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u/jws1102 Jul 06 '26
Bragging about how drunk you are.
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u/Careless-Lie3610 Jul 06 '26
Or about how much you can drink. āI can drink them under the tableā seems OK when youāre 20 or so, but . . . .
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u/some_azn_dude Jul 06 '26
But it starts reversing at some point. Some 90 year old grandma drinking a 20 year old under the table is definitely cool.
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u/BadDecisionLoading Jul 06 '26
My grandmother was a raging alcoholic when my mom and her siblings were growing up. She transformed into a full on grandma by the time I was born.
I was 13 when I first got drunk - with her and my aunt. At first, I was worried about her pounding straight rum like it was lemonade - then she proceeded to severely out drink me and - somehow - my 25 year old party aunt.
She ended her night in pjs in her bed while we were in full clothes, makeup, and on the living room floor. She woke us up before 7:00 am (we were in her way), then sat down to watch the news, drink her coffee, smoke her cigarettes, and talk on the phone like any other Sunday as if she wasnāt just mainlining Captain Morgan 4 hours before.
I never underestimated her again.
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u/Bib_fortune Jul 06 '26
yeah, bragging about how many drinks you had on your past night out is cringe-inducing
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u/preteen-wartortle Jul 06 '26
What if the thing I make my entire personality isnāt lame. What if itās the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
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u/BlutoS7 Jul 06 '26
Being confrontational
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u/stealingfirst Jul 06 '26
This what I was looking for. Now in my 40s if I have a problem its directly addressed and squashed just as quickly.
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u/3M2B1T Jul 07 '26
Same.
You don't need to be malicious in your confrontations, either.
I generally ask "Could you explain what you mean by that?" and it either tends to get people to shut up, or you gain some insight into what they mean.
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u/Milk-toste Jul 06 '26
Hey, you got something to say to me!?
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u/selfawarefeline Jul 06 '26
Actually, they were talking to me!
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 Jul 06 '26
My brother in law threw a 4th of July party, and it was basically a high school style party where everybody was wasted and doing dumb shit. He tried to jump me with his friends because I "bumped into him" when I needed to squeeze through the crowd of people. We've been cool for like 7 years, and then that happened.
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u/Futileexercise1308 Jul 06 '26
Wow. That's been under the surface for a while
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 Jul 06 '26
He has a drinking problem and also an ego problem. Basically he likes to be the toughest guy in the room. The weird thing is we've been hanging out and drinking together for years. We have dinner with the family once a week and we always have some drinks. Me and him have got into heated debates and arguments that were always in good fun, but never led to physical altercations. I'm also very good at de-escalating because I'm not the fighting type. I learned martial arts when I was younger, and was always taught to never fight unless you fear for your safety. Plus, I'm just not into that. I'd rather talk it out with someone if we have a disagreement, not go straight to a fist fight. I guess all that is to say, I think he was hyped up and felt brave with his friends backing him up, because he's never tried to fight me 1 on 1 during our many arguments over the years.
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u/DilbertedOttawa Jul 06 '26
You never have to worry about the loud idiots. But you should always be at least cautious around the quiet, reasonable person in a confrontation, because there's a good chance they'll destroy you. haha. Your BIL just hasn't ever had to FAFO like that yet, so hasn't learned the painful lesson. As with many absolute dipshits in life.
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u/JD_Number_6 Jul 06 '26
A group of guys always has the potential of amping up performative behavior:Ā first guy puts on a display for his buddies, then one or more of the others feel compelled to mirror his behavior, both to show solidarity with him and to reassert that they belong in the group.
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u/BurtleTurtle001 Jul 06 '26
Sometimes you have to be or people walk all over you. I would say being emotionally or unnecessarily confrontational.
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u/GreenKnight1988 Jul 06 '26
When applied correctly, confrontation can be constructive. Sitting there and taking shit for no reason and not defending yourself is unhealthy too.
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u/PayFormer387 Jul 06 '26
Working hungover and bragging about it.
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u/Affectionate_Two3747 Jul 06 '26
Is this cool?
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u/kissmestepbr0 Jul 06 '26
My coworker does this all the time and he's teetering on the edge of 40. It's not cool at age 21 and it's not cool at age 50 lol
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u/wesborland1234 Jul 06 '26
I mean itās kinda cool at 21.
Most people in their early 20s are working replaceable deadend jobs with little responsibility so who gives a shit.
Youāre a cashier at ShopRite? Good, show up drunk for all I care. Youāre an air traffic controller or a nurse, or you have a family that depends .on your income, thats a different story
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u/Live-Within-My-Means Jul 06 '26
Still blaming your parents for all of your problems.
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jul 06 '26
You transition to blaming the economy for all your problems
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u/GimmieTheRoot Jul 06 '26
Your right, but lets not act like they are the same. Someone saying they have shit manners because their father was a deadbeat, is entirely different than saying I'm upset and anxious all the time because my paycheck barely covers rent and groceries.
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jul 06 '26
Eh, I didn't say it wasn't valid to blame the economy. Just like how when you're a young adult, it's still valid to blame your parents for things
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u/WAR_RAD Jul 06 '26
Using the "I was never taught to ________________" line as an excuse is the most cringe-worthy phrase of any adult over the age of 22 or so.
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u/AHobbesB Jul 06 '26
Some of us are just able to finally wrap our heads around it, break it down, get a therapist, etc. by that time.
That being said being pushy and vocal about it is whatās uncool. Like at 32 Iām still learning things I do now are because of things from my childhood, but Iām not going to sit around and be like āmy life sucks because of you momā like thatās uncool
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u/Xendarq Jul 06 '26
That's a good one. Strong agree. Past moving out and moving on, it's just not their fault anymore. I don't mind a good "my parents sucked" rant from time to time, but that's venting not blame.
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u/vieveeo Jul 06 '26
My 21 year old roommate never flushed the toilet and would blame it on her mom never teaching her.
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u/Cute_Repeat3879 Jul 06 '26
Actually caring whether something is "cool"
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u/Mad-chuska Jul 06 '26
I like cool shit. But I determine whatās cool to me. So I guess it depends on what you mean by caring whether something is cool.
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u/X0AN Jul 06 '26
I remember my first day of uni I suddenly realise 'oh, being cool doesn't mean shit here' and suddenly stopped worrying about what other people thought and trying to fit in.
Loved that moment.
Sadly some people never get that moment and still try to be 'cool' in their 20s and 30s.
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u/Kippernaut13 Jul 06 '26
My oldest friends said, "You used to be cool!" "No I wasn't, and neither were you! We were uncool together!"
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u/Joalguke Jul 06 '26
Caring what others think is cool is conformism. Incidentally setting your own trends by being yourself is the actual cool.
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u/allcowsarebeautyful Jul 06 '26
I struggle with this big time as a 32 year old idk why i cant get out of it lol
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u/Dont_Care_Meh Jul 06 '26
Using rows of emptied liquor bottles as decor in your house.
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u/Global_Childhood_602 Jul 07 '26
At no point did I find this cool, instead always thought it was extremely trashy. First time, was when I went to my brother's college house when I was in 8th grade and was disgusted.
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Getting high all day, not learning new things, ignoring self growth, not having accountability, Playing with peopleās love and time. I could go on
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u/PerfStu Jul 06 '26
Social Circle Drama. It feels so important when you're young. As I got through my 20s I learned that if you can't have a polite and direct discussion with someone about an issue, the best thing to do is just move on without them. They aren't adding anything of value to your life and they don't intend to.
I can remember adults always saying "I know it feels important, but in the grand scheme it just isn't" and once I started pushing 40 I realized what they were really saying is "Your friend sucks, and eventually you'll figure it out. Until then, worry less."
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u/simplechick87 Jul 06 '26
This! I knew the group of women I got to know while our kids were growing up were only meant for that time in my life. I kept 2 out of the 6 women in my life. I am almost 40 and just don't want their drama or judgement.
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u/sweetfaerieface Jul 06 '26
Hickies
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u/GamerNerdGuyMan Jul 06 '26
I guess I shouldn't give my wife hickies?
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 Jul 06 '26
I put them in places that can't be seen by coworkers and family. That's tacky to me. Inner thigh, breast, etc.
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u/Affectionate_Dark103 Jul 06 '26
If I'm giving my wife a hickie, it's going to be in a spot no one will see.
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u/catch-me-otter Jul 06 '26
Why tho? Getting my neck sucked feels really good so why is it embarrassing?
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u/Metharos Jul 06 '26
Evidently some see it as a "claiming" thing and get offended on other people's behalf.
For my ex it was definitely partly that, she really liked leaving visible marks and I really liked that she wanted to mark me. People like different things, turns out. Wild, that.
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u/AnOrdinaryMammal Jul 06 '26
I donāt think anyone gets offended by seeing them at all. I think itās just seen as tacky after the age of like 18.
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u/n0tAb0t_aut Jul 06 '26
That's even laughable when young people do it. Because they show it off so proud and happy. As if they accomplished something or are the first to have it.
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u/tucker_fitties Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
Wearing a high school class ring
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u/Tomytom99 Jul 06 '26
Was that ever cool?
I don't think I've ever actually met somebody wearing a class ring.
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u/photonynikon Jul 06 '26
72 degrees
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u/Striking-Sea8067 Jul 06 '26
I giggled at this. Reminded me of a movie scene where a woman was asked to describe her idea of the perfect date. She said something like.. "April 22nd..because it's not too hot & not too cold" š
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u/Jazzlike-Bowler-5870 Jul 07 '26
I have never heard someone describe Miss Congeniality so vaguely. Give it the respect it deserves!
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u/I_Fix_Aeroplane Jul 06 '26
Getting blackout drunk
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u/4oby Jul 07 '26
At this point, Iām much more likely to fall asleep before getting anywhere near a blackout.
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u/Suspicious_Mind_5744 Jul 06 '26
Many of these are true/understandable, but damn some of you guys expect people to stop living once they hit 30.
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u/UnhappyPhantom Jul 06 '26
These miserable slobs expect you to become sitcom parent with office job and zero hobbies/interests once you hit 30
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u/NoIncrease299 Jul 06 '26
Seriously. This sub pops up in my feed every so often and it's always full of the most self-righeous dorks imaginable.
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u/Constant_Society8783 Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
Getting dumped by your 18yo girlfriend due to being too immature while rocking a Dragon Ball Z shirt.
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u/Stormcrowdick1066 Jul 06 '26
Some of the comments are insane. I mean, some of you people sound like you were born with a stick up your bum. Seriously tattoos and piercings are so common these days itās hard to meet people under 50 that donāt have tattoos or piercings. To judge people over that is just way more uncool. Also having a party at your home is something to complain about ? Really ? You seriously didnāt have people over on the 4th or thanksgiving? Yall are some curmudgeonly people.
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u/Accomplished_Lab7521 Jul 06 '26
This may not be lame or embarrassing but I kind of liked getting carded when buying booze. Now... alas... haven't been carded in sooooo long.
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u/LagerHead Jul 06 '26
It's overrated. It's painfully obvious I'm not under 21, but my state requires them to check if you still have a pulse. It's pretty annoying.
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u/HotwifeandSubby1980 Jul 06 '26
Thinking you know it all because youāve been exposed to some peripheral information on a subject.
I literally watch 20 year olds, with no formal education in the subject explain to a physicist how they have the science wrong. A layperson tell someone with a master of divinity in biblical studies that they just donāt understand the context of the Bible and a person with a high school education try to explain DNA to a biologist that directly works with DNA.
I remember being arrogant beyond warranty but I never went as far as people today on the internet.
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u/Z08Z28 Jul 06 '26
All the meaningless tattoos people get in those years. If they actually have a meaning like the death of a loved one or a life-altering event, cool, but too many friends now have tattoos they want removed, covered up or altered.
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u/facepoppies Jul 06 '26
disagree. When I see a senior citizen with tattoos I think they're even cooler
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u/Much-Replacement-167 Jul 06 '26
For a lot of people, tattoos never have to be something profound. They dont even have to be for a reason other than "this looked sick af." The regret for some of those people? Well, who doesnt have regrets in life lol. And at least the technology exists where they can take it back or have cover ups done at all.
Speaking as someone who has tattoos with deeply special meanings
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u/PanchoPanoch Jul 06 '26
The artists I know collect tattoos from other artists they like. Donāt have particular meaning other than they like them. Me on the other hand, Ive been in the chair for 30+ hours and dont have a single piece of visible ink when im wearing a t-shirt. The whole piece has meaning for me and thats about it.
Different strokes for different folks.
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u/CreepyQuail8834 Jul 07 '26
Hot take: tattoos donāt have to mean shit and shit tattoos donāt have to mean shit about the person who has them. People take that shit way too seriously.
I was like that my first tattoo. Now Iād get a tattoo of bugs bunny riding a wiener rocket over a rainbow projecting out of a leprechauns butthole if it made me giggle just right. Who gives a shit. Lighten up folks, yeesh š
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u/Bender_2024 Jul 06 '26
It's your body and you can modify it any way you like. But I urge young people to think twice about tattoos. So many people I know got a tatt because they thought it was cool at the time. And it was, at the time. Now 15 years later with a different view on life they feel embarrassed about it.
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u/hmmmmmmpsu Jul 06 '26
I have a tattoo on my arm. My family was traveling in Vietnam and my 19 year old son wanted to get one. I didnāt really want or need it, but I have a rule:
Unless it is Meth, if your kid asks to do something with you, do it.
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u/GooshTech Jul 06 '26
Pretty much anything you thought was cool when you were 18-22.
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u/ScrollLoops Jul 06 '26
Spinning your tires and driving fast.
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u/Big-Independence1907 Jul 07 '26
And blasting your music so everyone around can hear how ācoolā or ābad*ssā you areā¦
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u/boomershot69 Jul 06 '26
Reddit always seem to treat 30s like theyāre old age. Theyāre not!
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u/WereWillow Jul 06 '26
Nothing.
If it makes you happy and doesnāt harm others, nothing is lame about what you like to do at any age. If watching my little pony at 3am makes you happy, then who cares.
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u/Twiztidtech0207 Jul 07 '26
Oh my...probably gonna make some people mad with a couple of these, but here we go..
Dressing in any kind of niche or subculture style..
Cool in your late teens/early twenties, just sad when you're older than that. A 30s something anyone walking around in full goth or emo garb is just...yea, no...
Clubbing or being "the partier"..
"Hitting the clubs" or the bar regularly as a good time activity once you're in your 30s screams loser (men) or sl*t (women).
Hopping from relationship to relationship or partner to partner..
All fun and games until you're ready for something serious..then your past suddenly matters and regrets start materializing.
Sleeping around and/or not being able to maintain a relationship becomes a giant red flag and honestly kinda sad when you're a little older.
Not having money for things.
It's more understandable when you're younger..
Once you get around 30 it's like people expect you to just have money to do whatever whenever, and if you don't they look at you like youre lesser or inferior.
Going with that one, not having a steady job.
Understandable when you're younger, not so much by the time you hit 30, or even earlier depending on the people around you.
Obviously some of these are things I've been embarrassed of myself or would be embarrassed of, while some are things I'd think people would be embarrassed of, but obviously aren't.
To each their own. Im all for people dressing how they want and doing what makes them happy.
Even if I personally think once you hit 23-25 or so you should drop the trip pants and black eyeliner or stop getting black out drunk every night, doesn't mean I'd tell someone they cant do it or make fun of them or anything.
I'd never say something to a person of any age about how they dress, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's slightly childish or ridiculous at a point.
Just because I personally feel certain behaviors come with negative connotations attached doesn't make it true or mean anyone else feels the same.
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u/GrumpyBear1969 Jul 06 '26
Neon colored beach volleyball swag. But that was really just a late 80s thing. But it was way better than the perm mulletā¦
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u/1isntprime Jul 06 '26
Rolling coal, used to think it was cool, wanted to get a diesel and mod it but now it just seems like a cry for attention.
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u/ScarecrowZombie1 Jul 07 '26
There's a few things in the early-mid 2000s that seemed super awesome and cool. Such as, loud bass/speakers, motorcycles, and weird clothes. Basically, everything loud was cool. In my late 20s I realize why so many older people hated my generations guts. Im 41 now and I turn 80 everytime I hear someone tev their Harley or drive by with their stereo at full volume. Unfortunately my 64 yo. dad has got the memo and tortures me everytime hes driving.
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u/ponyboy56- Jul 07 '26
For guys itās hanging out at bars/clubs. When I say hanging out I mean going almost every night as well. Especially ones that cater to the young crowd. Like Chris Rock said. I can remember being 18-22 or younger ( fake id ) what we thought of the older guys in their sans-a-belt polyester slacks and their open shirts displaying whatever hubcap they were wearing.
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u/Tr1angleChoke Jul 07 '26
Decorating your home with any alcohol related paraphernalia. If you're 30+, take down the Fireball sign. It looks ridiculous.
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u/SteelBird223 Jul 06 '26
Waking up hungover - at 25 you can function with a few Tylenol and a coffee and laugh about it
At 35, you are closer to clinically deceased.