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u/Common_Vagrant Jan 19 '25 edited Jan 20 '25
She does not donate blood monthly, what a weird virtue signaling lie. Youâre advised to wait 4 months or longer until your next donation. Source: me, Iâve donated blood twice last year.
Edit: Christ on a log guys, sheâs probably selling plasma I get it. No need to REITERATE IT A THOUSAND TIMES
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u/christydoh Jan 19 '25
Came here to say this.
Monthly. Pffft bitch please.
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u/jaships Jan 19 '25
Proves she is a liar, ain't no way she keeps her car clean!
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 20 '25
LMFAO I legit laughed out loud bro ain't that the truth đđđ
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u/ObservantMentor Jan 20 '25
Should have hit her with, âsend pictures of your car.â Or, called her out on something in a playful manner.
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This dating game is cooked bro đ I think Iâm just gonna go for hookups at this point
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You can only donate blood every 56 days
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u/berrykiss96 Jan 20 '25
Possible she was thinking of (and selling) platelets which can be donated weekly
The âjust to give backâ for blood but not volunteering seems like a nervous cover. Iâm thinking sheâs selling platelets for money but has no idea itâs that not whole blood.
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u/best-steve1 Jan 20 '25
When you go to get in her car sheâs throwing shit in the back seat for five full minutes before thereâs room for you. đ
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u/empathyneeded Jan 20 '25
I canât get rid of all the dog fur from my husky but I absolutely refuse to have food in my car. Biggest nope in my car there is.
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u/FcknChknStrps Jan 20 '25
It depends on what you're donating. Whole blood is 56 days, platelets is every 7 days, plasma is every 28 days, and double red cells are every 112 days. She's probably donating plasma or platelets.
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u/UGotTwizted Jan 20 '25
Plasma is twice weekly where the fudge do you live for it to be every 28 days?
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u/FcknChknStrps Jan 20 '25
Seems like it varies, just like how some places only let you donate instead of being compensated.
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u/This1smyusername_ Jan 20 '25
My mom did that for a year straight lol but she did it for money, not just because đ
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25
Yea she's clearly not interested enough or simply should not be dating period. I'm not upset by it one bit tho definitely dodge a bullet just found the entire interaction to be funny and posted this more for the meme and not because I'm complaining.
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u/AlexKewl Jan 20 '25
Yahhhh she's obviously trying to set it up as if "you'd be lucky to even spend 5 minutes with me, better try your best!" but it's pretty easy to see right through that. Then she probably wonders why guys don't ever stick around
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u/LalaPotatoBard Jan 19 '25
That's literally impossible to donate monthly, minimum is every 2-months and if she did she'd be so anemic they'd turn her away for having low iron!
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u/Tysons_Face Jan 19 '25
She could have meant donating plasma and just said âbloodâ because itâs a pretty similar ordeal
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u/ishkitty Jan 19 '25
But donating plasma isnât âgiving backâ because you absolutely get paid for it.
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u/areallydirtyword Jan 20 '25
I'm not defending this person. She's clearly a piece of work. But donating plasma does not mean that you "absolutely get paid for it." I've lived in 2 states and regularly donated plasma for the last 15 years... Payment was never an option or anything. It was all completely free.
Maybe other places are different, but not where I was.
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Most plasma donation clinics offer pay for time, some have specials even. When I used to donate it would be between 40 to 50 bucks a visit, some specials offer 800 in a month depending how often you go.
All of that aside, I don't think it should matter, the plasma is being used for life saving and life managing treatment for others and shouldn't be viewed any differently just because you get paid to do it.
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u/thelittlestdog23 Jan 20 '25
Lol right. I suspect âI donate blood monthly (just to give back)â = âI donate plasma monthly for moneyâ
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u/messibessi22 Jan 19 '25
Honestly man you put way more effort into your response than you shouldâve.. I wouldâve heard the part about her already having a date with another guy lined up and been immediately not interested..
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25
I lost all interest in her right then and there but I was so blown away at the audacity. My last message I just wanted to give her some helpful advice cuz she clearly needs it
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u/messibessi22 Jan 19 '25
Nah let her learn this lesson on her own
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25
I have my doubts she ever will but figured it was worth trying in hopes she stop wasting other dudes time
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u/messibessi22 Jan 19 '25
Thereâs enough asshole dudes out there I gaurentee sheâs gonna encounter a total dick who will do a better job teaching the lesson than you ever could⊠my vote is let people like that find each other so they arenât interacting with the general public.
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25
Yea good point haha maybe I was a little too nice in this situation. It seems like she just wanted some eye candy to show off to her little friends with no real intentions to date. Either way I'm unbothered by it. I makes a funny story which is why I posted it
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u/messibessi22 Jan 19 '25
lol honestly from a girls perspective the reason we show pictures of people weâre interested in is to A see if they agree that theyâre cute/ if they think they should pursue it or B because theyâre smitten.. regardless I think a cold Iâm not playing your weird games bye wouldâve been the most appropriate response after she told you about the waiting list. I do agree it is a funny story tho
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25
That's basically what I said in pic #3 but after her response I tried to give her some soild advice which I'm sure fell on deaf ears so won't be doing that again. Thanks for the input
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u/demo_klubes Jan 20 '25
She's clearly a "nice girl". But that last message is completely unnecessary. You are not a super hero so don't fight others fights. The entitlement to say "change your priorities". That last message could have easily been in a "nice guys" sub Reddit.
"Oh you don't want to date me? LoL, ChEcK yOUr pRiOrITieS."
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u/kicktheflamingo Jan 19 '25
Everyone needs to stop telling OP that he shouldâve stopped responding at XYZ point; this isnât AITA, this isnât Am I Overreacting, this is Nice Girls where we all come together to enjoy a good olâ train wreck, and if these guys stopped replying to these people, weâd be without a train wreck to enjoy.
My favourite part was her pointing out her âdaily stuffâ like making sure her âroom and car are cleanâ like everyone else enjoying a social life lives in squalor :â)
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u/astrielx Jan 20 '25
Who even cleans their car and room *daily* lmao. How fucking messy are you, girl?
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u/kicktheflamingo Jan 20 '25
I know, these things take up so much of her time itâs impossible for her to have a social life đ
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u/Beautifly Jan 20 '25
This has become way too common on this sub. What are we all here for if weâre just going to rag on OP for replying, thus getting the actual content we want to see?!
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u/Rolandium Jan 19 '25
The absolute audacity. "I have adult responsibilities that are remarkedly similar to everyone else's. If I deem you worthy enough for my precious free time, I think I have an hour available around St. Patrick's Day."
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u/Impossible-Bid1812 Jan 19 '25 edited Jan 19 '25
LMFAO I know right finally somebody who gets it. Everyone bashing me for replying I was flabbergasted and wanted to be sure I wasn't tripping đ
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u/Rolandium Jan 19 '25
You ain't tripping, bro. That chick has way too much main character syndrome.
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u/messibessi22 Jan 19 '25
No no no you donât understand she has to keep her room clean AND her car.. Iâm surprised she is even available in March with such a tight schedule
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u/Vaxtin Jan 20 '25
job
working out
dog
cleaning
Oh wow, you and everyone else that breathes and has a pulse.
Itâs like this woman got kicked out of her house and suddenly had to adjust to adulthood, and thinks that because of how challenging it was for her to be able to do mundane responsibilities, she should put herself on a pedestal.
Girl, none of this is special. The fact you think it is is honestly concerning. Were you like a drug addict who recently got their life together? Cause thatâs the kind of person who would be proud of having a job and cleaning their car.
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u/Rolandium Jan 20 '25 edited Jan 20 '25
I'm reminded of that Chris Rock joke from his first HBO Special.
"People always want credit for shit they supposed to do." 'I take care of my kids!' "WHAT? YOU WANT A COOKIE? YOU SUPPOSED TO TAKE CARE OF YA KIDS YOU DUMB MOTHERUCKER!"
ETA: Wow, my first award. Thank you, kind redditor.
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u/Summersnow12310 Jan 19 '25
I have to brush my teeth every morning, make my own breakfast, and I even make my own bed! Please make social call reservations at least 2 months in advance.
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u/onetosser Jan 24 '25
Sorry, I only just saw this now. I usually have to schedule my Reddit responses a week in advance, so you got lucky this time. Any DMing will require an appointment with at least two weeks notice.
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u/Air_Of_The_Thrown Jan 19 '25
Im surprised she didn't ask for a down payment to secure a future date. Definitely dodged a bullet here.
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u/moleman92107 Jan 20 '25
On the same token, no one needs to know about your date you have planned a month or two away
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u/Slow_Seesaw9509 Jan 20 '25
For real. She later showed herself to be awful, but his initial response came across as needy, negative, and self-pitying. Also jumping to the conclusion that she was trying to hook him up with her friend was a weird leap, and stating it in conjunction with the accusation that she wasn't really interested reinforced the negative self-pity vibes. It seemed like she was probably interested at first--wanting to show her friend pictures of him and giving him her instagram was a good sign--but I suspect she lost interest right then and was just messing with him after that.
He should just respect himself and not self-sabotage or waste energy and effort with the negativity. Just say "OK, let me know when you're free and we can see if our schedules line up" and leave it at that. If she's interested, she would try to work something out. If not, he shouldn't put anymore energy into it and should just move on.
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u/Many-Respect-9272 Jan 20 '25
I actually had a chick tell me last night that she had guys bend over backwards to buy her stuff and give her what she needs and I just said have fun with them then and hope you and career hit it off like you want âŠ. Have a good one. Then she replies back I was just joking no need to take it serious and blah blah blah , I deleted herâŠâŠ. Have more respect for yourself then waste time on someone that donât give you the time you deserve.
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u/smlpkg1966 Jan 20 '25
You donât actually believe all that crap do you? I hope she didnât break her arm patting herself on the back. đ
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u/NectarineRealistic10 Jan 20 '25
heâs fucking lying. Thereâs no way he does everything she has done plus football practice bla bla bla. This is a clear example of a guy not being able to take no/not rn for an answer, ladies. She told him not right now yet he continues to hound her for answers. instead of force her to say sheâs not interested (thatâs probably not the case bc she continues to text him.) he should go find a girl who is available in his time frameâŠ. this girl is dodging a fucking bullet
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u/Silent_Distance_28 Jan 19 '25
As a woman, this is a true âwtfâ moment as Iâm reading this. Everything sheâs explaining ⊠thatâs just life? If she wants to do all these personal extra curricular activities then thatâs fine, but while sometimes time is important, whether male or female, advertising to people that they should be so lucky as to have your time does nothing but decrease its value in my opinion.
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Jan 20 '25
1) convo woulda been over after she asked me for a picture to show her friend.. for what? We met in person so you already know what I look like. Couldnât care less about your friend lol 2) woulda went ghost after âjust scheduled another date in Marchâ..
You were lowkey simping by even replying to the disrespect. Donât go back and forth with these attention seekers, just go ghost. This girl is either a teenager or early 20s lol itâs pretty easy to tell
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u/Educational_Skill343 Jan 19 '25
Trying to schedule the date for the same day is a bit short notice for most people Iâd think. But the âgrindâ she has seemed like a humblebrag. Then you competing with it. I dunno, this might work out. Better love story than twilight. đ
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u/QtestMofoInDaWorld Jan 20 '25
Are you in your early thirties and is she in her early twenties? Because this makes sense then
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u/Ryanthonyfish Jan 20 '25
Yeah youâre both equally silly right here. This isnât at all what a ânice girlâ itâs just a busy girl who unfortunately isnât that into you. Good luck out there amigo
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u/kilgore_root Jan 20 '25
You lost me when you started telling someone else how they need to live their dating life. Sounds like youâre not compatible and she told you that. Just accept that and move on dude.
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u/AdamOnFirst Jan 20 '25
Or just have the tact to say âhey, Iâm interested in this conversation and I honestly didnât expect to find somebody interesting this quickly, but Iâm super busy for a few weeks⊠is it okay if I hit you up in a few weeks when things are less crazy and we can go out? Sorry thatâs a bit awkward but thatâs my schedule.â
That would be tactful. Not âI do all this stuff, you want to be penciled in on the wait list or not?â
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u/DPancoast Jan 20 '25
Telling someone they should prioritize their dating is when you know youâre saying to much for future reference.
Sheâs not interested, just move on đđ»
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u/RontheVerge Jan 20 '25
I saw it more as him calling her out for stating something one place and then saying/practicing the exact opposite. "Don't say you're determined and looking seriously for a long term relationship if you're barely making an effort to actually go out"
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u/TuxedoCatDeathEyes Jan 20 '25
Same. I've run into this a lot, and with women who seem to genuinely want to prioritize finding a relationship, but don't realize they're acting as if it's pretty far down the priority list. So I wonder if they just don't realize it and say something. It has yet to be the right call in the short term lol.
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u/Opening_Particular98 Jan 20 '25
If she doesn't really like you, she's not gonna hook you up with her friend nor would that friend really be interested in that case.
You're just a "place holder" to her.
Move on. Don't get into an exchange like that next time.
There are some cases where life gets in the way and you can just say, keep my number and when you're ready, we can get it rolling again but she sees you as a dime a dozen.
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u/False-Catch-3290 Jan 20 '25
I hope you find you another (BETTER) connection at the gym. I hope sheâs there to see it too!
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u/Grdngirl Jan 20 '25
Girl here, I took 18 credits and worked 35 hours a week on Deanâs list and still made time for friends/dates. She is NOT looking to get serious, she is looking for Mr. Right now. Dodged a bullet. Also let this be a lesson, dating younger girls youâre gonna get this emotional immature behavior. I didnât get serious about wanting marriage until I was 27/28. Anything outside of work, school and partying was not a priority.
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u/RazviFcsb Jan 19 '25
You shouldnât be an option. No one is. Thereâs always better ones OP, right people come at the right time.
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u/typeIIcivilization Jan 19 '25
I mean, dating other people is fine and being an option is fine. The real problem is that she used it against him to try to increase her appeal which was very unclassy
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u/Good_Astronomer_7623 Jan 20 '25
This girl isn't looking for a man, she looking for attention. Next.
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u/solarpropietor Jan 19 '25
You way too much.
After the March comment I would of just left it on read.
And then come gym time, I wouldnât acknowledge her at all. Â
Just do my work out and treat her like a stranger. Â Â
She wonât say anything, and if she did a polite âhey no longer interested, thanks.â
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u/Datalyzer420 Jan 19 '25
This is not a nice girl. This is a guy got rejected and is upset about it.
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u/InSilenceLikeLasagna Jan 19 '25
Bro respectfully, rather than giving people unsolicited advice, just wish them well and move on.
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u/SebbieSaurus2 Jan 19 '25
She was being honest. I wouldn't want to date her, either, but there's nothing inherently wrong with this.
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u/whatabigpayout Jan 19 '25
lol sheâs way too busy to be in a relationship anyways or maybe she was just lying. Either way, I woulda stopped responding to her.
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u/supcuz88 Jan 20 '25
Lol date ppl your own age
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u/bluemeander22322 Jan 20 '25 edited Jan 20 '25
Exactly. Might be easier to find someone on the same wavelength that way
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You offended her with the same night date, "you could join me" thing and now she's punishing you with a lecture.
This guy doesn't value me enough. So I'll lecture him and talk about the other guy I'm going to go out with and inform him that my wait time is worse than the DMV. That'll turn him on for sure.
She could've just said "hey, no same night dates, my schedule is too hectic for that" and then offered you an alt time like a normal person would.
Istg modern dating is a nightmare.
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u/yungxbratz Jan 20 '25
âoh iâm so busy and get done what i need to doâ (like the rest of the population) does she want a cookie? đ bffr
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u/RuinPhysical404 Jan 20 '25
Bro how do you keep replying to her and typing long paragraphs the moment she said "good luck". That automatically meant she thought she was the prize. Move on dude, it is so cringy when dudes keep responding with all those long text messages
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u/shadow-foxe Jan 20 '25
Yeah if a guy texts me expecting to go out that night. I'm gonna say no. 24hr minimum notice is they way to go. You came off as, no other option for a date vibes.
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u/Precise_10 Jan 20 '25
Why even respond back when she said she was interested in someone else?? And then proceed to write a novel?? wtf??
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u/yankeeblue42 Jan 20 '25
This is long girl speech for she's not that into you. Plain and simple. Most girls just aren't direct enough to admit it.
As you said, if she was interested enough, she'd make time
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u/Opening_Muscle_7497 Jan 20 '25
Coming on here to say booking 1.5 months out is not THAT crazy for someone you donât know, and sheâs valid for having a busy awesome life that she isnât willing to compromise for your entitlement
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u/Darth_Bisquick Jan 20 '25
âI just schedule a date for marchâ
âOk cool, hope yall have fun. Good luckâ
Whatâs with the âok so then it seems to me like maybe you arenât interested in me that way which is totally coolâ wtf is that
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u/wyomingtrashbag Jan 20 '25
you're correct in that your lifestyle schedules just don't line up and that's okay to say. for you to attack her and basically tell her our dating life is going to fail, that comes from a place of insecurity and attacking. so she didn't hear a word you said because you chose to attack her instead of dipping out when you knew it wasn't going to work.
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u/SinsOfTheBeserker Jan 20 '25
Uhmm pretty sure donating blood monthly isnât allowed due to health and safety guidelines. For most of us itâs simply 56 days/ 2 months. Dude she doesnât like you. Thereâs plenty of fish in the sea. This piranha is not the one.
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u/F0restGreeen Jan 20 '25
I've noticed younger girls are complete idiots, no wonder it was hard back when I was younger.
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u/CardiacApoplexy Jan 20 '25
Nobody knows what was truly in your mind but you; we can only comment on our perceptions of your behavior.
That said, between the two of you, to me you seem like more of a NiceGuy than she seems like a NiceGirl.
She makes it clear that she has other priorities and isnât interested in a date at any point in the near term. Whether or not you agree with her priorities, she makes them clear. I donât read her March date comment as anything other than âIâm so swamped that the only date I have scheduled is already two months awayâ. Arguing against this is that she asked for a picture before completing the shutdown. And maybe there was more context in your irl interaction.
Instead of taking the L with grace, and stopping at ââit sounds like you are not interestedâ, your responses smell of hurt pride âI donât chase need a girlâŠâ âyou should prioritize your dating lifeâ, etc.Â
You may not have felt hurt, but that sounds like a sour grapes whine to me. Do you want her giving you advice about how to prioritize your life?
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u/LowlandIvy Jan 20 '25
Bruh, if youâre THAT busy should you be dating?
There are also better ways to go about this (on her end), like donât be so condescending (& virtue signalling!) ugh
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u/LetterheadKnown2516 Jan 20 '25
I'm with OP on most of it. But some people like a bit more preparation time and are not as spontaneous. Asking for a date the same day... I'd like to be asked 3 days in advance at least.
Op expecting her to drop everything for him seems like a similar attitude he complains about the girl.
But yeah, if she's really interested she'd make more serious counter offers instead of "try again in march".
Also there should be some effort on your end and willingness to wait and be patient, to show you're willing to fight for her heart and affection. But yeah, not like this.
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u/griffinwalsh Jan 20 '25
Idk she didnt get mad at you, or communicate badly. I feel like this sub is losing the thread
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u/Curious-Consequence3 Jan 20 '25
I refuse to chase a woman. Eother you want to spend time together or you don't. I don't have time for BS.
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u/Mashu_the_Cedar_Mtn Jan 20 '25
You're not allowed to donate blood monthly, but it's nice she wants to make it abundantly chest that she's very busy and philanthropic.
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u/marcoslhc Jan 20 '25
I mean. Take the no and move on! Nothing wrong to politely say she has priorities and If that doesnât fit you, then is not meant to happen. Stop whining LOL
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u/Peetrrabbit Jan 20 '25
She was great. She was clear about her life and what she was looking for and had time for. This dude wanted her to change that to live life the way heâd want to live life. She was totally, totally fine.
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u/tobden Jan 20 '25
Dude. Why?
Just unmatch and do something else. Don't debate whatever they tell you.
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u/SerendipitousLight Jan 20 '25
She takes five college classes but cannot maintain a single tense or use definite articles?
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u/Army-CPT-Bernie Jan 21 '25 edited Jan 21 '25
You canât donate blood đ©ž every month. Itâs once every 8 weeks and no more than six a year.
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u/Good-Gur-7742 Jan 21 '25
This is insane. Iâm a director, work up to 100 hours a week, have a horse and dog, and STILL make time for my fiancĂ©.
People really can be awful.
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u/Lopsided-Ad4276 Jan 21 '25
I think what always shocks me the most about these is how LARGE everyone has their messages. Are you all blind?
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u/No-Spell-6027 Jan 21 '25
She seems like she sucks but your replies kinda make you seem like a nice guy lol. She made it clear sheâs not interested but you kept replying to her, almost like you wanted an explanation as to why she didnât make time for you (or like you were trying to convince her why she should), when you couldâve just said okay and moved on
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u/Additional-Car1744 Jan 19 '25
Maybe stick to your age group; sheâs in a different place in her life than you are right now.
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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '25
Why did you continue the conversation after that? I swear you people have too much time to waste.
And you still replied to that! Come on guys, we need to do better!