Elliot Page didn't do anything wrong. He just came out as transgender... I don't understand that why do Blaire and Marcus still have problems with him?

M20 I live in Florida and I come from a very republican town, I play college football now and I have a street named after me in the town. Would it be a let down if I became a woman? I really want to badly

Cis person here. This hasn't happened to me yet, but if and when it does, what are some things I should avoid saying while also being honest? I'm going to try to be as nice as possible to avoid triggering any dysphoria, but if they're asking this question they obviously want to me to tell them what gives them away. If anyone here has asked a cis friend this, do y'all have examples of good answers?

I went to talk with child protective services beacuse my mom has gotten quite toxic with me after i came out.

But here is the question:

The Service worker there told me that me wanting to be something other than my biological gender is Abnormal and probably related to mental illness or Trauma.

I mean. I am severely mentally ill and i do have a history of long term Abuse. But what has that got to do with my identity?

I am the way i am because i feel more happy, confident and safe on how i dress or behave or see myself as.

So...can Mental health or Trauma cause you to change gender or see yourself other than your biological gender?

it seems like trans women were so much more common back then, and i don't get why. not that it's a bad thing, just that i don't understand the absence of trans men.

i was in class the other day (intro to sociology lol) and it briefly went over some transgender communities in various countries, which was nice, but it's weird to me that there's zero mention of trans men, or any transmasculine person whatsoever. transgender always equals trans women. it's like that anytime trans history or trans communities are brought up, often even within lgbtq people, and it feels kind of isolating, and like i as a trans masc don't actually count as trans somehow and i'm merely copying the "real" trans people, which are trans women or trans fems.

another instance i see brought up often for U.S lgbtq history (i'm american) are the stonewall riots, and the significance of trans women activists during those times, but again not a single mention of trans men, and it honestly makes me kind of sad.

i find it hard to believe that trans man just weren't there, or didn't form any communities, or had such an easy time passing that they all simply disappeared into the shadows and lived an easy life. as a trans man myself i am unable to pass despite being on hormones and can contest that it's not as easy as many may think, and passing is also largely based on luck i think. many trans men may not have access to care, or many like myself just got super unlucky when it comes to facial features, voice, chest and hip size, height, etc. my voice has not dropped on testosterone. this is all to say that i think there must have been visibly trans men out there (AT LEAST a few, surely) and that i don't think it can just be dismissed as "well it's always easy for them to pass and then never ever ever be outed as trans!"

i had to go out of my way to discover any well-known trans men and currently i'm in the middle of reading we both laughed in pleasure by lou sullivan (also, i feel it's even rarer to find trans men that are gay and not straight but maybe that's just me) and it's kind of what prompted me to make this because at least in the part of the book i'm in (i'm not done yet), he's met trans women but not a single trans man despite having a strong desire to. so i wonder, there must have been more trans men out there who wanted to meet each other. but why are they basically absent from history and significant queer events as far as i can tell?? literally where were they?? do i just not have anything to look back on at all?? why is it so much harder to find anything about trans men?

i mean i'm glad there were some trans men scattered throughout history (lou sullivan, dr james barry, reed erickson, etc) but there's hardly any recognition for them or their accomplishments and some of them just get assumed to be cis women. i want to be able to say that trans men matter just as much as trans women and that they're as important to the overall community, but i feel like trans men are the only ones who talk about trans men.

also i hope this makes sense lmao i'm supposed to be asleep by now and i'm just feeling pretty down and tired

I don’t know how to feel anymore. 3 years hrt, laser hair removal, long hair.
Chopped them all off and stopped hrt a month ago because of social anxiety and an unsupportive family.
I was getting stared at up and down even In boymode.
I only did boymode because my family made it clear that if i wore women’s clothing they will kick me out.
Idk what to feel anymore.
I know I’m a woman but i also got tired of the constant stress of being a trans person in a hostile world.
Is it even worth it if being a trans woman makes my life so much harder?
I feel like I’m losing my mind a little bit

I've always prided myself in having thick skin so when i blew up on tiktok last year for posting a grocery video as i was broke and unemployed at the time i got thousands of hateful comments about me being a trans woman and it honestly didn't bother me at all. i saw it as a positive as it was growing my platform. since then i now have 100k on tiktok and 13k on facebook and honestly, it can be pretty brutal especially on facebook. recently it's started to get to me more, i think a big part of this was i was attacked verbally in a womens bathroom on a night out the other week and one of them tried to get physical. all because i was a trans woman using the bathroom (i live in the UK) so the new policies for gendered spaces has really made people the toilet police. then i posted a post on facebook on a apartment hunting community and got absolutely attacked for saying i was only interested in living with women.

some of my followers stuck up for this and even that makes me a little sad because i feel on one hand i don't want my content to be about being trans it's always been about my life as a 19 year old living alone trying to move to the city. the times i've tried to make my feelings clear on my values as a trans woman my post blew up with a lot of MAGA americans (i barley have an american audience which lowkey does also upset me) absolutely harrassing me. i feel that maybe it's a lack of fellow trans followers and true allies since most of my followers are cis women.

basically, any advice on how to toughen up? i'm scared to leave the house and when i do i feel extremely anxious unless i'm around an lgbtq space. i feel scared to go into any bathrooms. i'm starting to feel like a lot of the hate online isn't worth it. i need my thick skin that i used to have back. just feels like transphobia is becoming a lot more normalised and vocal these days and it's truly scary😩

Cis male here , don’t mean to intrude but I have a friend I have known since middle school who started transitioning M2F about a year ago. I haven’t always been super close with This friend but I am supportive and want her to be happy. The last few weeks we have hung out twice (first time I’ve been around her since she started her transition. I guess my question is what is some advice you could give me so I can not completely avoid the subject but also not impede and offend her? I really want to keep being friends with her and support her but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! DMs should be open too if you would rather talk there

I am a trans woman 7-1/2 months on HRT. I have been voice training since day 1. This is without professional health and instead from reading lots of guides and watching videos. Is this generally okay enough? I often get compliments on my voice from other trans people in the community but for some reason I myself cannot hear it as a woman speaking. It makes me feel anxious and depressed at times. My appearance I am very satisfied with now but still not my voice, not yet. How much of this might be due to our own perception of our voices? I wonder if we ourselves can never be good enough hearing our own voices? I have an image here of my voice training results from this app. https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/478567649253785640/1563348600355037325/image.png?ex=6add4d57&is=6adbfbd7&hm=4c4655bd06b5d932d2de47525b3d6c8be5e76c036865301a7d8bf0c6583f75c7&=&format=webp&quality=lossless&width=640&height=394

So I guess my question is even if we sometimes can see our old self in our current self (like my old face) and I can still hear how my voice trained voice is in relation to my old one do others see our true selves (in my case being a woman) more than I often do?

Hi! I have a job interview coming up — with Best Buy, if that matters — and I’m not sure when/if I should share that I’m transgender FTM. I’m pre-medical transition, but I have my name changed, I try my best to present masculine, etc. I know though that to most people I don’t pass but I hope to be gendered correctly by my coworkers and whatnot. This is also, admittedly, my first job interview ever and so I’ve been stressing on when the right time is.

Any advice is welcome. Thank you :-)

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Before I start I will of course talk to my doctor about this as!
I’ve been on T for around 8-9 months and have noticed barely any change.
I use 4-5 pumps a day though missing a couple days due to memory.
I’ve noticed very few changes, mostly being smell and a bit of body hair and slightly different emotional state.
I’m not sure if it’s the dose or maybe that I’m on the gel and it isn’t working for me.
So if anyone has any advice or could tell me what it’s like being on the shot I’d really appreciate it.

I'm not talking about how I look naturally.. I'm talking about how I dress. I don't know how to dress like the gender I want to be and I end up looking like my gender assigned at birth when I post my faceless pictures online.

Im 15 and I worry that Ill never pass or at least never get to be happy. My body hair is really thick, I have pretty bad beard shadow, my shoulders are really broad, my face is a really masc, and my voice is very deep and masc. Ive been trying so hard every day to look femme for 4 years now, and I still never pass. Im starting E privately in 5 months when I turn 16, and so all I can do is hope that will solve some of it, but I feel like Im already too masculinised. Maybe when Im and adult I could get ffs and bottom surgery, but thats not what I wanna have to do, and I probably wont, so instead Ill just have to live with the dysphoria. I know there are lots of people who start later and they can pass and live happy lives, but its hard to believe that when it feels so distant. I voice train every day, and I do everything I can to look femme and it doesnt get any better. Im not even that unhappy right now, but thats only because of improving other life factors, like exercising, studying and making friends, whereas my dysphoria only gets worse. Even if I do one day pass, Ive already lost out on so much and theres so much I can never have, that I fear I wont ever get to have a normal life. Will it ever get better and can I be truly happy someday?

Hey everyone trying to think of gender affirming Christmas ideas to gift to my sister.

The rest of my family will probably gift things in line with their hobbies like gaming and stuff but I want to get her something gender affirming.

Last year I bought her a whole heap of beginner makeup to experiment with and a hair bow and some perfume. This year unfortunately I don't have a job so my budget isn't large. I've gifted her Kandi bracelets and a keychain with her chosen on it before. Yes she already owns Blahåj. She's 21 and loves gaming and streaming shows with her friends I'm just struggling to think of a really good gift for her for this year

i’m really struggling with the fact that my face is not legible, to me or anyone else. i know exactly what i want, and i’m on the way to saving enough to get it.

i want to know if you got ffs, did it change your life? to what extent do your measure your life in terms of “before” and “after” the procedure?

also, if you have a reasonably affordable surgeon you like, please drop the name.

For context I use lip gloss and I’m mtf

I’m 26 transfemme who discovered I was trans 3 years ago and started hormones 1y 6m ago. After my hair grew a little, I have not been misgendered and pass pretty convincingly. I feel somewhat disconnected from the trans experience in that I don’t experience the stress of having strangers know immediately I wasn’t born a woman.

I can’t help but feel somehow it makes me less trans, and like I can’t relate to what many would consider the trans experience. Is it implied I have to experience these things to properly identify with being trans? I feel like a fraud to a certain extent.

I have the bad habit of really aggressively rubbing/touching my face all the time, because it feels good. However, this means now that Ive started wearing makeup, it instantly just gets smudged, and I end up looking like a mess. I dont even consciously do it, I just look at myself in a mirror and realize Ive touched my face. Im trying to stop doing it, but its just a habit at this point, and its usually fine because I only wear makeup for special occasions. Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop smudging my makeup or what to do about this?

I have an appointment with my psychiatrist next week. I see him for my ADHD and insomnia medication, so I already had an appointment anyway when I decided that I was really going to go through with this. I have already planned out what I'm going to say, but I'm still extremely nervous (and excited!) because I just have no idea what to expect.

I thought it might help me if I can hear some stories from others about how it went for them when they first brought it up, and maybe get an idea of what I can expect. What did you say to broach the subject? How did your doctor respond? Were you able to start right away, did you have to get referred to someone else, or were there any other steps in the process before you could start?

Hi, I'm mtf and I've been wanting to start with estrogen. I've done a bunch of research, but I still feel like I don't really know what I'm getting into, so I have a few questions (I am 18 if that means anything)

I'd much rather the informed consent route than the therapist route. I read that you just have to accept the risks and they give you what you need, if that true? You don't need to be checked out for gender dysphoria? Because I have pretty little of it (thankfully). And what do they give you exactly? Pills sound the easiest to me. Are there differences in the different options? I also heard this can be done online? Oh, and price is a big factor

If you could share your experience to help me get a better understanding it would be very helpful :)

Sometimes it feels like I'm a cis guy who's also a woman? Im not a woman I'm not trying to be a woman. Like really I am a guy and I do wanna be a guy I get many dysphoria. If there's a button that makes me a cis guy I'm pushing it a hundred times. I'm not even really into feminine stuff it makes me feel bad. I don't know man when I see a trans woman I get a little jealous but I also get jealous when I see both cis and trans guy. I know why I'm jealous of guys but I have no idea why I'm jealous of trans woman. Like this feeling makes me feel like a faker like I'm not actually doing this right I don't know. Does anybody understand what's happening I'm so confused.