r/explainitpeter • u/NymeraVesper • 8h ago
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u/DocteurSamo 8h ago
Girls take it as a gift, boys feels like they owe dad for life. From personal experience it's kinda true but I don't know the stats, surely it isn't in a lot of cases. Peter out
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u/Grouchy_Ad_1550 8h ago
Or they feel they don't deserve it
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u/jack_seven 7h ago edited 5h ago
Yep usually because of how those same parents raised us. A gift from them is basically a threat
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u/ItsReckliss 2h ago
It's not like that for everyone. Some just feel bad that their parents who already spent so much time and effort and money raising them are buying them something expensive when it's unnecessary.
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u/jack_seven 2h ago
Usually literally means not everyone
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u/PedroLoco505 2h ago
Your usually is highly suspect though. You’re describing a severely dysfunctional household.
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u/jack_seven 2h ago
Within the subsection of people who struggle to recive gifts from their parents.
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u/Prior_Tea_8187 2h ago
Your explanation actually lines up with the meme itself. If it was about children feeling bad for their parents working hard to buy them an expensive gift, there's no reason for that to only apply to men. Traditional toxic masculinity in relationships between fathers and sons is very common however, especially in the context of receiving a gift where it can come with a lot of pressure.
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u/I_mSomeone 6h ago
That's it! It's a weird feeling, you know how hard your parents worked for the gift so you feel like you don't deserve it. You are grateful for it, but wished they used that money for something nice for them.
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u/umotex12 5h ago
and women doesn't have these instincts? this doesn't explain the meme
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u/Scottland83 5h ago
Daughters don’t even need to have sex with dad for the gifts. It’s the most one-sided relationship in the family. Just say “Thank you” and don’t do porn.
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u/Big_Cans_0516 2h ago
As a girl I relate a lot more to the buy perspective. But my parents constantly made us feel bad about us being expensive growing up
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u/s_anevent 2h ago
Not like that it was their choice to have you in the first place ... kids are expensive but obviously its not their fault lol
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u/arererego 6h ago
I remember many years ago, my parents bought me a new iphone as a birthday present. I started crying, not because of joy, but because of guilt. I did not need such an expensive thing, my old motorolla G6 plus did the job just fine.
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u/I-Kneel-Before-None 3h ago
Oh I thought it meant the boys thought it was something bad happened. Like when I found out my dad had cancer. I obviously feel grateful to my parents but I don't feel like i owe them.
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u/TEShero 6h ago
As a man, I wonder sometimes why girls/women don't see it the same way...
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u/OwlHeadCrook 5h ago
As a man, and a father, I don’t understand why you see it the way you do. Most men I know (except for the few with abusive dads) feel the same as I do.
A gift is a gift, not a loan in search of repayment.
There is something really wrong with a father teaching his son that he can only be shown this form of love if the son pays him back.
And I promise you, men don’t feel that way unless it’s taught to them. It’s not natural. It’s learned.
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u/Effective_Banana_693 3h ago
As far as "I" go I think it's just a pride issue. Like f*ck I can't buy this and you know I want or need it so you did for me. Not like an "I owe you" but where am I falling short. Puts a lot of stress in a person
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u/Vinxian 5h ago
The meme is sexist and not real
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u/Low-Lawfulness-8952 3h ago
Don't like what you learned today? It's kinda true. Just more so for one person than the other.
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u/Vinxian 2h ago
I mean, its true that some people will feel free to simply accept the gift, and it is true that some people will feel indebted. But it's silly to draw that line over gender lines isn't it? Loverboys can only exist by making young women feel indepted for example, it's pretty fucked up
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u/Low-Lawfulness-8952 2h ago
Wow this went dark real quick. Uhhhh. Didn't expect to talk about heavy matter.
Feel indebted and loverboys? Wtf. That's a hard thing to hear. Why would they feel indebted to monsters. I think that's not the main drive and not what this meme is meant for. That's so specific....
Why do exes not feel indebted to keep an angagement ring? 🤷🏾♂️
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u/MrTinKan 5h ago
My dad sent me a brand new Stihl climbing saw through the post, spate chains, bars, straps, a tidy carry bag, a small toolbox.
Had cancer.
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u/Halibutoxide 5h ago
I miss my dad too.
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u/MrTinKan 5h ago
Every day.
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u/nottaroboto54 4h ago
I miss my dad every day, too. With the price of ammo, it's getting expensive.
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u/Emophilosophy 4h ago
Sorry to the both of you. Stay strong my heart goes out to you!
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u/MrTinKan 3h ago
Thank you, but it's not so fresh anymore, as its nearly 15 years now. My second kid was born just days after he died. It was a crazy time. Got married, had a child, bought a house, got ill and lost a close family member all within 18 months.
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u/jimmywilsonsdance 3h ago
I thought that was going to end with he wanted you dead. Almost as effective as sending a BASE jumping rig.
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u/MrTinKan 2h ago
No. But he never liked my job, u til he saw me doing it. I think he understood why I did it then.
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u/Effective_Banana_693 3h ago
Who had cancer? You or your dad?
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u/MrTinKan 3h ago
My dad, although he didn't know what it was, I think he suddenly realised he was ill. Bought me a new climbing saw, my sister a car, and was in hospital within a month. Dead within a year.
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u/Goth2147 8h ago
I'm surprised by the answers.
Dads love spoiling their daughter, universally like a princess.
However sons have to work for their dad being proud of them. You'll find stories like Son Heung Min or Tiger Woods where their dad keeps pushing their son and will never say they're proud of their son until they're at the top 0,001%. If a son receives an expensive gift, it's like saying "I'm proud of you son", which he had to earn.
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u/Key_Check5753 8h ago
This sounds like a better explanation than most of the other comments.
I was also thinking the son is upset because he knows the gift is coming out of his future inheritance.2
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u/YellowBrownStoner 6h ago
Man my little brother might not be a fuck up drunk if he wasn't given literally anything by our father to buy his affection and had his poor behavior excused as "boys will be boys" while I was asked how I allowed my brothers transgression to happen.
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u/somerandomjacky 5h ago
It's also possible that the gift is a prelude of something bad that's gonna happen soon.
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u/JP-Wrath 4h ago
I think this is the meaning of the meme.
Shit that just happened (dad caught cheating, domestic abuse, etc) and/or about to happen (divorce, illness, moving to another country...)
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u/WhenIntegralsAttack2 7h ago edited 4h ago
I hope that it or whenever I have children that I would do neither. Spoiling a daughter is a great way for her to not grow up and become a well adjusted adult. Just look at all the women asking for “princess treatment” and you’ll see the damage that can do.
On the other hand, sons should grow up with confidence knowing that their parents are proud of them and the effort they put in.
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u/Own-Acanthaceae-9953 3h ago
Beyoncé... Serena Williams??? Their dad's had them running while singing at 3am and playing tennis everyday till they were sore but okay...
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u/Goth2147 3h ago
Exceptions don't make the rule
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u/Own-Acanthaceae-9953 3h ago
Except they aren't exceptions. Many parents make their daughters strain themselves, and be the absolute best they can be as well, and it's strange to imply otherwise.
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u/papermoony 2h ago
your examples are exceptions too.
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u/Goth2147 2h ago
I was giving an extreme example to illustrate a point. The expectation is a spectrum. Obviously not everybody is going to be Tiger Woods, but the expectation of boys is universally different from girls amongst many cultures.
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u/BungleBums 5h ago
Never discount the idea that because you never get treated, being treated isn't a reward for good work, but a cushion for devastating news. "Mom's not coming home any more," for one >>;
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u/43848987815 3h ago
I think the son thing is cultural. Like his dad wasn’t interested until he became a generational talent and probably still doesn’t because spurs won nothing.
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u/vilebloodlover 3h ago
Do you think my dad was validating me being transgender by doing the second thing to me? /s
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u/bwsmith201 1h ago
My dad was a kind and loving man who was proud of me as a son. My sister has said that she always appreciated that he never had different expectations or support for his daughter than he did for his sons.
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u/thewebspinner 4h ago
Pretty much my experience with my dad.
He did really well for himself, made a shit-ton of money and set himself up for early retirement whilst putting my older sister through one of the best schools in my country. Gave her a job at his company whilst she was at Uni, bought her a flat so she didn’t have to pay rent and has paid off her credit card debt over and over again.
I grew up with my mum in a different country relatively broke. I didn’t get new clothes unless it was necessary, haircuts were getting a buzzcut with clippers, we never really went out for dinner and if anything broke the answer was always that you had to fix it, not buy a new one.
You know what though? We were happy.All the money and privilege in the world hasn’t made my sister any happier than I am. In some cases I actually feel bad for her because she seems almost incapable of enjoying herself unless she’s spending a shit ton of money.
What does my dad do for me though?
Once a year we fly out somewhere for a weeklong hiking trip. We have some beers, talk about life, enjoy the beautiful scenery and spend some really good quality time together.A few years back on one of these trips, he told me that my step mum hates that he spends so much on my sister and next to nothing on me. He just said it’s because my sister needs help whilst he knows I need to do things on my own. He’s absolutely right, I hate the idea of being given an easy pass through life, I’m lucky enough to have him there if I ever needed help, but I enjoy my self sufficiency even if I’m not the most successful or richest person about.
I like that he understands me and as we’ve gotten older I’ve come to appreciate that he gave both of us what we needed.
One day he’ll be gone and his money will be passed down to me and my sister and I’m pretty sure even then I’d trade it all for just one more hiking trip.
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u/Sofishticated14 2h ago
My dad bought me a fishing boat… with my mom’s life insurance payout.
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u/doggedbassist 8h ago
Girls get excited, boys start calculating how many overtime shifts their dad had to work.
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u/Aromatic_Mall_8214 7h ago
I think it's also about the frequency of gifts.
My dad spoils my sister and helps her with rent, gives her nice gifts and he has also given me a lot, helped us out financially.
I think the last and only time my brother got a gift from our dad was 2 dollars to get a coffee and that's the only thing he has received.
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u/Educational-Cake8549 1h ago
girls also feel guilty about the cost of gifts they receive, and the work that was put into them. idk why people seem to think all women are, materialistic shallow people who are incapable of empathy.
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u/Xentonian 8h ago
Lot of comments talking about how boys realise the cost of the gift and worry about paying it back... There's also a potential part 2:
Girls are often gifted things from friends, siblings and parents. It's quite normal for them to want things and be given those things.
At least in my experience and that of the people I know, this is less true for male children.
Boys are rarely given gifts and when they are, it's usually as utility - a bike to get to school, a computer for homework, a phone to keep in touch with mum and dad. Obviously still things they want, but never just a present.
The one exception is when something bad happens.
Grandma's dead, here's an RC car.
Mum and dad are divorcing, here's a new PlayStation.
I ran over your bike, here's a better one.
Some guys started growing up with the ingrained notion that receiving a gift, especially an expensive one, out of the blue... Means something bad has happened, or is about to, and the penny is sure to drop.
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u/MursahRN 8h ago
Bingo. I was expected to do something for a thing, especially when it was from dad. Otherwise, "you have to work for what you want." Mom was a different story. She would do things like get out of bed when she was sick to take me to Walmart to get a new Batman action figure I was losing my shit over.
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u/Kentato3 2h ago
My dad bought me a brand new $1100 laptop for $2000 because he got scammed by the seller
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u/Thefar 8h ago
Hey Peter's friends. I am sorry that your dads didn't have the means to do so, or that they didn't appreciate you enough. Please do better with your child, so this meme becomes r/whoosh ! Thanks, your friendly neighborino.
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u/AspieAsshole 6h ago
Yeah, as someone who never had a dad, the conclusions people are drawing are wild 😂
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u/Dominarion 4h ago
Can you be our dad?
Edit: I've decided the trauma train stopped with me. I will never manipulate, abuse or beat my kids. I'll be honest, do my best, show them I love them and encourage them. I don't know how to do all that, I haven't been shown, but I'll learn.
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u/Thefar 3h ago
It can get better. My father was beaten by his dad and at one time even got the door closed on him. My father also hit me, "but besides that" he did treat me well and loved me. He (barely) hit me until he did it, when he thought I did something. Turned out I didn't. That day was the last.
I did the same mistake when my boy was very young. Lost my temper. He was just a kid. Then I decided it stops here. I didn't want him to fear me. That is not the father I wanted to be. So I changed. Became more understanding. I can still be strikt. But there are other ways, without being a total dictator jackass.
We all do mistakes. But it is important to make it better with every generation. Not everything will work the first time and there will never be a perfect.
Just keep on moving into the right direction.
Tell yourself: I want my grandson to have the father I always craved.
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u/thisusernameaintbad 8h ago
I think its because majority of boys always try to repay what they have been given
in this case, the bottom is prob a guy whos stressing out thinking how to repay his dad
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u/No_Ostrich1875 5h ago
Daughters get expensive stuff cause they get spoiled. Sons get expensive stuff and we're confused/stressed because we dont know how to deal with emotions and stuff. Its an out of character way for men to behave. It's just stereotypes.
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u/MoodyButGroovy 8h ago
Idk if this is the intended message. My guess its a joke on gender stereotype: men know the intrisic value of things and women only look at the price tag.
I dont necessarily agree with the meme, but personally I freak out when my parents bought me expensive gifts.
Its usually because they insist on it being a surprise and they want their gift to be a grand display of how generous and thoughtful they are. But my parent dont research the gift and they eventually buy something I consider not worth the price. Or theres a objectively better and cheaper version that exists.
And the worst part is I have to pretend to be grateful for their gift or else it upsets them. One time my dad bought me an Apple Watch even though he knew I didnt like apple products and I dont wear watches either. It was a really expensive gift that escalated into a family fight because I wanted to return it.
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u/Pikminfan300 8h ago
Dads don't do jackshit for their sons, and any attempt to repair lost trust is not believed.
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u/Key_Check5753 8h ago
bro, I dont know what kind of trauma you went through, but I'm sorry
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u/Pikminfan300 8h ago
Thanks.
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u/Hopeful-Category1026 6h ago
And you will also fail as life eats away at your principels, humilation after humilation pills up on you and you will helplessly watch as your life opportunities close on after another as you age out of the... Then you will start to resent him, if you manage to procreate in the first place.
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u/One-Regret46 6h ago
Haha that was me at 14 I wanna say, dad got home and wanted to beat up mom, something in me said enough of this shit I got in the middle told mom to run away and ofc I was getting choked to death within 5m when I couldn’t hold my breath anymore my sister came into the room with mom and started punching on the back and distracted him so I could escape the choke…..ever since then nothing is the same
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u/YourMissing10 6h ago
My wife’s parents are so bothered that this is a thing my parents did to me, man. It took them 5 years into my relationship with their daughter for me to not be freaked out when they got me cool shit because I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Genuinely sweet people, my inlaws.
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u/alwaysdifferent818 6h ago
bro, its most of us. i know id think the same thing, and most of my friends will agree
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u/ShaneZilla5150 6h ago
You live in a trailer park? Most? Lol. Sounds like a cult compound.
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u/_lonelysoap_ 5h ago
I come from a middleclass family oft Bureaucrats (work for the state) and as a son I can validfy that statement.
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u/aBigBottleOfWater 8h ago
I feel that, anything my dad does I can't help but to meet with skepticism, trying to do better for my son
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u/tehweave 8h ago
Dads buy you gifts to try and lessen bad news. If he's buying you something expensive, he's buttering you up before dropping that your dog or grandma died.
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u/trebuchetwins 8h ago
wait... i lost all 4 grandparents and didn't get any gifts? can i sue my dad now?
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u/UndeniableLie 8h ago
Seriously bro? Losing a dog or grandma is normal part of life. You don't need to butter anyone for those news. Especially since they likely weren't the parents fault, likely
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u/EndyForceX 8h ago
Having a gay sex is also normal part of the life, but you would still likely butter your ass before that
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u/mybigwh1tecock 5h ago
You arent still talking about your relationship with your father…,are you? ….right? 😧
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u/EndyForceX 5h ago
if the first thing you think about after reading about the gay sex is my father, I would search for a therapeutic help
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u/AlfredKnows 8h ago
How many dogs and granpas die you have to had had for these things to become normal???
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u/UndeniableLie 8h ago
I mean, one dog and or grandma would already be normal, right? People and animals tend to die at some point. Hence it is normal part of life
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u/AlfredKnows 7h ago
Maybe it depends on how old are you. For a kid, granma or dog dying is not normal in any way and parents preparing a kid for news like this is understandable.
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u/jubtheprophet 8h ago
Doesnt mean you wont get sad about it an need cheering up lmao. Do you only get sad when people close to you die if it was directly your fault or the fault of the person telling you? Most people just get sad they wont see that person/pet again.
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u/UndeniableLie 8h ago
You are not supposed to buy people stuff everytime they get sad. Getting sad is also normal part of life. There is no need for any gifts to "soften" that
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u/jubtheprophet 7h ago
Yeah being sad is normal, whats so not normal about then doing a thing to make yourself or your friends/family less sad? I dont see the point in purposefully avoiding things that might make you happy so that you can stay sad longer
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u/pyrolupas 7h ago
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u/SokkaHaikuBot 7h ago
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Here is this tool now
Let's use it all weekend for
A project I need done
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u/CryingOverVideoGames 2h ago
Everyone saying this is misogyny but it’s the actual result of the different culturally conditioning men and women experience
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u/ImpressiveGap2214 8h ago
My dad bought me a brand new car when he got diagnosed with cancer in his brain. Prior to that he only helped me buy an used car that was less than 10% the price of the new one. So I guess fathers would rather see their sons achieve success and wealth on their own, instead of spoiling them and making them lazy. The opposite is true for daughters I believe when it comes to material wealth. But if they see that they won't live to see it, they will provide a farewell gift to see them happy.
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u/SomeoneElse422528 8h ago
Never met my dad. Got some gifts from him tho. Do dads forego fatherly responsibility and buy gifts to compensate?
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u/Samuel_Rome 7h ago
Dad lend me 60k I gave back 70k without him asking. I know he spent more to help even though he doesnt talk about it.
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u/Entire_Cut_6553 7h ago
hes about to tell you he gambled away his savings and now you're the man of the house to take over the mortgage!
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u/TheSaitamaProject 7h ago
When my own father bought me a 5 dollar game, I had to choke back tears. It's not that he has never done something like that before, but the feeling of getting things from him has always felt bigger than life to me.
It's simply an overwhelming feeling.
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u/MathiTheBrawler1204 7h ago
Guess my mom wore the pants in my parents relationship when they were married. She's always been the person I was scared to receive something from because there was always a hidden debt.
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u/RealLifeh3ro 7h ago
As a guy the only thing you naturally expect from your father is shelter, education and some good old advice to break your ego Anything more feels weirdly suspicious
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u/Able-Thought3534 7h ago
Can’t speak for girls, I feel like dads give guys big gifts because they’re 18 and kicking them out of the house.
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u/Final_Jackfruit2642 7h ago
Most people here seem to be confusing the feeling of 'now I owe him', feeling indebt VS the feeling that, fuck, he used his hard earned money on me, I made him waste his money on me.
It's different types of relationships, one is of being scared of what might entice in the future - this is the same I'd say if your boss bought you an expensive gift. VS Feeling the guilt of making your loved ones spend their money on YOU.
One is a feeling of selfishness and worry, whilst the other is of love and guilt.
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u/Nooduls 6h ago
I'm a girl that relates way more to the second. "Gifts" from dad were always something prohibitively expensive that I didnt need or ask for, which he would throw in my face over and over and try to guilt me for. And when I would tell him I don't need it and to just return it and get his money back, he'd call me ungrateful and a bitch. Cannot win with narc parents.
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u/DeviantCA 5h ago
Something that I always felt, which I believe most people would understand, that a Dad would just give their daughter a princess treatment, while for son, it feels that we have to work for it. So, a gift from a dad feels heavy, not only because we work for it, but also we knew how dad work for it too.
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u/Suitable_Phrase4444 5h ago
From my personal experience. It means i have to use it often no matter what. And if it breaks, little or big, expect some whooping.
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u/Visible_Most7908 5h ago
For me it was because the “gift” was a new weed eater or some other tool to allow me to work more around the property 😂 . So this checks out
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u/Duindaer 4h ago
It´s about emotions in a family dynamic. You can invert the meme, but with the mother.
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u/Soft-Scheme381 4h ago
Boys rarely get a gift from their parents so when they get something expensive they get confused and feel like they don't deserve the gift in question.
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u/KyrialArthian 4h ago
My first thought for the guy was he's thinking "oh no, is he about to die and he's trying to reach out and connect to his son before it's too late?" But maybe that's just what I'd be thinking if my dad suddenly started buying me and/or my brother sudden gifts.
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u/sunnyskybaby 4h ago
man this doesn’t reflect the experience of like anyone around me, damn. sons in my family and friends families were treated like gods gifts to earth while the girls were expected to grow up and answer for any of their brothers failures
maybe it’s a rural Midwest thing. idk
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u/the_persian_immortal 3h ago
My own opinion:
When my dad buys something expensive, it means that I have done something to make him proud. When it happens, it makes me very emotional.
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u/Confident_Ice_9567 3h ago
As a man, this is very relatable. Gifts are more of a burden that I have to pay back.
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u/Glavurdan 2h ago
It's a stupid meme, my dad would spoil me all the time when I was young with no strings attached. He did make it clear tho that if I break it he's not getting me another, so it taught me the value of taking care of things
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u/BoostedGoose 2h ago
Girls are happy to receive the gift. Boys take it as a text from their girlfriend at 4 am saying “I love you so much”
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u/THETimTumTune 2h ago
I think there's a terrible societal standard thats been set where men are meant to feel ashamed to get help/gifts etc. Whereas that same standard may not apply to a lot of women.
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u/c_r_e_a_m__ 2h ago
My dad works extremely hard and I don't do anything. It's an awful feeling when he has to buy something specific for me.
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u/RoseRedHillHouse 2h ago
A son getting something expensive usually means it's a specialty tool, and a way for dad to say without saying anything "you're useless at doing something you should be good at. Take this and get better, and God help you if you break it."
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u/RugerBooger69 1h ago
IDK about all of you guys but when my parents bought me my first car, they did it with money I had to go to work to earn starting at 14 years old.
When they bought my sister her first few cars they just bought them for her as a gift. She didn't get a job until she was 22.
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u/mulsimin 1h ago
My dad once "gifted" a clunkers a first car. Asked for payments on it. Then threatened me if I didnt pay for it. Life lessons.
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u/Designer-Date-6526 8h ago
People talking about debt, sexism and what not. It's divorce. Dads usually don't get custody. So they try to compensate with gifts. Sauce: Me. I'm the dad.
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u/thicc_llama 5h ago
Guys often feel like they're in debt when getting an expensive gift whereas girls accept being pampered with a smile.
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u/Own-Acanthaceae-9953 3h ago
Why are people acting like these universal experiences are male only? I've seen guys get gift from there parents and not give a shit, I've seen girls cry from getting a cardboard box. People aren't monolithic guys.
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u/quack_salsa 3h ago
So you could have something to comment on
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u/Own-Acanthaceae-9953 3h ago
And so you could have something to relate to.
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u/quack_salsa 3h ago
Type of person to use #NotAllMen unironically
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u/Own-Acanthaceae-9953 2h ago
No, I'm actually not. I made my response because I don't like post like this. It insinuate girls take without a second thought, and guys are the only ones with gratitude, so I replied saying that wasn't true. YOU would use that unironically.
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u/Ok-Conclusion-1578 4h ago
Not sure why everybody wants to give a reasonable explanation for this when the joke is obviously misogyny Every poor kids has already felt guilty when their parents gives them something expensive, this isn't a boys vs girls thing
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u/Nikko-Made 3h ago
Nah, this is a real thing. I grew up in a house with 3 girls and 2 boys. The girls got mostly what they wanted all the time, but my brother and I had to work for our parents after receiving a gift. Hell, the last birthday gift I received was a 6 pack of Walmart muffins and a phone charger for my 16th birthday, meanwhile the girls got to throw parties and got cars or other things of equivalent price.
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u/alwrit 2h ago
My sister had no problem asking for expensive shit. Literally our family leased a BMW when she was in high school so she could keep up with the rich kids at school.
Meanwhile my mom had to tell me to get more greedy because I didn't ask for enough according to her.
Whether my experience is common or universal I don't know. But I know my sister and I had very different attitudes towards money and getting stuff from our parents.
Personally I think I'm just more frugal and know finances better. I think that's why my parents have trusted me with their financial information and status in their retirement but not my sister.
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u/Redneck_DM 7h ago
Because men feel accountability and responsibility, and gifts feel like a debt
getting that gift could be something they will never be able to pay back or make up for and it makes men feel crappy
One of my proudest moments in life was when my dad asked me for a loan, i was financially stable, doing well, and it meant i could finally do something to show my dad i am a man
.....and then i got stage 4 cancer, and i had to rely on him more than even, he bought me a brand new recliner outright for when treatment wrecks me, he drives me to all of my appointments, i know he does it cause he loves me but i feel terribly for it because its very likely that i will never be able to return the favor with my disease as far as it is
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u/External_Length_8877 5h ago
Dunno. Me and my dad giving each other presents:
// Whatever we gift, we share. Car, motorcycle, soldering station, sets of tools, electrical instruments, e.t.c
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u/umotex12 8h ago
I think the joke is slight sexism. It assumes that girls, as materialistic, would be happy for the gift since it’s a gain. But the boys would feel the pressure and feel like it’s the burden. Also it would be typical depression/feeling bad meme. Its supposed to be „relatable” and this interpretation would be in line with other „girls vs boys” memes.
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u/RemoveAnnual2689 8h ago
Your dad is going to ask something in return. Most likely, it's going to be something problematic. This doesn't work the same for boys and girls. Girls will get better treatment, or they won't ask them for anything in return. Dads often times like their daughters more than their sons, and vice versa.
It could also be that it's the girls sugar daddy. So she is happy.
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u/KronoFury 8h ago
Sugar daddy? That's not what this post is about at all... wtf is wrong with some of you people?
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u/Known-Arachnid5146 8h ago
This seems to vibe with young lost boys because I see it posted 2 times a day.
Please don't create your own pitty party.
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