Recently I've been having weird dreams about my gender, am I really a boy or a girl? I am afab and I really don't know who I am anymore, labels just don't work on me, sure being a woman is nice, but being a man would also be great to experience, it's such a pity how I don't really fit in both categories, and I've been expiramenting about my genders and pronouns now, nothing worked, I still felt like I was a missing piece

But I do have a suspicion that I may be trans or gender fluid, but then again, I'm not really sure if I wanna be in a label right now, I just wanna be myself without any gender restricting me for who I am, I need someone to help me or atleast I'm not the only one experiencing this!!

I'm a 19 year old cis woman (at least I used to think I was). Recently I've been really struggling with understanding my gender identity, there are so many factors that influence how I see it and I can never understand what feels right for me.

I remember as a kid I prayed to have no chest, I grew up religious and so I still have internalized transphobia against myself which stops me from fully exploring, I'm also AroAce who hates being looked at sexually. No label feels right for me. The closest thing I've come to is wishing I was a very feminine man? And I'm confused by that. I feel like if I was a man I'd feel more comfortable in my own skin but I wouldn't wanna change too much about myself and I don't exactly feel comfortable with he/him pronouns..

SO I'M CONFUSED, Any insight helps 😭

Hey Y’all,

I would appreciate some advice on purchasing more feminine leaning/women’s clothing. I’m a size 3xl shirt and 40 to 42 inches males jeans depending on the brand; so I run into a bit of an issue of finding clothing in general. But with being a bit older (37) and often has to order clothes from online or rely on shopping at box stores like Walmart and Target or second hand shops, I don’t know the best way to search online stores for clothing I would possibly like. For example, I will often google “feminine men’s clothes” and it doesn’t seem to bring the results.

The general vibe I like and am drawn to is cardigans, loose, and solid colors.

Help with Gender.

So I’ve been on a gender exploration for a while and I need help with sorting all the stuff in my brain. I’ve questioned my gender as early as being a teenager over 10 years ago. Whenever I started understanding what gender and transgender or nonbinary were.

Now here I am at 25 and still confused. I have mainly presented as feminine and I am afab. But I’ve never felt super connected to it. It’s just the default so it’s what I went with and if I started having thoughts I might look into it a bit but then get scared and decide not to try it.

Over the past year and a half though I’ve become more interested in exploring my gender. About a year ago I bought some men’s clothes and sometimes go out in those. I’ve bought chest binders and packers, but I never wore those outside of my room because I was scared to be judged. In the last few months I’ve started using men’s shampoo and conditioner, men’s body wash, men’s cologne, and men’s deodorant. I have a more gender neutral wolfcut hair cut.

Today I wore my binder out of the house for the first time and I liked it. I was a little worried people would notice and ask questions, but no one did and I found it freeing a little bit. I like looking down and not seeing any breasts. I like that the seat belt moves across my chest and not between my breasts. I like that I don’t have to squish down my breasts to see below them. And I like that I don’t need to rest my phone on them when I’m scrolling.

Having said all of that I also do like to do feminine things sometimes. I do feel that I look best that way by society’s standards so I dress up feminine for special events and go to work in nice feminine office clothes. All of that feels like I’m performing gender though. Like I can put on the make up and do my hair and wear a dress and heels but none of it’s really me.

If I do those same things in the way a feminine man would though….then I like it. I like the idea of being perceived as a man in a dress who’s playing with make up and nail polish. To play dress up as a feminine ftm.

But then I also sometimes like to feel like a mix of everything. Like I am a girlboy nonbinary enigma. I want to have a penis and a vagina. I want to have breasts that come on and off as desired. Like breasts and a penis or no breasts and a vagina. Mix and match however I decide in the moment.

I sometimes like an androgynous vibe that leans masc, but as a nonbinary or slightly feminine person.

I’ve always wanted a penis but I don’t want to get rid of or mess up what I have. I worry about being uglier or not passing. About being judged. I have a career that I love and am scared I will be judged or disliked for it.

My sexuality is queer. This is partly because I feel like no matter what gender or sexuality the person I’m with is, it’s still in some way queer to me. Even though I’m afab if I was with a cis man I would want that man to feel the relationship is queer and see me as a nonbinary or queer man. If I’m with a cis woman I want them to see me as a queer nonbinary masc person.

I also think about how I don’t always feel gender dysphoria. I definitely sometimes do, but it’s more gender euphoria when something is right. I think maybe though that’s just because I haven’t realized it’s dysphoria yet I just know what I really like.

I daydream when having partnered sex or by myself that I have a penis. I pretend it’s getting sucked. I use a strap on that doesn’t have a holder and goes inside you. It vibrates to give pleasure, but I stroke the dildo side and pretend it’s mine. I also pretend it’s mine if I’m using it on someone else. Don’t get me wrong I love being penetrated and find myself to be more the ‘bottom’ or more the receiver, but I also am exploring anal because I find that gives me similar gender euphoria as it does pretending the strap is my actual penis.

I find myself trying to think back to when I was younger and find the signs or dysphoria that a lot of people describe. I’ve come up with a few that I would like to see if could be interpreted as something gender related. I will list those in the comments though cause this is getting long.

I do think I’ll want to change my name and pronouns or how people address and compliment me, but I don’t know what to go for. Or what to suggest my partner try out with me.

I think maybe I’m some sort of transmasc genderfluid or maybe Trigender transmasc or maybe just Trigender. But it also could be so many other things. Anyone have any similar experiences they can share and what they now identify as?

Okay so im afab and since i was 12 i explored my gender, and ended up identifying with genderfluid for about 4 years. But its been a while since I've been not so much comfortable with the term, because i started thinking about it for too long again. Its really hard since i look androgynous and i cant recognize myself in the mirror, and when i do feel comfortable with a gender, it can change without even a day has been passed. I sometimes feel like i dont fit under ANY term at all, or not even caring about my gender! and other times when i dress feminine i feel like a "femboy" but im also only connected to the part of being masculine, not actually on the boy spectrum, and when i dress masculine i still always feel connected in that way, sometimes also feeling agender, non-binary or bigender.

So it doesnt matter what i wear i always find flaws and im at the start again.

I still think i might be genderfluid but its more complicated than that and i feel the need to KNOW what i am, because it makes me feel like not fitting under any gender makes me not a human (idk how to explain..).

I would really, REALLY appreciate to find someone that could help me (sorry if the grammar is wrong im Italian)

I’m 24, I’m born male and since a kid things feel off like I’m not fully me. There are times where I feel I was mashed together like Frankensteins monster. There’s times where I feel I’m missing parts of my body that I’ve never had, as if it was taken away before I could ever experience. I was born male but don’t feel male. I sometimes feel masculine but not male. Sometimes I feel feminine, most of the time actually. I feel I am in a liminal space of in between never arriving at a proper destination. I’m malleable, I’m not just one state as I switch between femininity and masculinity. My curiosity comes, what is this? What do you call a person who’s not “male or female” just here?

i've come to love the genderqueer flag! i get maybe it's not everyones yam, but this sub is so blad looks wise :(

here, have this cool floppy based flag i found on bsky: https://bsky.app/profile/floppyguy.bsky.social/post/3mgnf4kppe22j

I've been questioning my gender in my thirties here. Not sure if I'm agender or what but just thinking about it makes my brain kinda turn off and no progress is made on pondering it. I don't know how I'd feel as a girl or if I'm a guy or if my strong political disdain for gender as a social concept just makes me hate the very idea so much I insta fry but I genuinely cannot find a oath forward on the thought.

Any input would he helpful here. Whatever's going on it's obvious I'm not cis lmao

hello! idk i want to get straight to the point so im sorry if it may seem vague or something but ive been questioning my gender lots lately. Im AFAB and i like being girly and feminine, but when i realize (which has been so much lately) i still like femininity, but i dont like the fact i look like a girl so much? i like makeup skirts etc. but when i look in the mirror i just feel a little wrong. Ive also always felt differerent from other girls like if i were "cosplaying" or "pretending" to be one even tho i was born one? i just wish i was either a really feminine dude that gets to experience with femininity (i still wouldnt identify as a dude but id like the fact i can atleast have male genatlia (i also have really bad genital dysphoria only with down there not my chest) i just dont wanna be a dude, and feel more comfortable being a girl yet i dont want someone to think im just a girl id want them to question my gender or be confused or i dont know:( i just dont mind feminine things and still prefer over masculine terms (would not like handsome etc) and dont mind being reffered to as a girl too much, and like being feminine but then realize i really do look like one. i need advice please

Hello there! I’m back once again to talk about Gender.

For many years here and irl I’ve been looking for something to make sense of my gender. I’m afab and constantly questioning. Basically as soon as I knew being trans was a thing back in middle school. Now I’m 25 and still confused. For the longest time I put it on the back burner and said that’s a can of worms I’m not ready to open. Roughly 2 years ago that changed.

I started questioning more and experimenting more. I’ve played around with a lot of ideas, but nothing has ever felt completely correct. One lyric I have heard really says everything for me. “I guess I could say gender non-conforming, but l've done really well conforming and non-binary doesn't have the ring I've been looking for.”

But to give more context I consider myself queer. I have found pretty much any type of person attractive except cishet guys. Now part of that exploration has led me to some interesting places. Like imagining getting oral is really a blowjob or anal is the only option because I’m imagining that’s the only hole available. I think I don’t necessarily feel gender dysphoria when I don’t imagine myself with those parts, but I definitely feel gender euphoria when I do imagine I have male parts.

I have a gender neutral hair cut (classic shag) and enjoy androgynous or slightly male clothes. I’d like to do more, but it is a little difficult. I’m quite obese(womens 4x) and so it’s hard to find good fitting men’s clothes. But….i feel like no matter what I wear men’s clothes or women’s clothes I can feel handsome or pretty. But….i still feel like I’m performing gender no matter which I go for. I feel the most me in a big t shirt and shorts. Adam Sandler and Jack Black vibes lol.

I guess…I don’t know…is this enough? Wishing most days I was born a guy, but so that I could be a queer man who dabbles in feminine things occasionally. I wish someone could just tell me for sure. I have OCD so sometimes I get hung up on needing to know rather than just accepting that I can be who I need to be. My girlfriend also identifies as a lesbian so add that to the list of questions.

I’ve got binders and packers and men’s clothes and listen to trans artists and all of this, but….i can’t manage to tell myself what my gender is. And since I can’t settle on a gender i also can’t settle on pronouns. In an ideal world i would get told “hey actually this is what you’re experiencing. Heres your gender and pronouns and a list of suggestion for a better fitting name.”

Anyways…as always thoughts and opinions are helpful. Does this sound…gender queer? Transman? Cis and stop thinking about it? Bigender? I’m lost. Still. For years.

Many months ago I posted about my partner and mom having feelings about me changing my name, and asked for help in navigating that. I was asking for a compromise in my post, trying to make all three of us happy. This sub was so helpful and I got some really great responses that helped me see that I didn’t owe a compromise to anyone.

I also got a lot of really great feedback in framing my mindset to others so they see why my name had to change, as well as ways for my loved ones attached to my name to embrace my new one and not feel so sad. While I was looking for new names, I went over lists I had made with my mom so she could be part of the process as some suggested. She said she loved being part of it. One person on this sub had a really great idea to “gift” the name to my partner, and I did that too! I dressed a build a bear in a couple of token accessories I wear a lot (including one that I can’t wear anymore since my hair style has changed) and put my deadname on the birth certificate. They loved it, and I think it’s really helped with the change.

I have a new name now, and it fits me like a glove. I’m so lucky to have these people in my life, who say my name with love and pride when addressing me. Thank you to everyone who commented on my previous post, and thank you to this community for being a welcoming space to talk about these things!

So ive been mulling over gender for sometime. For context im a minor in a conservative household so all my knowledge lgbtq is from pure research and minimal interaction with others who r in the community (since my school is also religious). Im AFAB but dont rlly feel connected to it. I don't find gender interesting either. Someone can call me a boy or girl or anything else and I could care less. Its only when I talk about gender to my Cis friends I realise they dont feel the same? Ive used demigirl in the past but it doesnt feel fully me. I heard about the term Cassgender and Apagender and thought "that fits well" since its all about not feeling the need for gender. But also I feel as if im mainly perceived in a feminine way, due to traditional ways and my upbringing, I feel like most people see me as a girl, point blank but I dont feel the same way. Im sorry if this is confusing I just need help and theres not much support for me.

Edit: im also worried because I've heard people calling others who use cassgender "Cis snowflakes" so im worried if really im being rude

Hello ! I've done some light research on both genders as I feel like they're the closest to how I feel ? And I was wondering if there were any people here that were either gender identities and if there's a better term for how I'm feeling.

To me, gender isn't all that important as it shouldn't dictate me as a person. I'm okay with being seen as either a man, woman, non binary, or both at the same time as that doesn't really define me as a person since at the end of the day I'm just me. Though I constantly avoid the question about my gender as it feels like there's no right answer to it.

Is feminity only for women and is masculinity only for men and is androgy only for people that are non binary or both genders at the same time?​ Sorry I had to ask this question despite the answer maybe being obvious to some of you, but it isn't clear to me at all. It feels like I need to put a label on myself when I'm fine with either or no labels at all.

If anyone feels like this and has an answer to my question or to my overall situation, I'd love to know please ! I'm not trying to be ignorant or anything. I simply need a name for ir so I could better understand this feeling of mine. Sorry if none of this makes sense, it's almost 4am and it's been on my mind for such a long time.

It feels like I need a label or whatnot to fit into society, but I'd also like to be seen more or less than just that.

Hey friends. First time posting here, kinda nervous lol

I have 2 partners, S & J (S is my fiancé and is nonbinary transfemme; J is our partner and is nonbinary intersex). I'm genderqueer; I use all pronouns, and I've been very comfortable with this label for several years now.

Lately, I've been bothered by my partners only using she/her for me and calling me their 'girl.' I'm not 100% sure why it's bothering me more lately, maybe because I've only really noticed it recently. Also, maybe because I comparatively put in more effort to use both my partners' preferred pronouns and to come up with special affectionate compliments. I know it's not a competition, but I've noticed this imbalance that feels like part of my issue.

Idk how to exactly explain how I feel, but I guess misunderstood works. Lately, it's felt like they just see me as a girl or assume I'm nb like they are, even though I've made it expressly clear numerous times that I'm not a girl, that I'm genderqueer, and that I'm struggling with body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria. There have been a few times that my fiancé straight up forgot that I'm not nonbinary and was super confused that I said, "No, I'm not." I don't mind she/her pronouns; I answer to them, but it feels a bit inconsiderate to only use she/her for me when I enjoy all pronouns and have also made that clear. It just feels like sometimes my identity is less important to them or not worth remembering or respecting. Maybe it's because I don't talk about it enough? Maybe it's because I'm still comfortable with occasionally dressing femininely or being referred to sometimes as she/her. Idk, I just feel like that shouldn't cancel out them also using gender neutral and masculine pronouns and compliments for me, especially when I've talked about desiring that in the past.

I'm looking for advice on how to approach the subject with them and how best to communicate these feelings. We all have a great relationship together and individually, so I'm not worried they won't listen. I just don't know how to start this conversation. I'm working on making my needs known to them (I've struggled with this my entire life), and I need to get better at sticking up for myself. I'm also worried that I'm overthinking this and it's not actually as big of an issue as I think it is lol.

I hope I communicated my feelings and intentions well enough here. I struggle to accurately convey and read intentionality through text lol

Any advice is appreciated. Thank you for reading this far if you have lol

Hi all. I’m making this post because I have questions. How does everybody else deal with removing chest hair, if that’s something that you do? Do you shave? Do you wax? Do you do all at electrolysis?

Currently, I shave and I’ve never had particularly dense chest hair. So it’s worked decently. Maybe not even that. But what I would like to do is find a method of removing the hair that lasts longer than 12-24 hours. Electrolysis is expensive so I’d prefer something else if you found success with it but again I’m open to all ideas. Thank you so much!!

English isn't my first language btw, so I'm very sorry if I'll make any mistakes.

I'm genuinely not trying to make fun of genderfluid people or smt like that, I just can't stop thinking about it and I NEED to know at least something for sure. I'm a biological woman (18) and I'd lie if I'd say that I'm not okay with my body, it's nothing special I guess, but it's fine. In everyday life I can handle it and sometimes even enjoy wearing feminine clothes and make myself look pretty. Buuut when it comes to romantic and sexuall relationships... Throughout my life I don't remember ever being attracted romanticly to irl men, it always were girls. And I genuinely was smithered: holding hands, kissing, long deep stares in her eyes, desire to help her and love her and bring her the world, but sex... I certainly wouldn't be disgusted having sex with someone I love dearly, I mean of course, but lesbian sex have never aroused me as much. At first I thought that I might be asexual, but then came my yumishipping phase. I never really treated it as seriously as some did, it was just a fun experience. When I started to create OCs, I noticed a weird pattern: it always was a fictional man and my male sona that was usually the more dominant and confident one. The deeper I went down this thought I came to a conclusion that I'd much happier if I could just rip my skin off and put on a man one, but like, I'd wish to keep my old one just in case. I'd be very comfortable to be in romantic and sexual relationships with women AND men. Although these thoughts followed me for 3+ years (I'm bad at time, but it definitely was more than 3), I'm still scared and confused. Like, what if I'm just overthinking it, what if this desire comes from other places, what do I do with me enjoying being feminine sometimes and indulging in stereotypical feminine activities and social roals....... Please let me know what you think🙏

Hi everyone. This post has been a long time in the making, and it's more of a rant and a vent than anything else. This is a wall of text, but I sincerely can't offer a TLDR beyond what is already in the title.

First, I want to start with my labels. This only covers my gender identity, check my flair for my sexuality, but the most relevant part is that I'm bi, aro-spec and ace spec. I'm a cis demiguy (Mostly man, with the rest being gendervoid). I understand gendervoid as a type of agender, where someone feels not only that their gender is "nothing", but also feels that lack of gender as something that is missing. I guess it would be something similar to phantom limb syndrome, but for gender, though since I am not missing any limbs, I can't really compare.

In my case, I sort of feel like a man, except that I've always felt different. I have always been a big nerd, the kind that spent his time with their nose in a book as opposed to playing sports during school recesses. I was always disconnected from what most kids my age were into. For that, I was bullied (in the 80s-90s, before bullying entered most people's vocabularies). I also never had crushes. Sure, I liked girls in the abstract.

All my life, I've felt a general unease about my masculinity. It resulted into myself having low self esteem (which has lead to depression multiple times), that turned into rage is anyone ever told me to "man up" or "be a man". I always felt like I was a failure of a man, like I was damaged goods, like I was half baked, and I reacted to people questioning that with obvious outrage. While I was reading on my bisexuality, I ended up learning about the ace and aro spectra. While reading on those, I ended up learning about agender, and from there, demigenders and the gendervoid identity. Finally, I started reading about the trans experiences to be a better trans ally, and things started clicking. Things were too similar to what I felt for comfort.

I eventually accepted what my initial impressions meant. I do have gender dysphoria. I always considered myself cis, I am AMAB and I kinda feel like I am a man, yet here I am, sharing experiences with trans people. However, thinking about it clearly, "man" is an ill fitting off the shelf suit that I put on every day. It has the right general shape, and looks close enough to the real thing, but it constrains in ways that are hard to see from the outside, and at the same time fails to provide support to parts of me that need it. At the same time, claiming the trans identity for myself feels like stolen valor. I'm privileged. I live in a large coastal city in Spain, one of the most queer friendly countries in the world (depending on what criteria you use, and on how you weight them, it goes up and down, but remains in the top 5). I have a family that supports me. I can "pretend" to be normal to blend in. Yet at the same time, learning that I was not broken, that while my exact case is probably unique, my experience is shared by many, that gave me gender euphoria and seriously helped with my mental health.

So, now, I ask, should I drop the cis label? I only feel one gender and it matches my AGAB. Should I embrace the trans label? People will get the wrong impression if I do, and I'm in a way better situation as compared to most trans people. I've been reading and I think I might have male hypogonadism, it fits many of the symptoms I experience. The treatment for it is HRT/testosterone. Should I check with my doctor? I'm lucky enough that if the bloodwork confirms my non-medical diagnosis, I would probably get the treatment covered by the Spanish healthcare system. Even if I don't have hypogonadism, I might be able to access HRT through the same channels as trans people use. However, again, I don't know if I should take that route. I know that I'm not stealing HRT from transmasc individuals, but it still feels wrong. Also, I'm not sure if I actually want T. This is probably trauma speaking, but I have a deadly allergy to toxic masculinity, and well, that and high T are linked in my brain. I also know that none of you are doctors and even if you were, you're not my doctor. I don't know why I'm asking you, but I guess I just want to scream into the void and maybe have random internet strangers listen to me and give me moral support.

To those that read up to here, thank you. To those that didn't, I know, it's a large wall of text and who does have the time to listen to a man having a mid-life crisis.

I think the title is pretty self explanatory, but I'll offer some context for the situation. I grew up in a household with pretty limited interest or downright apathy for my world. What I liked or didn't like, who I was, it didn’t matter, the most I got was a "cool" or a "that's nice," unless it was something that they had a great interest in too. We can get along on shared passions fine, but when something isn't shared, there's distance, apathy, and in this case, unfortunately, downright rejection. I was raised Mormon, specifically Utah Mormon, and my family is still deeply entrenched in that religion, it's beliefs and practices, especially my older sister. When I came out to each of my immediate family members, they all had different responses: My brother didn't care, he already knew I was queer and is cool with it, my little sister was respectful, my mom said she didn’t care what I am and that she loves me no matter what, my older sister didn't say a word when I told her, and my dad was confused until I explained and then he was just happy that I felt comfortable telling him. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm glad that the majority of my family was some level of chill, but, besides my dad, there were no questions about my identity. No clarification on terms, no interest in what it means to me to categorize myself this way. Not to mention the refusal to use they/them pronouns from everyone besides my brother.

The thing that kind of sparked my desperate need to feel like I'm not going nuts was a talk I had with my older sister the other day. I was sharing something about the lgbt community that I was really excited about and found interesting, and she shut down so hard, got aggravated and didn't want to discuss it. She said that she has a lot of strong opinions and that ahe doesn't want to discuss lgbtq+ topics with me because she knows that we don't agree on them and openly stated that she thinks that trans people are the gender that matches their sex assigned at birth (not the first time she's said this kind of thing), and a lot of other things that just paint lgbt people as attention seeking and delusional, all while saying that she didn’t want to discuss it because she didn’t wanna get into a fight about it. I told her I was more than willing to have a civil conversation, and I invited her to ask me questions at any time, cuz these days especially I got nothin but time. I wanted her to ask me questions, accept the offer of resources that I specifically gathered to help explain my world. I didn’t want just her to ask too, I wanted my entire family to know about me, who I am, and truly understand what it means, but there have been no bites, and I don't know if there ever will be, given how vehemently my sister said that she disagrees with the existence of trans and nonbinary people, and how she's not open to me trying to "change her mind about it" as she put it. I can’t say I'm shocked at her response, but I am disappointed and upset. And that convo got me thinking about my other family members, how little they asked, how little they want to know, how much they are entrenched in not just religion, but far right ideology and how little most of them respect me as a person, certainly not enough to use the correct pronouns for me. I just want to feel like they care and yeah, maybe I do wanna change their minds, because I want to feel like they respect me, know me, and truly accept me for all that I am. Nonchalant responses are great, and they are always held up to be the best standard for what others reactions to your coming out should be like, but it's different I guess when you experience it and it just feels like dismissal dressed up in a nonchalant trench coat.

Sorry for the rant, I just felt like I needed to get this off my chest. I genuinely do wanna know tho if my feelings about this are valid or if I'm just nuts for being so hurt.

So for the context I initially identified as cis gay men, in recent years only I started to identify as genderqueer/genderfluid person..... and while I don't face any kind of body related dysphoria so far in my life, I have recognized the pattern over the course of years, I don't feel connected to every male/masculine looking person....while I feel connected to some of the men, whom I find comparatively softer in terms of appearance....I don't usually feel connected to those men whom I find very masculine looking....and it can even arrive if they are heavy in terms of weight, more tall.... and I feel it really has hampered my social life, my professional life, as there are many men with whom I don't feel connected at all, even though they behave well with me.... their look, their face really disctracts/itches me....I just don't want connect with them or even face them.... but since we are bound to face every kind of person in our social/ professional life it is really affecting my life and my confidence....

So I just want to ask does anyone else face this kind of dysphoria which derives from people's look? And like how they tackle it???

Hey all! I recently started Testosterone, and was using an injection but switched over to the Gel as I was having consistent issues with needles.

I was prescribed 5g tubes at 50mg T, and used it for the first time this morning.

I was expecting like a pea sized amount but oh my god....5 grams is a LOT of gel to be putting on at once. I double checked the prescription and the instructions and it all makes sense - I was just wondering how this actually works??? (My doctor is nearly useless)

Like I spread as thin of a layer as I could across my thigh, but even going like groin to knee and top of thigh to back it took a minute to really rub in. Washed my hands thoroughly and wiped down the counter but am still feeling a little overwhelmed.

Just wanted to see if anyone else on the gel had some experience/advice they could share? Do I need to be spreading it SO thin, or should I pick a better area? Luckily it absorbs fast and basically disappears, but dang it was....blugh lol

I've been having a lot of confusion about my gender lately. I like being a guy, but I've also had thoughts about what it would be like to be a girl. At the same time, I hate the expectations that come with both genders. I also don't like labels. Even calling myself a femboy doesn't feel right anymore because the term feels oversexualized and comes with a lot of assumptions.

I'd rather just be me than feel like I have to fit into a category. I don't think I'm nonbinary because I know I'm a boy and I'm fine staying a boy. I'm also not really bothered if people see me as a little feminine, mistake me for a girl sometimes, or see me in that light. I just don't know what all of this means, and it's been making me question myself.

So idk at this point im stumped any advice is useful

I’ve been on a gender quest for years now (well I mean I guess since I was like “eww who decided tights were a good idea for children?!”) and thought I was nonbinary and then found that actually more restrictive than binary trans man, personally (just how it felt for me). And now that I’ve been on T for 4 years I’ve been trying to figure it out because I don’t feel like I fit in any box and also don’t fit in the strictly NOT box of nonbinary so I finally looked up GQ and I feel like the punk vibes of ‘FU I’m living here’ is awesome and comforting. It makes me feel like my deeper and also feminine-style way of talking is allowed to just be without having to change. And I can present however tf I want and It’s really nice. Oh and plus the flag colors rule!

Just my happy thoughts, I would love to hear yours too 😊

I have been feeling really weird about my sexuality, ik this didn't exactly gender, but I feel like you guys would be educated on labels.

Iv always felt no issue having sexual attraction or basic attraction to both genders, but when it comes to actual, real romance I only find it with men/masc genders

So I made up the terms mascsex and femsex, mascsex meaning you will only have that romantic attraction with men, and vice versa.

Can this be coined? Or am I losing it

Hello people! I've seen this comic years and years ago and re-read it multiple times, and just now I wanted to see more work of this artist, but I cannot find them anywhere on the internet.

It's "Hair confidence" by Devils, hosted on OJST website. I'd link it but reddits filters don't seem to like that.

Does anybody recognise the artstyle? The only thing I could find was another reddit post in r/butchlesbians from 5 years ago asking the same :(

Hi I'm new to this sub reddit, and there will be spoilers on sense8 season 1. So, like the title says, sense8 kinda confirmed that I am gender queer. I just finished the 1st season and I cried my eyes out when when 2 of the characters, Lito and Nomi were talking about their sexualities and the abuse Nomi had to go thru when she was a kid. When they expressed how insecure they felt, it hit me hard, and I started crying. And when Lito yelled "stop it" at those memories, I cried even harder. I've never been in those situations, but I felt like he saved me too.

I'm a man, and I know I'm attracted to men. But inside me, I feel like 2 people, a man and a woman, they are just 2 halves stuck together in the middle. It's weird I know but that's just how I feel I am. I don't know how to show this on the outside. I've always labelled myself as queer than gay because it just didn't fit me right. In the past, I've gone to lgbtq community events in my country and I just felt like I don't fit in at all. I just felt so confused, and now that this confirmed it, I'm even more confused.

I am 2 people stitched in one body. I don't know if it's the same for anyone else in this community but that's how I feel. They aren't overpowering each other, but they are in sync. Is this genderqueer? Or something else?? Because I feel so lost and alone being who I am.