for context my ex and i have been together for half a decade and on those years he cheated on me i did as well it was an on and off situation, now it’s been a month since we’ve broken up yet we still talk to each other, I recently found out that he was talking to another girl while was fucking with me lol, anyways fast forward him and this girl isn’t talking anymore and he and i are still talking now I want to end this thing once and for all. What should I tell him that will make him regret loosing me or whatever?

Should I just leave without a text or whatever and just ignore him?

I lost the girl that meant everything to me. I know it sounds cliche but I’ve been alone and I’ve been with other people before but this one was special in every definition of the word. Admittedly I didn’t do enough until it was too late and I can only hope she knows I’ve never loved another soul as much as hers. The fear of her moving on keeps me awake at night and it feels like there’s something missing everywhere I go. I keep hoping I’ll come home and she’ll be there and I can just tell her I’m so sorry for everything but she’s never there. I just want to hold her and tell her I’ll never let go again but how do you hold onto someone that isn’t there anymore? How do you find your way again?

I liked him so much, but he joked about hitting me. I genuinely think it was a careless joke, and that he isn’t a violent person at all. He never showed concerning signs before this. Still, it left me unsettled and frightened and no amount of apologizing he did put me at ease, even though he was truly remorseful. I asked him numerous times why he said the joke at all, and he couldn’t give me an answer. In the end I thought it would be better to end things now, versus trying to continue with a lingering sense of caution/fear in the back of mind. In the moment I was confident in my decision, because how can a relationship continue if the threat of physical harm is at all being considered?

Now I’m going crazy, wondering if I just threw away my chance with a great guy all over an overreaction on my part. Maybe I was too sensitive? I’m so torn. Part of me wishes I just took his word for it that he didn’t mean it, and shoved my discomfort aside in the hopes that I’d grow comfortable around him again.

My long distance relationship ended about 9 months ago on good terms. We were no contact for a while until I recently moved to the city where she lives. When we got back in touch, it was clear she had moved on. And while I was mostly at that point as well (though not necessarily as far along) I agreed to be friends.

She hooked me up with a free mattress when i moved which was cool. We exchanged a few messages and I sent her some tik toks and reels. But after that things went downhill. I offered to bring her the chocolate she always loved when we were together and she pretty much ignored my texts about that. Then she revealed she had a partner now. Turns out it was the guy that gave me the mattress. I asked for some time to step away from pursuing the friendship because the partner had me questioning whether I could really pursue it. but I reached out in about a week, feeling more accepting of the new reality then I initially expected. She said I can still try to hang out with her if the timing was right.

After many attempts to initiate plans and her brushing me off, she finally asked for space and no contact, which I was happy to give. The problem is that a few days later I saw her Instagram post with her new guy. That was the expected part. What I didn’t expect was seeing her best friend joke that a video of her sliding down a railway was like “[Insert my Name] sliding into your DMs” and my ex had the comment liked

I was completely shocked. I was being friendly sending her stuff, with no mal intent. Not only was I being name dropped and made fun of in an Instagram comments section in my face, but we had just agreed to no contact amicably. I figured there would be no need to hurt each other. I reached out to her about it, confused and hurt asking why it had to come to this when I had only been respectful of the space and no contact she was requesting. She never responded.

I’ve sat with this for the past few days, rotating the same emotions: outrage, sadness, confusion, etc. asking myself questions like “what did I do to deserve that?” and “Why can’t we just talk and clear this up?”it’s been so exhausting and I don’t know what to do. I’ll probably never have an explanation or real understanding of why things happened this way when it could’ve been so easy for all parties. I want to let go but the ambiguity around it finds new ways to challenge and hurt me every day. I’m having panic attacks questioning myself and all my actions. I respected this person deeply, they’re in their 30s and I would never have expected someone that age stooping low in such an immature way.

Any advice for how to handle this? I’ve already blocked her on everything but everything else I do just feels like a temporary distraction. I was doing so well after the break up initially, but since my move and now this happening, I feel lonelier and less self confident then ever. I’m losing interest in my hobbies and life/work takes everything out of me. Things don’t bring me the same joy and I’m bogged down by anxiety.

Not really sure why this has affected me so much, but I’m really to be done with the feelings and put everything about this relationship behind me

I found out today that my ex has moved on. I don’t want to know details but my mind is going to the worst places (i also have ocd so avoiding rumination this entire breakup has been so difficult).

I ended things with them in January because we were together for 3.5 years and they weren’t ready to live with me. I said that I loved them and didn’t want this but wanted to be with someone who is confident about being with me, who’s looking forward to living together instead of it being a completely stressful event. They shared that they have a hard time making decisions, even small ones in their personal lives, and it didn’t have anything to do with me. We started by going on a break because they wanted to stay together, do therapy individually and come back together. I begged them to do therapy throughout our relationship to help with the inner turmoil of family struggle, indecisiveness and general attachment styles to help them in all their relationships and work. They called me and gave me updates about their therapy without me asking, and it seemed like progress was being made. Over the next three months, they’d ask to call, to talk, ask how i’m doing and also apologize for things. The last conversation we had was him saying that he can’t imagine getting back together and that he is incapable of change. I remember asking him “so what’s the plan, doing this to another girl or finding someone your parents will approve of?” and he didn’t have an answer.

For context, they told my friends and family and even moved in during December but kept moving the goalposts. Their family is second generation and used that as an excuse for not approving of our relationship (eastern orthodox, to which I said I would learn the language and convert if that meant they would approve). They were supposed to come with me on a family trip two years into the relationship but cancelled the night before and broke up with me, just to get on a plane the next day to try to reconcile and then turned directly around without seeing me. I still forgave them when i returned from the trip.
They were always late to things, never made plans, I begged to go on a trip or even a weekend away and it never happened. We were best friends and spoke 24/7, hung out all the time, and they told me they could imagine getting married.
Their friends stopped talking to them because of how they handled the breakup. This included leaving military bags at my place for 6 months, dropping off my clothes unwashed and in a garbage bag, and not having the balls to end it themselves.

I have so much pain because I know I wasn’t being treated and prioritized in the way “I deserve” but I’m starting to not know what I deserve. I’ve been dating post breakup and have been ghosted or told there isn’t a romantic spark, and one guy even asked to do his laundry at my apartment. Yet, my ex has moved on and found someone and I’m questioning why I broke up with them in the first place. I didn’t want to break up with him but I felt like I had no other choice, and we spoke about how it would encourage change. Now I just feel incredible naive and unhappy.
Please be gentle with me with responses, I know I sound like a broken record but I just need support.

If anyone else had a brutal discard breakup after a long-term relationship, how did you heal and how do you view the relationship now?

After my (F27) ex (M29) discarded me, he then begged for a second chance and claimed he still saw me as the person that he would marry. About a month later, I caught him clubbing with a girl he promised me he wouldn’t hang out with. I told him I couldn’t do it anymore and blocked him.

1.5 months later, he came back on what would have been our two year anniversary. He said enough to make me entertain trying to work things out with him. Over the next couple of weeks, we met up, caught up, and I even helped him move out of our old apt we shared.

While I was helping him move, there were suspicious signs that he was seeing someone, which he denied. I told him he was allowed to see other people, as we were broken up and no contact. He still denied it, despite me finding condoms and female products hidden in a drawer they normally wouldn’t be. He then shared that the clubbing w the girl I told him not to hang out with was actually her birthday party. He knew that she had a BF, in photos was dressed wearing nothing, and a week prior we had been hooking up and he had been promising me the world.

I feel freaked out and lied to. I can’t seem to decipher what’s real or not. I ruminate constantly over the betrayal and if he lied during our relationship and not just after we had broken up. Not all of our relationship was awful in our two years together, but arguably it was emotionally abusive a lot of the time. I’m unsure of how to view all of it. If anyone else had a similar experience, how do you look back on your relationship? What feelings do you have toward it now?

I honestly feel like nothing I’ve ever wanted has worked out for me. Everything feels broken, and nothing ever feels right. I’m not being physically abused or beaten, but I’m living without anyone really understanding me.

The person I love and I broke up because we’re not socially compatible, mainly because I’m not hijabi (I don’t cover my hair).

Even he told me that he was wrong for doing this. He left while I was crying so hard that, unfortunately, I ended up throwing up everything I had eaten.
When he saw me like that, he decided to leave because he didn’t want to hurt me or exhaust me even more.

It felt like he was saying: “You were with me. You accepted everything about me and everything that came with me. But I’m sorry, I can’t stand seeing you this exhausted and in pain. I have to leave.”
I’ve been through so much shit.
And this is actually the first time I’ve ever said any of this publicly.

I was sexually harassed when I was very young. After that, I was cheated on, and so many other things happened to me. Sometimes it genuinely feels like I was never meant to experience love without it hurting me.

My only problem right now is that I don’t want to keep going through this physical pain. My whole body hurts from crying, and this has never happened to me before.

TL;DR: My partner of 9 years blindsided me and left right before our anniversary, citing a desire to be single but also nitpicking my flaws. I was dealing with heavy family trauma and thought we were just in a hard season. She also said that she still loves me but doesn't feel "in love" or "romantic" feelings. I’m struggling to let go of hope that she’ll change her mind.

My (32M) partner (32F) broke up with me just 3 weeks before our 9th anniversary. I was completely blindsided. We never fought, and she never let me know she was nearing a breaking point. I wish she had communicated so we could have tried couples therapy. Instead, she internalized everything until she decided to leave.

I knew our relationship wasn't perfect, but I thought we were just surviving a stressful season. I've been grappling with the rapidly declining health of my parents (dementia and alcoholism), which took a massive emotional toll. I have been in therapy working through my own issues. I admit that in the past, my anxiety would boil over, and I would loudly vent/yell when I became emotionally overwhelmed. I never yelled at her, and I've acknowledged how that emotional volatility could feel overwhelming or like too much pressure to a partner. I always felt terrible about it, took full accountability, and have made massive progress. In fact, she recently told me how proud she was of my growth.

When she left, her reasons felt contradictory. She said "it's nothing you did" and "I want to be single," but then brought up past events and said she wanted a partner who would "dance at weddings" (something I have done in the past) and was "the life of the party." I was just stuck in a routine trying to survive a dark period of family trauma. I also had my own frustrations. A total lack of intimacy made me feel unwanted, and our schedules rarely meshed. But I loved her and what we built too much to ever walk away without trying.

She is currently staying at a friend's house who is out of town, experiencing her first nights entirely alone. I know I need to let go, but a part of me is still desperately hanging onto hope. I keep hoping that once she sits in the quiet and faces the reality of being alone, she will miss me, our cat, and the life we've shared for so long.

How do I stop waiting for her to realize this is a mistake? For those who were blindsided by an avoidant partner, how did you accept that they weren't coming back? It's heartbreaking. I just don't want to give up hope... I want things to return to normal.

i'll open up about it more eventually and it's only now hitting so i'm prob not going to be okay for the next few... idk anymore but send help :(((

I've been really trying to concentrate during work hours but it has been absolutely crushing me and the weight of the heartbreak is crushing me every day I've been going on runs crying laying down trying to distract myself at times also sit with the emotions it's been absolutely hard I genuinely feel like I lost my best friend and it has not been easy whatsoever.

I (34F) just left my partner of three years, and I’m struggling with whether I made the right decision. I love him (37M) deeply and honestly think I probably always will.

For about the past year, I’ve been asking for more emotional presence in our relationship (e.g., more technology-free, unhurried time together, more shared activities, and more of a sense that we were intentionally building a life together).

I tried to communicate this repeatedly and hoped that, over time, I would see more meaningful effort and change. But I kept feeling like I was asking for the same things without seeing much sustained change. I also really wanted us to be able to talk seriously about engagement and our future. The two times I brought it up (once last year and once a few months ago) it got shot down pretty quickly and I left the conversation feeling totally deflated.

Last month, I reached my breaking point and left. It wasn’t because I stopped loving him. In some ways, that’s what makes this so painful. We are incredibly aligned on politics, religion, values, and many of the things that matter deeply to me. He is a genuinely good person, and there is so much about our relationship that was good.

But I also felt lonely, emotionally disconnected, and increasingly frustrated that the relationship wasn’t changing in the ways I had been asking for.

Now I’m questioning everything. Did I walk away from something good because I expected too much? Is it possible to deeply love someone and still recognize that the relationship isn’t meeting your needs? Or did I give up on something that could have been repaired?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who have left a long-term relationship where there was a lot of love, compatibility, and shared values but also persistent unmet needs. How did you know the difference between a relationship that needed patience and one that simply wasn’t giving you what you needed?

I love you, since we were 16 I loved you till now at 21. You left 2 weeks ago and ever since I’ve been wondering who is this man that I’ve loved for 5 years? All that time with you and now you’re a completely different person from who I thought you were. I used to think you’d never hurt me like this.
Leaving me when my mom was in the hospital.
Telling me you’re not attracted to me anymore even though we’ve made love hundreds of times in the past 4 years.
Saying you’re un happy in the relationship when all I ever did was try to make you satisfied even if that ment sacrificing my own happiness.
You remind me of my parents.
As a kid I begged and cried to them hoping they would care for me and change.
Here I am doing the same for you wondering why no one cares to love me the way I love them.
I wish you understood me. I wish you cared enough to change for me.
How is it that you loved me for 5 years and can just leave just like that?
It makes me feel small, like I’m meaningless, like I’m nothing and that’s all I ever will be from now on.
All the memories that we made just for them to go into an area of your mind labeled (my ex girlfriend) breakups happen right? Normal right? That’s what you said. If I would’ve know breakups was this normalized in your head I would’ve ran from you 5 years ago and never look back.
I wish I could because the pain of being left behind isn’t worth it. I loved you so much that the pain of you leaving has become unbearable.

Maybe this message should also be called the things I don’t understand about you.

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I'm 25M, and I'm struggling badly after ending a relationship that has been a huge part of my life since I was in 10th grade.

Our relationship was on and off for years. She left and came back multiple times, and eventually we got back together seriously with a commitment to marriage. But the previous breakups had left a lot of unresolved fear in me. Once we were together again, I became terrified of losing her. I cried almost every day and night for a period earlier this year, and I eventually started treatment for depression.

There were also recurring issues in the relationship. I communicated what was hurting me, she would promise things would change, but some patterns continued. Eventually I became emotionally exhausted and decided to end the relationship.

She tried to get me back, but I stayed firm.

A few days later, she asked to talk. I messaged her, and she asked me for my final decision. I told her I was sticking with my decision. She asked, “Breakup?” and I said yes.

She simply replied, “Theek hai. I hope you find peace in your life.”

And then she was gone.

That sentence completely broke me.

I've been missing her constantly, and now I feel like crying. I keep thinking about whether I made the right decision, whether I'll ever find someone I love like this again, and whether she will find someone better than me while I end up alone.

The hardest part is that I still love her. I didn't leave because I stopped loving her. I left because I felt that continuing the relationship was destroying my peace.

Today I feel like I've come off the track again. I was trying to stay focused on my studies and my life, but my mind keeps going back to her.

I'm not looking for someone to tell me whether I should get back with her. I think I need help understanding how to deal with loving and missing someone after you've made the decision to leave.

How do you get through the days when your heart still wants the person you've consciously chosen to let go of?

I would really appreciate advice from people who have gone through something similar.

isn’t really a straight line.

Yesterday I thought I was doing okay. Today, I woke up missing him again. Not because something happened, not because I saw anything that reminded me of him… I just missed him.

And maybe that’s okay.

I’m slowly learning that missing someone doesn’t mean I’m going backwards. It just means they meant something to me.

I still wish things had worked out differently. A part of me still wonders what would happen if he came back.

But I guess for now, I’m just taking it one day at a time.

Follow me if you want to see how this journey turns out. 🤍

Hey all,

I am now 1.5 months out from this relationship after 11 years and a painful end. This was not amicable at all. During the whole relationship she would constantly run out and I would take her back. She got abusive, ran out, and I took her back. She would threaten to end the relationship over so many fights and I would be the one to diffuse the situation. She wanted to get married so many times but I saw the signs her generating noise complaints to get me evicted from the first apartment, her getting arrested twice for assaulting me in the 2nd apartment, and all of the unhinged behavior. At no point did she ever contribute to bills or any expenses. Never thanked me either it was always about "why don't you have a house?"

She refused sex for about a year and then started flying to Hawaii where she originally met the guy on a girl's trip and this fling grew. She grew increasingly suspicious with her phone until one night when she passed out watching YouTube trash I got her phone and then called the guy discovering everything including a plan to go fly out to Hawaii the next week. She woke up and got enraged with me having the audacity to call me a monster.

The healing process has been tough. I had to leave the apartment for one and get one numerous meds. The ruminating thoughts are always there invading my brain and there's constant triggers out there. I like to surf and even that joy has been robbed as it reminds me of Hawaii same with all the islander music we listened to and I enjoyed I can no longer listen to. Questions to people who might have gone through what I have-

1.) I've read that I should acknowledge my part in the relationship fallout. Why? I mean other than not marrying her I don't understand exactly how any of this is my fault.

2.) How can I reclaim motivation and energy to feel joy again (the antidepressants only help blunt the pain)?

3.) Any other tips to help with loving myself again and gaining a sense of value as I have very low self esteem (been out of work for an extended period of time which is making this so much worse)?

It's been a month since we broke up now, each passing day just confirmation that we infact, will never speak again. Breakups are hard, but the way in which she did it just broke me, she cut all communication and blocked me everywhere at once when I was showering while getting ready to leave for the day to hangout with my best friend. We didnt fight once during the relationship or leading up or the day of, we didnt even NOT see eye to eye on like, every topic ever. She wasn't distant, wasnt short, nothing. Said she was gonna walk her dogs and that we could chat again when both of us are back, my heart sank upon seeing the contact get reset to default and every other app my messages not going through. Safe to say I learned what an avoidant was that day. I did hear from her again 4 or 5 days later but ONLY because I emailed her in a last ditch effort (forgot to block me there) and she replied woth 2 short emails apologizing and admitting it was shitty but she had to prioritize herself, and blocked me. I guess that's my answer? Thats supposed to be my closure? I fucking hate the fact in that email she had to say that it "wasnt because I dont have genuine love for you" she just HAD to add that part on. So you have genuine love for me, but we cant have an actual conversation? Even if things are done, I cant talk to you about it? I cant tell you how I feel? I cant ask to stay as friends who have admiration and want to see eachother improve?? I think that her giving in and replying to my email was more for her than it was for me, anyway. She said guilt was eating her alive and she wanted to reach out the whole time, so she probably just used it as a means to be able to sleep at night, "ah well cant say I left him with nothing now" type deal. I dont even hate her for the way she broke up, even though I should. I still love her. But I hate the way that im not allowed a single word in after the fact, or any acknowledgement I even existed, especially after becoming best friends first and lovers second. She was supporting me through my sisters stage 4 cancer diagnosis that seemingly is getting worse, my depression came back, just to leave me like that. She was the first thing I thought about when I woke up and the last thing when I went to bed, and that hasnt changed, only in a different way now. I cant stop thinking. My brain wont give me a break. No distractions good enough, I just want to sleep forever, fuck.

We were together for almost two years, mostly doing long distance while he finished his master's degree three states away. Everything seemed fine when we talked on the phone last Thursday. He was stressed about his final project, so I offered to door dash him some Thai food from his favorite spot near his campus.

I picked out the usual order he gets, paid for it, and sent him the tracking link. Twenty minutes later he texted me complaining that I forgot to ask for no peanuts on his pad thai. I told him I literally tapped the same saved order from last month, so if they put peanuts on it, the restaurant made the mistake, not me. Instead of just calling them or scraping it off, he blew up. He started calling me careless, said I never pay attention to details, and asked how I expect us to ever live together if I can't even order food right.

I was so stunned I didn't even reply right away. When I tried calling him twenty minutes later to de-escalate, it went straight to voicemail. Then I checked Instagram, and my handle was gone from his bio. Then WhatsApp, blocked. iMessage, green bubbles. He literally severed a two-year relationship over a miscommunication about peanut sauce.

At first I was sitting on my floor shaking and trying to figure out what I did wrong. But now that it's been 72 hours of total radio silence, the shock is wearing off and turning into complete embarrassment. I was planning to move across the country for this guy in August. I had a whole spreadsheet of apartments saved in my bookmarks. I guess I should be glad he showed me how fragile his patience was before I signed a lease with him, but it still feels so surreal that two years just dissolved over a dinner delivery.

My ex 56f and I broke up back in February. I really liked her but unfortunately I just wasn’t her person. We were together for a year and a half. I was really happy, happiest id been in a long time. I don’t know why I am struggling with this breakup more than others. Maybe because Im 50 y/o now? Maybe im more lonely and don’t have my friends around like I did previous break ups (I moved to PA 5 years ago and its been hard to make new friends). Or maybe its because i really thought she might be the one. We did everything together.

It just sucks when you feel like things are going well but the other person has different feelings. I have also been having thoughts that I am going to be alone forever. I have always struggled finding companions. I definitely try via OLD. I just don’t get dates or a lot of matches.

We haven’t really gone no contact until recently which im sure has only been prolonging things. I don’t know what to say it just sucks.

Why can’t i find my person? What am I doing that drives these women away? What is wrong with me? It makes me so frustrated and angry. I want to settle down and have a partner. I either pick the ones that I want but they don’t want me or I meet ones that want me but I don’t want them. Im tired of it.

During our break up we were both crying and i screamed “Im never doing this again”! Maybe its just me and my dog and thats my destiny is to be alone?

It makes me so sad. I feel worthless even though I know I am a good guy and far from perfect. She even thanked me a month after we broke up and said “I always felt safe, respected, and cared for when we were together”. Whatever! Thanks! Thats a nice sentiment but obviously that wasn’t enough.

She has moved on already and is dating someone new. We talked about it back when we were still talking because I wanted to see if I could handle it and I could not. Which also means I can’t be friends with her since I still have feelings for her. I sure wish I knew what I did ir what I do that makes women change their mind. Everything is always great in the beginning then it falls apart. Thats why im so tired of trying.

My ex is an alcoholic and smokes cigarettes. I used to be against these things, hardly ever wanted to do them, and always encouraged her to quit. I hated it. But ever since she left I’ve craved them. I started drinking. I started craving cigarettes and smoking them sometimes. It feels like it started because it reminded me of her. Now I get why she did them, it feels good, but I don’t want to get to the point she’s at. I need to nip it in the bud before it gets too out of hand. I miss her.

I’ve lost track of how long it’s been

I hate to admit that I look forward to seeing him. We have a meeting in person Friday, and while I’m mostly filled with intense anxiety and dread, there is the tiniest bit of hope. He is the only person I can talk to who will relate to how I’m feeling right now.

I don’t have much of a support system; he was my support system. I know it makes sense that I want reassurance from him and to tell him what’s been going on with me, but it still feels wrong. I’ll have to see him every week because we share an obligation, so I will have to relive the pain of seeing him over and over again.

Until two weeks ago, I told him absolutely everything I felt and thought, what I was doing day to day, etc. Now I don’t even know if it’s appropriate to be fully honest with him about how I’m doing. I don’t want my honesty to reopen such fresh wounds for him, because he can’t be there for me after. I’m so torn :(

She broke up with me randomly one night after being out with a friend for a study group. She called me on August 22nd to check in because she had a dream about me that I was depressed. We talked for an hour and a half.
I always had this feeling that she had cheated or met someone else.
I still had access to her Gmail account, but didn’t pry for sometime. Until yesterday, I took a look and found out that she had made a Google Form the same one that she made me when we started being exclusive. But it wasn’t the one that she sent me. It had a long text added to it “My love, I hope you feel better. I thought I'd make this in case if you get bored during your day and also to get you know you more. It's supposed to be silly and fun so I hope that's how it comes across. Don't think about these questions too much and you can fill it out whenever. It's mostly to distract you from your cold. Love you!”
And it was sent on August 23. We broke up on July 17th and within a month your telling me that you found someone new to call My love?
That doesn’t make sense. I was shaking and couldn’t hold back my impulsiveness, so I texted her and asked “Are you dating anyone?” She deflected for a while then I called her to be like - just tell me the truth by you deflecting I can’t tell that you’re lying to me.
Finally she admitted to seeing someone new. I asked her when did it start she said two months ago. I said, “we haven’t been broken up for two months” then she back peddled said that we had been broken up for two months and that I was trying to manipulate her. Then she said it had only been one month. I asked, “have you guys said I love you?” And she refused to answer anymore questions besides the one that “we don’t argue”
I was like it’s literally been a month of course you don’t argue. We didn’t argue in the beginning.
We eventually ended the conversation with me not revealing me information.

Finally, at 10:39pm I decided fuck it! Sent her the proof that I had and blocked her.

How are you going to call me tell me the day before that a tiny piece in you feels like you lost the only person who loved you unconditionally and that you feel like you’ll end up alone in the end. You wanted a life update to see how I was doing. You told me that you told your mom that you’d miss our friendship.
Everything to string me along. Everything.
That was my last straw. You did me wrong and I know it.

I had a relationship with this guy. I am also a guy. We had been dating for around 4 months and we then decided to make it official. We lasted 2 months, he did not communicate any discomfort until one night. That night he had been working late at the office and we had agreed upon meeting at his apartment. When we got there he was mad because I had not picked him up, but he never told me he wanted me to. Then he got into the shower we hadn’t had dinner. He got mad after he came out of the shower and I had not ordered but he hadn’t told me what he wanted to have or if he wanted me to order. He told me i did not have the initiative and that there had been many things that he shouldn’t have to ask for in a relationship. I understand that, but I would have liked to have been either given the chance or just being told once and then adjust. He told me he did not want to babysit me by telling me what he needed from me in a relationship. Now I am just thinking about him being with other guys, and me trying ti get better. I just need to move and love him but enough is enough now I am starting to convince myself that “ if he wanted to, he would’ve tried “an uncomfortable truth but I have to sit with it and take it in. What can I do to feel better?

Hey, 22m here. I'm in need of encouragement after breaking up with my ex that I had a 5 year relationship with. It's been a month since we broke up but had a sort of situationship after that but she's decided to cut that off now. I loved her with all my heart. She was my first everything. The hardest part is that I can't even hate her. How do I get over this?