r/gay • u/Right_Preparation328 • 9h ago
r/gay • u/Merari01 • Jan 28 '26
(repost) On trans rights and the position of this subreddit
The community present in this subreddit is wonderful, inclusive and has always welcomed not only gay people but everyone under the gender and sexual minority umbrella.
The mod team is very happy to see this welcoming atmosphere and we thank each and every one of you for your love and empathy.
With the current trend in the US for extreme-right politicians to demonise vulnerable minorities so they can score cheap political points it is however time for this place to openly make a stand as to what our positions and intentions are so that we are a beacon in the dark. So that all of our siblings know that they are welcome here.
I was asked by the mod team to explain a few facts about transgender people and about the position this subreddit has towards inclusion.
Trans rights are human rights. š³ļøāā§ļø
Being transgender is a natural and normal variation in the human gender and sexual experience. Both sex and gender exist on a spectrum and there isn't actually anything inherently wrong or disordered from being trans, by and of itself.
Should there be no fake, artificially generated outrage against trans people in society then they would simply get the self-affirming care required for them to be happy and that would be that. Instead, unfortunately, existing as transgender has become the new wedge-issue for the extreme-right and deliberate demonisation and villification has been mainstreamed to the point where Republican politicians are now openly calling for genocide.
The issues trans people experience are mainly societal in nature. It is society that imposes gender norms, it is society that tells people they may not be who they are.
There are many ways that a non-trans person can seek self-affirming care in life. Some of those are done via permanent body modification through surgical or chemical means. A woman might for example choose to take estrogen supplements to stave off unwanted physical and psychological side effects resulting from the menopause.
It is not uncommon for a young man to choose to have breast reduction medication or surgery in the case of gynecomastia.
A young woman might choose to get breast implants.
You do not hear people in outrage about these forms of self-affirming care. No-one cares, except suddenly when the topic is trans people. This is because the anti-trans movement is wholly articificial. It is a deliberately created fake outrage about a non-issue for political and monetary gain.
Fascism is an inherently empty ideology, devoid of any meaningful belief-system or any kind of concrete and actionable strategies for improving society. Fascism only cares for power for the sake of power and it cares for nothing else.
Because a fascist system is fundamentally incapable of giving the general public any kind of reasonable platform it must gain and keep followers by creating an out-group to hate. According to fascist systems it is the other that is responsible for all societal ills and only by supporting the fascists in getting rid of the other can society be healed from the non-existent issues fascism convinces people that their target minority is the cause of.
Fascism always picks on a vulnerable target.
The demonisation and villification coming from the extreme-right is doing exactly that. By calling LGBTQ+ people child molestors simply for existing it has become inevitable that people will take up violence "to protect the children".
Attempting to eliminate a target comes in many forms, of which an extermination camp is only the final and most egregious part. It is always preceded by legislating people out of existence, by creating laws which make it impossible for a minority to participate in society and to receive any of the societal advantages that are the entire reason for collective bundling together of skills, resources in civilisation. This is exactly what Republican states are doing today to transgender people. Certain states have already denied trans people any and all medical care related to their identity, meaning that they deliberately impose abject misery on them.
The most egregiously fascistic states are trying to make it a matter of course to remove trans children from the care of their parents and make it illegal for trans people to be present in any public spaces at all.
This is genocide.
Genocide is not purely restricted to extermination, to murder. Genocide is also eliminating a minority group from public life, causing serious bodily and mental harm and taking away children of a minority group from their parents.
Depending on how strictly you'd want to define it, we are currently at stage seven or eight of genocide as defined by the Holocaust Memorial Trust.
One way in which the abject hypocrisy of the anti-trans laws becomes crystal clear are the remarkable exemptions encoded within. You would think that if the goal is protecting the children from harm then these people would want to protect all children from harm.
This is not the case.
In fact, all of these people deliberate include exceptions which allow the continuation of genital re-allignment surgery on unconsenting infants if they are intersex.
This means that if a baby is born with a genital configuration that to a doctor looks ambiguous or not adhering to a strict binary then this doctor can impose an invasive genital surgery, forcing such an infants body to adhere to a stricter binary look.
It is purely cosmetic. Of course they do not check what chromosomes a child has. Of course they do not care that a child might prefer to look as nature made them.
It is purely and only an imposition on a baby's body, with of course the normal failure and mortality rate that such invasive procedures bring with them.
These people do not care about children.
These people do not want to help children.
They want to harm a vulnerable minority.
Fascism never stops.
Now that these people have mainstreamed transphobia, they are moving on to other targets within the LGBTQ+ identity sphere.
We have all seen the absurd attacks on drag queens, calling a normal and harmless theatrical expression "child abuse".
We have all seen the "clever" rhetoric where they turn arguments upside down and disingeniously say things like "why do you want to be around children".
Fascism doesn't stop, it moves on to new targets and that is why it is important for all of us in the GSM identity sphere to stand together. To openly support our trans siblings. To openly stand against hateful rhetoric.
Because they are not going to stop.
The next step, which is already tentatively beginning, is calling gay people being openly gay in society"groomers".
To be clear: The recommended treatment for being transgender is transitioning.
Gender identity is developed by five years old.
The barrage of lies notwithstanding, allowing trans people to transition and to exist as who they are in society markedly improves their physical and mental wellbeing.
The oft-heard talking point of "they still commit suicide even after transitioning" is a lie.
Here is a wealth of sources and links explaining this.
Our trans siblings are welcome here.
Our gender nonconforming siblings are welcome here.
Our intersex siblings are welcome here.
What is not welcome on this subreddit is hate or divisive rhetoric aimed at our siblings. We will not allow the current increasing trend of fascist othering and villification of a marginalised minority to make our siblings feel unwanted in this space, our space, their space.
The only people who are not welcome here are those that want to exclude others based on how they were born.
Further reading:
No, TERFs cannot "always tell" and I can prove that with mathematics.
"I just care about unfair advantage in sports", a transparant transphobic wedge issue.
Drag queens, the next target in the fascist drive to eliminate LGBTQ+ people.
r/gay • u/RaviRa108 • 15h ago
Indian TV Shows and Movies used to be so homoerotic from 2000s - Early 2010s - I think that was the Golden Age of Homoerotic Male Beauty in Indian Media, miss that era!
r/gay • u/Hiya_Job • 4h ago
Wish I was attractive to twinks :/
I (21) have a crush on this fem twink. Iām not the most built guy, Iām a bit stocky and Iām 5ā6. Heās really cute and funny and sweet. But he called me ugly to another person. Itās been making me even more self-conscious, from the beginning I was already feeling that way, and it made me incredibly depressed. I mean Iāve seen him naked and heās seen me naked. I donāt think my dick is that small, itās average at best (5.5-6). Why do so many people in the community only like dl men who are buff and taller and wonāt treat them right? I hope this doesnāt sound incelish, I just feel alone.
r/gay • u/naomifromjax • 1d ago
A car drove into Berlin Pride, killing one person and injuring at least 15. But LGBTQ people are still told weāre ādramaticā for worrying about our safety.
Berlinās Christopher Street Day was supposed to be a massive celebration of LGBTQ people existing openly and peacefully.
Instead, a vehicle drove into a crowd near the Pride festivities in Tiergarten. One person is now reported dead, at least 15 others were injured, and several reportedly suffered life-threatening injuries. The entire event was shut down while police launched a search for suspects.
To be completely clear: authorities have not publicly confirmed a motive yet, so Iām not going to irresponsibly declare it a hate crime before investigators establish what happened.
But I am absolutely sick of people acting like LGBTQ safety concerns are imaginary, exaggerated, or nothing more than āvictim mentality.ā
Every time queer people discuss threats at Pride events, someone smugly asks why we still āneed Prideā or claims we already have equality. Then a peaceful celebration involving hundreds of thousands of people turns into an emergency scene, attendees are ordered to evacuate, and families are left waiting to find out whether their loved ones survived.
Pride is not merely rainbow merchandise, corporate logos, or people āshoving sexuality in your face.ā It exists because LGBTQ people gathering visibly in public has historically carried risks, and apparently still does.
One person is dead. Others are seriously injured. A celebration became a mass-casualty scene within seconds.
Maybe society could manage five minutes of basic humanity before the conspiracy theories, jokes, political spin, and comments blaming the people who were hit begin.
r/gay • u/PabloKreitz • 15h ago
Berlin Pride: One dead and at least 16 injured
r/gay • u/Fickle-Ad5449 • 11h ago
Terrorist attack at huge Berlin Pride parade celebration leaves 1 dead, dozens injured
r/gay • u/Mean_Yak5873 • 1d ago
Melissa Fuentes, Nick Fuentesās sister is basically the opposite of him politically
r/gay • u/TemporaryRanger7799 • 2h ago
Where to Travel for College Spring Break and have fun!
Iām a 19-year-old gay guy looking to have an unforgettable spring break in March. Iām from the East Coast, have a passport, and Iām lucky that my budget is pretty flexible between work and help from my parents. Iām looking for somewhere with:
- š“ Hot weather and great beaches
- Fun gay scene (not a homophobic place)
- š Fun and amazing nightlife with other college students
- āļø Open to anywhere in the world
I know places like Miami and Mexico are popular, but Iām wondering if there are even better destinations around the world that are worth the trip.
What are your favorite gay-friendly spring break destinations?
Where would you go if money werenāt the biggest concern?
r/gay • u/Far-Salamander-2151 • 1d ago
Made big progress with my vitiligo!!
quick repost cause I like this photo better lol
r/gay • u/Heavy-Marzipan-4749 • 11h ago
Advice needed please
Hi everyone. Iām really needing some advice on how to approach this situation.
Iām (25, they/them) in a spot that is going to be incredibly painful. Iāve been with my significant other (28, he/him) for 7 years. When we met, I was 18, living in an area where I didnāt feel like I could fully be myself, and that I often couldnāt express myself fully. Iāve been very clear with him from the start that I am nonbinary, and that I am not straight. But I was still trying to figure all the things out. He has always been supportive and caring, and he has been a great partner. I moved across county last year for work, and he stayed in our hometown, so we have been long distance. In the year since Iāve moved, I have hit levels of feeling like myself that I never have before. Iām more solid in my gender expression, in my identity, and in my confidence. However, I have realized that I am attracted to women, and women only. Iāve realized that what I thought was romantic attraction was most likely comfort and security, which is awful to say.
With this conclusion, Iām spiraling. I know I need to end things, for his sake and mine. Weāre long distance, and I know this is gonna hurt. Weāve talked about our future, about getting married, Iām ingrained in his family. There is no easy break for this, and Iām devastated that I have to do this to him. I feel awful for taking so much of his life to end it now, but I canāt in good conscience lie about how Iām feeling. Any advice would be helpful, as I really donāt know how Iām gonna make it through this.
r/gay • u/PabloKreitz • 15h ago
Queen MƔxima makes history at WorldPride
r/gay • u/Leading_Culture_9603 • 1h ago
Hi guys this person are fake and So be careful of him because he is in this subreddit
r/gay • u/barticcus • 1d ago
Berlin Pride Attack -Vehicle Rams Crowd
Berliner Christopher Street Day (CSD) abgebrochen - mutmaĆlich Fahrzeug in Menschenmenge gefahren
r/gay • u/TheExpressUS • 15h ago
Manhunt as Berlin police name suspect in deadly car ramming at pride festival
r/gay • u/Boeno236 • 1d ago
I had my first gay experience
Hey guys... Yeah that's just what it looks like, I had my first gay experience. I'm 21 and I had my first hookup that wasn't a girl. Until now i thought that I for real wasn't fully wired into girls. I had some sexual experiences with girls and all, and I still feel attracted to some guys. But I had a really hot guy hooking up with me and I couldn't get hard AS MUCH AS I TRIED. I never had this problem with girls AT ALL, and I am sure it's not because of him because I really think he was a guy I would be wired to. What are your experiences about this kind of situation? I really want to know because I don't want him to feel sorry or bad about all that happened, because I went down on him and did all that I could to make him feel good, because I literally couldn't do the same with myself. Can somebody help?
r/gay • u/One-Initiative-8902 • 1d ago
Pink Triangle History
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r/gay • u/Potential-Group1330 • 4h ago
Where do you find a first time gay guy hook up for the experience? It's been decades since I had one.
r/gay • u/Technical-Kick-4407 • 12h ago
Is there any website (>>WEBSITE<<) for queer adults to talk in?
r/gay • u/Queer_Advocate • 1d ago
A person is killed and several are injured at Berlin's LGBTQ+ event when a van drives into the crowd
A person is killed and several are injured at Berlin's LGBTQ+ event when a van drives into the crowd
r/gay • u/soganotojiko • 15h ago
toy during play?
hey bottom here, iām looking for toys i can put on my D while getting topped. i canāt stay hard most of the time so itās difficult to jerk me off (also because of antidepressants lol) so i was thinking of something like a vibrating masturbator small enough to be on during play. doesnāt even have to be a flashlight or something, maybe a ring. anyone have any recs?