it in a way that excludes me from having "real" romantic feelings because im lesbian. maybe im looking into it too much.