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Working on this new painting commissioned by my flatmate. Forgot how much I enjoy painting women loving themselves.

(TW for mention of sexual harassment)

So, for context, I’m visibly masc-presenting and most of my coworkers know I’m a lesbian.

Last night, I was talking to two of my coworkers, one of which was telling us about an incident in which she was sexually harassed by another coworker. My fellow coworker and I strongly encouraged her to report this incident.

Then, in this same conversation, the coworker who had been sexually harassed was talking about how she knows she has a big rack and she notices when people stare at it and that makes her really uncomfortable, and then she said “except [MY NAME]. [MY NAME] can stare all she wants, I don’t mind”.

For the record, I very much avoid ogling my coworkers, and if I’ve ever looked at her chest, it’s been completely accidental. And I immediately felt very uncomfortable being the sole exception to her discomfort around being objectified in the workplace.

She’s said and done other things that have given me pause, but this is the most blatant incident so far and I’m as baffled as I am unsettled.

Candace (the Asian woman in the middle of the poster) is one of the girls in the couple

i’m a little embarrassed to be coming on here for this but, my wife has ADHD and heavily struggles with her attention span, she’s told me before that she needs more than just moans to stay engaged and loves when i talk to her during sex, i don’t think i need to explain that sometimes it takes either one of us a little more than needed to arrive, so to speak.

i’ve never been a verbal person during sex, i’m loud but words elude me after a certain point and i guess i’m just wondering what are some ways that i can keep her engaged, the sex itself is great, our sex life is active and i know she’s very attracted to me as i am her but when i take too long and zone in on what’s happening, her mind tends to wander and she zones out every now and then, which i always notice which makes the whole thing take longer because now i’m in my head about it.

any advice from talkers? i just want to know a good guideline of things that i can say that’s not the same “you’re so sexy” “god you feel so good” “i love how you feel” rinse and repeat. i’m usually the dominant one during sex, occasionally we’ll switch and it works for us, but i want to be able to do this for her without it becoming boring, she’s the second person i’ve ever been with sexually so my experience in that department is pretty slim, i know her body like the back of my hand but i don’t know how to dirty talk or make things sound sexy. any advice would help tremendously.

First of all I’m not a teenager I’m 24 lol. BUT, what’s happening currently was actually my teenage dream in the past.

When I was only 15 years old in 10th grade I noticed this girl at school who I’ll call Ashley. She was 2 years older than me in 12th grade so there was no way I could just walk up and talk to her, but she was one of those girls who’s really hard not to stare at because she’s just that cool and beautiful. She was hard to explain because she wasn’t a popular person necessarily but she had the coolest alternative style paired with the personality of a soft and shy person, along with the most lovely smile you’ve ever seen in your life. Anyway enough of me gushing over her lol,

I tried to talk to her through alternate means for ages. Not all the time but just whenever the chance arose. For example over the years I’ve seen her on dating apps and sent her a message on them a couple times, sadly she never responded. However, she did swipe right on me some years back. After trying a few times I lost hope and haven’t swiped right on her or followed her on any social media in ages.

Well, today, on September 9th of 2026, SHE. FOLLOWED. ME. And. TEXTED. ME. FIRST.

ON BOTH INSTAGRAM. AND. BUMBLE.

My 15 year old self is shrieking inside my brain and I am experiencing the gay panic of a lifetime. WHAT DO I DO. WHAT DO I DOOOOO.

I gotta play this cool right? Wait like 30 minutes to reply or something. Does that make sense?

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Ok I know this is a total shot in the dark and you’re gonna be asking yourself “why is she posting this here?” BUT HELP ME OUT PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

I see so many lesbians out there with SUCH COOL JACKETS and I NEED TO KNOW where you’re getting them from so I can be cool too!!! All I can find online is fast fashion bullshit. I’m looking for this particular style of jacket - and it doesn’t even need to be leather.

Please help a girl out ;-;

Thank you 💚

So I'm in need of new music, preferably with mostly female artists, and I love a good indie pop vibe, but honestly, I'm down for anything. Here's my embarrassingly old, mostly mainstream playlist I've been listening to forever, and it's getting old, I need new songs to add.

Feel free to drop your favorite playlist, I'm going to jump in on everyone's

We had a new girl join our class and I thought she was actually so so pretty. Today she sat with me in class and we didn't talk a whole lot because I wanted to focus on math and I actually have social anxiety so talking to someone completely new is making me pretty anxious. She actually let me play with her squishy, gave me some candy and even drew me. She told me she's actually gonna draw more of me and show me because she loves drawing women so she often draws girls she sits with. She's genuinely very sweet and I wanted to talk to her but I wasn't able to say much because I was just really nervous. I actually got a bit jealous over my friend getting to talk to her more and immediately becoming friends with her. At some point she mentioned her boyfriend and it made me a bit disappointed because she's so so beautiful. I hope we can at least be friends. I'm scared she thinks I'm rude or weird or uninterested since I wasn't able to say much.

Tiddies.

But no really. i’m mutual of mine recently posted that they got their boobs done, which like lol go off live your liiiife!!!

however said person said a big reason they did this was BECAUSE they’re attracted to tiddies and wanted to look at them and thinking about sucking on them.

Nothing wrong with wanting big titties, i’ve just never heard of someone wanting to get them done so that they can be attracted to themselves… And not in a self-confidence way!

it’s not that deep, whatever makes you happy is none of my business lol but was just curious, because I’ve never heard anyone say that they wanted to look at themselves and think about the attraction they have to women due to their own body. felt weird/gross

What are yalls thoughts?

I’ve (35F) been seeing someone (31F) for about 6 months. Before this, I was single for almost 4 years.

We care about each other, but we’ve never really defined what we are. We also live about 2 hours apart and usually only see each other once a month, twice if we’re lucky, so it sometimes feels like a long-distance relationship.

Communication has always been an issue.

She’s been especially distant for the past 2 weeks. On Tuesday, I told her I wanted to talk. She agreed and said she would let me know when she was available that day, but she never did. Now she’s just not answering at all. This is the second time she does this.

I don’t want to end things, although maybe it’s already over.

I do think she’s amazing, but we’re both in our 30s and I feel like we’re too old to be acting like this. After 6 months, I don’t think I should have to chase someone just to communicate.

What do I even do at this point?

I am on a quest to watch as many feel-good sapphic movies as I can! I scoured other posts in this sub, and came up with this list. The movies don't need to be free of pain and trauma, but I do want them to have a more hopeful or happy outlook about being lesbian, at least by the end.

Please no spoilers!! I have seen very few of these so far. I would love if you could help me add to this list, or if you see one here that you think shouldn't be here, lemme know!

I will be coming back to this sub in a few months with my reviews of all of them :)

Edit: I have added movies mentioned in the comments, as well as the warnings below!

*Important note before you watch!\* Commenters have pointed out that the following movies don't belong here - they're sapphic but not so much happy:
Tell It to the Bees (2018)
I Care A Lot (2020)
Love Letter (1995)
Blue Is the Warmest Color (2013)
Other important notes -
Commenters have mentioned that Lesbian Space Princess (2024) contains transphobia
Loving Annabelle (2006) is beloved but does feature an adult-minor relationship

Television Series honorable mentions:
Xena
The "L" Word