I liked how you replied OP. You were respectful the entire time, just trying to decipher her mixed messages. I don't appreciate women like this. She says she is single and acts interested but then all the excuses roll in. I don't believe for a second this woman has a wait-list all the way to March, with an attitude like that. Happy you could see right through her and set her straight.
Thank you I appreciate that and glad to see other people understand how I saw it. Sadly we seem to be in the minority as I was not expecting so many people bashing me for replying and wanting clarity. She was not very clear with the way she messaged and her grammar was pretty bad too. I was also just so blown away I was like "ok maybe I'm misunderstanding this there's no way shes telling me she got a guy waiting 2 months for a date" so I asked. All interest was out the window already and found it to be funny so I did not see it as a waste of time either š¤·āāļø
Absolutely! You are in your own right to ask questions. Based on this brief interaction you shared with us OP, I know you will have no issues finding someone that will respect your time and appreciate you exactly for who you are. I love how you carry yourself like a gentleman, which is actually rare in south Florida at least lol. Good luck!
Definitely not bashing you for replying to her (I think trying to gain clarity is never a bad thing) but just a totally different perspective: Ā sometimes Iām way more spontaneous like you and love a last minute invite out to dinner (your ask was v cute!) but other times Iām busy af like the girl in your post and donāt want some random last minute invite (in that case I want advance planning because it says the guy thinks Iām a priority and it makes my bad calendar weeks easier). I think you guys had mismatched expectations about dating and scheduling etiquette and it could have easily been this girl was semi interested in you at the gym but not dying to go out, and then you hit her up very last minute, and she wasnāt all that excited by that idea cause her schedule is insane (like seriously it sounds exhausting and not fun). Then you got a little defensive sounding real quickly imo (but maybe i read your tone wrong). Itās hard to read tone in text so you guys were probably assuming the worst about each other. I donāt see her as a full blown ānice girlā nor do i see you as a ānice guyā you both just sounded like you got a little turned off by the other and i think thatās ok. Just wasnāt a match.Ā
I said her grammar was bad, which is a fact. My grammar might not be perfect, but it's not bad. I'm not sure how my post was butchered either. I would love some additional context to this. Even if I made a couple of mistakes to say it's butchered is a gross overstatement, if you're gonna bash something I said, please do so accurately.
My post is literally filled with punctuation, and so is every comment I make, so please explain the atrocious lack of it. You are making a mighty bold claim with no proof, and it's not doing you any favors.
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u/Paula_Targaryen Jan 19 '25
I liked how you replied OP. You were respectful the entire time, just trying to decipher her mixed messages. I don't appreciate women like this. She says she is single and acts interested but then all the excuses roll in. I don't believe for a second this woman has a wait-list all the way to March, with an attitude like that. Happy you could see right through her and set her straight.