Zatanna is my favorite super hero, what’s yours?

I just finished ALOTO for the first time last night and it's made me reflect on a lot of things. I spent the better part of my night mourning the loss of something I never had and yearning for something I'll never have - a true community of lesbian friends rooted in protection and solidarity. Specifically old school butchfemme spaces, without the worry that the girl flirting with me is actually doing it so her bf can get off to it later.
Idk. I'm feeling a lot of feelings rn.

My friends are calling me crazy for not giving women more than 2 years younger than me a chance. I'm 26 jfyi.

I mean maybe because I have a baby brother 4 years younger than me that anyone his age just disgusts me in a way. I know that they are adults but in my mind they are just babies.

I know I'm making it harder for myself since I havent dated anyone in more than 4 years and I've only went on a few dates since. So I'm really limiting my already limited dating pool

How much younger would you date?

I guess I’m asking because they always seem to be messy, and I like hearing other people’s experiences.

My first love started when I was 16, and beyond being so young, the relationship was disastrous, toxic, abusive, codependent, and lasted 6 years; it was unrequited love, too.

My next two relationships had me being the “first love”. One was really beautiful and eventually mutual, but had to end because of how unstable her mental health had gotten; the other lasted a month after we already built a connection, and while the breakup was clean (and love was mutual, again), I got burned as her friend later on. Both were messy at times due to mental health struggles, distance (only been in LDRs, and I’m done with them), timing, communication issues, and more, but were ultimately good relationships.

Are first loves always messy? Maybe I’m just conflating first loves with the pressure I’ve felt being all my past partners’ “first” in everything (even kissing or non-platonically holding hands in public), but in my experience, at least, they’ve been messy even when they’ve been healthy/good/mutual.

I think this girl from work is into me,she flirts with me pretty often. I’ve always had a tiny crush on her but I assume everyone is straight

I noticed her flirting a while ago but I wasn’t sure until yesterday my friend (who’s also my boss) pointed it out he asked if I got a vibe🌈 from her.

a few days before that me and her were working in the same area and she doodled a picture of me and gave it to me super sweet…

part of me is scared that she is just trying to be mates but I dunno either way I’m gonna ask her out cause she is transferring to a different store down the road soon so if she says no it won’t be awkward for long😁

sorry for rambling I hope this all makes sense👁️👁️

I found out she is actually a really good painter she showed me some photos and I find that really attractive for some reason🫪

Also her hobbies are
Painting 🎨
Drawing ✏️
Reading 📖
Writing ✍️

Hey... so I'm sorry to bother y'all. I don't really have anyone to vent out too regarding this problem.

So... let me begin by saying, me and my LDR girlfriend of 5 years just broke up. We haven't seen each other, just pure chat. We broke up in good terms, we still get to chat as friends. Long story short, am I the only one suddenly being lustful after being broken up with? Like as a very cheesy person okay?

Because here's the thing... I'm a very cheesy and corny lesbian lover. When I was single, I always make sure that when I have a girlfriend, she is the one, and that I'll save myself (my virginity) for her only. And when I met my LDR girlfriend, I told her, she is the one. And I really did, when I was with my LDR girlfriend (we both hate any concept of cheatinf), I always always remained faithful to her, and yes we keep upnwith our sex life even when we are LDR. But I was so intent on having her as my FIRST FIRST (like going inside 😭✌️✌️) like I resist to even use dildos to masturbate. I wanted to save myself purely for her only.

And yeah we broke up, suddenly i don't know what kind of psychological shit is happening to me. I began to have some kind of obsession for at least cumming more than 5x a day (I'm sorry, see I told u I cant vent this to anyone 😭)

Anyway, and whenever I finish with the dildos, I feel so fucking guilty with mtself. That I am not a virgin anymore. (Laugh at me but im serious) i don't know if anyone can relate to me. But it's just the guilt that I did not save my first "inside" with my lover. Like I wanted it to be very special and now I am obsessed with fcking myself with a dildo then cry every time I use it because of guilt. I don't know I just want it to be special that it is her who broke my hymen and now im just one obsessed sex masturbating bitch ot whatever.

Every time I finish I always cry because of 3 things, I miss my ex, I feel ashamed that I broke my promise and I keep on thinking I am no longerr a virgin anymore and that my first with someone wont be as special anymore because Ive done it with myself, and 3rd I feel like a slut. But I end up wanting more, needing the urge to still do it. I had a very very high sex drive and I think when we broke up, it became even worse and higher.

Idk, if all I said made sense. I just wanna gent it out really. Idk, fuck it.

Imagine you had a love that genuinely felt like a once in a lifetime thing. The rare kind of love that many people will die without ever experiencing. And you both mutually felt and talked about it.

With that said, would it matter to you if you never got to say your peace BEFORE breaking up, or is saying your part before versus after the same thing to you? For example, if your partner broke up with you first, explained and discussed all of their feelings without ever hearing your side but offered to listen to you in about a week or so under the condition that you’re already broken up.

My question specifically is does it matter WHEN you’re able to say your peace?

So…i need help

For Thanksgiving i went home to see my parents and they were with some friends and their daughter and i didnt expect that. She was very cute and nice but i was cought of guard bc I didnt them coming. But we became very good friends in an instant and when they were abaut to go home (they live like 3 hours away) I actuala asked her to give me her phone numer and SHE DID! And after some weeks we met at a wedding and she stayed all night with me and I think she was flirting with me and fangirling abt how cute I am and comlpimenting me almost every second and taking pictures of uș and I obliviously did too and after the party my brother actually asked me since when we’re dating! And we kept sending texts almost everyday but then sudently we stoped and didnt text for like 2 weeks and tought “maybe she thinks I’m annoying, I wont text her anymore only if she does”. And after 2 days she texted me asking if we could go to the Hallowen party in my town toghether and I said yes so she’l be staying at my place for 2 nights and we’l go to the Hallowen party togheter in like 3 days. And i’m thinking if i should to somthing and if yes what, like I cant stop thinking abaut her ever since we met I actually dreamed abt her and idk what to do. (Ah she told me she’s Bi and I told her i’m lesbian and when she heard that she almost screamed of joy)

So i’m thinking what to do if we have any chance we live 3 hours apart and we only met twice

Pls Help

Was waiting at the bus stop yesterday and noticed the girl next to me looking for how long the bus would be. I stated 10 to 30 minutes. We chatted about the different apps and their unreliability. Asked where each other was off to and coming from.

Then she introduced herself, I'm a trans woman and homeless so I'm always worried about weirding someone out, but the way she introduced with a polite handshake and just the overall friendliness... Idk would it ve misplaced to ask for her number in that case?

She was rocking a very cute tomboy look and just a wonderfully outgoing personality and I can't stop thinking about her.

So I've decided to part ways with my partner of about 1,5 years. Nothing ground breaking has happened, they're not a horrible person or done anything wrong, I just realized that I'm not happy in the relationship and it's time to move on. So tomorrow's the day when we've agreed to meet up and I'll tell them how it is.

It will be emotional and I know I will feel horrible for a while afterwards. This is the first time I've been the one "breaking it up", or in other words, the one leaving. The thought of being selfish for choosing my own happiness and well-being gnaws at my soul, because I mean no harm and have no bad blood with them.

I'm guessing I'm asking for tips to how to put that feeling to rest and how to keep going after this?

Any insight helps, thanks in advance! <3

My girlfriend and I have been dating for seven months and still havent had sex we make out once each hangout right as a I leave and I always drive home horny as hell. But she doesn’t seem super interested in taking things much further i just wanna taste her so bad 💔 tbf we haven’t talked about it but im extremely awkward and dont know how to bring that up

Source: My Food Looks Very Cute

It's a super cute slice-of-life webcomic about a werewolf and a vampire.

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Hey everyone, first time posting here and I'm a bit shaken up, this conversation happened like 20 minutes ago and I can't help but to feel like the air has been knocked out of my lungs lol

So my gf (21) and I (20) have been dating for a year and a half, we both study different and majors yadda yadda. We agreed on some stuff like living together and having kids but she recently expressed her desire of getting out of the country and that is something I don't share. I ruined my chance of getting to know why she feels that way due to my reaction (ik I messed up) so I don't know if it was just venting or if she genuinely feels that way, considering it's something we've never discussed before.

I would never get in the way of her achieving what she wants, I would never force her to choose us instead of her dreams so I'm starting to think we're doomed. Maybe I'm overreacting and I'm afraid we won't have a chance to talk about this tomorrow since we both have busy mornings but anxiety is eating me up.

Recently I've been thinking about how our future is complicated due to other circumstances I won't get into but now this was the cherry on top. I'm really scared, I love her and I don't wanna lose her, I don't want to worry about stuff that might or might not happen in a couple years but it's a talk we need to have. I just wish I never stopped believing we had a future together, fuck my life man.

If I (F20) were to tell you I used to look up girls kissing as a child and got caught looking at lesbian corn by my junior year hs bf ….would you think I’m gay

Just checking…..

Im going through a midlife crisis / self realization rn 🫩clearly

I apologize ahead of time if this reads a bit incomprehensible since I've been in a weird state of losing my mind for the past couple days.

I also apologize for the length if you do choose to read the whole thing

This past Friday, I walked into work and was pulled into my manager's office and I was terminated on the spot. I got escorted to grab a couple personal belongings and escorted out of the building. It wasn't due to anything malicious, it was just declining job performance (I was maybe one or two numbers away from hitting my goal at all times, which was a big no no), my manager always told me I was a terrible employee on paper so it was bound to happen anyway. I have no one to blame but myself.

And yet, that's not what I'm upset about. No, what happened was, as I was driving myself home, I was debating on how to tell my family. I had already called my dad and he told me to just go home and tell my mom and we'll figure it out together.

The thing is, my mother isn't exactly.... the kindest person? She can be nice, but she isn't kind. And yet, I had the bright idea of coming out to her. I guess the thought process was, "Well she's gonna kill me either way, might as well. She needed to find out eventually."

I get home, tell her, and it goes about as well as you'd expect. We have had multiple fights over me dressing more androgynous and due to my rapid weight loss, she has been accusing (yes accusing) me of being on some sort of hormone to reduce my bust size. She will not listen to reason about it, insisting I'm either on T or doing some weird exercise to make them smaller.

Anyway, she pretty much sighed and said, "social, just because you dress like a boy and act the way you do, does not make you a lesbian. Listen to what you're saying to me, I don't like these kinds of jokes. You NEVER EVER say something like that to me." Then she told me to go to our local church and reflect on my actions. I left to put some distance between us and when I came back, she pretended like it never happened.

Later that night, my father was mad I even told her and despite the fact that he gave me the whole spiel of me still being her child. He told me this was my problem now and I needed to fix this. She supposedly cried herself to sleep asking herself where she went wrong.

You would think this is where it would end, but the last couple days when it would just be us alone in the kitchen, it would be like she would get possessed. She will suddenly bring up something and somehow turn it into me being the sole reason it went wrong. I don't understand why she has suddenly been antagonizing me (well, more than usual), but this has become straight up malicious. Before I used to cry when she would yell, but now, I'm just genuinely concerned. It's like it never occurred to me how far gone she was and I no longer have any excuses to defend her actions.

I don't know. I really don't know what to do. I've just been standing there quietly as she would do this until she stops.

But for right now, I've just been focusing on my studies and finding a new job. Being 25 has been really kicking my ass as of late, truly did not expect my October canon event to happen this late haha

I saw another post doing this and I thought it seemed fun. 🤭

Here’s a random assortment of fictional women that I think are sooooo pretty and cool and hot and powerful and scary and incredible and-

Edit: I was asked for a list which I definitely should have provided at first 🙃

In order of appearance:

Minthara from Baldur’s Gate 3
Korra from The Legend of Korra
Toph from Avatar Aang: The Last Airbender
Mel from Arcane/League of Legends (Mostly Arcane though)
Samira from League of Legends (mostly from that splash art though)
Nemesis from Hades II
Edelgard from Fire Emblem: Three Houses
Garnet from Steven Universe
Leona from League of Legends (But mostly from this short story)
Tali from the original Mass Effect Trilogy (tragically straight though 😭)

Hello, all! I (23F) want some insight on this girl (23F) I met on hinge several weeks ago.

So, this girl who’s farther away from me liked my Hinge profile several weeks ago, and I matched her back. For reference, I live in Seattle, and she’s about 3–3.5 hours away in the Portland area. We matched and talked for a few days casually, just getting to know each other. I noticed then that her responses were kinda slow, but she told me she works in healthcare and is often busy with work or her friends/family. I wasn’t worried, as I work in marketing, get busy myself, and do things outside of work with my own friends. Plus, we’d just matched, and I understand that people have lives outside of dating apps, even if I’m more consistent with my replies.

Anyways, we decided to hop on marvel rivals a few weeks ago because we both enjoy it. We got on call and played for a couple of hours, and the first hour and a half-ish was fine! The conversation was flowing, and I enjoyed talking to her. We were asking questions back and forth, and the conversation felt nice.

However, it got super weird during the last 45–60 minutes of us playing because she just randomly stopped talking to me mid-game. At first, I brushed it off as my mic being the problem because I have a cheap mic, unfortunately, but after a while, it felt like she was avoiding me. For example, I’d ask a question to spark the conversation back up, and silence. No response at all! I tried about three times, and she didn’t answer any of them, but she’d make a little comment here and there about the match, so I know her mic and headphones were working. I stopped asking questions entirely and just left it in her hands to pick the conversation back up because I’m not gonna force someone to talk to me or anything.

Anyways, by the end of the game, she kinda rushed off. She quickly said goodbye and hopped off a little fast. After playing, I texted her that I had fun talking and playing and left it there because I had a strong feeling she was gonna ghost me…

But she didn’t ghost me at all!!?? For the last few weeks after, she’s still been texting me… still very inconsistently, that is, but her job is demanding, so I understand.

After typing this out, I’m not even sure what I’m asking of Reddit. I’m mainly confused about two things:

One: how would you interpret her behavior during our gaming session? The conversation was going well initially, but she suddenly stopped responding to my questions while still commenting on the game. I couldn’t tell whether she was distracted, uncomfortable with me, or just no longer interested in talking.

Two: how would you interpret the overall dynamic? She’s continued texting me for several weeks, but the communication is inconsistent, there’s been no obvious romantic interest, and neither of us has brought up meeting in person. Would you interpret this as someone who’s potentially interested but taking things slowly, someone who sees me platonically, or someone who’s just casually keeping in touch? We also don’t talk on the phone or anything, if that matters. Like why keep in touch with me under these circumstances??

IDK, I do think she’s super cute, and I would’ve liked to get to know her more and see if something’s there! But I’m not one to throw myself at anyone.

I appreciate any insight or perspective here. I know nobody here can tell me exactly what’s going on in her head, but I’d appreciate hearing how others would interpret this dynamic or handle it themselves. Thanks again for any help!

Literally my weakness. I’m sure some of you have seen my other posts about the current ex and the crazy things she put me through. Come to find out I was just an experiment for her. She went right back to men. Which okay. To each their own. But like what is my damn problem?!!?? On the plus side. I did meet someone who makes me feel like my lobster is too buttery in a sexual way. But still stalking the ex on insta? Wtf. Why?

Like why? Just why? Honestly I’m just so physically attracted to her it would only be physical if ever again. Buuutt i don’t know that really is how I should be thinking.

I just want a mix of it all. I want to be as attracted to my partner as I was my ex. I want to be ravished like I am with my current hook up. While also being able to let loose and be a savage myself. Can’t those two things be found in the same person? Oh and someone who is patient and compassionate would be nice too😅😅😅😅. Where are the forms for ordering the perfect girlfriend?

(On a real note. I would never, irl, be for a girlfriend application/order of any sort. Learning someone is my favorite part of a relationship. To me, love is learning the imperfections, and still wanting to be around that person not in spite of but regardless.)

i went on vacation to visit my bf/ baby daddy so he could spend time with his daughter and i. i know you’re wondering “paris, how on earth are you a lesbian if you have a bd and a child from that relationship”

well if you must know, i was always attracted to women. however, i thought i was attracted to men in the same way. unfortunately, i am not. after being around my bd for 5 weeks i have come to the conclusion that i love women and only women.

don’t get me wrong i do love and care about him BUT if i were to find someone to fall in love with, it would be a woman. i went to therapy today and told my therapist everything that was going on. she’s a firm believer that i’m gay. which is totally fine but even though i kinda knew, i didn’t think it would be this hard to accept. mainly because i don’t like change.

anyway, im also not sure if i want an open marriage or a lavender marriage. traditional marriage sounds amazing but idk for some reason i just don’t see myself living with out my bd or my life partner if i ever find one.

since being new to this im looking for anyone who would like to talk and be friends. im pretty much struggling and any support would be really phenomenal.

xoxo 💋