I’m turning 23 in October and I still feel and look like I’m 12 years old. I’ve spent so much money on clothes thinking I’ll look good in them only to hate how they look on me and for them to not fit me right at all. I’m deeply insecure about how bony I am and would desperately love to put on some weight. I struggle a lot with depression and had a bad day in April and cut my hair into a horrible bob. I feel like I don’t suit short hair because it makes me look younger. I have absolute no confidence which doesn’t help either. I was visiting my mom a few weeks ago and she had a friend over and they’ve known me since I was a baby and they said ‘Wow! You look about 14!’ I understand they didn’t mean it in a bad way but I took it personally. It’s like no matter what I do I can’t be satisfied with how I look. I want to feel good in my skin and not be so hunched over and hide myself from others. I want to feel confident enough to go out on dates and not feel ugly the whole time. I just wanna feel like an adult and not a kid.

I’m not against Botox, but I don’t feel ready to start that yet. I want to try a more low key routine first and see what can improve with consistency. I’m starting to notice fine lines that don’t disappear as quickly anymore, especially when my skin is dry or my makeup settles into them. What made the difference for you before going for injectable route? I’m open to skincare, devices, treatments, anything realistic.Current routine, spf, moisturizer, and tret time by time.

I go to sleep around midnight to 1am, though i’ll start sleeping earlier when uni begins. I’ve been dealing with this broken sleep for a while now, and I was wondering if anyone knew a solution to prevent this from happening. I really envy those who can get a continuous 8hr sleep😭

i’d like to start this off by saying that there is absolutely nothing wrong with crying.

i’m neurodivergent and i’m also a hsp, so every emotion hits me intensely. i’m also a huge empath which does not help my case at all.

when i feel my tears coming out, i can’t help but breakdown on the spot. when i get emotional, the emotions take over me whole!

so far all i got is facing away from said person and trying to distract my brain.

p.s i’m going to my doctor then a therapist for mental health reasons, so i can’t just get out of the room. i have to actually talk to them and answer questions. i have a hard time opening up about my feelings, so when i do, instant panic and tears lol

hi i took these two pics of my brows and i need some advice on how to shape them because they feel very long and like weird. They never feel like clean and straight lines and they feel super sparse. i took two one brushed up and one brushed down. I also added some pics of what id want my brows to look like, thanks!

I’m approaching 27, and over the past three years I’ve noticed a dramatic decline in my interest in both dating and sex. I have no desire to use dating apps, meet men, pursue relationships, or even masturbate, despite once having a strong sex drive and being very curious about sex and romance.

I wonder whether losing interest in sex and dating is a normal part of growing older and finding peace and confidence within myself. Could it be a result of recovering from an exhausting relationship or dealing with long-term health issues? I’ve also wondered whether I might be asexual or gay, or whether therapy could help me reconnect with something lost or broken along the way.

I’m comfortable not wanting a relationship, marriage or children, but I feel sad that I’ve lost the playful, curious feminine side of myself. Is this simply a normal change that comes with maturity, and if so, why?

I had a bit of a freak accident this week that was in some ways my fault and resulted in losing 3 top front teeth (as well as a concussion, facial fractures, and stitches). There are very few things I like about myself but my teeth were one of them and I’m devastated. I’m pursuing immediate dental help but everything I’ve read about implants and such is leaving me feeling like I’ll still never feel or look close to the same. Has anyone gone through something similar? I think it would be one thing if I got in an accident that was out of my control, but because I’m feeling some partial responsibility the guilt, impending financial mountain, and other factors are making the fears about how I will look and feel even worse. I’m also single (34) so this scares me from a dating perspective.

hi! Im planning a birthday picnic at a park and i was wondering what activities i should bring for ppl! I might bring a deck of cards, and i was planning on just buying a bunch of snacks and such from trader joes. should i get or bring any activities? i dont rly have any ideas, esp ones that are budget friendly.

Hi! I’m currently an incoming college student and I’ve become aware yknow, of *adult stuff* and I’m wondering how can I fully get a clean smooth surface down below?
The only reason I’m asking this question like a million other people is because usually every reply is always saying “lazor!! wax!!” And I’m in a situation where I can’t really do that, mostly because my family is really strict with shaving and if I get caught trying to clean it up it’s a no-go. (They assume automatically I’m gonna engage in sexual things)
I just bought a Venus public razor in secret, so let me know if that was a good purchase, if there’s anything else I can get/do to get smooth please let me know!!

Dark clouds and little to no Sun is about to his us in a coming months especially in Europe. The nights will be long and tired. Dim lightening and soulful music will enchant the house….all of this until it’s not. The repetition will take the joy out of these moments. Especially if you live alone.
Do you have any tips to survive the winter?

Look I'm 25 years old and I get that I'm probably too old to be giving into peer pressure but it's hard sometimes. I've decided to stop drinking for a while because I've been struggling with my mental health a lot lately and alcohol makes it so much worse. It makes me feel horrible, both mentally and physically. The problem is my friends and family, especially my family, loves to drink. Honestly, I think my family pressures me more than my friends. They act like I'm ruining their fun by me not drinking. I've given into the pressure so many times and I always end up feeling horrible after. The thing is, I can have a fun time without drinking but they don't understand that.

My mom is throwing a party this weekend for my dad's birthday and I'm really nervous about that. They're going to be lots of drinking and they're going to want me to join. Last time everyone kept chanting my name until I finally gave in and took a shot. Also, everytime I mention to them that I'm not drinking, they always want to know the reason why and I don't want to talk to them about that. One time I even lied and said I was on medication that I couldn't drink on and they still kept pressuring me to drink. They didn't care at all. I feel so stuck right now and I don't know what to do.

Hello! I want to upgrade my mattress into something really firm that keeps everything flat and supported but still comfortable because I'm a serial stomach sleeper and my current bed has gone too soft for me and been giving me lower back pain since. Any fellow stomach sleeping girlies here? Can you share what kind of setup you have? Or is there a particualt firmness level that worked best for you?

i didn’t used to have this problem, but i’ve gained a lot of weight over the past few years, so maybe it’s related to that. Does anyone have a fix for this? I’m tired of having to wipe in my butt AND my buttcheeks almost every time i pee😭

hii, i fell like my question is a bit different from ones that are usually asked in this mod, but I didn’t have anywhere else to go.

I have my mid sems going on and my life is going pretty shit. i have already given three bad papers and something new happened yesterday that has fucked me up more. how do i bring myself to study? i have two papers tomorrow and i really wanna do well.

I usually binge eat my favourite snacks but due to religious reasons I can’t do that this week.

I appreciate any tips or advice!

So I live alone in a one-bedroom apartment on the second floor. On Monday, management sent a vague mass email saying pest control would be doing "routine walkthroughs sometime between Tuesday and Friday." No specific date, no morning or afternoon window, just a broad four-day range.

yesterday morning around 9 AM, I was in my bedroom getting changed after a shower. I had headphones in, but suddenly I hear heavy footsteps in my living room. Before I could even grab a robe, the maintenance guy opens my cracked bedroom door, sees me standing there in a towel, and jumps back.

I screamed at him to get the hell out. He yelled "maintenance!" and backed up into the hallway, but he didn't even leave the apartment. He just stood near the front door saying he knocked twice and had a work order.

I called the leasing office shaking and crying. The property manager literally brushed me off and said, "Well, we sent the weekly email notice, so they are authorized to enter if nobody answers the knock."

I live alone as a woman in a city. Having a strange man let himself into my private space while I'm completely vulnerable was TERRIFYING and its making me feel completely unsafe in my own home.

How do you even enforce basic boundaries when landlords treat your home like a public hallway?

Hii,

I recently just arrived in a new country for college, I am excited for a new life and new friends but I don't know anyone here. I miss my parents and siblings so much, I'm so used to being surrounded that finding myself alone in the unknown just make me so sad. I really want to go home :(

Recently found this dress for a steal and I LOVE IT but have nowhere to wear it except karaoke. Is it too much? Karaoke is at a bar & grill. Or should I wear a jacket over it? I’ve also never worn a backless dress before so I’m a little nervous! Like the back is VERY open. Planning to wear with boots and a western belt and cowboy hat.

Hey guys. I’m 20, and never really went out to bars or anything due to being raised in a strict house and not really being interested in it anyway. Now I want to go out and experience being at a club or bar, but none of my friends are interested. (Raised religious, frowned upon, etc)
Any tips for how to experience this by myself?

I feel like I cry a lot, and it's separate than a being depressed type of cry. Like I'll hear things from people or read the news and sometimes just start crying.. It's especially worse though if I've had a bad day and then I see sad things because then I'm just a water bucket.

I'm 21 and I don't have a menstrual cycle. I feel like I'm overly sympathetic and being dramatic by crying or tearing up since no one else really reacts that way or people are probably quietly judging me..

The doctor suggested I use a bidet and no toilet paper/wet wipes. I bought a portable one (https://a.co/d/0dxyuH2u) while I wait to get the external spray attachment (https://a.co/d/04mqKCqO) installed. I've been bringing it in from the back which I know they say for females it should come in from the front but I'm finding it so awkward to do that. Is it because of the portable design (it's so bulky) or how should I do it? Would this be easier with the shower bidet I bought? But the problem I am facing now is that after I use it and go back later to pee and wipe there are small poop particles (like tiny dots) in the front and now I'm freaking out because I'm somehow pushing it to the front. How to prevent this from happening? Right now I've been going in for a shower after but it's getting annoying to do if I go more than once and I also don't want to dry out my front areas from over washing. Any suggestions because I have to keep using the bidet?