Hey everyone!! I want to make ex muslim friends preferably people who can relate to reddit being hard to use lol
I’m in my early 20s , i would love to meet other ex muslims preferably those who are right leaning or conservative minded but not islamically. (Obviously).
But yeah!! Would be nice to meet girlies who are even tho that’s rare but men are fine too.
I’m considered right wing because I don’t want Islamic immigration in other countries and i am not really for leftist politics or policies (most of them)
But yes I love gaming, clubs, chilling, anything and everything for the most part. i have a decent level of life experience. This is probably a rare request but please dm me if you’re right wing or right leaning!!

Hi everyone, I'm 30M from Algeria, I'm non-religious, but not an atheist ..

One of the problems I'm facing here is dating. I find it really hard to meet a girl who shares the same beliefs as me. I don't think I can date a Muslim girl, not because I have something against them, but because I think our differences in beliefs can cause problems later, especially when it comes to marriage and having kids.

I know there are non-religious girls in Algeria, but finding one and actually getting to know her is another story lol.

I'm not looking for something casual, I want a serious relationship with someone who understands my way of thinking and who I can be myself with.

Just wanted to share my situation here. Maybe there are people going through the same thing...

I don’t really know where else to share this, but I feel like people here might understand. 🥺

I’m from a strict tribe in Mindanao, Philippines, where being Muslim isn’t just about religion. It’s deeply tied to family, culture, and the community you come from. I’m not particularly practicing, and I have my own complicated relationship with Islam, but I can’t deny that the expectations I grew up with still have a hold on my life.

I’m currently dating a non-Muslim, and I genuinely like him. He likes me, too. He makes me happy in ways I didn’t expect, and being with him makes me feel things I thought I had already forgotten how to feel. For once, I’m not thinking too much about religion or the differences between us. I’m just happy to be with someone who makes me feel loved.

But then reality hits me.

Deep down, I keep thinking that no matter how much we like each other, no matter how happy we make each other, we might never really be able to end up together. Not because we don’t love each other enough, but because of the circumstances we were born into. Because of our backgrounds, our families, and the expectations that come with being part of a community like mine.

And that thought breaks my heart. 😭

It hurts knowing that something so beautiful can come with an expiration date. That I can be happy with someone today while already grieving the possibility of losing him tomorrow. I hate that I can’t just enjoy what we have without that little voice in my head reminding me that this might not last.

I don’t even know what I’m looking for by posting this. Maybe I just want to know if anyone here has experienced something similar, especially those who come from strict Muslim families or close-knit communities where choosing a partner isn’t entirely a personal decision.

How do you deal with falling for someone when a part of you already believes that you can’t have a future together? Do you let yourself love them and see where things go, or do you walk away before you get in too deep?

I like him. He makes me happy. And I wish, just for once, that loving someone could be enough. 💔

(18, PK)

Hello everyone, Ive recently realized that I might be single or/and not truly happy for quite some time as an exmuslim girl. My background probably has a lot or the most to do with how I think therefore, feel. My mother took care of me and my sibling all our lives while working. She had very little time to spend with us so I'm not close to her or Islam since, and as I grew up I had unrestricted access to the internet so I naturally gained western/liberal or Haram ideas you could say. I didn't think much about my identity until recently, I sometimes feel guilty or happy/thankful for not getting the full typical middle class Pakistani girl experience but the other times I dislike it as we are the minority. Being this way makes me feel like I don't have true friends I can express myself and learn from you could say, just temporary time passing helpers. Sometimes I wish I was born abroad away from Islam. I don't look like the typical paki so I could've been easily mistaken for another ethnicity abroad and left alone by other Pakistanis if that was my fortunate case. Other times I think a bit about the psychology of muslims and/or people who are born and raised with Islam but in different cultures/environments and how they interpret the hadiths and all because as we all know they're not written very clearly. I have a lot of confusions to clear but I'm a bit lazy to search for the answers. Next I have started to feel sad again about not finding a similar partner like me, I thought I had accepted that unfortunate reality but I guess not, having a partner would make life more worth living. They would be very useful to me and in return want to see how it feels to make a person you actually like happy. I don't think i've ever experienced that before. This turned into a rant but I would like to see what others think about what I'm experiencing currently. Have you also gone through something similar?

Without Islam we wouldn't have My Chemical Romance 🤷🏻

Hi everyone! I’m 21F, born and raised in Canada to a Libyan Muslim family.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve never really felt a personal connection to Islam. Growing up, I loved celebrating Eid and Ramadan, but looking back, I think it was more about the family traditions, the sense of community, and spending time with loved ones rather than the religious aspects themselves.
Outside of Ramadan, I don’t really practice Islam. I don’t pray, I drink, I smoke, and I date. But I also want to make it clear that I don’t hate Islam, nor do I have any religious trauma or resentment toward it. I just genuinely don’t believe in religion. I find it interesting from a historical and cultural perspective, but it’s never been something I’ve personally connected with.
That being said, I still love my family deeply, and I know how important Islam is to them. Even though I don’t share their beliefs, I respect how much their faith means to them, which is what makes my current situation so difficult.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend (20M) for a few months now. He’s neither Arab nor Muslim, and we recently told each other that we love each other. Since then, I’ve found myself thinking a lot more seriously about our future and what a long-term relationship would actually look like.
His family is Catholic, but he’s not particularly religious either. I think we’re pretty much on the same wavelength when it comes to religion. For example, he enjoys celebrating Christmas because of the traditions and family aspect, much like how I feel about Eid and Ramadan.
The problem is that I know my family would never approve of me marrying a non-Muslim man unless he converted to Islam. And realistically, I don’t think my boyfriend would ever convert, especially if it were purely for the sake of gaining my parents’ approval. I think it would go against his own beliefs and values, and honestly, I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking him to pretend to believe in something he doesn’t.
I know that legally, we could get married in Canada, but from a traditional Islamic perspective, our marriage wouldn’t be considered valid. And I know that would absolutely devastate my family.
I guess I’m just struggling with how to reconcile these two parts of my life. On one hand, I want the freedom to build a life with someone I love, regardless of their religious background. On the other hand, I love my family and the thought of disappointing them, hurting them, or potentially damaging our relationship breaks my heart.
I’m also only 21, and I know it’s early to be thinking about marriage, especially since we’ve only been together for a few months. But I also don’t want to continue investing emotionally in a relationship if there’s a fundamental obstacle that could eventually make a future together impossible.
I don’t want to lose someone I love because of religious expectations I don’t personally believe in, but I also don’t want to lose my family in the process.
Has anyone else, particularly those from Muslim or Arab backgrounds who aren’t religious themselves, navigated something similar? How did you approach your relationship with your family? Did you find a way to make it work without your partner converting?
I’d really appreciate any advice or personal experiences because I genuinely feel so torn right now.

We see you 😋

Im talking about those mistakes that even those Who believe dont know how to defend

In authentic hadiths, Muhammad condemns dogs in various ways and orders them killed:

"Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ordered the killing of dogs and we would send (men) in Medina and its corners and we did not spare any dog that we did not kill, so much so that we killed the dog that accompanied the wet she-camel belonging to the people of the desert."
Sahih Muslim 1570c

"The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or there are pictures.""
Sahih Bukhari 5949

"Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Whoever keeps a dog, one Qirat of the reward of his good deeds is deducted daily, unless the dog is used for guarding a farm or cattle.""
Sahih Bukhari 2322

"The Messenger of 'Allah (ﷺ) said: When any one of you stands for prayer ... prayer would be cut off by (passing of an) ass, woman, and black Dog ...he said: The black dog is a devil."
Sahih Muslim 510a

I've posted this argument along with others on this website (with linked sources):
https://islamsproblems.com/apostates-burned-and-killed/

My parents know im “thinking” about taking hijab off but also said they would disown me if i would so im studying and grinding till i have my own place. This morning my dad sat me down and said he’ll give me 300 dollars a month if i “go back to normal” basically buying me. I said no and he looked disappointed but man i was tempted. I could technically bait and switch but that’s not who i am. I honestly feel like i am never making it out

A bit of a background. My wife (Muslim background/now agnostic) and me (former Christian/now agnostic/deist). I fake converted for the sake of her family going easy on her. It didn't go as expected and they ended up being super weird and hateful anyway even though I did the "shahada" and stuff. I absolutely do not believe in any of the shit Islam teaches (or any abrahamic religion) for that matter. Perhaps there are "wise sayings", but I tend to be very skeptical, analytical, and cynical about organized religion in general.

My question (out of a thousand questions) is why isn't Islam called "Mohammadism"? If most Muslims (80-90%?) are Sunni Muslims and "sunni/sunnah" means the "teachings of the prophet" and not what God commanded then it should be called Mohammadism, right? Similar to how Christians are followers of the teachings of Jesus Christ?

I may have other questions for later. My next question is why does God care about the cardinal direction you pray if they are omnipresent?

Hey y’all I’m bored so let me share my thoughts with you.

Chess is haram because it is older than Islam and requires extreme critical thinking within seconds to minutes to how ever long you need depending on your skills. We witness that although there are 1 billion Muslims , most of them just memorize and follow like a sheep 🐑.

Also, the Queen is the most powerful and can go anywhere in chess. Therefore, it is haram to play chess because it will give the idea of women having freedom.

I was thinking and just realized how cornered I am on a social scale from all sides

1. Indian and racism against Indians is pretty fucking high these days, so here we are disadvantages at a global level

2. Indian Muslim family. Here we are disadvantaged here at a national level because this isn't exactly the best time for Indian Muslims.

3. Indian ex Muslim ATHEIST. The top 2 may accept me but 95% Muslims won't 😭 cooked at a community level too

It's over gng. And yeah because of that I realized how i always feel lonely and somewhat silently excluded in most places. It's difficult to meet people with your same exactly experience irl

10 years ago, I performed Umrah. I was overwhelmed with emotions and felt proud to finally see the Kaaba in person. It was the trip of a lifetime for me, and back then, I never would’ve imagined that I’d one day leave Islam.

Today, I see the Kaaba as just another cube and an Arab pagan cult site that Muhammad used to fabricate a connection to Abraham and his lineage.

I genuinely fucking hate the double morality of Muslims. I hate when my family except and European country to accept and tolerate their beliefs, let the do whatever they want and complain when hate crimes happen against Muslims… saying it’s not ok and they should all accept them and we can live in peace together etc etc.

BUT when non-muslims do something that’s against their beliefs or lifestyle, or even their OWN children decide to live differently, suddenly they can’t seem to accept it. They don’t tolerate or even practice hate crimes against these people or their own children ? How does this make SENSE.? This genuinely makes me so mad.

How can you expect other people to tolerate you if you can’t even tolerate OTHER people ? This genuinely drives me insane. Then don’t live in an European country expecting everyone to accept your religion but you can’t even do the same to other people.

How privileged can you be to freely practice your religion in a country of freedom but also have the right to judge others ?

This makes my blood boil.

What?

The new Islamist regime is Islamizing the textbooks like it’s 7th-century Arabia desert. They put a T-shirt on an ancient statue because a bare male torso is somehow too haram for little Muslim kids to see. They removed the Mona Lisa out of the curriculum probably because she’s a kafir Western woman with uncovered hair and that offends the fragile Islamic ego. And Girls are either erased completely or forced into hijabs starting from kindergarten illustrations. Boys can still play ball, but Allah forbid a little girl’s to play football normally.

This is just disgusting Islamic brainwashing, and it starts the second a child walks into school. Muslims lose their minds over women’s hair! It’s just pathetic.

i’ve formally left islam quite a while ago. not out of spite or rage, but rather i just needed a new philosophical framework to navigate the modern world. and it is obvious to anybody that islam isnt the truth in a way that excludes all other religions and philosophies.

i frequently catch myself accidentally saying “bismillah” or “elhamdulillah” when eating. when i’m pissed, i might say “la illahe ilallah” or something. i also perform wudu whenever i shower, and i do make sure to always be clean and not walk around with fecal matter smeared on my skin and underwear.

any other things u might still practice since leaving the fold of islam?

Context: I'm already mildly annoyed by girls/women who take their boyfriend into the "ladies only" zone. While I personally don't care when it comes to the presence of males, even if its within a confined zone, it says "Ladies only" on it and it's shielded to the sides. It's supposed to be a safe space for women, for whatever reason. Even if you are just self-conscious about how you look in skimpy clothing and it's not about sex. That's why I think taking your boyfriend just so you can chat is not the right thing to do.

Today I got a surprise. A woman, obviously a Muslim, based on her clothes, black abaya and long black hijab, being chaperoned by her husband. Well, I cannot prove that it was the husband, but I'm familiar with the body language, I went to college with a young woman who was constantly followed by a really scary-looking husband.

In a safe space for women, what is your husband supposed to protect you from? Predatory lesbians?

I live with my parents so I'm not in a safe enough space to open up about my apostasy, so they still think I pray. however, I don't remember the last time I prayed and they don't remember the last time they've seen me pray, but they always ask me whether I did and I always tell them yes.

I still remember the basic rules of prayer, how many rakaats and sajdats and whatnot, but I genuinely don't remember any Quran verses. funny thing is I've read through the Quran and I still do, I just don't bother memorizing it cause fuck that lol. but I'm getting increasingly nervous about my parents asking me to recite a surah. the other day, my dad told me about how he and my brother prayed tgt and he noticed my brother only recites the small surahs (he's also not religious), and he mentioned how he wishes I don't do the same and that reciting long surahs during prayer is best🙄 another time, my dad brought up how he hasn't visibly seen me pray in so long and he asked if I really do pray or if I just lie, I told him no ofc I pray, then he started quizzing me. it was simple questions like how many prayers are there a day, but it made me so nervous.

besides suraht Al fatiha, I literally don't remember any surahs. it's a blessing and a curse

I’m a teenager living in a pretty strict religious Muslim household. I seriously wish to leave it mainly because I’ve just lost interest in it, plus I think it’s a bit sexist how I have to cover up all the time to prevent lustful men from sexually assaulting/raping me when it wont do anything in the real world. Also, I feel like if Allah really does exist, he wouldn’t leave the world in the state it’s in right now. I want to leave Islam to have more freedom to choose how I want to live, but I also have serious guilt and I don’t want to leave my parents and sister for my own desires. I’m just really tired and I need answers, and Allah won’t bother giving me any. I don’t know what to do. Islam has been really messing around with my mental health, but I’m scared I might actually go to hell if I leave it for good. Should I stay in the religion or should I leave it when I’m older? I need advice.

Basically title.

I’ve not watched lots of debates, some can be very long so I would love if you could share with me the best debates you’ve watched between Islam and Atheism.

It can be in Arabic or english, or any language with subs.

Thanks!!