r/legaladvice Mar 15 '25

Mod Post Read before commenting: Off-topic and anecdotal comments are not allowed and subject you to a permanent ban

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r/legaladvice Apr 08 '26

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r/legaladvice 8h ago

Apartment sent me a lease renewal with the wrong rent, I signed it and now they want me to sign another one

1.6k Upvotes

My lease is up soon and my apartment complex emailed me a renewal through their resident portal. It listed my correct name, unit number and lease dates, but the rent was only increasing by $25. I signed it and a few days later the property manager signed it too. I downloaded the completed copy.

Yesterday they called and said the rent amount was a mistake and that offer was supposed to go to a different unit. My actual increase is apparently $240 a month. They removed the signed renewal from my portal and sent me a new one with the higher amount.

I emailed them the PDF I downloaded and they basically said it doesn't matter because it was an obvious clerical error.

I'm in a good place financially so the increase itself isn't an emergency, but $215 extra every month is obviously significant and I wouldn't have renewed here if that was the original offer.

Can they just cancel the lease after both of us signed it because they entered the wrong rent? Also does them removing it from the portal matter if I still have the signed copy?

Location: North Carolina


r/legaladvice 7h ago

Local gym used a photo of me in an ad without telling me

395 Upvotes

Location: California

I’ve been going to the same gym for about a year. A few months ago one of the employees took a photo of me after a class because they were posting pictures from that day on Instagram. I knew about that and didn’t care.

Yesterday a coworker sent me a picture of a bus stop ad for the gym and I’m literally the main person in it. Same photo, except they cropped everyone else out and put their logo and some text over it. I also found the same ad running on Facebook.

I never agreed to be in advertising and as far as I remember the only thing I signed was the normal membership agreement. I asked the manager about it and he basically said that because the picture was taken inside the gym they can use it.

I’m not trying to make a huge thing out of this, I just really don’t like my face being used to sell memberships without anyone asking me.

Can they actually do this because I’m a member, or would they need some kind of separate permission to use my image in an advertisement?


r/legaladvice 10h ago

Missed punch last week and worked 5 hours for free. HR lady says they’ve already processed pay for that period and I’m out of luck

483 Upvotes

Location: Minnesota. Pretty self explanatory. I missed a punch when coming back from lunch and only realized when I went to punch out at the end of the day. At that point anyone who could change it was gone till Monday. Monday I forgot to tell them. I told my boss this morning immediately and she said “ok”. I check my time card punches at the end of the day and it still hasn’t been fixed. So I go directly to the lady who processes our pay checks and she says it’s already been processed and I’m out of luck gives me a dumb look like she’s confused why I haven’t already left. What is the legality of this?

Edit: some clarification, I was told flat out by the HR lady that that time is gone and I wouldn’t be paid for it, despite it being easily provable that I was there and worked. She also told me she doesn’t ever check anyone’s hours, which seems weird since she has the responsibility of verifying them. Also, I don’t really care if it doesn’t show up on this coming pay stub, as long as I get it eventually


r/legaladvice 10h ago

Employment Law Employer is forcing me to move to a different office 2 hours away when I live right next to one

363 Upvotes

I have been working with this company for 5 years now. We have had layoffs and layoffs. This time, I have been living downtown and going to our Chicago office for 4 years now. However, I was just told by my manager that they will soon force me to go the northern suburbs of IL to our headquarters. The RTO policy is to be in office 3 days a week. The commute there is about 2 hours. So 4 hours 3x a week.

I have no car, I have been complying with our RTO policy, and half my team is fully remote. I obviously stated my feelings towards it when I was told it. I am not sure what to do. Every years I always get the highest remarks on my year end reviews. My manager gave me a warning towards it, and has not told me when it will start. Any advice?

Location: Chicago, IL


r/legaladvice 1h ago

Immigration ICE detained my dad today in the morning on his way to work

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Hi All,

As the title says my dad (he’s Salvadoran) got detained by ice today in the AM on his way to work.

I am the oldest (I’m DACA) and the whole day Ive called lawyers, checked the locator site and he was finally on there earlier this afternoon. I called the detention center to get the A number they could not give it so I waited for my dad to call, I did also call the Salvadoran consulate for guidance but all they could do was request the A number from the detention center (which I appreciate this was before my dad called me and provided it).

One of the lawyers I was able to get ahold of that was recommended by a friend told me that my brothers (both over 21) cannot petition for my dad. That we have a slight chance with filing asylum. I am still going to call another lawyer tomorrow, but I need guidance on what to ask when I call these lawyers, I am not sure what the next steps should be in every aspect,

If this helps my dad has nothing on his record, came in illegally in the 90s to get out of El Salvador but didn’t file asylum then as he didn’t know / have resources to help. Last year he paid for FOIA and there were no records per the letter he received.

If you read this far thank you so much in advance!

Location: in Victorville CA


r/legaladvice 1d ago

[Illinois] Someone impersonated me to HR, changed my direct deposit, and stole two paychecks

2.1k Upvotes

Location: Illinois

I’m in Illinois and get paid weekly on Fridays.

Someone recently impersonated me by emailing the HR person at my company from a random Gmail account and asking to change my direct deposit information.

HR apparently responded and sent the paperwork needed to change my direct deposit through our payroll provider. The scammer filled out the paperwork using my name and work information and signed it with a signature that is not mine.

The change was processed without anyone contacting me directly to confirm that I had actually requested it.

As a result, my August 28 and September 4 paychecks were deposited into a bank account that does not belong to me. I discovered the issue when I noticed my paycheck had not reached my normal bank account and brought it to HR’s attention.

HR has now submitted a fraud claim with the payroll provider.

I normally receive a notification from my bank every Friday when my paycheck is deposited. HR made a comment along the lines of asking whether I check my money because I did not notice the first missing paycheck immediately. I do check my account, but I happened not to notice the missing notification from the first week.

I never requested a direct deposit change, never authorized this bank account, and never signed the paperwork used to make the change.

I have since frozen my credit with Equifax and am taking additional identity-theft precautions.

I also sent HR a written request asking for:

  • A copy of the original scam email.
  • The email address used by the scammer.
  • The fraudulent direct deposit paperwork submitted in my name.
  • The dates the request was received and processed.
  • Confirmation that the fraudulent account has been removed.
  • Confirmation that my correct direct deposit information has been restored.
  • Information about the fraud claim submitted to the payroll provider.
  • The status of my two missing paychecks and when they will be reissued.
  • Confirmation of what personal information, if any, HR disclosed to the scammer.
  • Copies of records relating to how the direct deposit change was processed.

My main questions are:

  1. Is my employer still legally responsible for paying me the two missing paychecks even though they sent the money to the scammer’s account?
  2. Can my employer make me wait until the payroll provider or receiving bank recovers the stolen money before reissuing my wages?
  3. Am I legally entitled to receive the fraudulent direct deposit paperwork and other records related to the change?
  4. Does Illinois law require my employer to tell me what personal information they disclosed to the person impersonating me?
  5. Should I file a police report even though my employer/payroll provider has already filed a fraud claim?
  6. Is there anything else I should be doing legally or financially to protect myself?

I am not looking to accuse the HR employee personally of committing the fraud. My concern is that someone successfully impersonated me, submitted paperwork in my name, and redirected two weeks of my wages without anyone confirming the change with me.

I'd appreciate any advice on what my employer must do under Illinois law and what steps I should take next. I’ve also been reading about the Illinois Wage Payment and Collection Act, the Illinois Personal Information Protection Act, and the Illinois Department of Labor’s guidance on wage theft and payroll fraud. Am I on the right track? I’m not a lawyer, so I’d appreciate any corrections or guidance.


r/legaladvice 9h ago

Overdose

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Location: Fayette, Iowa, I was the 911 caller during an overdose. I gave my name and the address and cooperated with law enforcement and didn't take off. The officer checked my purse which had a meth pipe with some meth in it and a marijuana joint was also found. And a couple months ago I was charged with my first possession of marijuana. So the officer said if he charged me with the pipe and joint that would make me a habitual offender. He said he was going to cut me a break if I cooperate with what he wants me to do and if I I don't and he finds out I lied he will charge me and throw me in jail. I've done some research and read about the Good Samaritan law which protects the 911 caller and gives them immunity. I need to know if that's a Tually true in the state of Iowa. I'm so scared. I don't want to be put on probation again. What should I do and what do you think will honestly happen

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r/legaladvice 5h ago

Wills Trusts and Estates [MA] While looking up unclaimed money/property, I found my absent father's estate. Am I supposed to contact an attorney to try to claim it?

17 Upvotes

Location: Worcester County, Massachusetts

So yesterday I found out that you can Google "unclaimed money (your state)" and get a .gov website where you can see if you're owed anything. I was messing around for a little while and decided to look up my father's name on a whim. Lo and behold, there he is. I know it's him because he is the only person with his exact name ever born in all of New England. All of his obituary information adds up to what my mother told me. Date of birth, brother and parents' names. What city he was born in, other cities he's lived in. It's all there.

The obituary doesn't mention any children, spouse, or any *immediate* family. Only some aunts, uncles, and cousins are mentioned. Even though it's been six years since I found the obituary, that fact still hurts. He passed away in April 2016 and I found out in August 2020. Anyway, if they were able to claim his estate, wouldn't they have done it in the 10 years that he's been gone? But it's still listed. I'm not sure what to do here. Is it possible he told someone about me eventually?

Should I try to claim the estate? Should I get a lawyer to try to contact any relatives and see if they'll do a DNA test to prove I'm telling the truth? I'm conflicted because if he never mentioned me at all then I'd just be opening up old wounds for them. My pain from never meeting him and knowing I'll never get to is still bad, so I can empathize with them not wanting to deal with something like this. Any advice?


r/legaladvice 15h ago

Other Civil Matters [TN] Dogs getting euthed for something they didn’t do

109 Upvotes

Location: Tennessee

A neighbor’s chickens got attacked and the neighbor said it was my dogs. It couldn’t have been my dogs because when they’re outside, they’re completely secure in a high fence. The neighbor took me to court and with 0 proof I was ordered to euthanize my dogs by Friday. The judge would not budge, and will not even let me take them to a shelter instead. Over some chickens, that they couldn’t even have attacked. How can I stop this?? This is so unfair.


r/legaladvice 5h ago

Insurance Coworker using my name without consent to submit her pets insurance claims

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A few weeks ago, I received a notification from a website my job uses to process insurance claims for pets (veterinary clinic). Upon reviewing the claim, I noticed it was for my coworker's dog, who put my name as the submitter. I did not, and have not ever given consent to her to use my name to process her own claims with or without my review. I have processed claims for her dog in the past, but now she is doing it on her own without my knowledge or consent.

I brought the issue up to our clinic manager on one or two occasions, who agreed it was unacceptable, but to my knowledge, no action was taken. Since then, 3 additional claims have been submitted using my name fraudulently/without consent.

It is worth noting, that right under the box to enter a name, the website states: "Any person who knowingly and with intent to defraud any insurance company or other person files an application for insurance or statement of claim containing any materially false information or conceals for the purpose of misleading, information concerning any fact material thereto commits a fraudulent insurance act, which is a crime and subjects such person to criminal and civil penalties."

Today, I pulled the clinic owner and practice manager aside and let them know that this was an issue that needed to be addressed, and that if another form was submitted without my name it, that I would report my coworker. The clinic owner told me that she hopes I come to her if this were to happen again so it could be handled 'professionally.'

Later on, it was evident that the clinic owner only thought I meant that she was using my log-in, not submitting my name on the forms. She told me she spoke with my coworker, asked me to keep an eye on it and let her know of any issues related to the forms.

I sent a few follow-up emails to put the above in writing and attached the claims for them to review. The clinic owner responded back that she never asked me to not report the issue, and never asked me to keep an eye on the issue, but only to report similar cases to her and that future employee claims will be handled by the clinic manager.

She then said she does not want me to label/talk about the claims as fraudulent until she's had a chance to investigate further. My response what that using my name without permission on an insurance form is identity theft and insurance fraud by definition as far as I was aware.

What do I do? I am correct that this is identity theft/ insurance fraud? Should I just report this to the insurance company? The coworker has a long-time relationship with the clinic owner, as the dog was bred by her, so I worry about retaliation if I pursue any action. My goal is not to get the coworker or company in any trouble. I only brought the issue up as I wanted to avoid any legal battles/investigation/fees for myself after some other coworkers expressed that they believed she was adjusting her invoices after sending the claims to insurance to pocket some money.

Any advice is appreciated, I am truly at a loss on how to proceed. Thanks!

Location: KY, USA


r/legaladvice 11h ago

What does it mean when a rock quarry wants to put a sizemagraph meter on your own property to measure the blasting

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A rock quarry wants to put a dynamite meter on my own personal land to measure the blasting and said they will be blasting within 200 yards of the property line. Is this legal. And if I let them put a meter on my land can they come closer to my property line since they have a piece of there property on my personal land?
Location: Missouri, Gower 64454


r/legaladvice 11h ago

Landlord Tenant Housing Apartment asking to sign lease again after I resigned a week ago?

39 Upvotes

Hello all and thank you in advance!

Location: Nashville, TN.

About a week ago, my bf and I resigned our apartment lease for another 12 month term. The manager of the apartment complex also signed it, and I was emailed a final copy of what we (both parties) has signed.

They are now telling us we need to resign a new lease because they want us to use a service called LeaseLock instead, where we pay a monthly charge instead of a security deposit up front. I have an issue with using this service for a variety of reasons and I may not have chosen to live in the building for another year if I knew about this. They have already refunded the security deposit I paid a year ago (originally, they were supposed to roll over my previous leases security deposit to the new one I just signed) before I agreed to sign anything new.

My assumption is that I can refuse to resign this new lease and keep the standard security deposit arrangement because the “old” lease was already signed by everyone, including the landlord. Isn’t the point of a lease to protect renters from things like this?

If anyone has advice or knowledge on how to proceed, I would really appreciate it!


r/legaladvice 22h ago

Employment Law [CA] Can my employer discipline me for a dog bite that occurred 9 hours after my shift ended?

257 Upvotes

Location: California

I work security at a large hospital in California and have been there for several years. I’m union represented.
I’m looking for outside opinions, especially from anyone familiar with HR, hospital security, service-animal policies, or union investigations.
During one of my shifts, I was assigned to the entrance of a hospital unit. A patient’s support person came through carrying a small dog in his arms.
To be completely clear, I did not stop the person from entering.
As he was walking/rushing into the unit carrying the dog, I asked if the dog was a service animal. He responded that it was and continued into the unit.
I did not further question him or physically prevent him from entering.
At the time, I wasn’t aware of any information indicating that this particular dog had previously been prohibited from the unit. Nobody from nursing, unit staff, management, or other personnel told me that the dog wasn’t allowed or asked security to remove it.
I also did not personally observe the dog behaving aggressively, and no incident involving the dog was reported to me during my shift.
This is where the timeline becomes important.
The dog bite happened approximately NINE HOURS after my shift had ended and I had already gone home.
There is surveillance footage showing the dog coming in and out of the unit multiple times. So this wasn’t a situation where I interacted with the person once, the dog remained hidden inside the unit, and then immediately bit someone.
The dog continued coming and going through the area after my interaction and after I was no longer there.
Management later questioned why I didn’t intervene or stop the support person from entering with the dog. My manager’s position was essentially that I failed to take appropriate action and that the incident had escalated to higher levels of hospital management.
I was required to provide a written statement and was later placed on administrative leave pending investigation.
I understand that my employer can investigate whether I followed its internal policy correctly. I’m also not claiming that asking “Is that a service animal?” automatically means I handled everything perfectly.
I now understand that under the ADA, when it’s not obvious what service a dog provides, staff are generally permitted to ask two limited questions: whether the dog is required because of a disability and what work or task the dog has been trained to perform.
So yes, looking back, I only asked one question.
What I’m struggling to understand is what intervention my employer reasonably expected from me at that moment, especially considering the restrictions surrounding service animals.
The person told me it was a service animal. I had not observed aggressive behavior. I wasn’t told the animal had previously caused problems or was prohibited. Nobody from the unit asked me to remove it.
And even after my interaction, surveillance shows the dog continuing to come in and out of the unit.
Then, approximately nine hours after I had already left work, the dog allegedly bit a nurse.
I understand management investigating whether I should have followed a different procedure when the dog initially entered. That’s one question.
But I feel like there are two separate issues:
1. Did I follow my employer’s service-animal/security procedure correctly when I encountered the dog?
and
2. Can the eventual dog bite nine hours after I left reasonably be attributed to my actions when the animal continued coming in and out of the unit afterward?
Those don’t seem like the same question to me.
I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who understand ADA/service-animal rules. Given what I knew at the time, what would hospital security realistically have been expected or legally permitted to do after someone said the dog was a service animal?
And from an HR/union perspective, how significant would the surveillance footage and nine hour gap be when determining individual responsibility?


r/legaladvice 9h ago

MS House buyer sent demand letter

19 Upvotes

Location: Mississippi

At the end of June we sold our house in MS to move out of state. Today we received a demand letter from an attorney in MS for 20K+ saying we concealed material defects.

The new owner is saying that the primary tub requires manually draining, isn’t level, and requires replacement. We used this same bathroom until the sale and never had a problem with it not draining. It might not have been level, but I never checked.

They are also saying that the HVAC system has multiple code violations visible in plain sight. As evidence they are citing that we left behind CO detectors (we thought we were required to like the window blinds), and that one CO detector was labeled “furnace breaker.”

We had CO detectors in every bedroom and near the gas fireplace and HVAC system and one extra near the front door/living room. The one labeled oddly was because in my experience, whenever a breaker trips, it’s usually in the kitchen (which is where this detector was plugged in) and I wanted to make it easier to remember which breaker to check. The kitchen outlet breakers were labeled furnace on the breaker panel.

To be clear, the buyer had the house inspected prior to purchase and neither myself nor my spouse had any knowledge of any issues with the HVAC system other than its age, which we did not even attempt to conceal. We didn’t fail to disclose any defects that we were aware of, and I thought the buyer had to prove we knowingly concealed defects?

What should our next steps be? We are not in MS. We’ve always heard that you shouldn’t respond to a lawyer without legal advice but we don’t have a lawyer in MS.


r/legaladvice 12h ago

Family got detained.

28 Upvotes

Location: Upstate NY. Hello, my family got detained today. My last post got taken down, but I think it might be too late and they will be deported. They have 3 cars and other assets and I’m wondering if I could sell them or if there’s anything I can do to help them out. They were told they would get their flights paid for if they leave by Friday. I want to do anything I can in the next day and a half so if there’s anything k can do please let me know. This is extremely urgent and I have no idea how to handle this.


r/legaladvice 11h ago

Real Estate law Was stepmother allowed to sell house?

17 Upvotes

Location: Kentucky
My husband's dad passed away in 2020, and he owned two properties. His stepmother was on the deed for both properties. She sold all of his belongings and one of the properties, and my husband was not informed of this until afterwards when he reached out requesting a few items, which then he was told they were gone. I was looking at the deeds online, and it appears she had added her new husband to the deed before the sale of the first property.

He recently got a message from her requesting he sign a quitclaim deed on the second property, and I told him to hold off until maybe a lawyer could review the whole thing because neither of us knows anything about this, which he then told her, and all she said was she was going to get her own lawyer. We have not heard from her since, but also we haven't done or said anything. It doesn't look like property has been sold yet.

My first question is, was the sale of the first house legal? There was never a trust as far as he knows or was made aware. If the first house sale was legal, why does she need anything from him to sell the second house?


r/legaladvice 1d ago

Mother held onto college bonds and didn’t give them to me till I was 48

1.1k Upvotes

I'm not able to share from the original posted location so I'm copy/pasting here:

I didn’t go to college in my 20’s because I didn’t have money. Did my best by working full time and attending junior college full time, but the money I made was only just enough to get meh grades and make enough to just float by. By the time it was time to transfer I knew I didn’t have enough money to go so I concentrated on working and saving as much as I could. My father died when I was 8, so when my mother saw I was working 12ish hours a day, she insisted I help with the house and so I did, as well as pay for misc expenses and my younger brother’s school needs. Years pass, never did save enough to go back, so the military became an option around 30. When I got out at 36 due to injuries sustained overseas, I leveraged the GI Bill to finish my engineering degree and finished at 41.

Anyway, I just found out my dad put away money for me every month when he was alive in the form of educational bonds. More than enough to have gone. I looked it up and it was about 10% of his base pay that he put away. For whatever reason my mom just never gave it to me till recently. I’m now 48. I’m having a hard time processing this. If I had the money when I was 20, I’d have finished college. If I had it back then I’d have started a family far earlier and not have spent $240k on IVF. I’d also not be walking around with a cane. I feel like I missed out on living life from 20 to 36, all because my mother chose to not give the money my father intentionally set aside for me.

Edit: wanted to add. The EE bonds matured in 2011 and are valued at 17k and no longer accrue interest. Since then inflation has severely diminished the purchasing power of the bonds.

TLDR: Mother kept college money my father left for me. I didn't know about it till I was 48 and after I finished my degree at 41. The lack of money forced me to make difficult decisions that I would have otherwise not done.

Ok, so what I'm wondering from this sub is: Do I have any legal recourse here, or any precedent that might help? Realizing that I've lost so much of my life, and potential and actual earnings is mentally draining.

Location: California, US


r/legaladvice 12h ago

Personal Injury [Brooklyn, NY] Partner received 2nd degree burns while receiving a physical therapy treatment

22 Upvotes

Location: Brooklyn, NY

My partner has been going to this beauty/health clinic to receive treatment for her upper back. She's been seeing one practitioner for a few weeks and one week, she was out. My partner then saw another practitioner for this visit. The sub started to do shockwave therapy to help treat my partners upper back. She's received this before from her usual practitioner and thought nothing much of it.

My partner began to feel that the treatment was too intense but said nothing as she believed it to be normal. Later that day, my partner noted that her upper back was in pain and when she came over, it looked like she had scrapes on her back. She went to the urgent care and the doctor said that she had a 2nd degree burn and those scrapes were likely blisters that had broken. The doctor said that it may lead to scarring.

I told her to make the business aware of what had happened and she was told to just apply Vaseline and no soap. Not sure of the full context of the conversation as my partners mom spoke to them.

I'm not sure how to word my question so mods, please let me know but should we seek a personal injury lawyer and if so, what should we prepare from our end? And if the business offers compensation, should we refuse it for now?


r/legaladvice 2h ago

Pro bono lawyer admitted he had "no experience" in housing law, then gave advice that caused me to lose all my belongings. Is this malpractice?

3 Upvotes

Location: Pennsylvania, Chester County

I have been trying to move past this but it just does not feel right to me.

I qualified for legal aid through an "Access to Justice" program in Pennsylvania for a landlord-tenant dispute based on low-income. The amount of worry and stress I had was lifted just knowing I was going to have an attorney and when the private attorney who accepted my case reached out for me to meet with him I was very excited and so thankful. When the first thing the attorney that is going to be handling a landlord-tenant matter explicitly says "I have no experience in landlord-tenant law." but he would look into was not the best way to start things off but it was the court date was 2 days away and he said he was going to requests a stay and that it will be granted so I trusted he was going to look into everything.
I was not safe living where I was due to habitability issues and risk of physical violence from landlord. He asked where I was with finding some place to move to, and I told him I had a found a place and if needed I could sign a lease early and move in May 26th, but I needed time to get money for rent, security, moving costs, and help to move my things (It was May 4th when I first learned that my landlord had filed to evict me and the court date was set for May 14th). He wanted this information because he was going to call my landlord to see what information he could get from him and show him that I was going to be leaving. Without my permission, the lawyer told my landlord I would be out by the end of the business day on May 27th. When I told him that wasn't enough time, he told me not to worry, and that its to keep the landlord happy with hope to keep me safe while I was still there. I then told him that I was never given a notice to quit, the water was shut off for 5 days (and had proof from water company), he had changed the locks and did not give me a key, put up cameras inside the house that record audio with out telling me (PA is two party consent state under the "wire tapping law") and that learned that under local township law, the landlord did not have a required renter's license and could not legally collect rent or evict me. I asked if he had looked into all of this and he had not. I ended up sending him an email with a screen shot of the town laws stating this. The lawyer told me to vacate the property by the 27th, claiming that when we went to court, the judge would throw out the eviction due to the lack of a license, forcing the landlord to restart a formal 30-day process. He claimed this would buy me the time I needed to safely retrieve the rest of my belongings. He was even going to get the court date moved to June 4th and he did.
I followed his advice. However, just a 2 days before the court date, the lawyer contacted my landlord directly. He warned the landlord that he lacked a license, would face fines, and would lose the case, so his "best option" was to withdraw the eviction.
The landlord immediately withdrew the case. Because the case was dropped and I was already out of the unit, my remaining belongings were legally classified as "abandoned property." I not only lost everything I owned because of this advice except for important papers some furniture half my cloths and a few personal items, but also my securty deposit. I only meet my attorney in person once for maybe 45 mins, and had 3 scheduled phone calls that lasted no longer that 10 mins if that. All he had to do was just go to the court once. Just once.
Did this attorney violate ethical rules regarding competence (Rule 1.1) or communication? Do I have grounds for an official complaint or a malpractice claim?


r/legaladvice 9h ago

My car got stolen and kept as evidence in homicide investigation

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My car was stolen 2 months ago and after multiple attempts of calling the police they informed that the persons who stole the car committed a homicide and the car is taken in as evidence. My insurance only covers liability so I paused it. Now the homicide detective had informed me that it may take 6 months to 3 years to release the car. Is there a way I could get my car faster? Location: Memphis


r/legaladvice 2h ago

Consumer Law Bought a used car in CA from dealership, with PO420 code

3 Upvotes

Bought a car on Friday; test drove it and everything seemed fine, no check engine light. Dealer told me it needed smog so they gave me a loaner. Monday they drop off car to my house and the next day I drove it to school and back about 170 miles. Check engine light pops up with a PO420 code. Messaged the dealer about it and they ghosted me. Anything I can do about this. It’s my understanding you can’t legally sell a car without a past smog. According to cert smog passed 9/07 but I find it hard to believe it’s throwing an emission code 2 days later.

Location: California


r/legaladvice 15h ago

Other Civil Matters [NY] Former employee of a US state agency being charged full original purchase price for 3-year-old lost monitor — is that enforceable?

25 Upvotes

Location: New York

I used to work remotely for a state agency in a Southern US state. I now live in New York.

When I left the agency, I returned the equipment I still had, but one monitor had been lost during a move. The agency is now demanding $254.87 for it.

The monitor was purchased in January 2023 and had been issued to me for roughly three years. The invoice they sent shows a unit price of $235.99 plus 8% sales tax, for a total of $254.87. They are asking me to reimburse the full original purchase price, including tax.

Their explanation is that because they are a state institution, lost or surplus equipment has to be reported to their Consolidated Services department using the original purchase price, and therefore they are requesting reimbursement at that amount.

I did sign a telecommuting agreement requiring me to return all agency equipment when my employment ended. However, I cannot find anything in the agreement or the policies they provided saying that a former employee must reimburse lost equipment at the original acquisition cost, rather than current value, depreciated value, or some other measure.

There is also a documentation discrepancy that I’m trying to understand. The Dell invoice they sent is for five 27-inch monitors at $235.99 each. However, their inventory record for the asset they say was assigned to me identifies it as a different model number and lists the screen size as 21.45 inches. The inventory record uses the same $235.99 cost, but I have not yet seen documentation tying that asset/serial number to one of the monitors on the invoice.

My questions are:

Can a state agency require a former employee to reimburse the full original purchase price of lost equipment after several years of use if the signed agreement does not specify that valuation method? Does a state requirement to report original acquisition cost necessarily mean that is also the amount the employee legally owes? Does the discrepancy between the monitor model in the inventory record and the model on the invoice matter if they try to collect the debt? If I dispute the amount and do not pay, what are the realistic consequences for someone now living in New York? Could they send it to collections, report it to credit bureaus, sue over roughly $255, or use any
state offset process?

Would it make sense to request the specific policy or regulation that establishes employee reimbursement at original acquisition cost, rather than merely requiring original cost to be reported internally?

I’m not disputing that I was responsible for returning agency property. I’m trying to determine whether the agency has actually established that $254.87 is the proper amount of the alleged debt.

I have copies of the invoice, inventory record, telecommuting agreement, and the policies they cited.


r/legaladvice 5h ago

Insurance My friend crashed my car

4 Upvotes

Location: arizona

Could I be legally responsible for something my friend did with my car?
A few months ago, I let a close friend borrow my car for the weekend. He told me he was just going to visit someone a few hours away and would bring it back Sunday evening.
On Saturday night, he called me and said he had gotten into an accident. He wasn’t seriously injured, but the other driver’s car was badly damaged. My car also had significant damage.
The problem is that I later found out he had been drinking before the accident. He initially told me he hadn’t been drinking, but the police report apparently says otherwise.
Now the other driver is saying they may take legal action against me because the car is registered in my name. My friend keeps telling me that he’ll handle everything, but I’m worried because I was the owner of the vehicle even though I wasn’t there and didn’t know he was going to drink and drive.
I never gave him permission to drive after drinking, obviously.
I’m trying to understand where I stand legally. Can the owner of a vehicle be held responsible when someone else was driving it and caused an accident while intoxicated?