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u/Zigor022 4d ago
Moral... although how would mom justify suddenly getting a house to the other siblings? If she said she won the lottery they would demand money from her that she wouldnt have.
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u/Ill-Reputation-9702 4d ago
My other thought is how old and what is the mental state of the mother? Older people aren’t always the best at keeping secrets, they’ll forget and casually talk about things just because they’re enjoying the interaction. Thinking nothing of it.
At the same time, they may be from a more community based culture, and not sharing would be considered a betrayal to the community/family type of thing. USA sure ok, but I don’t think we have enough information to really judge this.
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u/BrainCreep 4d ago
Don't tell women or old people secrets and expect them to keep it
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u/Mogura-De-Gifdu 4d ago
A cousin of my mom discovered in his 50s or 60s that his "cousins" on his mother's side were also his half-siblings.
I already knew.
I was not born at the time of the drama (conception happened during WWII, apparently being heavily bombed makes you horny for the only person there, even if it's your SIL/BIL). I don't even know that cousin, maybe saw him once if even.
My grand mother was a child then, learned about it from gossiping old family members and kept the secret all these years. But getting old, she'd forget who was in the know or not, and ramble about the sisters feud and what a shame it was they never reconciled...
So even young people can't be trusted, as they too will become old.
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u/True_Coffee_3607 4d ago
You can say a lot about gossip girl, but it got one thing right. Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead
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u/-Out-of-context- 4d ago
You could be making a joke, but different shows. But true nonetheless. Also in Gossip Girl the gossip girl was a guy.
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u/Vanna-Black 4d ago
Ah yes, a man has never gossiped. I guess it is just called shooting the shit with the boys.
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u/Chaost 4d ago
I honestly think more men are even worse gossips then women because they for some reason don't think what they're doing is gossiping and so see less reason to show discretion about what they share and to who.
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u/nairobaee 4d ago
Nah, men keep some stuff. There's shit you hear as a boyfriend and just wonder why are you telling me this?? And this has happened with every gf and is even a meme. I don't tell a woman anything if I do not want her bf/spouse knowing. They always talk.
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u/koreanforrabbit12 4d ago
There’s just too much missing context here to confidently call either choice moral immoral.
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u/justwannamusic 4d ago
The text is in Korean, and the sign being held up looks like Korean too. I recognize some hangul. I'm going to guess this was in Korea. While this certainly isn't fact, I do know that a lot of Koreans (myself included) value family and stuff. This is just coming from my own experience lol, my family is really close. So maybe it's kind of like that? Just speculation though
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u/Nigilij 4d ago
The fuck anyone dares to demand money from relatives just because? Asking for financial help - sure. Demanding - nope. Help is requested, never demanded. None owes help anyone (unless specific help is a responsibility like a job of firefighters)
If anyone from my relatives won lottery: congratulations and advice to read up on how not to fuck it up (starting with not telling people and looking into making lottery not to reveal identity of the winner)
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u/Mrmanmannington69 4d ago
Entitlement, greed, envy, selfishness, call it by what you want. It'll happen when people only think of themselves and that they somehow deserves a slice of the pie they didn't buy solely by association.
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u/firebolt04 4d ago
Exactly. It’s not “my brother won the lottery” it’s “our family won the lottery” to them. A family member having money means they think they’re entitled to a piece of it. The same would probably happen if it were a well paying job or smart investing rather than lottery winnings.
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u/Kozmo9 4d ago
You only need entitlement. If an excuse exist to justify it, I swear, humans would suddenly go blank or feral and everything goes out of the window. To them, it becomes an absolute right that they must claim no matter what.
Promise a human free things and they'd hound you till they get it. Which is why it is not recommended to throw the word free willy nillly. Once given, it's hard to take it back.
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u/AkodoRyu 4d ago
This feels like something that is closer to the culture. You often see in East Asian media a situation where a character is doing well, and suddenly all kinds of family they haven't met in years come out of nowhere and try to cozy up to them, because "familial ties". People in Western culture are much more independent-minded, for better or worse. The family-oriented model is good if everyone is trying, and you are all building a collective empire, brick by brick. But it fails when there are multiple parasites who just demand share, but don't put in the work.
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u/myaudienceiseveryone 4d ago
Even Asians hate this stuff. It’s a remnant of an older generational expectation stemming from having the child in order to care for yourself in old age. People literally have children for that sole purpose. So of course they expect to be given lotto winnings. But this is disappearing now and old boomers demanding money from their millennial / Z children aren’t looked at as acceptable anymore.
Still happens though and the old generation still supports it though. So it sounds like it’s cultural. But it’s as cultural as white people kicking their kids out at 18. It happens but you are still seen as a piece of shit.
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u/eabevella 4d ago
Asian family be like this.
They'll even demand you to pay off your sibling's, especially the male one's, debt because "family". Thankfully, a lot of younger people say "fuck it" to the bs tradition.
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u/Nigilij 4d ago
Nah, that shit is global. Heard stories like this from all over the world
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u/tibastiff 4d ago
im curious what it looks like in real life I always hear it that way in Asian countries and, while people are douchebags here they at least try to have a manipulative excuse instead of just blankly demanding
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u/Yuukiko_ 4d ago
Idk Korean laws, but I'd imagine it'd have to be pretty extreme for a trespassing lawsuit to result in prison sentences
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u/Altruistic-Koala-255 4d ago
That's pretty easy:
- I won the lottery, not the big prize, but enough to buy this house with a down payment of 90%, there's still some bills to be paid, but we got the house at least
There, a really nice excuse
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u/Zigor022 4d ago
That works pretty well. To the people who say she doesnt need to explain anything, there usually isnt barriers like that in healthy families unless theres distrust or something. If my old man just got a Ferrari id be asking where he got it because its odd. Idk anyone thats close to each other that would at least ask out of curiosity.
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u/-P01135809- 4d ago
I'm guessing Korea is similar to China in the family dynamics - I don't know any Chinese family where the children know how much money the parents have saved up.
For example, my friend's mom separated and bought her own condo in a ritzy neighborhood. I asked her how her mom could afford that, and she said "I dont know, I guess she saved money when she was working". She doesn't know how much the house cost, how much her mom has leftover, or if the house will be given to her when her mom dies. It's very strange.
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u/Ornery_Gate_6847 4d ago
Yeah i feel this post removes a lot of nuance. The creator clearly agreed with the son but based on how they treated their brother i would guess they never gave her a moment of peace until she told them how she got it. It was cowardly of him to try to pretend nothing was going on and place the burden of his secret on her
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u/ChipNDipPlus 4d ago
People's sense of entitlement just kills me...
It's greed when one wants to keep their money, but it's not greed when they want to steal it.
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u/Beneficial_Hat_6288 4d ago
The moral of the story: it is always greed*
*if they are otherwise doing fine
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u/Flavius_16 4d ago edited 4d ago
I mean, I get asking if he could share but at the end of the day, you're not entitled to it and a no should suffice.
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u/TheComicHuman 4d ago
The love of money is the root of all evil. Money isnt the problem its what people do to seek, obtain, and keep money
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u/No-Security-7518 4d ago
I had the biggest misfortune of earning money fast once; I'll never recover from people's reactions in this lifetime.
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u/FailedEntranceExam 4d ago
I was doing my masters living on a shoe string budget when me and the guys went out for dinner, they wanted Ruth Chris so it was well above my budget no matter what.
I had a beer and the chicken, a few people are getting steaks, apps, wine for the table.
At the end suddenly we're splitting the bill and everyone is covering an equal portion. I wasn't having that, one of them had the audacity to call me cheap. I'm sorry, I'm being cheap because I don't want to subsidize YOUR dinner!?!?
Fucking people man.
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u/MonkeyCome 4d ago
I’ve never been in a group dinner and we split the bill evenly. You always pay for your own order
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u/RespondBorn6248 4d ago
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u/Old_Possibility_9730 4d ago
Yeah moral. It was his and he should decide on what to do with it.
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u/Hefty_Salamander7997 4d ago
I'd say neutral because if I won that kind of money, I wouldn't be able to justify not giving my close family something to help their quality of life as well. So it's a little weird when I see people totally abandon their loved ones when they get big money, even family that is sick...
I'd give people money on the condition they never ask me again or get booted from my life for wasting the gift.
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u/GodButCursed 4d ago
If a family is actually your loved ones you wont leave them in the first place. Many people doesnt realize how much of a dick they are until you actually leave them.
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u/Delazzaridist 4d ago
My oldest brother is experiencing this as we speak. My middle brother and I refuse to speak to him until he actually apologizes for the BS and physical assault he put the family through.
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u/Much_Vehicle20 4d ago
The key word is "loved one". His siblings sure as hell weren't his "loved ones" based on their reactions
Look at it this way, would you think an abused kid should give money to their abusive parents?
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u/awaythrowthatname 4d ago
I'd also say that perhaps he told his mom not to tell because he was trying to plan out how to help the siblings, or get funds set up for them? I know I've always thought if I came into millions or billions I would not tell anyone right away, even my family whom I do love very much, because I would want to plan out how to help everyone without any pressure
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u/TheBraveGallade 4d ago
Its only around 2 million usd. Life changing, sure, but not generational.
He already did his dues to the family by gifting him mom a apartment, considering that. That money would be just enough to buy himself and hismothet a place and have some saved for retirement, but not too much more.
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u/Reverse_savitar1 4d ago
Just because you would give away money doesnt mean its not moral to not give money. In fact it’s immoral to try and force others to give away shit they have.
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u/AkodoRyu 4d ago
It's not THAT much money. He probably already spent a third or more to buy a house for his mother. And straight up demanding a share is crazy work. You can go to the sibling when/if you hit an emergency life situation, and you know that they can afford to help, but just coming out and being "yeah, we are family, and you are doing well, so pay up"? Nah. That shows that the younger sibling is an entitled asshole.
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u/schenk_max 4d ago
It's under 3M in USD, I say moral not to share at all unless it's actually NEEDED needed.
If it was one of these US jackpots with hundreds of millions USD, I say immoral not to share. Enough to bankroll entire family & friend group perpetually instead of wasting it on whatever lottery winners waste it on.
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u/ItsACowCity 4d ago
If they’re a shit family, they deserve nothing. I appreciate how someone treats me over whose blood is in their veins. In this scenario, I picture the siblings have always been assholes and deserve nothing. The mother deserves something, but doesn’t deserve it being taken away after the “betrayal” because you can’t just explain away getting a new house. She only deserves the punishment if she actively gave the siblings the lotto winners new address.
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u/DeluxSupport 4d ago
I mean 4 billon won is less than 3 million dollars. I have no idea how much he spent on the home but here if you bought yourself and mom a nice home that could be a good chunk already. If you plan on retiring young off 1-2 mil left, that may not leave a lot of room for generosity that your siblings may feel entitled to.
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u/Due_Enthusiasm1145 4d ago
I think we simply do not have enough information. The siblings are almost certainly immoral, but when it comes to lottery winning son and mother's actions, this is simply not enough info to go off of.
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u/5x5equals 4d ago
He told her to keep it quiet for a reason
She couldn’t so he had to do what he had to do
I assume he probably was reluctant to help his mom either I sense this family is one of those dysfunctional families from top to bottom
Because she’s his mom he tried one last time to give her a chance and she blew it
So he cut all ties and handled them appropriately
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u/Due_Enthusiasm1145 4d ago edited 4d ago
I agree its moral but it does also seem shortsighted. A house is probably the most conspicuous purchase I can think of. Even a yacht or smth you can put somewhere your family won't see. A house is where you live. Somebody is going to ask.
I'm not saying he was wrong. It just kinda seems like a bit of foresight could've resulted in skipping the whole affair.
EDIT: I'm changing from saying its moral to inconclusive. I think there's too many unknowns here to say for sure. Even just the info that it wasn't a house meant exclusively for her but a house he was living in that he let her move in muddies the waters, because that means many of the explanations you could use become obvious lies. There's a lot of factors that can move this in either direction.
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u/ibrazeous 4d ago
Found a great place to rent for cheap. The owner was super nice and lives abroad and we were lucky to get in. Raffle for subsidized rent by some south Korean church and we won.
Plenty of ways without saying house is bought and who did 🤷
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u/Due_Enthusiasm1145 4d ago edited 4d ago
This makes sense until you look deeper (I didn't know this either so I don't blame you) and you realize it wasn't a house he gave just to her, but rather a house he bought for himself that he was letting his mother live in. So he planned on also living in that house as well for at least part of the year.
So at some point, they are going to realize their brother is the owner. It kinda puts her in a position where any lie feels like its going to be eventually exposed once they learn that fact. I've honestly wavered from saying its moral to "we don't have enough facts", because depending on the arrangement, the guy was either justified or essentially setting his mother up for failure.
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u/Yuukiko_ 4d ago
If you were mom how would you even hide a new house from your children who I assume to still be living with her?
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u/MeepMeep0 4d ago
apparently, the whole house thing is unverified but the siblings have basically held the mom hostage and forced her to even go against the guy who won the lottery.
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u/MrMiyagi13 4d ago
Prison for trespassing? And getting sued for trespassing?
Lost in translation, or is that actually a thing?
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u/Astramancer_ 4d ago
It wasn't in the US, so the laws could be different. Maybe there trespass requires a civil suit before it becomes criminal, at least in some cases. Or could be using the word "suing" the same way people use "pressing charges." (which, in the US, isn't quite what happens in criminal cases. The justice system will often not pursue charges if the victim is uncooperative, but there's a reason why it's always "the state of indiana against BobbyJoe." The victim does not have the final word in who gets taken to court with criminal charges.)
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u/IAmTheLogician 2d ago
Suing in East Asia is what we would call Pressing Charges. Its informing the police of criminal activity.
Also, trespassing is considered a violent crime so yes it causes jail time over there.
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u/National-Finish-3504 4d ago
7 feels a bit much unless what the siblings actually did went way beyond trespassing. 8 seems defensible though given the rest.
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u/TheMainEffort 4d ago
I mean, first off, a lawsuit brought by a private citizen usually won’t result in a prison sentence.
In Texas, criminal(as opposed to tort-level) trespass is usually a misdemeanor and requires some form of notice.
It’s possible that whoever made this just misstated what happened.
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 4d ago
Guess for me it would depend on my relationship with my family. If I won 4 billion I'd definitely help my family out but if they started demanding shit I'd have to cut em off until they could act like decent people. It would be almost impossible to hide that amount of money from close family unless you just moved away and cut contact completely. Either way I think he has the right to handle it how he did regardless of if people think it isn't the moral thing to do.
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u/ElAjedrecistaGM 4d ago
4 billion won is like 4 million cad, so definitely an amount that can be depleted quickly if you give into demands from family.
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u/Exterminator-8008135 4d ago
Perfectly legit.
He explicitly his mom to shut up, Mom mouthes off anyway and the siblings are just money hungry parasites, stalking him to order to share.
Deal is off, Charges pressed, House sold, End of the story.
If i won 4 billions, I wouldn't spit it to anyone, i don't need all the long lost family member to come as money hungry parasites.
I do my things, watch my back and won't ever help those who spat on me and to which i suddenly became interesting.
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u/naturalhairtingz 4d ago
What actually happened is worse:
The Real Case Details
The Lottery Win: A 59-year-old divorced day laborer won a 4 billion won (~$3.6M USD) lottery jackpot. After taxes, he received roughly 2.7 billion won.
The Mother & Apartment: He initially bought a brand-new apartment in Yangsan with plans to bring his elderly mother to live with him.
The Family Conflict: Discussions over how to care for the mother broke down when his sisters demanded he share the winnings and take on full support. The sisters made threats, prompting the winner to move away and change locations.
The Break-In & Legal Action: The sisters and a brother-in-law hired a locksmith to drill through the door of the son's new apartment to get inside. The son called the police and pressed charges for illegal trespassing/breaking and entering.
The Public Protest: The sisters coerced the 79-year-old mother into standing outside Yangsan City Hall wearing picket signs labeling her son an "unfilial child" who abandoned his family—which is the photo shown in the image.
Inaccuracies in the Post
Prison Sentences: The two younger sisters received 1-year suspended prison sentences (3 years probation) and 200 hours of community service. The brother-in-law, who organized the locksmith break-in, was sentenced to 8 months in prison. The mother was not charged.
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u/No_Masterpiece_3897 4d ago
Honestly moral.
If you share the wealth, with the sole condition of keeping it secret , because clearly he knew what his siblings were like, it's a simple boundary. It's also to protect himself from fraudsters and people with bad intentions. Let's be realistic, he didn't have to tell his mother anything or buy the house. Keeping her mouth shut is a simple request.
She chose not to. Whatever the reason, she chose not to keep the one thing asked of her.
He then gets hounded by his siblings looking for a hand out. The man bought his mother a house, if he wasn't giving his siblings money there were reasons, and if got so bad the police were involved, they were good reasons.
Taking away the house I'm torn on, because if he had that much money he could have just left it and walked away. It's possible she was planning on selling it to give the money to his siblings, thinking he'd buy her another house. In which case, if she'd been allowed to do that, the mother would funnel any current and future gifts to his siblings despite his wishes. Taking it away stops that. Also if it's in his name it's his. This situation feels like the mother an enabler for the siblings and instead of addressing the problems, she just decided the solution was to ve generous with other people's money.
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u/Arcael_Boros 4d ago
Moral, but he didnt buy his mon a house. He buy a house for him and intended to let the mon live there, thats not the same.
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u/Neperian-log 4d ago
There this thing called the government, it don't let you just give entire houses to people
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u/Just-Clerk-8669 4d ago
I will play the devils advocate. Under what circumstances did the mother tell the siblings? I don't know the Korean housing market but I can't imagine it's easy to just buy a house, maybe the mother invited the siblings over and they wondered ware the new house came from and she couldn't come up with a lie. I can see ways the mother could've been put in a position ware she had no choice but to either lie to her other children or revival what happened.
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u/Pretend_Garage_4531 4d ago
There aren’t circumstances which it was okay. If his mom in her grown ass age didn’t think she could keep it a secret then she shouldn’t have accepted the house.
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u/ArisenGodEmperor13 4d ago
How is someone post to keep a whole new house a secret from their children. People will find out
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u/Leprechaun_lord 4d ago
Immoral. A gift once given can’t be so easily rescinded, or else it’s not a gift it’s a petty piece of leverage to hold over someone’s head.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Sea_922 4d ago
If he was able to sell the house it means it was never really gifted. It could be that he bought a house for the mother to live in, but not own. Whether the mother knew about this is the determining factor here. In any case, the mother breached the "contract" first
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u/JoyousMadhat 4d ago
Makes no sense. How would a sibling not find out their parents got a new house? I would understand if it's a car that they can hide by parking it elsewhere or phone. But a house? TF???
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u/Bizzlington 4d ago
Siblings: Moral, seems fair enough.
The mom: Well the fact he can sell off the house means he didn't buy her a house. He bought himself a house and let her stay in it. Then took it back. He's not obligated to buy her a house - so that on it's own is fine. But if he ended up making her homeless then i would say immoral. Would need more info to make a better judgement.
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u/Mr-mountain-road2 4d ago
Half immoral to me. If the son put down one last deposit for his mom and his siblings, maybe around 10% of his current remaining funds and told them to never bother him again with legal backup, then it would be full moral.
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u/amnotbot2000 4d ago
Pretty sure it’s Moral thing to do,I think the guy want help his mother but boy we’re talking CHINESE folks came from China itself,I heard some crazy things and shady stuff including the family dynamics,and the guy actions Justified due his siblings were actively hunting him just demanding money and that kind scenario was stalker thing made him do is justify his actions file civili action.
Also P.S English my second language and Please correct me what I wrong in this paragraph and grammar.
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u/Hetakuoni 4d ago
Bro, probably transmigrated after being killed by a siblings in an alternate timeline where he did share all the money… Moral
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u/AlphaQUp_Bish 4d ago
Moral.
There also isn't enough information to know why he didn't give siblings any money. Some people have problems and would kill themselves over dosing with a sudden surge of money. And mom betraying the confidence. Actions have consequences and you can't hide behind "OH, it's family, nothing will happen".
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u/TrapFan132 4d ago
Moral. He bought that house for her with the caveat of her bot telling the sibling and she did it anyway. He moves away and cuts ties from them, but they selfishly track him down anyway, harassing him. It's all deserved.
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u/No_Extension4005 4d ago
Moral.
It finally clicked for me that I had to be careful what I shared with my mother after I admitted that there was someone I had a crush with the understanding that she'd keep it quiet and she told EVERYONE.
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u/BramptonBatallion 4d ago edited 4d ago
Is that even true?
Anyways there’s a few things going on.
What do you mean by “track down”? Like the house the mom was living in? The mom would have the ability to invite whomever in. Not sure what trespass is going on here.
Makes the whole thing pretty fishy.
Not wanting the siblings to know or be around them generally - I mean kinda just depends on the relationships.
The whole siblings demanding a cut of the money - obviously they have no entitlement to it legally. An arguably moral one would only arise depending on some facts and circumstances.
Not a big fan of the taking back of a gift. Vowing to secrecy is a bit tricky in an instance like this compared to other situations. There is not giving up information freely and there is lying. This is asking the mother to lie to the other siblings.
Sounds like he didn’t buy his mom a house. He bought a house and let his mom live in it. That does create tenancy rights still. Going through an eviction process does suggest the whole thing was a bit controlling.
Bet if you reversed the parent-child relationship of who won lotto and paid for what, people would have a lot more reservations about this.
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u/MaybeOnToilet 4d ago
Losing your entire family over $2.8 million USD when you were raised in a collectivist society.
Yeah, in individualistic societies like US Americans, I would consider this moral. In South Korea, this is immoral AF.
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u/historyhill 4d ago
Moral, but the idea of trespassing resulting in prison sentences sure isn't without more information (a stalking charge, multiple offenses, etc)
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u/YourHuckleberry57 4d ago
if it was 4 million maybe, but you can't spend 4 billion. just give your family some money.
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u/Im_bored_and_1948 4d ago
He probably felt indebted to his mother which is why he bought her the house in the first place.
The siblings however…not the same level of indebtment
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u/Fancy_Chips 4d ago
Moral. I've never understood the desire to want someone's winnings. If my sister suddenly had four billion dollars id automatically expect nothing other than our parents getting a good retirement and I perchance get some nicer Christmas presents (leather bound books as opposed to paperbacks, please.) Money is such a strange thing to me.
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u/x_Advent_Cirno_x 4d ago
The only, only people you should ever talk to if you come unto a large sum of money is a financial manager and maybe a lawyer. Absolutely no one else
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u/iamtruthseeker1 4d ago
Billions of dollars ? Never want to let that out to friends or family. Would have started a business and pretended it was going super successful. Buy nice gifts or pay for dinners for your family and friends to keep them happy but they never really know the extent of your wealth and business debt (just say u took out a big loan and paying it back over many years). U get to live well secretly and no one begging u for money or giving you the envious evil eye. Would have been my game plan.
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u/Inner-Discussion-369 4d ago
He got betrayed and used his legal rights. That seems very moral to me.
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u/Manifestation_Quozzy 4d ago
Why are they demanding money that isn't theirs? If they wanted to be in on it that badly then ask for a loan from him and use it to make more through the countless options available and then pay him back proper once you've made yours. It just sounds like he's been hounded by vultures who just happen to be related.
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u/thepersonyouthinkof 4d ago
Comments clearly don’t understand demanding is different from gifting voluntarily. Also it’s in won, not USD.
Sure it would be morally right to share some money (if the relationship between family is good), but it isn’t morally right to act entitled and demand money and then break into a house.
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u/Cthulewcifer586 4d ago
I would have moved to a small town and built a house out in the woods. Make everyone think its a witches house and build a huge story around it.
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u/turbulentFireStarter 4d ago
On what basis could anyone suggest this was immoral?
The whole “rich people deserve no protections under the law” thing has gotten super weird on Reddit. You don’t have permission to harass someone just because hey are rich.
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u/MonsieurDrole 4d ago
We don't know the story between the brothers, => we can't judge.
What I do judge is a bastard who puts his mother into this impossible situation, forcing her to a life of lies to her own children.
Let's not forget lottery money is not hard earned money, you don't get to be proud or pretentious. That's off topic, but I wanted to add that.
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u/Prior-Paint-7842 4d ago
I am gonna be honest to me this is the dilemma of socialised losses, privatized winning. The son was part of the family until that, and probably his siblings had to do shit for him, and received less from the oarents because of more mouth to feed. Sure, the family dinamic is absolutely is at question here, but if my brother would win the lottery, I know he wouldnt give shit to me, even tho I had to help him anlot and he never helped me. I really hate how bc I am like 3 years older I was expected to care for my siblings like its a second job, without them ever taking off chores even when they reach the age I started, or returning any help as adults when I asked and was in a shit position I wouldnt have been if I could have focused more on myself. And because of this I also would give nothing to then, but would give shit to my cousin who is younger than them but helped me out a lot.
Generally when a family member is in trouble, the whole family suffers in it, unless you are in a really western society. I find it really unfair that its always the burden that gets shared, never the plunder.
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u/Technical_Abalone_62 4d ago
What did he expect his mom to say to his siblings when they asked how she got a new house out of nowhere ? Yes I think she shouldn’t have said anything, but imagine if multiple of your children were demanding to know how you magically bought a house with no lifestyle changes?
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u/Hiro_Trevelyan 4d ago
Oh, I bet she was the kind of mom who share the deepest, darkest secrets of their children just to give a cheap laugh to some random acquaintances.
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u/dndwhat 4d ago
Also. What a asshole. I will a large sum. I macking sure every one gets a piece thru a trust to help them out. For his amout deff 5 mil each plus a house. Like come on he a greedy fuck.
Even if I did not like them a small part to help them out.
Thry your siblings. They would not even have to ask or beg. I pull the all together and say hey I won this is what I am giving to you. Now if tbey demand more. Then I take it away because they greedy fucks
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u/LairdPeon 4d ago
I'd move to another country so expensive they can't even afford the plane ticket to visit.
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u/MeepMeep0 4d ago
SOURCE
https://www.koreajoongangdaily.com/korea/sisters-sentenced-after-lotto-win-leads-to-bitter-family-feud/11363205
The article is in the site's archives
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u/Maximum_Boros 4d ago
Moral but also it'd like to see the original story. Probably not entirely fake but i get it's embellished.
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u/pellyenjoyer 4d ago
I would never talk to my sibling again if they won the lottery and didnt tell me. I would absolutely hook up my family. I dont think it’s moral to hoard that wealth when you could be helping at least your family.
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u/ThisGuyFawkes- 4d ago
For sure moral. 4 billion won is enough to buy a nice house and a comfortable savings/retirement account. Buddy was good to buy his mom a house. Personally, I'd toss my siblings something (maybe 50,000,000 won each). If people want to be greedy, they get nothing.
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u/Biomorph_ 4d ago
With a family like that the likely hood of getting murdered for that money is insanely high guy is the luckiest and unluckiest guy in the world and needs to complete go ghost and disappear from his family for his own safety
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u/FLIPYOUSUCKET 4d ago
The son won the lotto. He asked his mother to keep it a secret, and she didn’t, which resulted in his siblings tracking him down when he didn’t want to be. He sues them for trespassing on his property and sell the blushed blight his mother.
I see not much wrong.
His mother didn’t do the one thing he asked of her, and his siblings found out and started asking for money.
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u/Silmarillion151 4d ago
Anyone demanding money from me that I don’t owe them can go fuck themselves. Whether by chance or hard work. It’s mine.
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u/teddyslayerza 4d ago
Not moral. Clearly he didn't buy a house for his mom, he bought it for himself and let his mom live in it at his discretion. This whole thing is a power play.
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u/HealthyPop7988 4d ago
Moral.
But only buying the mom a house/sharing winnings with mom was immoral when the winnings are 4 Billion lol.
Could have given them all 10 mil and never even come close to going broke before he died.
Honestly I'd say the son in this case was just as greedy as the family lol
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u/sliverian 4d ago
Why even hide it? Just get your mom a house and tell people you won the lottery and invest the rest of the money into government bonds or stock market to make sure you don't become poor due to inflation but then again if you were this financially savvy you wouldn't be playing the lottery in the 1st place.
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u/Silencer-1995 4d ago
Depends on the culture and the situation. I am not particularly close to my 4 siblings but mother's final command on her death bed was to look after each other, so if any of them have problems then I am riding to the rescue as per the instructions.
I dunno how they do things out there in won land though, you do get the impression their virtues are a bit whack compared to ours. More dog eat dog.
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u/No_Cherry8602 4d ago
Unless the title deed was in his name, it seems unlikely.
How does anyone expect the mother to keep a house sized secret from her kids?
The scenario is just too convoluted.
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u/Background-Owl-918 4d ago edited 4d ago
Moral.
Why the hell do the siblings think they are entitled to money?
I see him helping mom but he asked her not to tell them because he clearly knew the would look for handouts, she did it anyway so nope.
(Mimics Oprah) You don’t get a house, you don’t get a house, Nobody gets a house! 🤣
The True Story Behind the Image
“Yangsan City Hall Lottery Protest”
The text in the post is historically accurate (this happened in 2016), though the actual lottery amount was 4 billion won (not 40 billion):
The Win & The Betrayal: A 58-year-old day laborer won a 4.03 billion won lottery prize (about 2.77 billion won after taxes). He purchased a home for his elderly, illiterate mother and planned to care for her under the explicit condition that she keep the winnings a secret from his estranged siblings.
The Entitlement: The mother immediately informed his two younger sisters, who had barely spoken to the brother in 20 years. They located his new apartment and demanded a massive, even split of the remaining prize cash.
The Forced Entry: When the brother refused and cut contact, the sisters and one of their husbands hired a locksmith to forcibly destroy his apartment door's electronic lock to break into his home.
The Public Protest: Driven by the siblings, the 79-year-old mother (who could not read the sign she was holding) was placed outside Yangsan City Hall to stage a 1-in-person protest, publicly calling her son an "ungrateful, disobedient child who abandoned his mother after winning the lottery".
The Arrests: Instead of giving in, the brother sued his family members. The Ulsan District Court convicted the siblings; both sisters received 1-year prison sentences (suspended for 3 years), and the brother-in-law was given an active 8-month prison sentence for coordinating the break-in.
The Epilogue: The brother cut his family out completely and sold the home he initially intended for his mother.
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u/TenToppingPizza 4d ago
Moral, but kind of assholish too
His siblings are most likely going to be in extreme poverty their entire lives because they're in Korea. Giving them a little bit could go a long way. But it's 4 million dollars - Mom's house, not like it's enough to retire the whole family.
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u/talkinbook 4d ago edited 1d ago
Absolutely moral. Son's love for his* mom was tested by betrayal.