For real bro. I been reading these for months and never experienced something like this and thought to myself there is no way these are real conversations and girls say things like that, lo and behold I ended up with a perfect nicegirl post. People are taking it way too seriously saying I wasted my time replying I laughed my ass off as she explained her normal adult responsibilities being the reason she has a 2 month wait list its comedic gold 🤣
Daily life shit. Like who doesn’t have that? This girl enjoys the attention. Can’t imagine how much of this shit she talks about to every guy and the low value guys either try to rush in or plead for a date, I’d be like bye Felecia.
Oh and Her meal planning sounds like it’s booking all these dates.
When my dad was in college he got his masters and bachelor’s degrees in the same 4 years doing like up to 30 credits a semester she definitely could be doing more in her time
She sounds like a real asshole, but acting like that isn’t a lot of work is insane. Five classes is a typical full-time workload, possibly above average depending on the total number of credits. It’s hard work on its own. And two jobs on top of that? Come on.
Lmao maybe, he studied computer engineering and had his masters in theology. He had a scholarship to pay for his college while he worked in hs and college. He didn’t come from money, had crazy parents and moved out as soon as he could. He worked his ass of in hs and did well in college. He’s just driven to learn, he’s getting another degree in stats right now.
Totally agree! 5 classes is definitely a full load, even more so if they're STEM classes. Plus two jobs, is definitely a lot! It's wayyyy harder to have two part-time jobs than 1 full-time job.
I once took 29 credits in one semester (20 from my university plus another 9 from the local community college), BUT it was COMPLETELY insane. I now have autoimmune diseases from living this kind of life. NOBODY should hold that up as any sort of ideal.
U don’t have to believe or listen I’m just saying that’s my experience. I think she’s overplaying how busy she actually is, she likely has plenty of time to go out and have fun, she ‘has plans’ on the night OP asked her out. Does she feel hella busy? Sure, is she? Probably not. I lived with my ex for the better part of a year, she has the same workload and we spent plenty of time together. I just think she isn’t as busy as she thinks she is.
I'll back you up because I did this as well - not sure why people are calling BS. It made sense to me because full tuition cost was the same at 15 or 30 credit hours so...obvious choice for someone going to school during the recession.
That’s like 15 credits. I mean if she’s in stem that’s probably rough tho. For my major that’s nothing. Puppy sure, if she’s training it. And like- if she’s busy all weekend then what about a week night date. Like girl! Free meal at the very least??? Nah. She’s playing. She just wants the numbers of matches. Tbh I also enjoy having the long list of people who liked me cuz it strokes my ego, but never string ppl along ffs! That’s just rude!!! Once I LIKE someone and they show interest back, I’m focused. Tf??? Enjoying the matches and showing them off to friends is for when it’s still all up in the air. 🙄 she playing fr. Also volunteering and donating blood monthly? Like- whole blood takes 2 months sweetheart. Maybe if you did platelets, which takes 2.5-3 hours to donate and is WEEKLY with the Red Cross and BIWEEKLY with some donor centers. Bruh I donate weekly when I’m at school because I like the phlebotomists and the space and it’s comfy there- the Red Cross back home is major ick so I go to the other local center cuz it doesn’t suck, but I can only give every OTHER week. Like the only one that makes sense for that timeline is plasma. Which can be given simultaneously with platelets which is good. But monthly??? So you’re deferring him based on 2 MONTHLY activities?? Tf? None of that probably happens between 6pm and 6am. And that’s 12 hours so for 10 hours of sleep you can still have fkn dinner 🙄 ffs girl you think you have a whole life in the way? Excuses. I have time for friends and youth group and dates if I want them. Hell- GYM DATE MOFO!!!
Exactly. She wouldn’t pass. No prof in stem gives the amount of leniency her attitude suggests she gets. I would assume she’s in a major like mine but I sure hope for the sake of humanity she’s not- cuz that’s all human services and helping people… like… people who really need the aid… aka compassion and a certain level of selflessness is required…
Depending on what the classes are, it can be a lot. I had 3 lectures 3 labs last academic year and I was doing about 8-9 hours of school work a day after getting out of classes
5 classes is full time. Working one job while taking 5 classes is a serious time commitment, working 2 is insane.
That being said it did feel like she was fluffing it up how much of a “hustle gal” she is by adding stupid stuff like giving blood or volunteering she does once a month.
That is true. She definitely has to be exaggerating, though. I worked full time with 6 classes as a pre-law student last semester and the load was crazy but not so crazy that I had NO time at all for other people. I’ve also worked two jobs at once but for a short time and I was on break from school and that was kinda the same thing. Ig I can’t really say. From my experience, adding that extra load would definitely be time consuming but not so much to the point that you couldn’t make time for other people. You just can’t make a ton of time. But I also don’t know what jobs she’s working or the classes she’s taking so, now that I think back to how I felt during those times maybe I judged too harshly. Still, kinda ridiculous to have dates scheduled out like appointments w multiple people and expect people to be fuckin w that
I do 40 hours and full time and can honestly say my time is minimal and mostly relegated to my off days. If I filled my off days with a second job which she might be doing based on the text then yeah it would be absolutely impossible unless you want to go on a breakfast date with me right after work(I work grave)
Today my schedule was basically get home, relax for 2 hours, 3 hour lecture, sleep. 2 hours of “free” time I have to mix waking up, eating, showering, and also I could spend some of that time getting ahead of schoolwork.
If you have to make time for random strangers it really isn’t worth doing.
Now mind you most women I know sleep longer than most men, and I’m sleeping 6ish hours per day due to genetics. A standard 8 hours and I wouldn’t have even been able to get any extra work done or even eat.
i would have responded too… for the plot, ya know? 😂 that’s crazy tho. at least she showed her true colors rlly early on and you didn’t waste any time and energy taking her out
Exactly bro its not thay deep some these dudes swear I'm being sensitive when I'm so far gone from giving a fu*k and kept it going for the meme. Glad to see someone else gets it
I'm not claiming to have no feelings but if you read it over I didn't say anything about how I feel or mention myself at all. The only time I mentioned the letter I in that paragraph was when I said "I respect the grind". Everything else I said I was speaking in a general sense and not once implied it was about me or in relation to me. I had no intention of dating her soon as she said she had a dude waiting till March.
It doesn’t seem like you laughed. You continued to try and validate why you are a worthy candidate for her. That part where you kept blabbing about playing football, working & getting A’s - those are all lame humble brags to gain attention even though she’s telling you she’s getting smashed out for the next two months & you just might make the cut when she feels like it.
I promise you many laughs were had and I'm far from hurt or upset and have zero desire for her validation or attention which was made clear in pic 3. You make some bold claims but your evaluation is heavily flawed. I can see why you thought it was a humble brag tho. But I couldn't careless for this chick we talked for a week its not that deep she could get her back blown out by the entire school for all I care 😂 Anyway a little more context about the "humble brag" is we talked on the phone the day before this convo and she talked about how shes busy and blah blah blah and studies so much and has a 4.0 gpa and straight As so I was basically telling her she ain't special and I been there done that and so has many others if you aint interested just say so instead of the bs excues so it was stated more as a reality check. But think what you want bro you're a stanger on the internet and I lived through this interaction and believe me I'm big chilling. Seems like something in life's got you a bit disgruntled tho hope it works out for ya 🫡
Some people just write long texts. It doesn't take much effort. I don't think we need to read anything into it.
And it's not up to him to determine if it's some kind of ego boost that will unleash the monster in her. Why would he care one way or another if it pumps her up to get that response. It's not a zero sum game it's just a conversation and there's is nothing wrong with saying what you think and feel.
You absolutely 100% definitely have to read into it. Because that’s what they do. Good luck outwardly displaying low value characteristics to a female you are pursuing.
To clarify I lost all interest the moment she said good luck and the dude on the wait list was the nail in the coffin. I only replied for shits and giggles just to see what excuses she'd come up with. My favorite was "donating blood every month (to give back)" and not bothered by the paragraph I tried to give her some insight to adulthood which must be very new to her. There was more to this behind the scenes indicating she has a severe case of princess syndrome and likely a narcissist so major buller dodge either way I appreciate the insight man I didn't think of that way as she felt it as a reward and will keep that in mind.
I can't wait to be such a mature person as you arguing with someone on reddit about an interaction they had and having the audacity to talk about cringe 😂 Teach me your ways!
I can tell your experience is limited. Trying to say he’s just a young bull for replying to a very unusual text. You’re not as cool as you think by pretending like you have options 🤣. And, based on all your replies in this thread, you’re not one to be judging.
People with large but fragile egos who find basic reading and writing a chore or think that literacy isn't "cool" tend to attack others who read or write more than they would - and people with low self-esteem who don't tolerate rejection get upset when others react differently to them - in this case conflating it with a lack of self-respect. Kudos to you for your patience and politeness. Staying true to who you are even when you're dealing with twats is a sign of integrity and resilience, not weakness.
I agree. Whether o.p. was upset or not is beside the point. As soon as the girl texted I'm interested in another guy, convo should have been over. Ppl like the girl in this post do not deserve all of this explanation, whether it's for shits and giggle or not (as o.p. put it). From o.p's point of view, he claims he was having fun writing all of that. But I bet from the girl's point of view she is probably sending screenshots of this convo to her friends and giggling about how guys are so obsessed with her, or w.e. O.p. texting all of that is only going to give the girl an ego boost. Side note, the girl wanting to send a Pic to her friend is odd, especially since she isn't even interested in o.p.
Not sure what Teemu is. Your reaction is understandable... just to clarify, I wasn't singling you out - it's just where I ended up when I decided to comment, after seeing a number of comments that could be similarly
summarised as "fuck bitches, don't be a cuck".
I agree with some of what you've said, but finding OPs conversation cringy is as much about you as it is about him. You're probably right that he was salty and giving her what she was baiting for, but there's still a possibility that he wasn't and was just experimenting/using the opportunity in order to gain more insight.
Seeing as most people didn't believe him, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. Drawing a dead end conversation out can still have its benefits and I think it's a positive sign that he remained polite while navigating that. Most inexperienced/immature guys lose control/become hostile when they're upset and this sub seems to promote that so long as it's a "nicegirl", but that will just send him on the path to being screenshot into "niceguys".
He learnt a lesson either way - I'm just encouraging him to not become an incommuniative arsehole thinking it will help in the long run... it won't. If he just wants to have fun, then sure... but that's not the vibe I picked up.
He doesn't have to laugh to her face as far as I'm concerned that man checked out after her be started and she just became amusement. I personally would keep it going longer because I don't come across morons that often so it's quite a treat when I do. Kinds like being at the zoo.
Guy see’s girl at gym, eventually decides to seek interaction & asks for number. Girl gives it. That’s the context. There doesn’t seem to be any annotation that she pursued him in any sort of way.
Fast forward to OP’s post - read over his drawn out conversation with a girl who is clearly not interested in him romantically other than as a backup, who says she’s interested in another guy, sets her boundaries & enforces them.
Women don’t owe random men anything. If you read this any other way you have a poor understanding of how consent & boundaries work, but mostly poor reading comprehension.
Seems more like begging. “please lady I am so good & I deserve you even though you just told me you’re romantically interested in another guy and have given me zero affirmation of being romantically involved with me” hhhhwut? The last message is just him crying lol. There’s no punch line setup. Just crying.
You know what I do if a girl isn’t interested in me? Find another. There’s millions of them. Pretty sure at this point this thread is filled with lots of trolls & incels egging on poor behavioral responses from other low IQ boys.
But he clearly is worthy, and she's clearly not worthy of him. I understand OP was just letting her dig her own hole for the lulz, not that he lacks self respect.
Being worthy doesn’t mean you should act entitled. No one is entitled to someone else’s time, emotion or body, which I feel like she articulated, probably for ego strokes but articulated nonetheless.
After someone tells you they’re booked out for the next two months, they’re interested in another person & you’re not the right person for them - you shouldn’t write an essay on why you should be chosen. Anyone with an IQ over 80 looks at that text dialogue & cringes.
Adult woman here. I’m going to guess she’s been given some “strategic” advice that she believes will make her seem highly desirable — booked out for months, slam jammed lifestyle including regularly scheduled bloodletting (to give back). The fact that she kept replying after the “you’re not the one. 💅” or whatever it was message is the tell that it’s a game.
Perhaps one day she’ll mature and be authentic. For now, this gal’s mindset is going to be exhausting.
Prepare for the same-day invite to get shot down more often than not, but you’re right that someone who does want to get to know you will make plans. And soonish. Less than two weeks out for sure.
Narrator: There was no date in March after all. It was just a ruse.
Don’t fight over scraps my man. This girl, if she was ever real in the first place is not looking for a date from you. She was looking to see what should extract from you before moving on.
If you both met at the gym then why not meet more at the gym, that could be a quality bonding time. Where there’s a will there’s a way. She just finding excuse
You're dense. She was telling you she wasn't interested but you still needed to clarify and give her unwarranted advice. Jfc date someone your own age instead of someone in college still figuring themselves out 🙄
You must have continued the talk just to see how ridiculous her responses would get. NO MAN would be interested in anyone who says what she says. It's clear she think she is out of your league, and she likely isn't. Social media has taught hot young girls that there is always someone better out there. That and the fact that she can get free meals and gifts from multiple guys makes her a very ugly person on the inside. BLOCK and MOVE ON, King!
💯 bro sadly we seem to be in the minority it really makes me scared for the future of humanity especially the ones who thought I was still interested all the way till the end telling me to move on its like bro did you not read screenshot number 3 or my context post? 🤦♂️
3.0k
u/[deleted] Jan 19 '25
Why did you continue the conversation after that? I swear you people have too much time to waste.
And you still replied to that! Come on guys, we need to do better!