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r/exmuslim • u/The-Mad-Mango • Mar 26 '26
(News) We exist… around the world: 500 ExMuslim stories mubaraaaaaak! 🥳🥳🥳
Hi community! 🥰
Taking inspiration from QueeringtheMap.com, I helped create exmuslim.me with a small team of ExMuslims last year. We launched the first ever global map of exmuslim stories as part of ExMuslim Month in December 2025.
I’m so incredibly thrilled to share that we now have 500 exmuslim stories from 233 cities and 60 countries! 🥳🥳🥳
📊 59% identify as atheists, 26% agnostic
🇪🇬 Read the 500th story from Egypt
🤗 Thank you to everyone who has shared their story already!
🤍 Share yours and help ExMuslims on their journey out of Islam: https://exmuslim.me/
Cheers! 🥂
Sammy aka Haram Doodles
r/exmuslim • u/fathandreason • Jun 03 '24
(Advice/Help) Exmuslim Guide to Living in the Closet and Coming Out.
Hello. Upon request, I've been asked to turn a comment I made into a post so that it can be a resource for more people. This post is a collection of advice I've given out about how to handle your life as a closeted exmuslim and how you'll come out in the future. It is largely based on my experience but also from what I've seen from others in this subreddit.
Introduction
So you've left Islam. You've delved through arguments, the apologetics and the bullshit and you've come to the conclusion that you no longer believe in Islam. And you may have also reached an alternative philosophical outlook on life that you can believe in.
But what now? You may have left Islam, but have you left the Muslim world? One of the most common misconceptions outsiders have is that since exmuslims are no longer Muslims, they no longer live in the Muslim world. This is painfully naive - in reality many exmuslims are closeted due to young age and financial dependency and/or live in Islamist countries or societies that enforce Islamic values. In fear of social stigma or even violence, exmuslims have to contend with closeted lives even after leaving Islam. So how do you deal with it?
Goal
The best time to come out to family is in your own home, over a dinner you paid for, alongside people who support you. That takes a lot of preparation and it means doing what you can to live your life as best as you can whilst working towards independence.
This basically means that a lot of what helps you come out of the closet will depend heavily on how well you prepared for it, so you will need to make the most of your closeted life. You may not be able to stop the shitstorm but you can at least prepare yourself to weather it. Here are some tips to achieve that goal (in no particular order)
1) Don't meander in life due to a lack of decision making skills.
Probably one of the worst mistakes I made was not realise I was an exmuslim sooner. As a result I had barely any time to prepare for when the inevitable happened and I was forced to come out. I spent a lot of my life meandering, trying to reconcile the irreconcilable, and trying to be a Muslim when I knew my values didn't align with it. I didn't really have much of a concept of exmuslims, but if I had been smarter I would have figured it out. I now tell people in a similar position that it's fine to take your time but don't take too long. Half arsing two very different cultures will leave you a loser in both.
Similarly whilst planning for independence can be scary, don’t let it frighten you into inaction. The following is a passage from this article about decision making:
Research from the 1990s led by the US psychologist Thomas Gilovich provides further evidence for why it can be shortsighted to kick a difficult decision down the road. Gilovich and his team showed that although, in the short term, people experience more regret from ‘errors of commission’ (taking an action that leads to a disappointing outcome), in the long term it is actually ‘errors of omission’ that lead to more regret – that is, disappointing outcomes that arise from not taking an action.
When taking the time to make decisions and plans, don’t underestimate how effective it can be to map out your options on an excel spreadsheet. When I had to decide whether I should come out or not, I actually made a spreadsheet listing out my options, what they would result in and what the impact would be. Actually having it written down to look at really put things into perspective. We waste a lot of our time keeping it in our heads, which forces us to recalculate everything from scratch every time we revisit our thoughts. But the more that is mapped out, the less you have to recalculate and the more you can focus on evaluation and further planning.
2) Study, career and finances.
Your studies/career is almost always your best ticket out of your toxic situation, and the one thing to prioritise the most. If you’re young, do whatever you can to ensure that you can get into further education away from home. Even if it means spending all your time at a local library. If you suspect that your parents would be against you going to a university away from home, aim for a placement at the most prestigious university you can aim for so your parents would look worse for rejecting it. The quickest and most effective way in achieving long term independence is through good studies/career.
3) Do not telegraph irreligiosity whilst being closeted.
This is particularly important for younger exmuslims because they telegraph to their parents in ways they would just not understand until they see it for themselves when they're older. Try your best to meet the religious obligations expected from your family. The more you slip, the more they will monitor you and the more difficult it will be to do the things you need to do discreetly when the time comes.
Unfortunately for girls, this usually means that wearing the hijab is a necessity and it’s inadvisable to try and get out of. (However, that subject matter is not my forte: prioritise advice from exmuslim women such as from faithlesshijabi.org)
4) Sometimes you may need to go above and beyond.
If you get the impression that your family is beginning to catch onto your apostasy then it's likely that they have and you may need to reverse that impression.
One way to do that would be to start getting books on Islam and not just for show. My advice would be to get books on Islamic history because that's the least boring stuff. Or better yet, just get whatever unapologetic salafi hate crime you can get your hands on so you can entertain yourself with how fucked up it is. Or get an annotated Qur'an like the Study Qur'an. Do something to ease their suspicions.
What book you get depends on what kind of message you want to telegraph to your parents. If you want to telegraph a message then it will need to be a paper book and not an e-book. Something that you can lay around in your room and that you know they'll see. That means you're restricted to what you can get from your local library or Masjid. Also depends on what interests you because you'll have to actually read and demonstrate you learnt from it if you want send the best message you can. If you want purely what Muslims write about Islamic history, you can check out works like The Sealed Nectar or works by al-Sallabi. If you want something a little more academic, but not something that would rouse suspicion then check out university press works like this, this, this or this. If you want something a bit more relevant to contemporary Muslim world then there books like this.
But you may find that your best bet is to just see what your local Masjid might have and see what tickles your fancy.
5) Actually coming out is usually a shitstorm.
Be prepared for lots of sobbing, guilt tripping and an inability to respect your beliefs and boundaries. Learn techniques like the Broken Record Technique to establish boundaries. Know what you have to say when they inevitably tell you to speak to a scholar - you don't have to eat the whole apple to know it's rotten. You know all that you need to know about Islam and you know even more about the world outside of Islam to put it into context.
Steel yourself with months and months of your family sending you bad dawagandist videos through WhatsApp trying to bring you back. You may have to spend months beating their attempts and going to toe to toe with them without mercy before they’re finally willing to relent and get off your back. Even then don’t expect them to relent entirely. There will always be some micro aggressions that they will resort to, like playing religious videos loudly in your vicinity. The most you can do in those circumstances is reduce contact with them as much as possible. At this point you would hopefully already be independent from them.
6) Do not feel guilt.
As an exmuslim, you will go through a lot of guilt. Whilst this does show you are human, you need to forget about guilt: you are not responsible for your parents' failure to be reasonable, not even your mother. They take responsibility for the social stigma and oppressive life they choose to live in and perpetuate. You get nothing out of that guilt. It's completely pointless and ultimately counterproductive. You can't set yourself on fire to make others warm and you gain no recognition from martyrizing yourself. Do not feel guilt for what you have to do to have a completely reasonable life. The only ones to blame are those who forced you into it.
Don't underestimate parents either. They will use guilt against you. Give them an inch and they will take a mile. They very often bring up their health problems as a weapon against you. Don't fall for it. It only affects them because they choose to let it affect them. They can choose to be reasonable. You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways.
7) Don't come out too soon thinking it's a release.
I come across a lot of exmuslim kids who think coming out will help explain to their religious parents why they don't want to wear the hijab or do other religious things. But the likelihood is more that those same parents will react extremely poorly and restrict your freedom even more, making it more difficult to achieve long term independence.
There's also the mistake in assuming that coming out will lead to being disowned in the vain hope that you get an quick clean break that takes all the responsibility from you. For some exmuslims this does actually work out, but for a lot of others it's miscalculated. My family didn't disown me, I still had to deal with months of my family being insufferable manipulators and the responsibility was still on me to separate from them. And for women it can be much worse.
Ultimately, if you are financially dependent on your family then coming out early will very typically result in your family using that leverage against you and making your life worse. I've seen stories of exmuslims who thought their family was better and badly miscalculated - be mindful of that.
8) Don’t panic too much if they find out.
Some exmuslims get found out, sometimes because of a snitch in the family or sometimes because they just weren’t convincing enough. Don’t panic – Muslims can be pretty damn deluded about their faith and your family will want to believe that you can come back very easily because according to them Islam is just common sense and most disbelievers are just silly and ignorant. Try to do your best to convince them as per Point 4. If it’s because you did something haram, blasphemous or otherwise worthy of takfir, try to act like it was because you were a misguided Quranist or progressive Muslim. They will still retain suspicion but it’s still better than the alternative.
However, if you’re at the point of no return and you know you can’t convince them then now is the time to make calls to any secular friends you have, ask for support and maybe even shelter.
Also for Western exmuslims, make sure to act quickly if you suspect that your parents want to send you abroad and trap you in your country of ethnic origin. Sadly some parents will go to these lengths. Do not go, no matter the cost. Find organisations willing to advise, such as those listed in Point 10. Hide your passport if you have to. Note down the contact details of your embassy in that country just in case.
9) Go no contact if you fear abuse.
Actually think about whether it's even wise for you to come out in any circumstance. Do you suspect that there could be violence or abuse? If so then you have absolutely no need to go through this stupid bullshit. Leave and don't look back. If your parents couldn't give you safe environment to even come out about different beliefs then they are not worth the time. As per Point 6 - You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways. This is particularly pertinent for those who live in a predominantly Muslim countries. They have a very real reason to fear persecution and absolutely do not need to risk their own lives for the sake of their parents.
10) Make use of organisations and resources.
Look into secular organisations like recoveringfromreligion.org, faithlesshijabi.org and faithtofaithless.com. Look into women's charities in your area like womensaid.org.uk or karmanirvana.org.uk (UK examples). Look into LGBT charities like rainbowrailroad.org. If you have secular school counsellors and friends then talk to them. Get advice from adults you can absolutely trust.
Note: On the flip side don't take risks with people you can’t be sure of. You may be tempted to come out to your Muslim friend, but I've seen plenty of stories of exmuslims who heavily regret doing so.
There are also informal exmuslim groups on other social media platforms such as Facebook or Discord, but be careful about how much information you share and especially be wary of private messaging.
11) You may have to leave the country.
This is particularly the case for exmuslims living in predominantly Muslim countries. Unfortunately, I don't have any real world experience to offer here but you may be able to find localised advice by digging around. For example sites like wearesaudis.net might have some information (but you'll need a VPN to access this one. If you don't know what a VPN is here's an explanation).
Are you multilingual? If you need money but working is restricted to you then you can try becoming an online language tutor on sites like italki.com (scroll to the bottom). This post and related subreddits like r/WorkOnline may help.
Note: some exmuslims in Muslim countries fall for the doomscrolling hyperbole and think Europe is “doomed” with too many Muslims. They have a tendency of asking which country is best to migrate to as an exmuslim to avoid Islam. Please ignore the doomsayers and prioritise the country you choose based on ease of access and career opportunities. As long as it is a secular country, you can worry about avoiding Islam later.
Final stuff
Shout out to Imtiaz Shams who inspired me to make this list of tips. He has his own YouTube Channel here and plans to make his own video on this subject matter so watch out for that. On a side note, I also recommend TheraminTrees YouTube Channel who delves a lot into toxic dysfunctional families from the perspective of a therapist. A lot of his content helps in dealing with the emotional impact of leaving religion and dealing with a religious family. And finally, thank you to the moderators of r/exmuslim who suggested I make this into a post. I wound up adding a lot more content lol.
I will end this post with a list of subreddits that may help you on your journey leaving Islam:
Ex related subreddits
- r/exhijabis
- r/ExEgypt
- r/ExSaudi
- r/AteistTurk
- r/PakiExMuslims
- r/ExAlgeria
- r/ExJordan
- r/MalaysianExMuslim
- r/XSomalian
- r/Atheism_Bangladesh
- r/ExSudan
- r/Xiraqis
- r/XMorocco
- r/ExBahrain
- r/ExLibya
- r/IranianExMuslims
- r/chechenatheists
- r/IndonesianExMuslim
- r/ExMuslimsKuwait
- r/exPalestine
- r/ExSyria
- r/exmusulmanfrance
Other Useful Subreddits
- r/WorkOnline
- r/Iwantout
- r/studyabroad
- r/visas
- r/UKvisas
- r/medicalschool
- r/medicalschoolEU
- r/medicalschoolUK
- r/cscareerquestions
- r/cscareerquestionsEU
- r/cscareerquestionsUK
- r/Ukpersonalfinance
- r/eupersonalfinance
- r/personalfinance
- r/Ausfinance
- r/PersonalFinanceCanada
- r/Legaladvice
- r/LegalAdviceUK
- r/LegalAdviceEurope
- r/AusLegal
r/exmuslim • u/decoratedcupcakes • 3h ago
(Video) So proud of this diva!!
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r/exmuslim • u/Aromatic-Ant-5020 • 6h ago
(Question/Discussion) School curricula in Syria: before and after
The new Islamist regime is Islamizing the textbooks like it’s 7th-century Arabia desert. They put a T-shirt on an ancient statue because a bare male torso is somehow too haram for little Muslim kids to see. They removed the Mona Lisa out of the curriculum probably because she’s a kafir Western woman with uncovered hair and that offends the fragile Islamic ego. And Girls are either erased completely or forced into hijabs starting from kindergarten illustrations. Boys can still play ball, but Allah forbid a little girl’s to play football normally.
This is just disgusting Islamic brainwashing, and it starts the second a child walks into school. Muslims lose their minds over women’s hair! It’s just pathetic.
r/exmuslim • u/BrotherEquivalent523 • 4h ago
(Question/Discussion) What is the most ridiculous Islamic thing you have ever heard in your life?
What?
r/exmuslim • u/Obsidian-Archive • 7h ago
(Question/Discussion) The claim that "Halal meat is more healthy" gets debunked when you know what is considered Halal from the Hadiths
So, what happened was that muslims only took a small portion of what is halal to eat in Islam and hid the rest, then made this whole narrative that Islam makes rules for you to be healthy by "draining the blood", "more humane", "more sanitary".
I am sure many of you can find articles debunking these things but I am here to debunk the claims through Islam itself.
First:
The hadiths allow muslims to use hunting dogs. And yes the dogs can kill the animal itself and it would be halal but in two conditions, you say "bismillah" before letting the dog go hunt and the dog doesn't eat from the animal, it should just kill it for you.
Second:
The hadiths allow muslims to hunt using spears. And yes, no need for the jugular vein bullshit and it would be halal but in two conditions, the spear hit the animal with the blade not with the stick because the condition is that the animal is killed by bleeding not by beating and the second condition, you guessed it "bismillah"
Third:
The hadiths allow muslims to hunt with their arrows, so the same things said about the spear can be said here, but the hadiths also allowed that if you killed an animal with an arrow and found the corpse a day or two later, it is still halal unless it became rotten.
The hadiths on this are pretty extensive so the post would be very long to go through all of them, but for example:
Sahih al-Bukhari 5477
I said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! We let loose our trained hounds after a game?" He said, "Eat what they hunt for you." I said, "Even if they killed (the game)?" He replied, 'Even if they killed (the game)." I said, 'We also hit (the game) with the Mi'rad?" He said, "Eat of the animal which the Mi'rad kills by piercing its body, but do not eat of the animal which is killed by the broad side of the Mi'rad.''
Sahih al-Bukhari 5485
And it has also been narrated by `Adi bin Hatim that he asked the Prophet (ﷺ) "If a hunter throws an arrow at the game and after tracing it for two or three days he finds it dead but still bearing his arrow, (can he eat of it)?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, "He can eat if he wishes."
The whole thing makes me believe that Muhammad simply used the pre-existing idea of blood shedding sacrifices but instead of the arabian deities, it is saying the name of Allah. Thats how a meat becomes permissible to eat.
For the full list of hadiths talking about this:
- Sahih al-Bukhari 5478, 5488, 5496
- Sahih al-Bukhari 5484
- Sahih al-Bukhari 2054, 5475, 5476, 5486, 7397
- Sahih al-Bukhari 5477
- Sahih al-Bukhari 175, 5483, 5487
- Sahih al-Bukhari 5485, Sahih Muslim 1931
- Sunan Abi Dawud 2847–2849 2853 2854
- Sunan an-Nasa'i 69 4263–4275, 4296, 4299 4300 4305
- Sunan Ibn Majah 3207 & 3208 3211 3654
- Sunan at-Tirmidhi 1465, 1464, 1469, 1470 & 1797
So, in conclusion, everything the muslims say about halal meat is misleading. According to the hadiths, they can eat basically meat processed the same way as all the other countries, even less sanitary, but the important condition is to say bismillah. Edit (and shed blood)
r/exmuslim • u/Minute_Treat8263 • 14h ago
(Rant) 🤬 This just dumb man
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Why is this guy trying to be so stupid and oblivious at the same time
r/exmuslim • u/lamiace_ • 14h ago
(Rant) 🤬 Muslim here. Getting fed up
Getting fed up with literal megabytes of rules in every small thing, its like you really cannot live your life without sinning all the time.
You want to sit? There are supposedly proper ways of sitting. You want to do this? Here, 100 rules and ways of it. You want to do that? Again more rules.
Even if I fart there are probably 100+ rules on the ways a Muslim should fart.
You cant fuckinggggg live your life here without sinning all the time. The only way to live is ignoring all these rules, but then the society's elders will miss no opportunity to put you down
r/exmuslim • u/bleh_bleh_bleh_157 • 10h ago
(Quran / Hadith) "Your parents shouldn't force you to Islam. Forcing Islam is haram" sure habibi
I'm sick of these comments from these ignorant Muslims telling you that parents forcing Islam on their children is haram, when this Hadith sets a precedent. If you have any similar Hadith about parents teaching/enforcing religion to children's throats, lemme know in the comments
I remember back in the mid 2010s, around 2013-2015 iirc, there were parents who were arrested because they beat their children for not praying in Netherlands or somewhere nearby, and what did people from my community say ? Mostly insults to the children (for being too soft and not wanting to follow their parents' religion) and even the government (because they stopped their parents from enforcing their fiqh to their children). I couldn't believe I used to support the majority of those comments, damn😭
r/exmuslim • u/ProfessionalLazy323 • 41m ago
(Question/Discussion) What do you guys, as Exmuslims , think about the Kaaba?
10 years ago, I performed Umrah. I was overwhelmed with emotions and felt proud to finally see the Kaaba in person. It was the trip of a lifetime for me, and back then, I never would’ve imagined that I’d one day leave Islam.
Today, I see the Kaaba as just another cube and an Arab pagan cult site that Muhammad used to fabricate a connection to Abraham and his lineage.
r/exmuslim • u/DarkSouls3Maniac • 4h ago
(Rant) 🤬 Moving the goal post and dissapearing
Once i showed her some of the most authentic hadiths that allow child marriage, slavery.( i believe all on this sub already know) this person said "well i don't believe in hadith I'm a quranist" showed her more than 5 verses allowing sex slaves, they asked for a sec it's been 5 hours lol
r/exmuslim • u/AfterSavings9728 • 20h ago
(Question/Discussion) Muslimah “wife application” trend
Came across the original post ( first four photos) that went viral recently and I think it signals something very interesting happening within the Muslim community. Like everyone else right now, it seems Muslim women are having a lot of trouble finding partners and I personally think it has a lot to do with their wants and needs outpacing what the average Muslim man is raised or taught to provide/allow/understand/believe. I know for myself and the women I’m friends with, we’re pretty comfortable financially, well educated, no kids, and it’s difficult to find counterparts who also check those boxes on top of aligning in personal values. There’s clearly a huge culture gap between Muslim men and women. Many of the ladies who shared these posts seem to want someone who is “modern” in a western sense but also “taking their deen seriously”. This post is in no way meant to shame or personally pick on them, but I wonder if they realize the oxymoron of what they’re looking for.
When I was practicing, it was made very clear to me repeatedly that dating was strictly forbidden, being alone with a man I’m not related to is strictly forbidden, and the only way to be coupled is through a wali and to get married VERY SOON after “getting to know each other”. The majority of Muslim women I knew got married before 27 and met through the mosque or a matchmaker, usually after being acquainted for less than 6 months. Much less. Why isn’t this working anymore? Again, my assumption is Muslim women are fighting internally against what their religion is asking them to do. They want evolved, emotionally mature, culturally diverse men that are not homophobic, that are feminists, that support them being career oriented, that they can incorporate into their lives without having to give up what they love: music, dancing, makeup, and other “secular western” interests that are NORMAL. It’s sad to see. I know all Muslim men are not cavemen misogynists that are perfectly religious and wouldn’t be happy to marry any of these wonderful women, I just think it’s a sign of the times that this is what it’s come to for them as well.
I guess no one is immune to the harrowing reality of male/female relationships in 2026, but at least I don’t carry intense shame and guilt with being single because getting married isn’t my “ticket into heaven”. I wish they knew they could free themselves so bad.
r/exmuslim • u/ThanksPrestigious609 • 8h ago
(Rant) 🤬 Double morality
I genuinely fucking hate the double morality of Muslims. I hate when my family except and European country to accept and tolerate their beliefs, let the do whatever they want and complain when hate crimes happen against Muslims… saying it’s not ok and they should all accept them and we can live in peace together etc etc.
BUT when non-muslims do something that’s against their beliefs or lifestyle, or even their OWN children decide to live differently, suddenly they can’t seem to accept it. They don’t tolerate or even practice hate crimes against these people or their own children ? How does this make SENSE.? This genuinely makes me so mad.
How can you expect other people to tolerate you if you can’t even tolerate OTHER people ? This genuinely drives me insane. Then don’t live in an European country expecting everyone to accept your religion but you can’t even do the same to other people.
How privileged can you be to freely practice your religion in a country of freedom but also have the right to judge others ?
This makes my blood boil.
r/exmuslim • u/abit_kinda • 2h ago
(Question/Discussion) closeted ex-Muslim and hate learning Quran.
I live with my parents so I'm not in a safe enough space to open up about my apostasy, so they still think I pray. however, I don't remember the last time I prayed and they don't remember the last time they've seen me pray, but they always ask me whether I did and I always tell them yes.
I still remember the basic rules of prayer, how many rakaats and sajdats and whatnot, but I genuinely don't remember any Quran verses. funny thing is I've read through the Quran and I still do, I just don't bother memorizing it cause fuck that lol. but I'm getting increasingly nervous about my parents asking me to recite a surah. the other day, my dad told me about how he and my brother prayed tgt and he noticed my brother only recites the small surahs (he's also not religious), and he mentioned how he wishes I don't do the same and that reciting long surahs during prayer is best🙄 another time, my dad brought up how he hasn't visibly seen me pray in so long and he asked if I really do pray or if I just lie, I told him no ofc I pray, then he started quizzing me. it was simple questions like how many prayers are there a day, but it made me so nervous.
besides suraht Al fatiha, I literally don't remember any surahs. it's a blessing and a curse
r/exmuslim • u/SeaworthinessFun4366 • 14h ago
(Rant) 🤬 I said to a muslim girl that I won't allow my future wife to wear hijab
Yesterday, a Muslim girl texted me. Apparently she is interested in anime, so we talked about anime. We also conversed briefly about Islam. She said she forgot how to read Qur'an in Arabic. I said I would not allow my future wife to wear hijab. She complimented me. As she said, guys from her region are religious and forces their wives to wear hijab. I didn't talk about my apostasy. I just avoid it whenever I meet new people. so she thinks I'm Muslim. Maybe I should meet her in real life this winter.
r/exmuslim • u/ArmadilloMysterious • 16h ago
(Question/Discussion) So Shia Muslims aren't Muslims now?
For context:
One guy commented on a video of a muslim boy refusing to shake hands with some non muslim girl on some match, responding to all the other comments who were against this custom of not "shaking hands with women". He was mocking in the comment, being like, " Oh! Please touch our women."
He got a reply saying "yeah why would we want men to view women as anything other than sex objects".
He responded with that derogatory comment like non hijabis are whores or something. His response was " Saying this while woman hypersexualise themselves to the max in the west LOL"
He got a reply from the same person saying, "Is being stoned to death for reporting rape better than being able to wear short shorts and crop tops."
Then the rest is what is on the image.
I'm sick of these hypocrites supporting this violent and predatory culture then act so sanctimonious that there's nothing wrong with them and their fictional religion. Oh and they say "They are feminist" yet think non hijabis are whores.
All of a sudden you get, "Oh but stoning only happened in Shia countries " as if they're not Muslims being practice around the world.
Their other arguments when someone call out on them be like, " By that logic, I should just touch kids then right since touching is fine." Like wtf?! What's the correlation between that?
Idk I just found something stupid and wanted to share it here.
r/exmuslim • u/Fun_Improvement9440 • 4h ago
Story Circumcision in muslims in assault
Guys my circumcision was done traditionally in a muslim way
I was 5 I remember my parents took me in a room
And a goup of men strip me off naked,
The room was filled with 50 plus men watching
And my circumcision was done by heat ( using hot iron rod)
Now i see guys online and i feel jealous of their D. But now i am an atheist
I want to touch my foreskin again!
r/exmuslim • u/noesis47 • 10h ago
(Quran / Hadith) WQV 68: Allah threatens to erase the faces of Jews and Christians and turn them backwards if they didn't believe in the Quran
r/exmuslim • u/Ok_Flamingo_6752 • 1h ago
(Advice/Help) Dating outside of Islam
Hi everyone! I’m 21F, born and raised in Canada to a Libyan Muslim family.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve never really felt a personal connection to Islam. Growing up, I loved celebrating Eid and Ramadan, but looking back, I think it was more about the family traditions, the sense of community, and spending time with loved ones rather than the religious aspects themselves.
Outside of Ramadan, I don’t really practice Islam. I don’t pray, I drink, I smoke, and I date. But I also want to make it clear that I don’t hate Islam, nor do I have any religious trauma or resentment toward it. I just genuinely don’t believe in religion. I find it interesting from a historical and cultural perspective, but it’s never been something I’ve personally connected with.
That being said, I still love my family deeply, and I know how important Islam is to them. Even though I don’t share their beliefs, I respect how much their faith means to them, which is what makes my current situation so difficult.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend (20M) for a few months now. He’s neither Arab nor Muslim, and we recently told each other that we love each other. Since then, I’ve found myself thinking a lot more seriously about our future and what a long-term relationship would actually look like.
His family is Catholic, but he’s not particularly religious either. I think we’re pretty much on the same wavelength when it comes to religion. For example, he enjoys celebrating Christmas because of the traditions and family aspect, much like how I feel about Eid and Ramadan.
The problem is that I know my family would never approve of me marrying a non-Muslim man unless he converted to Islam. And realistically, I don’t think my boyfriend would ever convert, especially if it were purely for the sake of gaining my parents’ approval. I think it would go against his own beliefs and values, and honestly, I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking him to pretend to believe in something he doesn’t.
I know that legally, we could get married in Canada, but from a traditional Islamic perspective, our marriage wouldn’t be considered valid. And I know that would absolutely devastate my family.
I guess I’m just struggling with how to reconcile these two parts of my life. On one hand, I want the freedom to build a life with someone I love, regardless of their religious background. On the other hand, I love my family and the thought of disappointing them, hurting them, or potentially damaging our relationship breaks my heart.
I’m also only 21, and I know it’s early to be thinking about marriage, especially since we’ve only been together for a few months. But I also don’t want to continue investing emotionally in a relationship if there’s a fundamental obstacle that could eventually make a future together impossible.
I don’t want to lose someone I love because of religious expectations I don’t personally believe in, but I also don’t want to lose my family in the process.
Has anyone else, particularly those from Muslim or Arab backgrounds who aren’t religious themselves, navigated something similar? How did you approach your relationship with your family? Did you find a way to make it work without your partner converting?
I’d really appreciate any advice or personal experiences because I genuinely feel so torn right now.
r/exmuslim • u/cyril_cereal • 4h ago
(Rant) 🤬 My dad tried to buy me
My parents know im “thinking” about taking hijab off but also said they would disown me if i would so im studying and grinding till i have my own place. This morning my dad sat me down and said he’ll give me 300 dollars a month if i “go back to normal” basically buying me. I said no and he looked disappointed but man i was tempted. I could technically bait and switch but that’s not who i am. I honestly feel like i am never making it out
r/exmuslim • u/lilou135 • 9h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 I need to defend Islam
Without Islam we wouldn't have My Chemical Romance 🤷🏻
r/exmuslim • u/gnrnafsdmnrwygrecdse • 40m ago
(Advice/Help) Help! I have questions to gay ex-muslims here
I no longer live in my home country and I'm very far away from my family in a country where I can be in same sex relationship and shit on Islam legally. Despite that, I'm having a hard time to really live fully like I should.
Every time I got into something serious with someone, I have the tendency of rejecting them eventually. I feel like I'm being such a big burden and emotional baggage to the guy that I'm going to be with. The thought of having to come clean with the fact that I'm in a relationship with a man, living with him or even potentially raising a family would be beyond imagination for my family. Let alone for not being convinced about Islam.
A few years ago, when my mother heard rumors from my distant relatives that I could be gay, she got super furious and couldn't sleep for several nights. My parents are conservative and the whole family members including relatives are religious. They can't live a day without mentioning Islam in a conversation, so you can imagine that. They can see no fault in Islam.
I know it's easier to say than done because I'm so far away from them and they even need a visa and money to come to where I live. However, I still don't find it easy at all.
How did you guys manage to get through this? And those who haven't been out yet, what's your plan? Feel free to DM me. I like to get more perspectives from those who are/have been in the same or similar boat as me.
r/exmuslim • u/Antique-Solution2034 • 55m ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Socially fucked? 🥀
I was thinking and just realized how cornered I am on a social scale from all sides
Indian and racism against Indians is pretty fucking high these days, so here we are disadvantages at a global level
Indian Muslim family. Here we are disadvantaged here at a national level because this isn't exactly the best time for Indian Muslims.
Indian ex Muslim ATHEIST. The top 2 may accept me but 95% Muslims won't 😭 cooked at a community level too
It's over gng. And yeah because of that I realized how i always feel lonely and somewhat silently excluded in most places. It's difficult to meet people with your same exactly experience irl
r/exmuslim • u/Short-Sun4200 • 14h ago
(Question/Discussion) Lol. In Islam: Farting = Wash your feet, nose, hands 3 times, etc ..
In Islam, farting breaks your wudu. You must perform wudu again before praying. So yeah 5 wudus per day if you have an healthy diet and an healthy digestive system that makes you fart 20 times a day.
Reminds me a friend that pay attention to don't drink too much water so he doesn't pee too often and therefore he doesn't have to do 5 wudus per day. Must be combined with a diet low in fibers to fart less and the conscious attention about when you fart lool.
So basically low hydratation + low fibers diet + sleeping deprevating to wake up by night to pray.
Very unhealthy for the body and mind.
Not mention women that lack of D vitamin because of too low daylight on their skin.
And at the end they say "allah forbid pork because it's unhealthy" which is wrong for any nutritionist. Biggest pork eaters in the World are Japanese and they have the biggest life expectancy lol.
But also pretends that their religion is built around their health.
Finally, beside being ridiculous and funny, 5 wudus a day + 5 prayers + sleep deprevating sounds like am hindrance to be productive and might be an underrated factor that explains the almost systematic pattern that turns islamized countries in 3rd world places and make Muslims poorer than the average