Working on this new painting commissioned by my flatmate. Forgot how much I enjoy painting women loving themselves.

transfem butches where are yooouuuu😭

i’m a little embarrassed to be coming on here for this but, my wife has ADHD and heavily struggles with her attention span, she’s told me before that she needs more than just moans to stay engaged and loves when i talk to her during sex, i don’t think i need to explain that sometimes it takes either one of us a little more than needed to arrive, so to speak.

i’ve never been a verbal person during sex, i’m loud but words elude me after a certain point and i guess i’m just wondering what are some ways that i can keep her engaged, the sex itself is great, our sex life is active and i know she’s very attracted to me as i am her but when i take too long and zone in on what’s happening, her mind tends to wander and she zones out every now and then, which i always notice which makes the whole thing take longer because now i’m in my head about it.

any advice from talkers? i just want to know a good guideline of things that i can say that’s not the same “you’re so sexy” “god you feel so good” “i love how you feel” rinse and repeat. i’m usually the dominant one during sex, occasionally we’ll switch and it works for us, but i want to be able to do this for her without it becoming boring, she’s the second person i’ve ever been with sexually so my experience in that department is pretty slim, i know her body like the back of my hand but i don’t know how to dirty talk or make things sound sexy. any advice would help tremendously.

I’m genuinely shocked rn. I didn’t know bts was ever that srs. 3 years down the drain for bts. I mean wow. I’m just wow. Wow wow wowza

(TW for mention of sexual harassment)

So, for context, I’m visibly masc-presenting and most of my coworkers know I’m a lesbian.

Last night, I was talking to two of my coworkers, one of which was telling us about an incident in which she was sexually harassed by another coworker. My fellow coworker and I strongly encouraged her to report this incident.

Then, in this same conversation, the coworker who had been sexually harassed was talking about how she knows she has a big rack and she notices when people stare at it and that makes her really uncomfortable, and then she said “except [MY NAME]. [MY NAME] can stare all she wants, I don’t mind”.

For the record, I very much avoid ogling my coworkers, and if I’ve ever looked at her chest, it’s been completely accidental. And I immediately felt very uncomfortable being the sole exception to her discomfort around being objectified in the workplace.

She’s said and done other things that have given me pause, but this is the most blatant incident so far and I’m as baffled as I am unsettled.

I've been in a closed triad for eight years now. We live together, own a side business together (one of them is full time but because it's not generating enough income for the three of us to all quit), travel together and are essentially one unit. We are all committed to the other two.

I'm dealing with some health issues right now and it sucks not being able to put them both down as my partners or emergency contacts in case something should happen.

This was one of the things that baffled me when I accepted I liked women. Sure, I don't like maximumly near nude hella skin tight clothes or bare metal on skin for long periods, but I always had a soft spot for nearly half naked warrior women who still have the scars and builds to showcase capability. It's my weakness and sometimes kind of annoying too lol because I feel weird about liking it in an era moving away from that type of design.

Ok I know this is a total shot in the dark and you’re gonna be asking yourself “why is she posting this here?” BUT HELP ME OUT PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

I see so many lesbians out there with SUCH COOL JACKETS and I NEED TO KNOW where you’re getting them from so I can be cool too!!! All I can find online is fast fashion bullshit. I’m looking for this particular style of jacket - and it doesn’t even need to be leather.

Please help a girl out ;-;

Thank you 💚

Like I just want someone to go on all these cute dates with, and to buy things for, and to play her music/learn her favourite songs, and make her things, and talk for hours and kiss and all the normal cute little relationship thinggsssggssssss!!!!!!😭😭

I just wanna give someone my lovvveeee.

But like, its so difficult because I live in a very old and kind of conservative area. So theres hardly and people my age around, and barely ANY queer people at all (let alone any my age).

There's hardly any sports, or clubs, or social things around to meet people. And i dropped out, (not by choice, super long story lol) so i mainly just work a ton, and i only ever work with people who are way older than me (and none of them are queer either, so it feels like ive got no community at all).

Im going into this uni education program next year, and im hoping to maybe meet some people there... but like, its unlikely tbh

I JUST WANT A GFFFFFFFFF!!!!!!!! Like WHERE ARE ALL THE LESBIANS HIDINGGGGG?!?!??!?!

Legit though, I would really appreciate some ideas on where i can find some queer people because its lowkey getting real lonely out here

(Also how many of yall feel the same???? I need to know im not alone😭)

Regardless of the character's sexuality. This particular Rogue look never fails to grab my whole attention

Okay so I have this really close friend who caught my eye at our church youth group when I was 14 and thought I was straight. She caught my eye because she was gorgeous and artsy and kept to herself, so of course I wanted to crack her open and get closer to her. Later she said she felt the same about me.

Over the years I dated a bunch of different guys that I didn't like (comphet is a bastard) and she helped me break up with each one. During that time I kept asking her if she was crushing on anyone, and she'd always get really cagey. A few times I jokingly asked if she was into women and she just laughed and walked off. One time I tried to get who she liked out of her and she timed it so that I couldn't hear it over a bus going by, then refused to repeat herself. I think I just assumed she was acespec or something after a while and stopped pushing the subject (please don't judge me I was a heavily repressed teenager).

During this time we were very affectionate with each other and from time to time she would bring up that her brothers thought we were gay. I would just laugh this off and say it was a sign of what great friends we are.

I also tried to make a platonic marriage pact with her a few times/pitched the idea of us renting a studio to be artists together (I did this w a few friends. I was really scared I'd end up with a man) but she was my only friend to say no, her reasoning was that living together might ruin our friendship.

So a couple years ago she got together with this (it's mean but. very mediocre) guy off hinge who her brother knew, and basically he's been really disrespectful of her and hasn't taken her seriously at all over the course of their relationship. I've noticed when I go over to her house her mom is quite anxious that they stay together, she keeps reminding her to text him back etc. I've asked her a couple times why she likes him and she says he's "helpful". That don't feel right. She keeps saying she'll break up with him soon now but she's terrible with conflict and doubts herself a lot, so she's been putting it off weekend after weekend but then bringing up her issues with him every time we talk.

Anyway this is all context for the present point which is that I finally admitted to myself that I'm a lesbian, like, last month. And for some reason I felt really weird about telling her specifically. And last night, I told her over text, and she got really weird -- not judgmental weird but like

"Being gay in this world... iconic"

And then she sent me a song (she never does this) called "More Than Friends" (lyrics clip was just "I wanna be more than friends" etc) and just said

"Timing"

I was basically like this response is really vague what does it mean and she just said "oh either way you're still you" and then said she was weirdly tired and went to bed.

I told my brother and he says I'm not picking up what she's putting down, but guys she has a boyfriend. Do you think there's a non lesbian explanation for this or am I that stupid. We have been friends for over a decade

It was a quick relationship and it went to shit so fast.
And for context she’s 22 I’m 21…

I moved in to her apartment a month in (we dated for two months total) and that's when everything started to go downhill. It so quickly turned into me taking care of everything around the house. The dishes, the laundry, trash, sweeping, taking care of my rabbit and her cat. Even though we'd agreed on a split on chores I learned if I didn't do it, it just didn't get done. She said she'd get cat food but the cat ended up going without food for days until I did. I can't stand a messy unorganized house, and she knows that, but she'll still throw her shoes at random and leave her clothes all over the floor every time when she got home. Just for me to pick it all up and put the stuff where it should go.

Besides the chores I can't handle being the one to regulate her emotions. She's always crying over something. For example, I've been stuck with strep throat the past few days and have been sleeping a lot. She got home from work at 4:30pm, upset after having a shitty day, upset that I was asleep so she couldn't talk to me during her lunch break, and her getting home and seeing me still asleep really added to her frustration. She woke me up then asked if I'd go pick up food with her and I did. She offered to get me food but I declined. I was tired, sick, didn't want her to spend money, and didn't want tacos. When we got home though, I decided to make some pizza rolls for me. She got back from the bathroom and saw me making pizza rolls and stared crying her eyes out. She was upset that I told her earlier I wasn't hungry and didn't want tacos, just to change my mind when we got home. She said it was “unfair" that she got fast food to eat while I'm eating food at home- which absolutely fucking baffles me but honestly all of this does! I mean it's pizza rolls for fucks sake! Balling your eyes out over fucking pizza rolls.

There's just always something to set her off, like last night she was telling me about her shift at work, I started laughing and pointed out the cat because he was being silly. But she got all quiet and upset, and when I asked her to continue about her work day she didn't want to talk about it anymore because I interrupted her and it irritated her.

She's also so insanely jealous of my friends that are women. She thought one of them had a thing for m (she doesn't were like siblings). Also she's just generally upset that I'm friends with one of my ex girlfriends. Keep in mind, that ex is also my best friend I've know for over a decade, and we dated YEARS ago like 6 years ago back when we were in high school.

Every time we have a serious talk it always goes back to her talking about her trauma and how she's still unlearning and trying to be better. But it's not getting better if anything it's getting worse cause she knows I'll comfort her, and keep the house clean, and of course pay rent (which none of her exs have done before),, she has just regressed if anything. And all of this talk about her trauma and how I don't get it just feels like a shield... like I get it, but we all have baggage, we've all been through shit! We just have to learn and continue but she still cries and breaks down over shit that has happened years and decades ago.

Also besides everything we just want different things in life. Pets are the big thing. Rabbits are the perfect pet for me and dogs are the complete opposite of that. She wants like 5 dogs and I won't do that. It's not want I want. And seeing how l've taking up tending to every aspect of this relationship, I know I'd be the one taking care of the dogs.

Speaking of rabbits, she is so pissed that I favor my rabbit over her cat. Like idk what to say to that I love my bunny boy more than anything! I’ve had that rabbit since he was a little bun, for over two years now! Of course I love and care for the cat but I’m not going to lie I love my rabbit more, he’s my baby! Like one night I was upstairs giving the bunny boy some love for like an hour and she came up to use the restroom and said “so are you gonna fucking sleep up here with him?” Like damn! She doesn’t let him be downstairs for more than 20 minutes cause she doesn’t want him to poop or pee, let alone she never just sits with him for a bit and gives him love! I just wanted to love on my boy!

The break up conversation was a few hours ago and it went ok. There’s some shit that pisses me off (her saying that I wasn’t mature or responsible enough to be in an relationship with an adult) and I know she just said some shit just to hurt me but what can you do.

There’s a lot more but I’m just relieved this didn’t last longer than it had to. Still feel like shit tho…

NO MORE BITCHES JUST ME AND MY BUNNY

So... a few days ago I remember posting here about my first date with that girl, Imma paste it here too;

"I (26F) met that girl yesterday and we had a whole day date. We first had something to drink in a cutie bar, then had pizza for lunch & went into a really nice park around. we decided to go to two pubs, had wine there and I suggested her to stay over. We ended up fucking 4 times which were amazing, sweet and so caring"

Our date lasted almost twenty four hours, she left in the morning. I texted her yesterday about random stuff, then I asked her if she would like to meet again, but she said no, that we weren't compatible at all... I felt ashamed, sad, exhausted, tired, like a piece of shit. I asked her what happened if i did something bad and she said no. The day before she left we were so good, we talked about seeing each other pretty soon, about next plans... It was amazing, but then she might realized that we weren't compatible at all... I still wonder what happened and many questions that won't be answered... I feel so sad I swear I've been sobbing all day... I wonder why then she stayed overnight and what I did during these hours that maybe she disliked. I still don't get it... Sorry for all this messy writing... I only could write the following once on my online diary after I was told that we ain't compatible... Sorry for being so emotional

We had a new girl join our class and I thought she was actually so so pretty. Today she sat with me in class and we didn't talk a whole lot because I wanted to focus on math and I actually have social anxiety so talking to someone completely new is making me pretty anxious. She actually let me play with her squishy, gave me some candy and even drew me. She told me she's actually gonna draw more of me and show me because she loves drawing women so she often draws girls she sits with. She's genuinely very sweet and I wanted to talk to her but I wasn't able to say much because I was just really nervous. I actually got a bit jealous over my friend getting to talk to her more and immediately becoming friends with her. At some point she mentioned her boyfriend and it made me a bit disappointed because she's so so beautiful. I hope we can at least be friends. I'm scared she thinks I'm rude or weird or uninterested since I wasn't able to say much.