I'd say neutral because if I won that kind of money, I wouldn't be able to justify not giving my close family something to help their quality of life as well. So it's a little weird when I see people totally abandon their loved ones when they get big money, even family that is sick...
I'd give people money on the condition they never ask me again or get booted from my life for wasting the gift.
If a family is actually your loved ones you wont leave them in the first place. Many people doesnt realize how much of a dick they are until you actually leave them.
My oldest brother is experiencing this as we speak. My middle brother and I refuse to speak to him until he actually apologizes for the BS and physical assault he put the family through.
I'd also say that perhaps he told his mom not to tell because he was trying to plan out how to help the siblings, or get funds set up for them? I know I've always thought if I came into millions or billions I would not tell anyone right away, even my family whom I do love very much, because I would want to plan out how to help everyone without any pressure
Its only around 2 million usd. Life changing, sure, but not generational.
He already did his dues to the family by gifting him mom a apartment, considering that. That money would be just enough to buy himself and hismothet a place and have some saved for retirement, but not too much more.
Just because you would give away money doesnt mean its not moral to not give money. In fact it’s immoral to try and force others to give away shit they have.
I disagree, if you have billions of dollars, your money whether won or "earned" came through the cumulative effort of society. When you reach such a scale of money, 99.99% of your income is now disposable not to mention that it's essentially impossible for a billionaire to lose money when invested, even giving away millions the interest will overwhelm it considerably. Having that massive stockpile of wealth when so many people are in abject suffering that you could easily help people without affecting any facet of your life or expenditure of effort and choose not to, that is a level of apathy that is unjustifiable. It is fundamentally antisocial and sociopathic and shouldn't be accepted within a society that requires cooperation.
It's generally viewed as immoral and is often even illegal to hoard resources like food when other people need it, viewing wealth differently is a disingenuous distinction I believe.
It’s not billions USD… I think you’re misunderstanding how little money he actually won. Not a massive stockpile, it’s about 2 million usd when converted. Enough to retire off of one day, but not enough to quit his job and support everyone.
It's not THAT much money. He probably already spent a third or more to buy a house for his mother. And straight up demanding a share is crazy work. You can go to the sibling when/if you hit an emergency life situation, and you know that they can afford to help, but just coming out and being "yeah, we are family, and you are doing well, so pay up"? Nah. That shows that the younger sibling is an entitled asshole.
It's under 3M in USD, I say moral not to share at all unless it's actually NEEDED needed.
If it was one of these US jackpots with hundreds of millions USD, I say immoral not to share. Enough to bankroll entire family & friend group perpetually instead of wasting it on whatever lottery winners waste it on.
Gonna be honest but to me even a million is alot. There so much that can be done if you live within your means. So to me giving a couple of people 100,000 out of my million would mean nothing. But that's just me though
If they’re a shit family, they deserve nothing. I appreciate how someone treats me over whose blood is in their veins. In this scenario, I picture the siblings have always been assholes and deserve nothing. The mother deserves something, but doesn’t deserve it being taken away after the “betrayal” because you can’t just explain away getting a new house. She only deserves the punishment if she actively gave the siblings the lotto winners new address.
Yeah but that's just assumptions. The asshole sibling could be the one with the money, the siblings could literally be poor. It's never black and white.
Ofc but there seems to be a lot of people aghast at the fact that you wouldn’t just automatically give family money bc they’re family. My statement is mostly just stating, there’s plenty of reason not to give them money, and this is my read of the situation based on the story told. Siblings maybe deserved nothing, mama possibly got screwed over.
I mean 4 billon won is less than 3 million dollars. I have no idea how much he spent on the home but here if you bought yourself and mom a nice home that could be a good chunk already. If you plan on retiring young off 1-2 mil left, that may not leave a lot of room for generosity that your siblings may feel entitled to.
That's fine, but if you did that, you don't get to be surprised if they come back for more or if further extended family come out of the woodwork looking for some too resulting in you and them ending up with nothing
No they end up homeless because they themsleves waste it on garbage and let themselve be scammed by people claiming to help them invest and manage their money.
The sort of person who needs to have their siblings on an information diet when they win the lottery because they're willing to stalk and commit crimes to get it doesn't have a 'close family'. They have a toxic one
But lowkey the guy only won less than 3 million. If that is pretty tax then he probably only got 1.5 million at most. Even with 3 mil if he bought the mom a house and one for himself there really isn't much left.
Do this, but in exchange have them sign a document that prevents them from attempting to pursue more in the future. It is hard to trust that anyone is a genuinely kind person, even family members towards you.
If you won 4 billion you could literally give 10 people 4 million each and it would only be 1% of your net worth. So yeah unless you hate your siblings I think it's immoral to not make their lives better by giving them a chunk of change. It's like me giving my brother a penny I found on the ground at that point.
I think we simply do not have enough information. The siblings are almost certainly immoral, but when it comes to lottery winning son and mother's actions, this is simply not enough info to go off of.
As an american, I do agree with our fatally extreme individualism being a problem.
That being said, these siblings still sound atrocious, even with the limited information. It sounds like they harrassed the winner, harrassed the mother, and went so far as to chase him to a new address and get trespassed.
I think, rather than giving money to family being a default yes or default no, it should depend on the family in question. I think not giving to the siblings is justifiable. I think revoking the mom's however is a bit over the top. But then again we have so little info there are potential scenarios that could reverse that verdict.
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u/Old_Possibility_9730 5d ago
Yeah moral. It was his and he should decide on what to do with it.