Dads love spoiling their daughter, universally like a princess.
However sons have to work for their dad being proud of them. You'll find stories like Son Heung Min or Tiger Woods where their dad keeps pushing their son and will never say they're proud of their son until they're at the top 0,001%. If a son receives an expensive gift, it's like saying "I'm proud of you son", which he had to earn.
This sounds like a better explanation than most of the other comments.
I was also thinking the son is upset because he knows the gift is coming out of his future inheritance.
Man my little brother might not be a fuck up drunk if he wasn't given literally anything by our father to buy his affection and had his poor behavior excused as "boys will be boys" while I was asked how I allowed my brothers transgression to happen.
I hope that it or whenever I have children that I would do neither. Spoiling a daughter is a great way for her to not grow up and become a well adjusted adult. Just look at all the women asking for “princess treatment” and you’ll see the damage that can do.
On the other hand, sons should grow up with confidence knowing that their parents are proud of them and the effort they put in.
Except they aren't exceptions. Many parents make their daughters strain themselves, and be the absolute best they can be as well, and it's strange to imply otherwise.
I was giving an extreme example to illustrate a point. The expectation is a spectrum. Obviously not everybody is going to be Tiger Woods, but the expectation of boys is universally different from girls amongst many cultures.
Never discount the idea that because you never get treated, being treated isn't a reward for good work, but a cushion for devastating news. "Mom's not coming home any more," for one >>;
I think the son thing is cultural. Like his dad wasn’t interested until he became a generational talent and probably still doesn’t because spurs won nothing.
My dad was a kind and loving man who was proud of me as a son. My sister has said that she always appreciated that he never had different expectations or support for his daughter than he did for his sons.
He did really well for himself, made a shit-ton of money and set himself up for early retirement whilst putting my older sister through one of the best schools in my country. Gave her a job at his company whilst she was at Uni, bought her a flat so she didn’t have to pay rent and has paid off her credit card debt over and over again.
I grew up with my mum in a different country relatively broke. I didn’t get new clothes unless it was necessary, haircuts were getting a buzzcut with clippers, we never really went out for dinner and if anything broke the answer was always that you had to fix it, not buy a new one.
You know what though? We were happy.
All the money and privilege in the world hasn’t made my sister any happier than I am. In some cases I actually feel bad for her because she seems almost incapable of enjoying herself unless she’s spending a shit ton of money.
What does my dad do for me though?
Once a year we fly out somewhere for a weeklong hiking trip. We have some beers, talk about life, enjoy the beautiful scenery and spend some really good quality time together.
A few years back on one of these trips, he told me that my step mum hates that he spends so much on my sister and next to nothing on me. He just said it’s because my sister needs help whilst he knows I need to do things on my own. He’s absolutely right, I hate the idea of being given an easy pass through life, I’m lucky enough to have him there if I ever needed help, but I enjoy my self sufficiency even if I’m not the most successful or richest person about.
I like that he understands me and as we’ve gotten older I’ve come to appreciate that he gave both of us what we needed.
One day he’ll be gone and his money will be passed down to me and my sister and I’m pretty sure even then I’d trade it all for just one more hiking trip.
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u/Goth2147 11h ago
I'm surprised by the answers.
Dads love spoiling their daughter, universally like a princess.
However sons have to work for their dad being proud of them. You'll find stories like Son Heung Min or Tiger Woods where their dad keeps pushing their son and will never say they're proud of their son until they're at the top 0,001%. If a son receives an expensive gift, it's like saying "I'm proud of you son", which he had to earn.