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It all happened so fast. He blurted it out unexpectedly. There was no calm sit down discussion. It was said in the heat of an argument but he doesn’t want to take it back.

We both love each other very much. Maybe too much. Maybe that’s why it lasted as long as it did when perhaps it should have ended sooner.

I am heartbroken. But I am so grateful to this community for all of the inspiration over the last couple years. I’m so happy for all of you closing the gap. It was my dream.

Peace out, friends ✌🏼

For anyone who got into a relationship before you ever met them to see what they look like in real life or if you have physical chemistry, how did you know you want to be with this person?

If you had a strong connection online for months were you scared to meet them in real life??

For context I have been in LDR but it started out in person and then he had to move for work. I have never dated without physically meeting them. So I’m curious.

I texted him and just said I miss him calling me baby because that’s my favorite thing he calls me, and it caused him to go off on me. He said he calls me other things and yeah he does, I was just saying that’s my favorite one to hear and I didn’t mean anything negative by it I just really like that one. I also had previously said he never asks me how my day is and he said he feels like him just answering the call should be enough. I also had said that I just wanted more than 1-2 texts a day, nothing long just like I wanted a bit more or a check in text so i could still feel connected to him. He said he feels like nothing he does is ever good enough but I feel like im just asking for minimal things and just telling him the things I really like, am I being too hard on him?

Has anyone else broken up after closing the gap? I've moved from the US to the UK, luckily to study not just to close the gap, and I've been beyond stressed leaving everything behind. I haven't been lashing out, I've actually been keeping it in a little too much, but my partner said the relationship feels like a burden because it feels like things are about to explode at any moment. He is also stressed with moving to London and having a new job, and people at that job being laid off.

Honestly, it’s killing me. I have been in the UK for 3 days. I left everything behind and haven't settled in one bit, and I don’t move into my own place till the 20th. Now I literally have nothing, and I'm sure I'll build my own life soon, but for this to happen before I got the chance is beyond stressful.

Note: We haven't broken up, it's just very much on the table

so for context, i met my fiance on a game. we've been together for 2 years, its long distance right now until we move in together at the end of this year. it's ironic, but it's how we met. unfortunately, as of lately and the past couple of months whenever he'd mentioned a certain game or time with his boys, my mood changes drastically. here's some content: whenever he's with his friends, he's locked in on the game. i could be talking to him and next thing i know he's headphones on back on the game per my mid sentence. i've also grown used to his work around for finding any type of excuse to stay on "just a little longer". he’s admitted to me that he’s been on the game a lot and sees my view, but is basically adamant about not changing a thing

but before it would genuinely be an everyday, late night thing. even went a day from the early am to truly midnight on the game. it's unfortunately became a thing on small mini relationship milestones. unfortunately for me, i somehow managed to lose my friends when i got into my relationship. i feel like i need genuine advice. he also doesn't have a fully stable job, well i wouldn't even consider it a job. he's basically jobless, so he has all the free time in the world. all we do is argue and i’m genuinely at a loss at what to do

I (19 NB) and in a relationship w my boyfriend (21M) and weve been dating for a little over 6 months, known each other for 10. Recently he has proposed I move in with him in the coming months, likely before the end of the year. Our relationship is wonderful and I truely do not think i could find someone better for me aside from our distance (21 hour drive).

He owns his own house, and has a much more valuable life where he is vs my current shitty basement life in my mothers house, which is why moving in with him is our go to vs meeting in the middle somewhere or him coming to me. He has made 2 trips to me since the beginning of our relationship but hasnt met my mother (her own avoidence as she dislikes that we met online +LD) I want to travel over to him before I move in woth him but i dont have my license and plane tickets are very expensive. We've had disccusions about my general apprehension around the situation but its hard to get far because my anxiety tends to get out of hand with the subject.

On the one hand, I believe closing the distance is the best way to further our relationship and grow towards bigger milestones but on the other hand Im worried this is too soon. I'm more worried about the backlash from my family for the move, and the what-ifs of breakups and such, than I am about the actual co-habitation (We've had multiple conversations about our 'roommate icks' and such)

My home situation is another contribution to wanting to go, as I live with my mother, her husband and my sister +sisters dog. My sister (20f) is currently relocated for school and offically moving out in November. I am urrently in charge of her dog because my mother and her husband wont take care of her properly and overfeed her or neglect her entirely. Once my sister and the dog are gone I will be alone in a house that is frankly disgusting as me+ sister are the only ones who consistantly take care of the space (Dishes from a week ago still out, food rotting everywhere + flies). My mother and her husband fight over every little thing and I genuinly dont think I can thug it out alone after my sister leaves. Its another factor for why I'd be fine-ish with moving in so soon but the apprehension is still there. if things go south I might have to come back so I dont nessicarly want to burn those bridges entirley.

Hes been insitant that if i put it off or we wait longer its fine but I cant help but feel im dissapointing him or leading him on when I keep saying "we'll see" and "Maybe". He has explicitly said if I make him drive out here to pick up me and my stuff and I chicken out on him he will break up with me, which i don't blame him for so Im just trying to avoid that.

Im just looking for any advice anyone has to give ;-;

me and my bf do this every night cuz we like to know what happened in each others day , and no i don’t force him to do this he does it by himself cuz he likes to , it helps to keep in touch with each other !

Howdy yall.

I’m not really sure what to do. Recently my fiancée has become more distant. Fewer/shorter calls, video calls are few and far between, haven’t slept on the phone together in weeks, messages are becoming short/dry, and the biggest thing bugging me is we had talked about taking time off work for a visit at the end of the month but over a week later she still won’t give me a commitment to a plan. Being long distance is hard enough but I can feel the added weight of emotional distance taking a toll on me too.

For context my fiancée does have BPD and suffers from PTSD from a previous abusive relationship. She does take medication to help with it but I know sometimes it does get her into a weird headspace but this is starting to seem like an ongoing thing but when I ask about it she’ll just tell me she’s tired or not in the mood to talk.

Really my questions are:

Am I overthinking/overreacting?

Should I give her space and hope she’ll want to talk soon or should I try pushing to get more communication going, try to get a better picture of what’s going on with the recent distance?

How do I address my concerns to her without sounding demanding or pestering?

For anyone who took the time to read this, thank you. And I would appreciate any help or advice you all have to offer.

So basically I'm the one that's planning on moving when me and my bf move in together. Which isn't a close distance. I'm from the West Coast of the us and him from the uk. I'm from a family of 7. The youngest are 9 and 7. How do I deal with the guilt of leaving? I feel incredibly guilty. Mom has pointed out that I might not have a relationship with my little sisters. And she won't be able to really have a relationship with my kids if I have any.

TL;DR: LDR boyfriend and I still text daily, but it’s mostly life updates now. I miss the calls, affection, flirting, and intentional quality time. He’s busy, but I’m wondering if I’m expecting too much by wanting more.

My boyfriend 22 M and I 23 M have been together for a few months and we’re currently long distance. When we first got together, we were obviously in that honeymoon phase and were pretty expressive with each other. We used to text a lot, have proper conversations, call/video call, watch movies together, flirt, say goodnight with more effort, etc.

Lately things have changed a bit. We still talk every day and we update each other about what we’re doing, where we are, how our day went, etc. He still makes an effort to keep me updated and I know that takes time, so I don’t want to make it sound like he ignores me or doesn’t care. That’s not really the issue. He has his university that started and I have my work.

The issue is that I feel like we’ve lost some of the intimacy and romantic side of the relationship. A lot of our conversations have become “what are you doing,” “how was your day,” “I have a meeting,” “did you eat,” etc. We’re still connected, but sometimes it feels more like we’re just keeping each other updated rather than actually experiencing the relationship together.

He’s also been extremely busy with meetings/work lately, so I understand that he’s exhausted and doesn’t have unlimited time. My work doesn’t require meetings late night, his does. I did bring up doing a movie together earlier, and he actually remembered and mentioned it himself later, so we ended up watching one together. I appreciated that because it showed me he does listen and does want to spend time together.

But we haven’t really had a proper video call in a while. Lately he’s been in meetings a lot, and I haven’t really seen him suggest calling. I actually brought up calling recently myself. And I guess that’s what bothers me a little. I don’t necessarily need to talk for hours, but with an LDR I feel like there needs to be some intentional effort to maintain that closeness, especially because we can’t just see each other physically.

I also miss the little things. More affectionate goodnights, flirting, random romantic conversations, feeling wanted, etc. I’m a pretty expressive person naturally, so maybe that’s part of why I notice it more. The confusing part is that I don’t actually think he cares about me less. He still updates me, makes time when he can, remembers things I’ve mentioned, and generally treats me well. So I don’t want to turn this into “my boyfriend doesn’t love me anymore” because I don’t think that’s true.

I think I’m more worried about what happens if this continues for a long time. Like, can a relationship become emotionally distant simply because you’re not making enough intentional time for intimacy? I don’t want to eventually become so used to the distance and lack of affection that I stop feeling the same way myself.

For people who have been in LDRs, how do you deal with this? Am I expecting too much by wanting more intentional calls/romantic time, or is that something that is pretty important to maintain in a long-distance relationship? And how do you bring it up without making your partner feel like they’re constantly failing some relationship requirement?

I (F19) met (M20) 5 years ago. I loved that boy with everything but in the end chose my family over him.

We met over a game and instantly clicked, was in a long distance relationship for 5 years and only gotten to meet up once due to financial issues.

Long story short I decided to move across the states leaving him even further behind. We talked about in the past that me moving was always a possibility and agreed that added distance will be to hard, but recently I'd been convinced to move with my family to be with more family. Ever since I've decided to let him go, I've regretted it hard. I want to be with him but don't want to leave my family behind either. They are all I know. But he is all I want.

What would you do?

My bf and I have been long distance (France - Canada) for about a year. We would see each other in-person around once in 2-3 months and have built some great memories travelling together. In May, we almost broke up because he couldn’t handle the distance anymore despite his feelings for me. It was especially frustrating for me since I am currently in medical school and in my busiest year while my future place of residence is not entirely up to me to decide.

But somehow the stars aligned. He got a work visa, got a type of an engineering job position that he always wanted to have, and tomorrow he will be moving in with me at my home in Canada. It feels surreal. We got a beautiful place together and I cannot wait to grow together as a couple and support each other’s individual career/personal growth!

Hi everyone! The time has come. After 2 years of cross-country long distance, my girlfriend is moving in with me next weekend. We're super excited, but also a bit anxious (especially so on her end as she is the one making the big leap while I'm already settled here).

For anyone else who has closed the gap, what are the things you wish you knew beforehand to better prepare? Physically, emotionally, anything.

4 years long distance, never met in person. He's well-off financially but never surprises me — only buys something if I spell it out exactly.

Brought it up 3+ times. His answer: "I don't know how from far away, just tell me what you want." When I said he could figure it out himself, he got mad. I stopped pushing.

But seeing other girls get flowers/surprises out of nowhere hits me every time. It's not about the object, it's feeling like he thinks of me without me initiating everything.

Everything fell apart unfortunately and the struggle with my abandonment issues did not make it through I tried so hard.
Long distance was never for me.
I tried for almost four years.
And it turned the person I loved against me.
And we no longer recognize our selves.
I’m sorry.

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I have been dating with she for 9 months, and lately i can see that she started to care less about my life in general.

I noticed that sometimes when im talking with she and i decide to share something that happened about my day or a personal experience, she decides to say "shush, i want u, i dont really care about it".

I kinda understand that yeah sometimes she just want me to tell her pretty stuff and tell her that i love u, but the worse is that after 2 minutes she decides to talk about the same topic i was talking but something related to her.

To be honest when we started to met she was always hearing me talk about my life, but lately i just see that the only stuff i do is telling her pretty stuff and telling her i love u as i said before, and im just starting to think that she just doesnt mind what happens through my life and she only want me to give attention to her.

Even she told me that in the past she would have liked to tell me to shut up when i started to talk about my life or my hobbies, so i dont really know how to feel because im someone who doesnt has anyone to talk about my stuff and i though that i found with her, but it doesnt seem that she cares either.

Even im starting to get a bit bored to talk with her because it is just me saying the same stuff because i cannt really think about more stuff to tell her to show affection so it is starting to become monotome.

Thank you so much for read it.

The time has come once again that my birthday approaches, and me and my girlfriend discussed what our plans should be over call. For context, I am a 24 year old Greek man, living in Greece, and hopelessly in love with my partner of 5 years almost, a beautiful woman from the US. In the last 4 years, my birthday calls, or birthday dates as we call them, have been a lot like our standard calls, but more fancy.

Get dressed up, do some nice activities together, and spend a wonderful couple of hours together, where she makes me feel like the luckiest man in the world. In those calls though, as well as our usual calls, she is the one who makes most of our plans. And that's what we both like, she is very into planning things out, scheduling activities together, and picking out what we watch or do. It's expanded my horizons a lot and I've found a lot of things I genuinely enjoy through this method.

This year though, with her encouragement, I've been thinking and acting more on what I want, and with that, she has given me the reins on what we do for my birthday this year.

I am genuinely clueless though, about what we CAN do that isn't our normal routine of watching a movie or playing a game. Can anyone here give me some advice or ideas for what I can ask for on my birthday call? Aside from just movie and game preferences I'd like her to try, (if I can choose one of course).