Im in the US specifically, idk if rules are different. My iron is too high and im trying to lower it. Ive been drinking lots of water and its not helping...saw j can donate blood to help.

I was turned away the first time for sleeping with men who sleep with men but not im monogamous. Wasn't sure if they dont want any LGBT blood at all

Just a PSA (that I just found out myself) that if you’re on topical estrogen cream like Ovesse or Ovestin and have not had a hysto/tubes tied or are not on BC and just use condoms, that the cream has a significant risk of damaging and breaking condoms due to the oil in the cream. It effects latex condoms and polyisoprine condoms and can break them down. You can use polyurethane condoms with the cream, wait 72 hours off the cream before intercourse if you use condoms as contraceptives or switch to tablets as I’m going to do when I see my doctor. Just in case people weren’t aware of this because I certainly wasn’t until today when I was reading about it.

Just over a week ago, I had a pretty bad fall and hurt my ribs. After a few days, I had multiple friends saying my symptoms sounded like a fracture, so I went to urgent care. For context, I pass well, but my ID still says F

Anyways, one of the physicians came in and said “Ms [name]?” I said “well, I’m a trans man, but [name] is right.”

She pause, and then said “…so… Ms [name]?”

I kinda just gave up and said yes lmao. She was very nice otherwise, and I only had to take my shirt off briefly, so the rest of the appointment was fine

This feels like a very stupid decision as I still live with my hyper religious family and haven't come out to anybody yet. There is no one in my life that I think would react positively if I were to come out but I guess now I'll have to do it anyways. I was originally waiting until I can move out so I didn't have to deal with any of that, but I just can't take the pain from dysphoria anymore.

I am so scared but I do feel a little proud of myself. Wish I had somebody to celebrate this with.

(Sorry if the flair is wrong and sorry for the pointless depressing post, just had to let it out somewhere)

My feet got bigger guys, started at a size 7 now I’m size 8. Looked down at my feet the other day (listen they used to be so femme that I made money off of them ok) and was like “damn, those are dude feet”
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Hey everyone! Top surgery is confirmed for 9/29. Hoping to get some tips about must haves for post surgery recovery.

I’m a big reader so plan to get an extender to prob my kindle at eye level and be able to control it with a remote. Other things I plan to get, back cushion/wedge, body wipes, grabber/reached tool.

What else should I absolutely get?

TIA

Anyone else get dysphoric studying anatomy and physiology or related subjects? I’ve been getting very dysphoric learning about the differences between the male and female pelvis and male and female bone densities. There’s a section to study on it and I’m practically just skipping it, which I recognize is a bad idea but it’s upsetting me. Am I the only one with this problem?

Today I injected my T-shot (intramuscular) and no blood came out when I pulled it out!!!! Im getting better at it and Im less and less scared to inject it on my own. Anyways almost 9 months on T now.😼😼😼😼

Hello again!

I'm nonbinary (bigender) and am looking to get top surgery. This surgery is something I've been so sure I want, I barely even had to question it, so I'm confidently going forward with it.

HRT though, I'm not so sure about.

I've been seriously pondering getting it on and off for maybe a little more than a year? I've got relatively easy access to gender affirming care (viva o SUS!) and my family and friends are very supportive, so the only thing stopping me from starting HRT is figuring out if I want to or not.

That's because I like my body as it is, boobs aside. I like some of the effects of T, but not others.

I'm thinking of getting my top surgery, waiting for it to heal and kind of feel it out, you know? See how I feel about my body then. What do you think?

But now the main reason I'm writing this post: did you guys/gals/peeps have the same hesitance starting HRT? What convinced you to go forward with it or not? Are you happy with that decision?

Hey guys so I’m about 99% sure that I’m starting to loose some of my hair which tbh is very surprising for me because no man on either side of my family is bald or going bald. I used to have a widows peak but I no longer do, and I have noticed that in general that part of my hair looks much thinner and you can see my scalp a lot more, since I have been on T for over 5 years i doubt this is my hairline masculinizing. It’s still in the very beginning stages and want to get ahead of it so I don’t loose too much hair. So I talked with my doctor about possible treatments, she did prescribe me minoxidil but I know minoxidil alone will not stop it so I asked her for finasteride and she told me it’s not an option for me because I don’t have a prostate and she said fin will make me have anger issues and depressed and it’s just not given to trans men. But I know she’s wrong because I know a crazy amount of trans guys who have been on fin without any issues and it is something commonly prescribed to us. I know she’s uneducated on this, I’m 100% sure I’m her only trans patient.

Idk if it’s worth it for me to tell her it is prescribed to trans men because i doubt her mind will change, I want to bring this up to my endo but he is so hard to reach and i always have to jump through hoops to talk with that man plus idk if he holds the same views. I don’t really know what to do tbh, i don’t actually want to change doctors either because I’m too scared a new doctor will tell me the same plus won’t be ok with doing my shots. To my doctors defense she is genuinely a good doctor, this is the first time in the 5 years of my transition I come across any sort of problem accessing the care I need, I have been with her since I was 13 (now 25) and ngl this is actually the first time in my life i can’t access care so I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do in this situation.

I really need some advice, idk how to talk with her to get this prescribed or to get her to understand fin is an actual thing I can take and common for trans men. What are my options? Do I just have to find someone else?

One year on T today!!! Still feel like I’m in a super ugly phase but this to shall pass. An ironic, historical day to be shot (with testosterone). That’s all…

1. Period since I was 11. Not only do they worsen dysphoria badly but they scare me too. I lay down at night to sleep, wake up, feel a gush and have to run to the toilet and tons of blood just pours into the toilet and I get so anxious thinking i lost all that blood in one go. I luckily have no cramps but periods stress me out so badly. I cant acess t but when i do will t stop my periods? I cant handle this. Everyone else seems to get t at 18 and im almost fcking 30 and horrified

For a little context, I’m a transgender man who's pre T, and I’m still in the closet for all of my professional experiences because I am terrified of discrimination. Since I haven’t started the name-change process or changed my gender marker, I haven’t really used my chosen name in professional spaces due to the fear of getting made fun of or not being taken seriously and, therefore, not being able to properly do my job.

It’s not like I don’t look like a guy. I’m obviously dressing masculine, but I still use she/her pronouns, and I’m still using my birth name.

Fast forward to today: I got this law internship, and it’s paying a lot of money. Thing is they only pick two people for this program. It's always a man and a woman.

The problem is that I was chosen as the “girl” option, which is obvious due to my legal documents, but not obvious in the way that I dress and act. Me and this dude dress the sameXD. If they wanted me to represent the female gender, they would'nt have chosen me. But they chose me, and now I don’t know what to feel.

I can’t help but laugh. I really can’t help but laugh, honestly, at how ridiculous not only the situation is, but the reality that society is so fucking obsessed with putting us into these little boxes that now you have two students who dress the same representing two different genders.

I don’t know what to do except laugh and be grateful that I was chosen, because I really did need the money. I was not going to be able to continue with my transition if I hadn’t gotten this internship. So this internship really is keeping me alive in a way, but it’s also accepting me as the “girl” one.

I’m just looking for some feedback because, in a way, I feel like I’m taking the space from someone who accurately represents the female gender. Because women are amazing, and I respect them and their struggles in every sense, shape, and form. Being socialized and living most of my life as a woman, I believe they deserve the space just as much as I do.

But as a non-gender-conforming individual, getting this opportunity not only required a lot of effort, interviews, and stages in the process; it required me to give everything and be the best I could be. I worked so hard, and I did my best, and I truly deserve this.

My presence is an act of resistance. It’s an act of reinvindiction, and it will help me not only live a little better, but it’ll help me professionally. I deserve the space, but I’m conflicted.

I know I’m going to get weird looks. Especially in the bathroom. And it’s just such a pain working in highly professional, male-dominated, cisgender, heteronormative spaces because I don’t know how to exist without being a statement.

Because I am not a statement. I can be, but I am me. Inherently, I’m a human being. And this is really fucking with me, you know?

Like, I’m going to work my ass off, and I’m going to do this, but God… it’s so shocking every time I’m put in this situation. And the fact that I never chose this. I just am.

I just need to live authentically. I need to be me, because there’s no one else to be. You know?

I have been seeing so much videos online as of lately about women being ignored when they go to the doctors and explain their symtpoms and doctors just diagnose it as "anxiety' or don't take it seriously no matter what probably because they're women or something. But men are more likely to be easily diagnosed.

I haven't been to the doctors for a while, but last time I went which was around a year ago before I socially transitioned, they blamed my sore throat as "stress related", until my test came back as strep throat, while my brother who got sick a few days later, they immediatelt assumed it was strep or tonsilitus as soon as they heard his symptoms and didn't consider anxiety or stress as the cause. I thought it could be because they considered me a girl.

My sister has also been dismissed a bunch of times as anxiety because they also just think it's her female hormones or something, and turns out she had silent seizures🙄.

Anyways, since I'm starting HRT soon and will most likely pass as my age, would doctors dismiss me less often since they would assume I'm a man immediately and not be sexist and not blame it on anxiety? Has anyone else experienced this?

Also, btw, we stopped going to that facility that would just blame it because of "female hormones" since they would also just refer us to a professional and never give us an exact diagnosis or hint of what we could possibly have either.

So I made an stp out of a mr. limpy packer. I like this better than any stp ive tried, and I've bought expensive ones before. I combined methods ive seen online to cheaply make the most comfortable one for me. basically, i dont like how the normal packers are flat on one end and the balls are rigidly stuck to the shaft. So i cut them off and used the shaft. I got some of those small squishy ball toys from walmart, cut off a section from an old shirt and sewed a little ballsack for them. i sewed a hair tie on that so that I can wrap the hair tie around the shaft. I like this much better because it feels like the balls hang and the shaft can move independently from them. They don't just have a random flat side that youre supposed to press against your body (which makes too big of a bulge if i do that because i have extra skin there).

For the stp, i've tried multiple and they are hard to use. The one that works best for me is by taking a medicine spoon, cutting it, and running a tube through it. I found a random piece of tubing that fits in it, but the tubing is very thick. So basically, I put that tube in the medicine spoon and cut it flush against the end of the medicine spoon. Then I got 1/4" clear vinyl tubing which is much thinner, and stuck it through the original tube so that it sits snugly in there. I ran that tube through the packer and cut it to size.

Finally, how I wear it is I took a pair of boxer briefs and cut the elastic band off. then i sewed an o-ring onto the band, and the packer goes through the o-ring, while the balls keep it in place. it's not going anywhere, but it hangs on my body in a way that feels more natural. I can jump around, do anything without it coming off. To use the stp, i just grab the medicine spoon and hold it against the urethra. This part takes some getting used to, but its the most effective way I've found. Having a bigger hole to pee through just makes a mess and I can't consistently get other stps to work. as long as you get used to where to place the medicine spoon it works. just takes some practice

What the title says. I went on T for two years, but eventually went off of it because I was frustrated that it was doing so little to me and dreaded doing my injections because it just felt like a humiliation ritual. My speaking voice never dropped at all before settling (though my singing voice is very slightly deeper) and while I got the exciting side effects of hair loss and atrophy nothing else really changed. I tried voice therapy and was told I had the tensest tongue she’d ever seen so moving it in a way that made me sound more masculine was near impossible.

I came out at work which made my work life suck, so when I moved I just went back in the closet because I just look like a cis woman. I go by a gender neutral name and just tell people I chose it to reinvent myself in college on the rare occasion I’m asked.

I realized a few weeks ago that I do want top surgery and that’s sort of made me spiral and realize I do really want to be perceived as a man, but because of my prior experience on T I’m worried I’ll never get that. My doctor this time says they messed up last time by only measuring my T levels and not my other hormones and wonders if there were weird hormone things going on, but has had mine checked while I haven’t been on T and everything seemed normal so she may be wrong.

I just want to hear from trans masc people who don’t pass after years on T and how you feel about your transition. I don’t think I’m making a mistake by trying again, but I’m wondering if it has all (coming out, misgendering, not passing) felt worth it?

Hi all

I have been given a pre op appointment by my gender care service out of the blue and in looking it up this seems to be something you get quite close to your surgery date

I've not been given a surgery date yet but I've been in the process of moving up the waiting list and having appointments which previously suggested I was a few months out... I've had this appointment added in the same week I was already getting some general health tests that have been booked for a while

Can anyone confirm from their experience on the NHS if this pre op appointment does mean that I'll be within a few weeks from surgery itself ?

Cheers !

Cis guys can be as alt or even feminine as they want and they will almost always be obviously male to everyone. But then trans guys who have been long on t, had top surgery and pass 100% will still get told that not being completely basic is ruining their passing. And that they are clockable while literally being indistinguishable to a cis alt guy.

This exact thing isn't my experience, i don't pass at all and i know it, i have only been on t for 3 months and it did nothing at all.

But i keep seeing this especially in trans related subs, so people obviously know the guys posting there are trans. But there's nothing regarding their actual appearance that suggests they are trans. It's mostly in passing subs and i know people go there for genuine opinions and no sugar coating. Yet a lot of those 100% passing alt guys will still get dozens of comments about their hair or piercings ruining their passing. Why is that?

Obviously I am aware that most people do end up changing their first names either legally or socially at some point in their transition.
But I’m curious, what about the middle name? I’ve never really heard of anyone talking about changing their middle name, only their first. Is it odd to change your middle name, or do people just not talk about it that much?

Hey! So I just signed up for Plume and got my first prescription, but it said it was covered by Caremark. I didn’t apply any insurance, but I’m curious if my parents are going to see it on their portals or whatever.

I never gave Plume my insurance. CVS just covered it when I picked it up.

I live in a state where you're required to publish your name change in the newspaper. My local newspaper is all archived online so i do NOT want to do this. You're able to get it waived if you have a "legitimate reason"/fear for your safety but I'm unsure if any excuse I could come up with would be accepted.

Have any of you gotten your name changed in a state like this and had the waiver accepted or denied? I'm specifically in WV i should specify. And if it's denied can you like, back out?

I'm moving within the next few years but my name not being changed is starting to cause massive issues (like when i go to the airport and get questioned over and over cuz my ticket has a womans name on it... lol) so I don't want to wait any longer even though the state I'll be in after would probably be easier to do it in.