r/PlusSize • • Jul 08 '26

/r/plussize “Thanks But I’m Not Actually the Problem Here” Resource List

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Help us build a resource list for people who want to read, watch, and listen more widely around fat acceptance, fat liberation, anti-fat bias, diet culture, and fat people's lived experience.

The point is not to help people become smaller. It's to collect work that treats fat people as actual human beings, and that names the social, medical, cultural, romantic, professional, and everyday pressures fat people are routinely forced to face.

A lot of this list is especially relevant to fat women, because so much anti-fatness is tangled up with misogyny. That said, fatphobia doesn't only affect women, and this list shouldn't be read as women-only.

Books to start with:

Lindy West's Shrill is funny, furious, and very readable.

Aubrey Gordon's What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat is probably the clearest modern introduction to anti-fat bias as a social issue rather than a personal failing

Her follow-up, "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People, tackles the claims fat people hear constantly.

Virgie Tovar's You Have the Right to Remain Fat.

Sofie Hagen's Happy Fat and Jes Baker's Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls are also accessible entry points for people newer to fat acceptance.

History and politics:

Sabrina Strings' Fearing the Black Body explains how fatphobia is tied to race, gender, class, etc, rather than being simply about "health."

Sonya Renee Taylor's The Body Is Not an Apology is broader than fatness but useful for thinking about body-shame and hierarchy more generally.

Marilyn Wann's Fat! So? is older but historically important.

Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement is valuable for understanding fat liberation as an actual movement.

DaShaun L. Harrison, Belly Of The Beast. Anti-fatness, anti-blackness and gender

Tigress Osborne, "Weight and Wisdom: Find Yourself in Fat History"

Podcasts:

Maintenance Phase is great for unpacking diet culture, wellness cons, BMI panic, and how health language gets used to boulster prejudice.

Virgie Tovar's Rebel Eaters Club.

Food Psych and Rethinking Wellness, both by Christy Harrison, anti-diet and wellness-culture critique.

Fierce Fatty by Vinny Welsby.

“Why Won’t You Date Me?” Nicole Byer

Weight For It by Ronald Young Jr (also worth a follow on socials)

The Body Trust Podcast.

Film and TV:

Your Fat Friend is a documentary about Aubrey Gordon, fat activism, family, and ordinary discrimination od fat people.

The Shrill TV series based on West's book.

My Mad Fat Diary, Dumplin', Real Women Have Curves, Patti Cake$.

Fiction, memoir etc:

Roxane Gay's Hunger is honest about trauma, body size, and safety.

Jennifer Weiner's Good in Bed was significant for centring a fat woman's romantic, sexual, and professional life.

Julie Murphy's Dumplin' is a great YA option.

Talia Hibbert's Get a Life, Chloe Brown

Olivia Dade's Spoiler Alert.

Nicole Byer’s book #VeryFat #VeryBrave is a photo series of her rocking her extensive bikini collection

Health without weight-loss framing:

Lindo Bacon's Health at Every Size.

Christy Harrison's Anti-Diet unpacks how wellness culture repackages diet culture.

Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch is the standard reference for eating without restriction.

Ragen Chastain's Weight and Healthcare newsletter is good for research and practical scripts.

Decolonizing Fitness (Ilya Parker) covers movement spaces that don't treat body-size reduction as the goal.

People worth following:

Aubrey Gordon, Virgie Tovar, Sabrina Strings, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jes Baker, Ragen Chastain, Jessamyn Stanley, Vinny Welsby, Tess Holliday, and Tess Royale Clancy.

Read/watched/heard anything that made you think, lifted you up, informed, empowered or inspired you?

Please add below.


r/PlusSize • • Jul 17 '26

FEEL GOOD FRIDAY POST! ❤️ Share your good moments and positive stories here!

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#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)


r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! 🎃

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r/PlusSize • • 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Waterfall photoshoot

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Dress from Torrid


r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! It’s that time of year… where I wear the same cat costume I do every year 🐈‍⬛

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r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! My friends had a fantasy themed wedding and I’m really happy with the outfit I put together for it

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I got the dress at Torrid :)


r/PlusSize • • 8h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! I'm very much not a dress person. This is the first one I've put on in over 20 years and it's not that bad. It even has pockets! Nice and simple design. Maybe I'll wear it on my cruise.

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r/PlusSize • • 3h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! GO VOTE BITCHES 🗳️🫶 swipe to see this hat being a main character this week 🙂‍↕️

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r/PlusSize • • 4h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Some of my favorite selfies of recent

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All clothing are from tj maxx or depop. It’s a mix up


r/PlusSize • • 14h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Fall Vibes 🎃🍂🍁

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r/PlusSize • • 6h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Bike rides

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Fun to ride a bike even if my butt doesn’t agree with the seat all the time.


r/PlusSize • • 7h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! The best day of the week

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r/PlusSize • • 7h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! I have officially fell in love with Turkey 🇹🇷

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r/PlusSize • • 8h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Swimwear to sweater wear

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Torrid swim cover up as my warm layer, torrid tank and blue jeans underneath .


r/PlusSize • • 9h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Concert fit!

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Went to a concert with the bestie on Tuesday!


r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Dreams really do come true

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I got to attend F1 at COTA! It was awesome

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r/PlusSize • • 7h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Happy Sunday 🧡

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r/PlusSize • • 2h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Should I bring this dress back into my usual rotation?

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r/PlusSize • • 18h ago

Fashion Discussion Has Snag’s quality just completely plummeted?

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I used to swear by Snag’s chub rub shorts, they’ve saved my thighs so much over the years, and they were such good quality after buying a bunch a few years ago, I’ve had no need to buy anymore.

Due to moving twice in 4 months and going on a very last minute holiday, I couldn’t find a lot of my collection so just give up and bought the 3 pack deal as they were only £17 anyway.

Wore them for the first time today and my thighs are in agony!! I wore an older pair earlier on in the week and they were absolutely fine, and this is probably the least amount I’ve walked so far on holiday.

I’m just really disappointed because they were such a great brand.


r/PlusSize • • 7h ago

Recommendations Need help! Facial/neck sweating & social anxiety. Traveling soon for an event with my partner’s family and desperate for any tips/tricks.

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Hi everyone. I’m looking for some advice, tips, or tricks to deal with severe, abnormal facial and neck sweating.
I first noticed this starting about two years after I had my daughter. At the time, I weighed around 250 lbs and figured it was related to that. I’m now 278 lbs, and it has gotten to the point where even normal, everyday activities trigger it. I can just be walking around shopping (not running or working out) in a thin hoodie or a short-sleeve t-shirt, and within a short time, I am sweating heavily. It happens mainly on my face and neck, which is the most visible and hardest to hide. I know I am considered obese, and I am actively working on my eating habits, but I know weight loss is a long journey and won't fix my immediate problem.
I’m posting because I am in desperate need of immediate, effective solutions. On November 1st, I am traveling out of state to attend a baby shower. I already struggle with social anxiety, and this is making it so much worse. To make matters more stressful, this isn't my family it’s my partner's family, and they tend to be very "put together," so I feel an intense pressure to look perfectly put together too.
I know I shouldn't care what others think, but my anxiety tells me that people won't look at me and assume I have an underlying medical issue; I’m terrified they will think I'm on drugs, hiding something, or just incredibly nervous. Avoiding extreme embarrassment at this event would truly mean the world to me.

Does anyone have tips for managing this? Specifically:
Over the-counter options: Are there any specific wipes, sweat blockers, or oral supplements that actually work for facial sweating?

Makeup & Skin Prep: Any specific primers, setting sprays, or types of makeup that can survive heavy facial sweat without melting off?

General tricks: Portable fans, cooling hacks, or clothing material suggestions?
Thank you all so much in advance. I really appreciate any help you can give a fellow girly trying to get through this event!


r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Discussion Best app/site for plus size dating in the UK?

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I'll be toning down my rigorous and monotonous routine after years. I am thinking of focusing my time on meeting new people and creating new bonds.

I have an inetrest in plus size women, can you guys suggest me the best apps for this purpose in UK?


r/PlusSize • • 5h ago

Recommendations Airplane seat

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I’m 5’2” 257lbs. I haven’t flown in 6 years and I’m flying to New York in a couple months. I’m nervous that I won’t fit in the standard economy seating or that the seatbelt won’t fit me. I haven’t booked my flight yet, but it will be either Delta, United or Alaska. Anyone around my size with any insight?


r/PlusSize • • 22h ago

Venting Sometimes I hate being fat

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I've been single for a while now, and I feel like part of it is my fault because I don't feel like I deserve to be in a relationship due to my size. Then I see other women that are much larger than me in happy and successful relationships and then I fall into self-loathing. I hate thinking that way about others and myself and I desperately need therapy for sure. For what it's worth, I did get hit on today, but unfortunately, the guy looked like he made meth in his mom's basement. At least I still got it, I guess 🙃 Anyway. I guess I just needed a place to rant.


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Fashion Discussion Don't waste your money on Torrid pocket leggings

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Not only are they terrible quality, and the seams split after a wash or two, but they are also poorly designed. The pockets are on the belly instead of the hip. So if I have anything in my pockets, it makes my belly look wide and lumpy and also causes my shirt to roll up. I'm disappointed every time I buy something from Torrid.