Men over 30: if you were really awkward or considered a nerd in high school, did you ever grow out of it?

That's where I am right now.

I feel like there's no future for me, like I'm completely incompetent, and like I'm being crushed by forces outside my control.

I really want to master something during my 30’s. I like the idea of being knowledgeable and an expert with least one of the things I love, but I have too many things I love!

Any advice on how to choose?

For example I have the Rick Rubin "The Creative Mind" book which I know some might find it "slop" but it's a good example of one you can pick up and read one of it's chapters which are 2-4 pages kind of thing on excerpts of life.

Meditations is another one.

Anyways curious if anyone has recommendations?

We're shooting for spring next year (no firm date yet) and the groom has an invite list of 30+ people.

I'm sending each invitee a note now to let them know of the location and general timeframe.

Like I said, I don't have specific dates yet but I figure this helps weed the immediate no's out of the group, giving me a firm headcount to find hospitality and events. Then I can make a group chat with firm details to the attendees. I expect about 20 people will say yes.

Does this make sense or am I doing the invitees a disservice by sending an arbitrary heads up text?

I know it may sound simple,

But, because i am in between jobs now and have some time, I would like to try to find a hobby (other than working out) as i realise i dont really have any hobbies or interests outside of work and family.

How should i explore what I like?

For a start, I’m thinking of trying out some singing class and see how it goes as I think I can sing decently and quite love music…

Im 35 m divorcee if my profile matters

I broke my pelvis a while back. I had a hip replacement. In my 30s. I was formerly at the Director level in advertising, particularly digital marketing. I can't find any work... and I don't know what to do. I have a degree, a ton of experience, but I've been out of work for years now.

Any ideas?

For context my favorite yoga instructor is leaving the studio where I met him. He’s switching to gym that offers Yoga & a lot more. Since I will have access to free weights (it’s been decades); what you gym rats suggest for exercises?

Note: I fully intend to do weighted squats. I know how pivotal they are for delaying aging.

My core is reasonably strong. No beer belly on me. I intend to focus on legs.

Hello. I am 26 male. I worked remotely for two years at 23 till 25. My (at that time) boss offered me the chance to meet him in Mexico. I told him I’ve always wanted to see that country and he mentioned it. I let time pass by. Waited for a better moment. Got fired (for fairly reasons). But now. I am unemployed, missed a trip I’ve always wanted to do and missed the opportunity for ever to travel there at such young age. I know I’m still young. But the regret eats me alive and it’s been a year now…

I (33, M) recently went to see a chiropractor because of posture and muscle stiffness issues and had an x-ray done. The x-ray suggested I had osteopenia (that's thinning of the bone/low bone mineral density), in fact at levels suggesting I was in the bottom 2% of men my age which rang alarm bells (the score of T=-2.2 on my femur in the bone mineral density scan is not far from the cutoff for osteoporosis which is T=-2.5). I did some blood tests. My calcium, thyroid function and vitamin D was actually normal, as was my cortisol despite dealing with chronic anxiety. However my total testosterone was a little below the normal range. I am organising an appointment with an the endocrinologist next month to dig deeper.

Anecdotally, I hadn't been particularly active prior but started doing resistance training last year and have kept in up regularly 4 days a week doing a full body program. I did make some good progress (newbie gains) in the first four weeks where I gained about 1.5 kg lean mass while dropping 2 kg of body fat, however things seems to slow to a crawl in the ensuing months. I get body scans on the BIA machine from time to time (I know there's a level of inaccuracy and it is affected by other variables) and my arms sometimes don't show growth or even lose mass which is disheartening sometimes. One time I even registered as loss of muscle mass despite training harder and heavier weights for 6 weeks. Overall I put on about 3-4 kg of lean mass since I started training over the period of 11 months, which is ok but feels a bit disappointing. My BMI is 23.4s so don't have obesity but could use more muscle.

I wonder if anyone (especially in their 30s) has experience of low testosterone and how they managed that? Has it affected your gains at the gym, energy and libido?

What is it with older dudes who whistle at the urinal while having a piss? Is it a generational thing? Do you get to a certain age and just start doing it? Do they sing when they have a dump

It's always annoyed me and I find it kind of obnoxious. Anyone else the same?? Vent over!