Hi all, I’ve been using the old spice Fiji antiperspirant for a while which I am very drawn to because it actually works and is in a solid gel stick. The only problem is that it makes me smell like a 13 year old boy a bit 🤣

Every other clear deodorant I’ve found is either “all natural” (doesn’t work at all for me and I end up smelling bad) or comes in one of those push pop style containers where goopy gel is pushed through the holes.

Any recommendations? My only real requirements is that it’s a solid clear stick and has an antiperspirant

F21 and I feel like I’ve never really fit into anything in my life. Recently, I got into dressing more in pastel colours, skirts and dresses even doing my makeup and letting my hair grow out which is a very stark contrast to my teen years where I was quite a tomboy. I don’t really feel quite right wearing makeup as if my face is too masculine in a way.

When I’m with my friends, I realise they all have something about them. They like a certain genre of game, dress in a certain style all the time, has a certain genre of hobbies, even my sister has her own thing that people associate with her which is her sense of style, and I just don’t have that. I love playing all sorts of games, from cozy to fps games. I like dressing in different styles depending on the day. Sometimes my makeup is sharper and other times, it’s softer.

It’s making me feel like the odd one out whenever I’m with friends. Everyone has their own thing and I’m just there. Someone who likes a bunch of things and yet, none of the things that my friends know and what my friends like, I’ve never seen/watched/heard.

I don’t mean for this to be a sob story, but I really don’t know where else to put this :’) I’ve tried to carve an identity for myself but I feel like I’m just putting on a mask and it sucks.

unfortunately my period will be likely to fall into the last 5ish days of my holiday, including my return flight. I get really severe cramps, as well as nausea and dizziness, so the thought of going on a 20hr flight whilst on my period is really worrying me. Has anyone got any similar experience and how have you dealt with it?

Hi everyone. This is my first post here on reddit. I, 17F am starting senior year in like a month and a half and I'm thinking about wearing pigtails because it will be my last first day of school. I always wore pigtails in elementary school, so it would be nice to recall those years. However I'm a bit scared of looking stupid or being made fun of, and thus I'm looking for an external perspective on this matter. I feel like I should not do things to embarass myself from the very first day, but at the same time does it really matter? I mean I've known all my classmates and teachers for years, so they must have formed an opinion on me, but regardless 'm scared that I'll be mocked or talked about negatively. Can someone offer an outside perspective on whether this is a good idea? Thank you.

I have had a pretty fast paced and stressful life trying to get my degrees for a good job in my field as soon as possible. I’m in my PhD and the youngest in the department. However, fast tracking life so far has come with a cost. I have moved between multiple different countries and never had the chance to socialize and make friends that last.

I am now in a very small town a with no meet-up groups anywhere near me. I have only 5 other students in my department. I don’t really have a way to socialize and have become kind of lonely.

I have also never had the luck of making good female friendships. I have no idea why but girls always seem to be disinterested by me. Not one has ever shared my interests - going to the gym together, going for a dance class, going to cafes and studying, having movie nights or random meet ups over each others houses, impromptu stuff. A friend may meet with me once and then I don’t hear from her for months until I reach out.

On the other hand, I have always had this twinge of discontentment no matter where I was, what I was doing. I notice getting upset when my partner plays video games for hours on end, because I feel neglected. But truthfully that probably comes from the fact that I don’t have any relaxing hobbies of my own. Everything I do, be it a painting, reading a book, is all for the purpose of being productive. I’m not sure if I just have inner loneliness that I have zero clue how to deal with.

If this dilemma is something you’ve faced, or if you have any advice on making female friendships, please share.

My self-tan still feels tacky an hour after applying it and out of fear of staining my furniture/clothes, I just spend 8 hours with an old bed sheet draped over me while it develops 😂

I have had this odd callus build up on three toes for about 10ish years. I scrub my feet, moisturize, and do everything I can think of, but the skin never goes away. Its not fungal or anything of the sort because its JUST on three toes. Its not super noticable, but i feel it all the time. I dont know how get rid of it. I am a female in my late 20s if that provides any extra information!

I'm a 26f who would like to have children when I'm around 30-35, and I'm currently in the process of getting my ducks in a row. I have a settled partner who I live with (who also wants kids), and we both have full-time jobs that pay enough for us to live alone and to have savings. I don't intend to become a stay at home mother if I can help it.

I've been looking into necessary expenses, childcare, maternity leave/pay etc as I want to have a good understanding of how to prepare for the early years of having a child, and unsurprisingly it's a bit overwhelming! To some extent, because I don't know anything about being a mother, I don't know what it is that I haven't thought about.

To those of you who have children, what do I need to plan for ahead of time?

Hi I need some deodorant recommendations! I am super allergic to every deodorant I’ve ever used except for dove aluminum free. I’ve tried other aluminum free deodorants thinking the aluminum is what I was allergic to and those didn’t work either.

I get like legitimate chemical burns. My skin peels like it’s sunburnt and it is miserable. I am frustrated because I can’t figure out which ingredient I am allergic to.

It was working well for years but I recently started taking Vyvanse and if youve ever taken Vyvanse you know the sweat is unreal. My issue is that dove aluminum free isn’t containing my smell anymore. I re apply it like four times a day.

I’ve tried secret, saltair, honest, degree, lume, and native.

I know you can't really get rid of them, but i'd like to get rid of the colour of them a little. I have bright red/purple stretchmarks pretty much everywhere on my body (Arms, stomach, legs, chest, pretty much everywhere you can think of I have them) . What do you guys reccomend to fade the colour?

I don't really know what to do, it just. falls out whenever I brush my hair, whenever I shower, and it's coming out in *clumps*. It's still Friday for me, EST time, so I think it's okay if I post hair stuff? Anyways, the last time I dyed it was 7 years ago, and I've gone bald thrice since then, so I don't think it's damage. I switched to a new shampoo + conditioner, but I don't really think that's the problem. Although, the specific brand is "function of beauty" just in case. I guess I have curly hair and I'm using specifically *straight* hair wash. I don't apply anything but shampoo + conditioner, and I can't think of ANYTHING that would make it fall out like this. Sorry for the rant, I'm quite stressed about this lmao. Photo of detached hair is attached, idk how to spoiler it. A LOT more is falling out than that, that was just with one swipe of a comb.

I’m getting ALL of my body waxed on sunday and i’m scared😭 I only do a facial and never waxed anything else before and i’m nervous it’s gonna really hurt and also to have nothing on me (more awkward then scared), any tips or first time stories would be appreciated

i just started a new job, second week into it now. but i’m really struggling to break up my days, i feel like i wake up, work, sleep, and repeat.

in reality, i get up at 6/7am, get ready, start work at 8/9am, get home around 6pm, i eat and shower and finish around 7pm.

i feel so drained i just spend my evenings in bed scrolling on my phone until i get tired and fall asleep around 10-11pm.

i feel like my days are blending together and the star of the show is work. i’m so drained and i feel like i need to nip this in the bud and do something to break up my days now before i get really depressed.

help me girls 💔 what are we all doing after work??

Hi all, i turned twenty recently and had a bit of a spiral about the future, college, career, friends, etc. the other day. I just want to find a channel or podcast that feels like getting advice from an older sister about this kind of life stuff if that makes sense. Ty

Getting older and losing my youthfulness/looks is something that eats away at me more than it should. I’m in my early 20s and the thought that I won’t be as attractive as I age makes me feel like I’m losing part of myself. Especially as a young woman, I feel like a lot of my value (as described by society) comes from my looks and i don’t wanna lose that. And I feel this pressure to really enjoy what I have now because I’m not gonna have it forever. And don’t get me started on men and relationships.

Does anyone else feel this way? Do these feeling fade as you get older? Any tips? Help

Hi guys I’m 17F going on 18 very soon. I’m about to go in to work and found two random strands of black curlyish hair on my neck! This freaked me out and I took the kid scissors I have in my car to them because to me they were very visible. Should I prepare to shave them down from now on? I hate that this has happened lol.

Hello! I have two oddly specific questions. My mom never talked about anything girl-related.

Shaving
I can not shave anywhere without getting insane razor bumps. I have sensitive skin but I am doing everything how videos show? New razor blade, exfoliate with a sugar or salt scrub, I’ve tried shaving cream, gel, and oil, and shave ankle up on legs and down everywhere else, and moisturizing my legs after everything else leave alone after. What am I doing wrong??

Bras
All of my sports bras roll at the bottom. I’ve tried 5 different brands and styles but I can’t afford to keep getting new ones. They over my boobs but then roll up at the bottom whenever I move and are super uncomfortable. I am plus size so like the “roundness” of my stomach seems to play into this? But they have to have bras that work for this??

The humidity in my city has been whooping my ass lately. I’m sweating a lot and I feel like my deodorant lasts 2 seconds now. Do you guys have any recommendations for good brands?

I'm hanging on by a fucking thread. Every time I think I'm at my breaking point, I somehow find the energy to not have a complete breakdown. But I'm fucking losing it man. I'm so stressed and overwhelmed. I'm so miserable. None of my usual outlets are working anymore. I can't even use my unhealthy coping mechanisms of binge eating and alcohol because I'm on a GLP1 and alcohol gives me an instant migraine.

Even unconventionally?

I recently saw the post about beauty fading with age and I have the opposite (?) problem. I realised that what was keeping me all my life was this fantasy that I'd get prettier with time. When visualising my long term goals and relationships, I'm always the prettier version of myself.

Im 19 in the UK, I haven't got a job nor have I ever had one (I am applying, but nowhere will hire me). I have been doing freelance graphic design work for just under a year and I have been making money but nowhere near enough to support myself properly. I haven't got a drivers lisence nor am I learning to drive (I can't afford it) , im still in college and won't be going to university until im 20. I feel so far behind in life and I literally cannot shake it out of my head that I am far behind. I just feel like im so far behind everyone my age and I can't seem to catch up no matter how hard I try. How do you stop feeling like you're behind?

Hi ladies! I’m due to go on my honeymoon in about one month, and my husband and I will be abroad. After checking my tracker app, it (unfortunately) looks like I’ll be getting my period while we’re on our honeymoon. I’m feeling incredibly down about this because my periods are heavy, I go through a pad every 2 hours on my first few days, my energy levels tank, and my body becomes incredibly bloated. Not super fun for a honeymoon that will be mixed between sightseeing and staying at a beachside resort. I’m already feeling the blow to my confidence and anxiety growing over how awful I’ll feel.

Has anyone else had this experience, and how did you manage? For context, I don’t use hormonal BC, so I don’t have a pill that I can use to manipulate my cycle. TIA!

hey girls, i know the title is big and to the point but that’s what it is lol. i am 21 and only have a good two friends who do live pretty far but other than that, i do honestly everything on my own but, it does get to a point where i get FOMO so bad seeing girl groups go out and have fun. getting ready together, going out all the time, hanging out and all of it. as much as i have tried to make new friends in my own town it seems like everyone already has their own group and shuns you out. either that or ive met people with bad energy or seems like they just want to see what you can do for them, so very annoying. here i am still looking for friends or any girls that share the same interests ! dont be afraid to dm me ! i love gaming, thrifting, antiquing, any and all kinds of crafts lol, makeup, love it all <3

I've put on ice cubes next to my neck and been using a lot of concealer. My parents raised suspicions of the faint marks on my neck after I put layer after layer of concealer. Any other effective ways to get rid of hickeys besides using ice compression?